I need the truth about lap dancing clubs

Hi all

I am about as naive about these places as a nun living on Tory Island and I have just found out my husband has been frequenting them recently, and as I dont believe a single word coming from him anymore, I need to get some answers....
The reason I am so concerned is cos I found a secret mobile phone with intimate text messages to another woman he claims is a lapdancer......he said he went on his own to this club.....


He said he was at this club (L@pellos) on a Sunday night from 12.30 - 5.00am - do they open that late, or do they close earlier so that some hours of his night are unaccounted for?

Be honest with me here... he obviously had a lengthy discussion / chat with her (although I am sure he spoke complete crap as he was out of his head on booze), as the texts were written in such a way as he had "deep and meaningfuls" with her..... can you talk to these dancers for extended times? i thought if you went for the cheap version of a dance in the public area, they moved on after the song was over, but that in the VIP areas, anything goes?

They obviously swopped phone numbers - is this a regular occurance?

I am tormented that something more than just a lap dance and chat occurred..... are you allowed touch/grope/kiss etc etc? i thought there were burly bouncers waiting to pounce if you did, but perhaps in these VIP areas where you can flash the cash, anything is possible????

I guess I just need honest answers as I am not getting them from him..... I am devestated that he needed to spend 5 hours on his own getting out of his bin drunk in the arms/lap of some other lady... I am not blaming her for a second, its all about the $$$ for her, I understand that.

Please can you give me honest answers on my questions? i dont want people to judge me, or my relationship with "oh, this isnt really cheating , etc etc", or "move out and never look back", those are decisions i can not make right now.....

Thank you all so much, I never thought i'd be on writing such a post.