fu(king and messing with minds when finishing with a partner

ilovesleep · 01-10-2011 06:23PM #1

I had this done to me in the past from my first love where at some stage towards the end of the relationship he had obviously decided no more but instead of dealing with the issue he strung me along and played hot and cold. Part of it was my fault in that I believed the lies he spun at me and I kept taking him back for him to continue. I suppose I was hoping for things to change and for things to go back to the good times. Foolish me.

But I learned from this and learned that words are cheap and actions speak volumes.

This brings brings me onto this summer. I met a chap. And although casual he fu(ked with my mind blowing hot and cold.

My question is: have much people experienced such treatment? And why oh why do some people do this showing no respect? Almost as if to say: I'm finished with you but put first I'll fu(k you down into the dumps and see how long I'll be able to string you along.

Esoteric_ · 01-10-2011 06:24PM

PI's that way

>

orourkeda · 01-10-2011 06:26PM

I'd prefer to mess with her fanny

Yahew · 01-10-2011 06:26PM

LyndaMcL is right, ilovesleep. This is not the place. More people answer but they will take the piss. So Ladies Lounge or Personal issues is best for these kind of threads.

FatherLen · 01-10-2011 06:27PM

did you just have a bad break-up? because if so, i really dont think AH is the place to vent.

FatherLen · 01-10-2011 06:28PM

orourkeda wrote: »

I'd prefer to mess with her fanny

subtle. i love it!

Coriolanus · 01-10-2011 06:30PM

You love sleep, he loved sleeping around. There has to be give and take in a relationship.

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 06:32PM

LyndaMcL wrote: »

PI's that way
>

Yahew wrote: »

LyndaMcL is right, ilovesleep. This is not the place. More people answer but they will take the piss. So Ladies Lounge or Personal issues is best for these kind of threads.

FatherLen wrote: »

did you just have a bad break-up? because if so, i really dont think AH is the place to vent.

Pretty sure ILS knows exactly what'll happen in AH. She did ask here for advice on a spot on the crack or her arsé after all.

OP, doesn't happen to me 'cos the first time someone tries to mess with my head, I'm gone.

Caraville · 01-10-2011 06:40PM

People often act like assholes towards the end of a relationship so that the other person will get pissed off and do the dirty work of having to do the breaking up.

Saves them having to look like the bad guy (or girl).

And then some people are just assholes all the time and don't care how it affects the other person.

(God I sound bitter

I'm not, honest!!)

ilovesleep · 01-10-2011 06:41PM

No I didn't have a bad break up at all.

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

OP, doesn't happen to me 'cos the first time someone tries to mess with my head, I'm gone.

Yep! I did put my foot down and fled fast this time.

I just despair, that's all.

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 06:44PM

ilovesleep wrote: »

Yep! I did put my foot down and fled fast this time.

I just despair, that's all.

Good for you, but don't despair, just put the energy into finding something better. Remember, living well is the best revenge. Fúck him, go and be happy.

ejmaztec · 01-10-2011 06:46PM

ilovesleep wrote: »

No I didn't have a bad break up at all.

Yep! I did put my foot down and fled fast this time.

I just despair, that's all.

As someone once told me in the photo-developers, one day your prints will come.

herosa · 01-10-2011 06:56PM

I think everybody has to go through this once when they are young like the chickenpox or something.You are older and wiser now and are unlikely to fall for it again.Dont beat yourself up about it.Millions of happily married people have a story like that in their past.It will all fall into place one day.Read a book called "hes just not that into you" .Every girl in the world should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Then make up on and hit the town!

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 06:58PM

herosa wrote: »

I think everybody has to go through this once when they are young like the chickenpox or something.You are older and wiser now and are unlikely to fall for it again.Dont beat yourself up about it.Millions of happily married people have a story like that in their past.It will all fall into place one day.Read a book called "hes just not that into you" .Every girl in the world should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Then make up on and hit the town!

Girls hould go underage drinking to deal with future relationship issues? Hmmm....interesting plan.

herosa · 01-10-2011 07:04PM

Whoa there Mr Duffy!! How do you know she is underage? Did I miss that bit? I never mentioned drinking. I meant go out and replace him.Plenty more fish etc

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 07:06PM

herosa wrote: »

Whoa there Mr Duffy!! How do you know she is underage? Did I miss that bit? I never mentioned drinking. I meant go out and replace him.Plenty more fish etc

You drunk? I was talking about the part in your post that I bolded.

herosa · 01-10-2011 07:13PM

No not drunk unless someone spiked my Lyons. I do however think I see what the issue is here. I said that every woman should be given that book WHEN she turns 16. The op could have turned 16 eight years ago.

