Are you friends with your ex?.

AllYourBass · 26-08-2011 05:19PM

Alter-Ego wrote: »

It's just that you mentioned blood a lot...

I've just been watching too much of The Sweeney obviously.

Abi · 26-08-2011 05:20PM

Zaid Gray Slime wrote: »

call me stupid,i think its awkward to be friends with an ex if your in a relationship

How comes?

I'd be fine with it. Well, with the exception of the one I'm divorcing, because he's a prick.

7sr2z3fely84g5 · 26-08-2011 05:23PM

Abi wrote: »

How comes?

Different situations for some folks i guess,a lot of the "history" crap some have with their ex,or casual "harmless" flirting even though they are supposedly "friends".

Atychiphobia · 26-08-2011 05:24PM

We're friendly, but not friends. We wouldn't go out of our way to see each other/talk to each other.

Karona · 26-08-2011 08:51PM

I'm friends with most of my ex's but one of them took the biscuit, don't talk to him at all now.

The others I get on great with now, one of them is my housemate, the other just came to visit me a few weeks ago.

I like having them as friends because they know way too much about me. If they were my enemy I'd be in trouble.

Cravez · 26-08-2011 08:54PM

On good terms (break-up wasn't anything bad, it was mutual) and still sometimes chat. As someone here said, we're friendly but not friends.

Pherekydes · 26-08-2011 09:08PM

Nope. She doesn't live in this country, so I have no contact with her which suits me fine (and her, too, I suppose).

lecker Hendl · 26-08-2011 09:46PM

I had a nice conversation with one of my exs the other night. We got on well. Don't know why I ever broke up with her. First time talking to her in years. I never really fell out with any of my exs. Just drifted.

starlit · 26-08-2011 09:50PM

None of them.

Wattle · 27-08-2011 08:18PM

I don't hate me ex. She was good enough to send me a sympathy card when my dad died recently so she's not all bad. I just don't want her playing any part in my life. It reminds me too much of how humiliating the whole break-up was. Ya gotta move on.

stripysocks85 · 27-08-2011 08:21PM

I voted yes. Split with him in April and continued to live together [sex free before anyone asks if I still got the occasional leg over!] for 3 1/2 months.............

djPSB · 27-08-2011 08:22PM

I misread the title as:

'Are your friends with your ex'!!

Ditch · 27-08-2011 09:50PM

I just came home from explaining to a neighbour how I'd like it if my ex' came here.

As I said; " I could take her out

"

Fucking head shot at 100 yards! The cunt! :mad:

Real River Rock · 28-08-2011 02:23AM

i dated a girl for nearly 3 years... we broke up and kept in touch....we both dated other people and kept in touch.... then when she got married she posted me a dvd of her wedding.. it was so screwed up i lost respect for her after that....it confirmed two things. i did not want to marry her ever and i would not bother my arse keeping in touch with her.. ex's...are remember the good times.... did not work out and lets move on... simple as...

DjFlin · 28-08-2011 02:40AM

I'm not on speaking terms with any of my ex's. I have that effect on most people

punk77 · 28-08-2011 03:03AM

In the words of Tuam's favourite sons " I useta love her,I useta love her once... a long,long time ago...now it's gone,all my lovin' is gone"
In the words of Edith Piaf "Je ne regrette rien"
Or in my own simple words "**** Her".

Kanoe · 28-08-2011 03:20AM

I do my best to acknowledge them because they're crazy and I'm afraid of being stalked and stuff. But I do hate them. except one who happens to be nice and kind.

Super-Rush · 28-08-2011 03:30AM

kingtut wrote: »

Nope I hate her! B*tch pretended to be dying of lieukimia* (sp?) to get out of the relationship.........

.......*which my Uncle died of when I was about 11 :mad:

What the hell?

Tea_Bag · 28-08-2011 12:57PM

I'm trying to be friends with the recent ex. actually she's trying to be friends with me, but its really hard to even talk to her cause I still love her. we broke up because she's leaving the country for a long long time.

previous ex, we don't talk much at all. I avoid her if I'm honest, but only cause it reminds me of what a di(k I was to her when I left her. she didn't deserve that and I've never forgiven myself for it. One day ill get the balls to apologize for being a fu(king tool. she lives in the UK now and comes back to see her friends and family so its seldom we ever see each other.

