First Date-iquette

leggo · 12-09-2011 11:47PM #1

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

Celly Smunt · 12-09-2011 11:50PM

drop the hand

kfallon · 12-09-2011 11:50PM

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

starlit · 12-09-2011 11:51PM

pmcmahon wrote: »

drop the hand

No don't not on a first date wait at least till second date or a few dates after! Being forward and too full on is a turn off! Depends on date!? Everyone is different...

EverEvolving · 12-09-2011 11:52PM

Slap on the arse and away ye go, seriously though, just do whatever feels natural. I'm a kiss on the cheek kinda gal.

Duggy747 · 12-09-2011 11:52PM

Take out your wallet and ask her how much will an hour cost.

starlit · 12-09-2011 11:53PM

A kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips is probably best for a first date!

Kevin Duffy · 12-09-2011 11:54PM

Slap her on the arsé and tell her to take me to bed or lose me forever.

Redlion · 12-09-2011 11:54PM

leggo wrote: »

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

Sounds like you're training her!

Praetorian Saighdiuir · 12-09-2011 11:55PM

A great big hug while sniffing the hair on her head...

... then say "you smell like my mom, hhhhhhmmmmmm"

phasers · 12-09-2011 11:55PM

grab her tits and make a honking noise. Guaranteed second date.

tan11ie · 12-09-2011 11:55PM

Jump on their back and whip their ass....it always breaks the ice.:D

leggo · 12-09-2011 11:56PM

Redlion wrote: »

Sounds like your training her!

Pretty much. When she tells a funny joke, I give her a Jaffa Cake as a 'treat'.

deaddonkey · 12-09-2011 11:56PM

Redlion wrote: »

Sounds like your training her!

positive reinforcement could really be useful in a relationship.

TheFullDuck · 12-09-2011 11:56PM

Make sure you split the cost of the meal 50-50

starlit · 12-09-2011 11:57PM

Play it cool and get to know each other. Having a good conversation will spark things up if there is chemistry though kissing enhances that!

jdooley28 · 12-09-2011 11:59PM

kfallon wrote: »

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

Helicopter!!

Mint Sauce · 12-09-2011 11:59PM

If the other thread is anything to go by, no nibbling or biteing.

Dangerous Man · 13-09-2011 12:06AM

Tell her about your skin condition.

tan11ie · 13-09-2011 12:12AM

jdooley28 wrote: »

Helicopter!!

It's a nice touch alright

BOHtox · 13-09-2011 12:18AM

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

starlit · 13-09-2011 12:19AM

BOHtox wrote: »

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

Not a very good move though...

BOHtox · 13-09-2011 12:22AM

I would also expect them to know this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BgwSqTe1dU

Lady von Purple · 13-09-2011 12:23AM

The hug-and-kiss-on-the-cheek is a risky one. Sure, it could come off as suave and nice, but there's always the risk she turns after the kiss and you lay the lips on her earlobe by accident. Awkward... Unless she's into that kind of thing.

starbelgrade · 13-09-2011 12:25AM

Women love when a man takes the initiative.

So drop your wallet on the ground & then slip her the baldy lad when she bends over to pick it up.

nice_very · 13-09-2011 03:37AM

kfallon wrote: »

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

ahh the helicopter move... works every time!

af_thefragile · 13-09-2011 04:20AM

Put on the robe and wizard hat...

lilymc · 13-09-2011 04:49AM

No kissing on the lips! At the start of a first date??! If a guy did that to me I would naturally pull away and then it would be even more awkwad.
Kiss on the cheek or hug (depending on how affectionate people you both are.. could be werid if you're not and it seems forced) are both fine

policarp · 13-09-2011 05:15AM

lilymc wrote: »

No kissing on the lips! At the start of a first date

Spot on.
But kids are kids and they don't listen to their parents. . .

Jude13 · 13-09-2011 05:36AM

As thefragile has pointed out, for first impression tips look to bloodnija

irelandspurs · 13-09-2011 06:56AM

Walk off shouting 'you didn't look like that on the internet you ugly bitch'

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