I think everybody should be given a potty when they are 2 as well.

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 07:19PM

herosa wrote: »

I said that every woman should be given that book WHEN she turns 16. The op could have turned 16 eight years ago.

No, that's not all you said, what you actually said was;

herosa wrote: »

" .Every girl in the world should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Then make up on and hit the town!

I'm not talking about the OP, it's nothing to do with her age, I was addressing what you said.

Liam Byrne · 01-10-2011 07:26PM

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

No, that's not all you said, what you actually said was;

I'm not talking about the OP, it's nothing to do with her age, I was addressing what you said.

You do know that it's perfectly possible to go out on the town without drinking alcohol ?

herosa · 01-10-2011 07:26PM

Yes every woman should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Ok we both have that bit.
Now how does that become

1 hi op you must be 16 (or any age for that matter)

2 Go out and get drunk to deal with all future relationship issues.

Its that wee leap there that has me just a tad confused.

Seeing things that arent there are usually a sign of psychic ability or a few interesting conditions requiring a few interesting medications.

No seriously read it again.

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 07:27PM

Liam Byrne wrote: »

You do know that it's perfectly possible to go out on the town without drinking alcohol ?

Get away.

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 07:31PM

herosa wrote: »

Yes every woman should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Ok we both have that bit.
Now how does that become

1 hi op you must be 16 (or any age for that matter)

2 Go out and get drunk to deal with all future relationship issues.

Its that wee leap there that has me just a tad confused.

Seeing things that arent there are usually a sign of psychic ability or a few interesting conditions requiring a few interesting medications.

No seriously read it again.

Ah Jesus. I didn't mention anything about the OP's age. Ever. I was addressing your idea that at 16 girls should get that book, then hit the town. You presented that idea like a plan for learning how to deal with issues.

And to yourself and Liam B, yes, I know people can go out without drinking, but the expression "hit the town" is an idiom.

landsleaving · 01-10-2011 07:34PM

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

And to yourself and Liam B, yes, I know people can go out without drinking, but the expression "hit the town" is an idiom.

Looks like you're the idiom! :P

nicechick! · 01-10-2011 07:38PM

Aww the joys! he's just not that into you rejection sucks

herosa · 01-10-2011 07:39PM

Ah Jesus is right!! Ok last try

She should buy that book this week(which by the way is essential reading for all teenage girls imo)

She should hit the town this week and try and get over boyfriend by meeting someone else.

NOT and I repeat NOT girls should waken up on their 16th birthday read that book and then hit the town.

I never said that.

newmug · 01-10-2011 07:50PM

herosa wrote: »

Ah Jesus is right!! Ok last try

She should buy that book this week(which by the way is essential reading for all teenage girls imo)

She should hit the town this week and try and get over boyfriend by meeting someone else.

NOT and I repeat NOT girls should waken up on their 16th birthday read that book and then hit the town.

I never said that.

Missus would you ever feck off. You DID say girls should be given that book ON THEIR 16th BIRTHDAY. You're p1ssing me off now too:mad:

herosa · 01-10-2011 07:55PM

Yes I did say girls should be given that book on their 16th birthday!!!!! (bangs head against table)

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 08:01PM

herosa wrote: »

Ah Jesus is right!! Ok last try

She should buy that book this week(which by the way is essential reading for all teenage girls imo)

She should hit the town this week and try and get over boyfriend by meeting someone else.

NOT and I repeat NOT girls should waken up on their 16th birthday read that book and then hit the town.

I never said that.

You sure?

herosa wrote: »

Every girl in the world should be given that book on her 16th birthday.Then make up on and hit the town!

How did you manage to learn how to write without learning how to read?

Napper Hawkins · 01-10-2011 08:03PM

Does this discussion have a point to it or are you all just going to argue about some ****ing book?

Kevin Duffy · 01-10-2011 08:07PM

Napper Hawkins wrote: »

Does this discussion have a point to it or are you all just going to argue about some ****ing book?

The point was well adressed on page 1, it's been mostly the book thing since. Feel free to join in, but you'd want to have nothing better to do. I'd stick with ignoring it if I was you.

herosa · 01-10-2011 08:08PM

herosa wrote: »

I think everybody has to go through this once when they are young etc etc......Dont beat yourself up about it.etc.etc....Read a bookcalled...... etc etc.Then make up on and hit the town!

That was the context the advice was given in and on that note I am done.No more replies.

fu(king and messing with minds when finishing with a partner

Comments