First Date-iquette

leggo

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

Celly Smunt

drop the hand

kfallon

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

starlit

pmcmahon wrote: »

drop the hand

No don't not on a first date wait at least till second date or a few dates after! Being forward and too full on is a turn off! Depends on date!? Everyone is different...

EverEvolving

Slap on the arse and away ye go, seriously though, just do whatever feels natural. I'm a kiss on the cheek kinda gal.

Duggy747

Take out your wallet and ask her how much will an hour cost.

starlit

A kiss on the cheek or a peck on the lips is probably best for a first date!

Kevin Duffy

Slap her on the arsé and tell her to take me to bed or lose me forever.

Redlion

leggo wrote: »

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

Sounds like you're training her!

Praetorian Saighdiuir

A great big hug while sniffing the hair on her head...



... then say "you smell like my mom, hhhhhhmmmmmm"

phasers

grab her tits and make a honking noise. Guaranteed second date.

tan11ie

Jump on their back and whip their ass....it always breaks the ice.:D

leggo

Redlion wrote: »

Sounds like your training her!

Pretty much. When she tells a funny joke, I give her a Jaffa Cake as a 'treat'.

deaddonkey

Redlion wrote: »

Sounds like your training her!

positive reinforcement could really be useful in a relationship.

TheFullDuck

Make sure you split the cost of the meal 50-50

starlit

Play it cool and get to know each other. Having a good conversation will spark things up if there is chemistry though kissing enhances that!

jdooley28

kfallon wrote: »

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

Helicopter!!

Mint Sauce

If the other thread is anything to go by, no nibbling or biteing.

Dangerous Man

Tell her about your skin condition.

tan11ie

jdooley28 wrote: »

Helicopter!!

It's a nice touch alright

BOHtox

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

starlit

BOHtox wrote: »

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

Not a very good move though...

BOHtox

I would also expect them to know this

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9BgwSqTe1dU

Lady von Purple

The hug-and-kiss-on-the-cheek is a risky one. Sure, it could come off as suave and nice, but there's always the risk she turns after the kiss and you lay the lips on her earlobe by accident. Awkward... Unless she's into that kind of thing.

starbelgrade

Women love when a man takes the initiative.

So drop your wallet on the ground & then slip her the baldy lad when she bends over to pick it up.

nice_very

kfallon wrote: »

Pull my willy out and spin it around in my hand shoutiing 'Woo Woo'!

Works every time...... :pac:

ahh the helicopter move... works every time!

af_thefragile

Put on the robe and wizard hat...

lilymc

No kissing on the lips! At the start of a first date??! If a guy did that to me I would naturally pull away and then it would be even more awkwad.
Kiss on the cheek or hug (depending on how affectionate people you both are.. could be werid if you're not and it seems forced) are both fine

policarp

lilymc wrote: »

No kissing on the lips! At the start of a first date

Spot on.
But kids are kids and they don't listen to their parents. . .

Jude13

As thefragile has pointed out, for first impression tips look to bloodnija

irelandspurs

Walk off shouting 'you didn't look like that on the internet you ugly bitch'

stupidusername

It's so long since I had a date I can't remember what I did ;_;

I'd say run at her shouting piggy back! And see what she does.

Blitzkrieger

doovdela wrote: »

Not a very good move though...

I don't think you're getting in the spirit of AH doovdela. No serious replies expected here

--Kaiser--

Throw her over your shoulder, fireman style, then carry her back to your cave

Orando Broom

Pints - chips & burgers - the ride

Ledger

hug and kiss on the cheek a definite, then cover her mouth with the cloraform....

Orando Broom

leggo wrote: »

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

This is an example of initial greeting technique from the Dutch School. Note the informality of limb and trunk interrelationships.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wztTL7GNzFo

listermint

leggo wrote: »

Having a conversation with a gal I know the other day and we were talking about first dates and how awkward they can be. Now, I consider myself a good first date because I don't shut up unless interrupted and am also the type of guy who actually takes an interest in stories about what they dreamed about last night and why yer wan outta work is gonna get hers sooner rather than later.

