My god you got so thin, were you sick or something

Kevin Duffy · 19-09-2011 10:52PM

Thrill wrote: »

People like that want to have their cake and eat it yours too.

FYP :pac:

Donal Og O Baelach · 19-09-2011 11:15PM

Skunkle wrote: »

I am self conscious about many things but I dont use that as an excuse to insult people and be cruel. Notice the way the fat guy didnt resort to being a child and throwing insults. He did what the op should have done in the first place, act like a man and just say it was insulting. Op needs to grow up

The only one who knows the tone the "are you sick?" comment was delivered in is the OP, and I think it's safe to assume it was said in a Ricky Gervais manner rather than a Mother Theresa one. In any case, if a man/woman came up to you and said with genuine concern - oh my God - ARE YOU ILL? you have to admit its a fairly thick comment. If you are ill, you dont need them reminding you at a social occasion - I would be temted to say "Yeah, I have cancer".

kingtut · 19-09-2011 11:37PM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

I am sick of it.
Being 6foot and 12 ½ stone weight

6 foot and 12.5 stone? My god you sure are a fat f*ck :eek:

*I kid!* :rolleyes::pac:

Lando Griffin · 19-09-2011 11:39PM

Skunkle wrote: »

So he/she asked if you were ill as you had lost weight, then asked if you wouldnt like some cake. You responded by calling them greedy and fat ?

What he/she said was conversation/concern what you said was an insult. Not surprised your talkin out your hole if you cant even differentiate the two. Cop on to yourself op and stop being a prick.

I am 12.5 stone for years, dont put it on dont take it off and in general its a greating I get regulary.
Can I not show them concern when I see them shovelling food into them, thats kinda double standards. There is nothing wrong with my health ( physically anyway ) and I get the illness comment, where as the person who has all the trappings of weight related illness can sit there and pass further comment while all the time adding to their problems.

kingtut · 19-09-2011 11:41PM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

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OP you have to realise that people can give it but never take it

It's a cruel cruel world!

Logical Fallacy · 19-09-2011 11:48PM

12.5 stone at 6 foot is skinny like a juvenile OP.

Eat a sandwich, lift some weights.

Work on them muscles bruv.

Red Hand · 19-09-2011 11:50PM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

12.5 stone at 6 foot is skinny like a juvenile OP.

Eat a sandwich, lift some weights.

Work on them muscles bruv.

Whyso?

Columbia · 19-09-2011 11:50PM

I was in a similar sitation to the OP a few years back. There I was up on a bicycle rollers (basically a treadmill for bikes, to allow a cyclist to train indoors on icy days or whenever needed) with sweat pouring off me. Into the room walks my porcine housemate, with a Mars Bar in one hand and a hamburger in the other, and goes "ugh, you're lucky you're naturally skinny", and immediately walks out again.

She also referred to my girlfriend as a "skinny bitch" on several occasions, but you can imagine the nuclear reaction if I'd called her a fat cow.

Logical Fallacy · 19-09-2011 11:52PM

Red Hand wrote: »

Whyso?

So he can wrestle the cake away from his fat friend.

cofy · 19-09-2011 11:58PM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

This particular person took then took offence to this and challenged as to why I had to comment on their weight to which I simply said they were first to fault my weight.
And here is my question.
Is it improper to suggest that a person can comment on a slim person looses a few pounds while not commenting on someone who is overweight and piling on the pounds.

You had every right to comment, at times my weight yoyo's everyone comments when I lose weight but not when I gain weight, believe it or not I would appreciate someone commenting when I gain weight too - I would be more inclined to take action sooner.

woodoo · 20-09-2011 12:00AM

To call a man skinny is an insult. It should be met with whatever return insult you deem appropriate

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Flabby bastard for a man
Fat slag for a woman
Or as Sargent Hartman said in Full Metal Jacket - "You are a disgusting fatbody private Pyle"
or "Were you born a fat, slimy, scumbag puke piece o' ****, Private Pyle, or did you have to work on it?"

