the ice-breaker approach

Blackpitts · 04-08-2011 11:57PM #1

so you are in a pub/club, you see a gorgeous lady, you feel to urge to walk to her (with a bit of dutch courage) and introduce yourself while you thinking "please god, don't make me act like a spastic", you look at her in the eyes and you finally say "hi, I'm xxxx, how are you?"

With a great surprise she doesn't shout a loud f off at your face but politely answers "i'm fine and u?"...wow, the ice is almost broken, now....ehm...now...jeez, what do i ask her now???? :eek:

so guys, what's your 'second question' or your favourite topic to get into a conversation with a completely (beautiful) stranger? :cool:

Snowie · 05-08-2011 12:16AM

my biggest issue with the talking to ladies is when Im out Im useually drunk :mad:

EDIT that sounds bad...

But when im sober I can be very charming/dirty minded..

mardybumbum · 05-08-2011 12:19AM

At the moment I would ask "Are you a fan of George Carlin?"

If the answer was "No" or "Who's that" I would then bid them adieu.

paulmclaughlin · 05-08-2011 12:41AM

"Look, you're not good looking and I'm not fussy so do you wanna go back to my place?"

amacachi · 05-08-2011 12:53AM

Walk up...
"Did the fat penguin work?"
"What?"
"I was hoping it would break the ice."

Or something like that.

IT-Guy · 05-08-2011 01:40AM

amacachi wrote: »

Walk up...
"Did the fat penguin work?"
"What?"
"I was hoping it would break the ice."

Or something like that.

True, I normally introduce myself and ask them how their night is going, hopefully if you get enough of a response there should be an opportunity to further the conversation. If I'm feeling playful I'll try a cheesy chat up line similar to above - "How much does a polar bear weigh?". Cue a few puzzled expressions and her asking her friends how much a polar bear weighs. When they get the answer of "enough to break the ice!" there's either a bit of laughing or a few disappointed/pissed off expressions. Either way I've had my fun!

amacachi · 05-08-2011 02:41AM

IT-Guy wrote: »

Either way I've had my fun!

Just like me, go out with low ambitions and you'll rarely be disappointed. :pac:

Jesus Wept · 05-08-2011 02:43AM

hi, you remind me of a fat penguin. do you have any ice?

Marty_Orr · 05-08-2011 03:03AM

Ask how their night's going.

Or comment on the weather. The perfect icebreaker for any conversation, no matter who its with. Unless you say the wrong thing, of course.

You say:"Nice day wasn't it"

Thoughts in your head:"Ah feck it was raining today, now i look like a complete fool."

paulmclaughlin · 05-08-2011 04:06AM

"Look down. Yep, that's a knife."

Scanlas The 2nd · 05-08-2011 08:32AM

Blackpitts wrote: »

so you are in a pub/club, you see a gorgeous lady, you feel to urge to walk to her (with a bit of dutch courage) and introduce yourself while you thinking "please god, don't make me act like a spastic", you look at her in the eyes and you finally say "hi, I'm xxxx, how are you?"
With a great surprise she doesn't shout a loud f off at your face but politely answers "i'm fine and u?"...wow, the ice is almost broken, now....ehm...now...jeez, what do i ask her now???? :eek:

so guys, what's your 'second question' or your favourite topic to get into a conversation with a completely (beautiful) stranger? :cool:

I try not to ask any questions for the first 1 -3 minutes. You only have so many questions you can ask before she loses interest, so I just make statements. I walk up and say something that makes no sense such as " Sally sells sea shells by the sea shore" or " I remember you from play school...you stole my crayons". Getting into a questions answer questions answer question answer converstation is death for any attraction she may have for you, don't do it. Make statements and tell her to do things for you such as making her spin around, I make sure never to anwer any question she asks directly early on or to do anything she asks without me getting her to do something for me first. If you let her lead it's game over. Instead of asking "where are you from" I'd say something like " you have american skin but you don't act like an american, more like someone from wales".

stupidusername · 05-08-2011 08:34AM

This thread is making me realise there may have been more guys coming onto me than I realised at the time.

newbee22 · 05-08-2011 08:36AM

I own the polar bear line! I'm a girl and if someone used it on me it would work, best line out there!! On the other hand ones like 'Is your name Gilette', they don't work!