But the one thing we both agreed on is that the most excruciating part is when you first walk up to them and say hello. Shaking hands is too formal, you obviously don't go straight in for a sloppy French kiss, hugging is a bit...needy ("HOLD ME!")...and not everyone can pull off the 'chat show' hug/kiss on the cheek.

Personally, I usually go for the last one if I get the vibe they weren't outwardly-nervous and awkward. If I do, I just won't do anything and be friendly, get walking where we're going and start chatting about something we've already talked about (so they remember "Oh yeah, I know this person!" and the awkwardness just disappears). Plus you can write the latter off as 'playing it cool'. Then, later, when you hold their hand...girl feels like she's done good and achieved something! :cool:

But what does everyone reckon the best way is? Let's pick a generic scenario where you've kissed while both locked in a pub/club, texted casually for the week and this is your first time meeting sober properly. You spot each other and...

You seem to know alot about first dates OP, is it that you are not that type of guy who has any interesting stories of quips about the office......


Second dates anyone ???


Poor OP

KTRIC

I'd go for no physical contact, a handshake is too formal and the kiss on the cheek is too intimate on the first date.

However if everything is going well, walk her to her bus / car and then when parting ways a peck on the cheek is sufficient. Leaves her wanting more and then you look like a proper gent

bazza1

Look lovingly into her eyes...hold her hand...gently, mind and ask...

"Here! any particular flavoured condom d'ye like?"

leggo

listermint wrote: »

You seem to know alot about first dates OP, is it that you are not that type of guy who has any interesting stories of quips about the office......

I don't get this paragraph? Why would someone have an interesting story about a quip (an off-the-cuff joke)? And what does that have to do with first dates?

Troll fail due to an inability to speak English. Do not pass go. Do not collect €200.

listermint

leggo wrote: »

I don't get this paragraph? Why would someone have an interesting story about a quip (an off-the-cuff joke)? And what does that have to do with first dates?

Troll fail due to an inability to speak English. Do not pass go. Do not collect €200.

Okay you got me on spelling, But Soon Soon, Leggo you shall be owned















:pac:

Mickey H

Kevin Duffy wrote: »

Slap her on the arsé and tell her to take me to bed or lose me forever.

Goose's OH: Hey Goose you big stud.
Goose: That's me honey.
Goose's OH: Take me to bed or lose me forever.
Goose: Show me the way home.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKgcThjYBHs

RichieC

doovdela wrote: »

No don't not on a first date wait at least till second date or a few dates after! Being forward and too full on is a turn off! Depends on date!? Everyone is different...

Thanks, Data!

The Master

Dont forget to tell her all about your nunchuck skills, bowhunting skills, computer hacking skills... Girls only want boyfriends who have great skills.

Caveman1

Take her to the cinema and try the aul popcorn trick

Teyla Emmagan

BOHtox wrote: »

" Heya, oh you have something on your jumper!" * point to invisible dirt
" Where?" Girl looks down
*Run your finger up her chest, neck and face.
They love it!

You are joking?!?!

--Kaiser--

Teyla Emmagan wrote: »

You are joking?!?!

Welcome to AH. Enjoy your stay, emergency exits are located here, here and here. Should you need assistance at any point please call a stewardess

HazDanz

Lean in, administer the soft kiss on the cheek and apply pressure on the handcuff ratchet to make sure it's secure.

Borat_Sagdiyev

KTRIC wrote: »

I'd go for no physical contact, a handshake is too formal and the kiss on the cheek is too intimate on the first date.

However if everything is going well, walk her to her bus / car and then when parting ways a peck on the cheek is sufficient. Leaves her wanting more and then you look like a proper gent

While all this sounds good, being a gent is waaaay over-rated. You will be put firmly in the "too nice" category.

IMO greet with a smile and the hug / cheek kiss combo. You've kissed before ( according to the given scenario), so it shouldn't be a big deal.

KTRIC

Borat_Sagdiyev wrote: »

While all this sounds good, being a gent is waaaay over-rated. You will be put firmly in the "too nice" category.

IMO greet with a smile and the hug / cheek kiss combo. You've kissed before ( according to the given scenario), so it shouldn't be a big deal.

Not necessarily. Never let me down so far.

Anyway "too nice" is just stupid. Would you rather be slapped around ?? At what point is the line drawn ?