Mike 1972 · 28-08-2011 01:02PM

Ive been fairly fortunate in that Ive remained on friendly speaking terms with all of my ex-es although I tend to loose contact with them after a while (something Ive regretted slightly in one or two cases although TBH maybe it was for the best ???)

HalloweenJack · 28-08-2011 02:53PM

I've had three serious relationships. I'm still in contact with one of them.

One's dead.

Another is a psychopathic control freak, the type who'll text you the same message again if you don't text back immediately, followed by "Why aren't you texting me back?" and then "You never text back, I give up!" if you don't text back inside five minutes. She tried to undermine my therapist when I was depressed and I have a feeling that when we were broken up, she stalked my then GF. I'm also fairly certain she's stalked me at some point, too.

She also claims she flew to visit me when I was living in a foreign country but when she got there, she refused to see me because I hadn't met her at the airport. We had talked about her coming to visit (we were broken up at the time and she was in a relationship with someone else) but she had told me she couldn't make it, then turned up, apparently, one day totally out of the blue. As I didn't meet her at the airport, she, supposedly, booked a flight back to Ireland immediately and didn't bother trying to get in touch with until after she'd checked in and everything.

She'd done something similar before. We'd arrange to meet up then at the last minute, she'd say something came up and she couldn't make it. This had happened so many times that I eventually wondered if she ever really intended to meet up. I don't believe that it's a coincidence at all. It must've happened about twenty times. Because of that, I still don't believe that she actually flew to visit me but she's adamant that she did.

I was depressed during a lot of this time and I think I kept in touch with her 'cause I was lonely. Once I got better, I realised she was nuts and I needed to be shot of her. I've moved to a new country so I don't use my Irish phone anymore and I've blocked her on FB. I had to block her several times because she kept creating new accounts to try and reach me. She's also got in touch with my friends in the past and got them to tell me she "needed to talk and it was urgent". When I got in touch and asked what was up, she'd just say she was wondering if I was ok, blah blah. I fell for this so many times and for so long that I'm embarrassed to admit it but I've finally realised that I need to break with her and I've done it for a few months now. I don't intend on talking to her again, my self-respect is too important.

Since I've dealt with my problems and actually know how my mind was working when I was depressed, I'd be fairly certain that girl is bipolar.

The third one, I didn't talk to for two years after we broke up but recently started to talk to her again. We live on opposite sides of the world and we're both somewhat different from when we were together so we can actually talk like friends, though she did send me a message recently asking if I still thought about her romantically and what would've happened if we'd stayed together. I sent a message back saying the truth, that no, I didn't and that I don't think about hypotheticals for stuff that's already happened. I haven't heard back from her since.

ZzubZzub · 28-08-2011 03:22PM

Not in contact with either of them.

The first ended quite bitterly, but that not why there's no contact. It took me a whole 3 days to realise it was the best thing for me! There's no contact, on my part, because I simply don't care. At all. He tried adding me on FB several times, to no avail. Also the way he ended our relationship (cheating, and a text) after 3 years showed me he wasn't a very nice person, and quite spineless.

But that was the best thing to ever happen to me, strangely enough. I realised we were only together cause it was comfortable.

The other... There's no contact because he was "in a messed up place" and seeing me then start a relationship (7 months after the fact) was too difficult for him.

cruiser178 · 28-08-2011 04:44PM

Im not on bad term's with any of my ex's.I talk to some of them a lot but only on facebook, dont usually see them face to face.

Esoteric_ · 28-08-2011 04:47PM

I'm not particularly friends with any of my exes, but I'm on good terms with all but 3 of them. I would chat regularly to 2 or 3 others and the rest I'm on decent terms with and would chat if I ran into them, but that's it. I don't really see the point in staying friends with an ex because you liked them as a partner, not as a friend. The whole dynamic changes when you break up.

Are you friends with your ex?.

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