MrStuffins · 05-08-2011 08:36AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

I try not to ask any questions for the first 1 -3 minutes. You only have so many questions you can ask before she loses interest, so I just make statements. I walk up and say something that makes no sense such as " Sally sells sea shells by the sea shore" or " I remember you from play school...you stole my crayons". Getting into a questions answer questions answer question answer converstation is death for any attraction she may have for you, don't do it. Make statements and tell her to do things for you such as making her spin around, I make sure never to anwer any question she asks directly early on or to do anything she asks without me getting her to do something for me first. If you let her lead it's game over. Instead of asking "where are you from" I'd say something like " you have american skin but you don't act like an american, more like someone from wales".

Jaysus, bring back Scanlas The 1st, there's no way he was as creepy!

mackg · 05-08-2011 08:38AM

stupidusername wrote: »

This thread is making me realise that every guy who has talked to me was coming onto me.

FYP

Dyr · 05-08-2011 08:49AM

"Is that ugly bollix your fella"

Vicxas · 05-08-2011 08:52AM

I just talk to them, or make a observation about how packed the club is, kinda flows from there!

stupidusername · 05-08-2011 08:55AM

mackg wrote: »

FYP

really? feels somewhat arrogant to assume that

SuperGrover · 05-08-2011 08:56AM

mardybumbum wrote: »

At the moment I would ask "Are you a fan of George Carlin?"

If the answer was "No" or "Who's that" I would then bid them adieu.

Wow. Really? That's the deal-breaker right there, huh?

HeisenbergBB · 05-08-2011 09:01AM

amacachi wrote: »

Walk up...
"Did the fat penguin work?"
"What?"
"I was hoping it would break the ice."

Or something like that.

Or you could show your knowledge of current affairs.. you know make it a bit more topical..

"Well there's one good thing about global warming"

"What's that?"

"Something to break the ice!"

foxyboxer · 05-08-2011 09:06AM

I usually just chicken out and castigate myself mentally afterwards.

I just try to make eye contact and give a big cheesy, playful wink or with a nose-tap then go back to what I was doing. Then if she makes more eye contact I approach and say hello...blah...blah...blah. If not then a silent rebuttal beats the ego-smashing approach rejection.

Nephinbeg · 05-08-2011 09:08AM

"Could you help me load this couch into the back of my van?"

MrStuffins · 05-08-2011 09:11AM

I'm from Dublin but have lived in other countries and one big problem (and I apologise for this in advance as it's already been discussed on Boards and might be a little offensive) is the fact that a lot of girls in Dublin (in my experience and observation) tend to think that guys aren't good enough to talk to them and are rude if they are not interested, rather than to be polite and decline their advance (or even if an advance doesn't exist, they will presume there is one).

A lot of girls will be terribly rude and somewhat offensive if you even DARE to speak to them in a nightclub. And this puts a lot of guys off!

cruiser178 · 05-08-2011 09:12AM

2nd question

Are you from Ireland? coz every time i see you my mickey is dublin.

EverEvolving · 05-08-2011 09:14AM

mardybumbum wrote: »

At the moment I would ask "Are you a fan of George Carlin?"

If the answer was "No" or "Who's that" I would then bid them adieu.

I am now, thanks for that, If anyone needs me I'll be on youtube. He's very good.

MrStuffins · 05-08-2011 09:15AM

EverEvolving wrote: »

I am now, thanks for that, If anyone needs me I'll be on youtube. He's very good.

WAS very good! God punished him for being a heathen!

Scanlas The 2nd · 05-08-2011 09:19AM

Practice no questions and see how you get on.

Condon · 05-08-2011 09:20AM

"im stronger than you" often works!

humanji · 05-08-2011 09:21AM

Ralph Wiggum know's where it's at: "So... do you like... stuff?"

mackg · 05-08-2011 09:24AM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a0TY2ZqKdt0

foxyboxer · 05-08-2011 09:25AM

Maybe it's the beer talking but you gotta butt that won't quit.
mwlawhahadhsahdh...five euro? getta outta here......;)

the ice-breaker approach

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