Gyalist · 20-09-2011 12:26AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fVIs0D2acgw

billybudd · 20-09-2011 12:27AM

Its really not their fault, its a thyroid problem.:rolleyes:

MungBean · 20-09-2011 12:44AM

Lando Griffin wrote: »

I am 12.5 stone for years, dont put it on dont take it off and in general its a greating I get regulary.
Can I not show them concern when I see them shovelling food into them, thats kinda double standards. There is nothing wrong with my health ( physically anyway ) and I get the illness comment, where as the person who has all the trappings of weight related illness can sit there and pass further comment while all the time adding to their problems.

If your 12.5 stone for years why would he think you've lost weight ? You were not showing concern your were insulting them because you have a chip on your shoulder. He didnt say jesus your skinny can ya not afford food.

Thing you or nobody else here seems to understand is that its not double standards because he didnt insult you. You just felt insulted. Why didnt you just say no I'm fine, I'm fit as a fiddle instead of acting like a child and watching what he was eating (that in itself shows how big the chip on your shoulder is) and then insulting him ? And then head straight to the internet to look for back up from similarly confused individuals. Grow up man and stop acting the victim because someone asked if you were ill. I get called fat every day of the fcukin week but I dont note peoples eating habits so I can insult them.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 12:49AM

Skunkle wrote: »

If your 12.5 stone for years why would he think you've lost weight ? You were not showing concern your were insulting them because you have a chip on your shoulder. He didnt say jesus your skinny can ya not afford food.

Thing you or nobody else here seems to understand is that its not double standards because he didnt insult you. You just felt insulted. Why didnt you just say no I'm fine, I'm fit as a fiddle instead of acting like a child and watching what he was eating (that in itself shows how big the chip on your shoulder is) and then insulting him ? And then head straight to the internet to look for back up from similarly confused individuals. Grow up man and stop acting the victim because someone asked if you were ill. I get called fat every day of the fcukin week but I dont note peoples eating habits so I can insult them.

Bull!! you can be skinny and feel insecure about it the same way as you can be fat and feel insecure about it, comments on either can be hurtful, proper manners would dictate that you dont need to say anything about appearence unless it is to be complimentry.

MungBean · 20-09-2011 12:49AM

Donal Og O Baelach wrote: »

The only one who knows the tone the "are you sick?" comment was delivered in is the OP, and I think it's safe to assume it was said in a Ricky Gervais manner rather than a Mother Theresa one. In any case, if a man/woman came up to you and said with genuine concern - oh my God - ARE YOU ILL? you have to admit its a fairly thick comment. If you are ill, you dont need them reminding you at a social occasion - I would be temted to say "Yeah, I have cancer".

So only you can assume that you know the tone used by the guy who spoke to the op ? It wasnt a stranger, it was someone he obviously knew who was sitting at his table. If someone asked me if I was ill I'd say I wasnt. What I wouldnt do it act like a fcukin psycho and note what he was eating so I could call him fat and greedy when he asked if I wanted cake.

Reason I wouldnt act like op ? Because I dont have a chip on my shoulder and feel the need to be cruel and insulting to make myself feel better.

MungBean · 20-09-2011 12:52AM

billybudd wrote: »

Bull!! you can be skinny and feel insecure about it the same way as you can be fat and feel insecure about it, comments on either can be hurtful, proper manners would dictate that you dont need to say anything about appearence unless it is to be complimentry.

What the hell are you on about I never said anything to the contrary. But when someone comments on your appearance its not a licence to insult them because you get affected. The other guy wasnt being deliberately nasty like the op was. Being self conscious about something isnt licence to childishly throw around insults.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 12:55AM

Skunkle wrote: »

What the hell are you on about I never said anything to the contrary. But when someone comments on your appearance its not a licence to insult them because you get affected. The other guy wasnt being deliberately nasty like the op was. Being self conscious about something isnt licence to childishly throw around insults.

maybe you should read what he wrote, they guy implied he must be sick because he looked skinny, the op obviously plays sports as stated and probaly looks healthy and feels healthy and to be told just because he is not overweight that he must be sick is quite insulting and you seem to have a massive chip on your the shoulder you claim to be free from chips.

MungBean · 20-09-2011 01:00AM

billybudd wrote: »

maybe you should read what he wrote, they guy implied he must be sick because he looked skinny, the op obviously plays sports as stated and probaly looks healthy and feels healthy and to be told just because he is not overweight that he must be sick is quite insulting and you seem to have a massive chip on your the shoulder you claim to be free from chips.

Think its you that needs to read the op. The guy thought he had lost weight so asked if he had been sick. And where are you getting the "because he's not over weight he must be sick" bit ? Your just making shít up.

I have no chip on my shoulder about my weight or appearance. If some tells me as they very often do that I have put on weight I say I know, or not much or lost weight actually. I dont have a hissy fit, watch them eat and then make snide remarks. I'm not a child ya see.

Tony10 · 20-09-2011 01:01AM

A response of 'nobody likes a fatty'. usually puts an end to that.

jk btw.Fat people can be nice.
If you keep them well fed.
And watered.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 01:04AM

he is 6ft and 12.5 stone in weight which is a proper weight to be for someone that size, maybe in Irleland it has just become normal to be over weight that when someone is properly propotioned that they are thought of being sick, fxxked up mentality.

CapriSunFun · 20-09-2011 01:08AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jY3RxYNfjho

Kind of off topic but I hate how women today can be blatantly fat but be classed as "curvy" and be on magazine covers with the headline "I love my body!" But as soon as someone loses weight, it becomes "shapeless" and "anorexia fears"
Beth Ditto is NOT curvy, she's unhealthy and fat!

Tony10 · 20-09-2011 01:11AM

CapriSunFun wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jY3RxYNfjho

Kind of off topic but I hate how women today can be blatantly fat but be classed as "curvy" and be on magazine covers with the headline "I love my body!" But as soon as someone loses weight, it becomes "shapeless" and "anorexia fears"
Beth Ditto is NOT curvy, she's unhealthy and fat!

Really?but then what about this http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/kk59/scudzilla666/2-1.jpg

MungBean · 20-09-2011 01:12AM

billybudd wrote: »

he is 6ft and 12.5 stone in weight which is a proper weight to be for someone that size, maybe in Irleland it has just become normal to be over weight that when someone is properly propotioned that they are thought of being sick, fxxked up mentality.

Or maybe the guy thought he had lost weight and was wondering if he had been sick. This is all about the fact that the other guy thought the op had lost weight. Not about how skinny he looked. OP over reacted and insulted him.

The amount of times I have heard "Jesus your after puttin on some weight" in the last few months is unreal. Yet not once did I get affected and insult the people that said it.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 01:16AM

ok but if someone had said to you, jesus are you depressed because your piling on the pounds, would that cause you upset and to become defensive? honest answer please?

CapriSunFun · 20-09-2011 01:18AM

Tony10 wrote: »

CapriSunFun wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jY3RxYNfjho

Kind of off topic but I hate how women today can be blatantly fat but be classed as "curvy" and be on magazine covers with the headline "I love my body!" But as soon as someone loses weight, it becomes "shapeless" and "anorexia fears"
Beth Ditto is NOT curvy, she's unhealthy and fat!

Really?but then what about this http://i277.photobucket.com/albums/kk59/scudzilla666/2-1.jpg

Now SHE is curvy! Her arms are toned, and she has an hourglass figure!
I'm talking about this;
[Link to photo isn't really SFW, slight obese boobage]
http://curvydivas.com/fashion09/beth_ditto.jpg

cofy · 20-09-2011 01:32AM

billybudd wrote: »

ok but if someone had said to you, jesus are you depressed because your piling on the pounds, would that cause you upset and to become defensive? honest answer please?

Is that question open to everyone, my answer would be no. I would feel more inclined to trust that person.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 01:36AM

cofy wrote: »

Is that question open to everyone, my answer would be no. I would feel more inclined to trust that person.

That is a fair answer but it would entirely depend upon the relationship you had with said person. close friend, spouse, bf/gf compared to someone you see sporadically.

cofy · 20-09-2011 01:44AM

billybudd wrote: »

That is a fair answer but it would entirely depend upon the relationship you had with said person. close friend, spouse, bf/gf compared to someone you see sporadically.

The way I see it is, I would prefer people to be up-front with me. I'm sure that they would be saying it behind my back otherwise - and I hate that.

billybudd · 20-09-2011 01:50AM

cofy wrote: »

The way I see it is, I would prefer people to be up-front with me. I'm sure that they would be saying it behind my back otherwise - and I hate that.

I suppose if i was feeling great and healthy and someone said i must be sick because im skinny then that would piss me off, doubly if the person who said it was overweight.

My god you got so thin, were you sick or something

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