Do you want to get married?

LenaClaire · 20-07-2011 12:01PM

I have been married for a couple years now. We did a civil ceremony because neither of us are religious and then had a small reception later with just close family and friends.

We got married because we love each other but also because of the legal protection/benefits that you get from marriage.

Sunnyisland · 20-07-2011 12:02PM

Third time lucky for me :-)

Downlinz · 20-07-2011 12:09PM

At 24 and after years of living with my parents and in college houses with 6-8 people I can safely say that I'd be vastly happier living by myself and by my own rules for the first time in my life.

bnt · 20-07-2011 12:12PM

I don't have a problem with the idea of marriage, it's all the other stuff that comes with it that turns me off, and that would turn off someone who wanted all that stuff. Things I don't want:

no church ceremony - I don't do religion;
no big reception - can't afford it, and even if I could there are a million better uses for the money;
no interfering in-laws - it's none of their business
no children. At least, not unless I was very rich, because kids of poor parents are f**ked from birth.

Now find me a woman who'd agree to all that, as well as tolerate me. Yeah ... I'm staying single, at least as long as I'm living in Ireland. :rolleyes:

Lux23 · 20-07-2011 12:16PM

I would feel exactly the same way, thats why I would like to leave of getting married until I am old enough to tell everyone to **** off and let me make my own decisions.

timelessone · 20-07-2011 12:17PM

Getting married in November to a fairly decent bird. Basically, I want to tie her down before some other bastard gets his hands on her.

It's pretty much an ownership thing.

TaosHum · 20-07-2011 12:19PM

Yes, any excuse for a good piss-up.

old_aussie · 20-07-2011 12:22PM

Why buy the book when there's an entire library.

KungPao · 20-07-2011 12:22PM

Always said "hell no" during my teens and 20s, but then met the girl for me...

We did it for legal and practicality reasons mind, in a registry office. She's not from the EU and I lived in her country and she's lived here.

It would have very awkward to live and work in each others countries otherwise.

If she was Irish/from the EU, I wouldn't have seen the point in marriage for us.

Malari · 20-07-2011 12:43PM

bnt wrote: »

I don't have a problem with the idea of marriage, it's all the other stuff that comes with it that turns me off, and that would turn off someone who wanted all that stuff. Things I don't want:
no church ceremony - I don't do religion;

no big reception - can't afford it, and even if I could there are a million better uses for the money;

no interfering in-laws - it's none of their business

no children. At least, not unless I was very rich, because kids of poor parents are f**ked from birth.

Now find me a woman who'd agree to all that, as well as tolerate me. Yeah ... I'm staying single, at least as long as I'm living in Ireland. :rolleyes:

There's probably several on this thread! Weddings-by-numbers - urgh.

Siuin · 20-07-2011 12:48PM

KungPao wrote: »

Always said "hell no" during my teens and 20s, but then met the girl for me...

We did it for legal and practicality reasons mind, in a registry office. She's not from the EU and I lived in her country and she's lived here.

It would have very awkward to live and work in each others countries otherwise.

If she was Irish/from the EU, I wouldn't have seen the point in marriage for us.

I'm in the exact same situation- if we'd get married, it's purely for practicality reasons in getting visas to work in eachothers countries (not sure which we'd pick yet!) Did you have any legal issues? Were they quite strict with processing because she wasn't an EU citizen?

MagicMarker · 20-07-2011 12:52PM

No, marriage is stupid.

Teyla Emmagan · 20-07-2011 12:57PM

I would love to get married. I am absolutely SICK of having to do everything myself (lift stuff, move stuff, unblock stuff, hang up stuff). I want a husband, one who is 'good with his hands'. Someone to do the driving sometimes and know about electrical things. Someone who can't just up and run off on me. This feminism lark is over-rated.

gugleguy · 20-07-2011 01:00PM

MagicMarker wrote: »

No, marriage is stupid.

it takes 1 to know 1

I want to marry.

Duggy747 · 20-07-2011 01:03PM

Not too opposed to marriage but I definitely don't want kids.

Anyways, if I do get married it won't be in a church but there'll be a great piss-up afterwards. My friends and family would kill me for denying them such a drinking oppertunity! :pac:

The Princess Bride · 20-07-2011 01:05PM

Always thought there was something wrong with me growing up as the thought of a white fluffy wedding was the biggest recurring nightmare ever.:eek::eek:

Once upon a time, I met a handsome prince,fell in lust/love/whatever......lived together ,had some babies......and felt the legal system in this strange country was our worst enemy.He wasn't officially my next of kin, plus we had to seek guardianship every time we had a child- just because we weren't married.

So,7 years ago,we hit the registry office with a bang- the bride did NOT wear white(the colour washes me out,tbh) and being 100% honest,the only difference to our relationship bar the piece of paper- is our rings and our titles.
And yes....when I say my "husband" I automatically stop myself as I think it sounds so foreign on my tongue.

Each to their own- just be happy whatever you do:)

replica · 20-07-2011 01:06PM

I think everyone to their own. Personally I was married and now divorced. I wouldn't get married again as at the end of the day, I dont need a piece of paper from anyone to tell me that after I divorced I met someone fell in love with them and that I am the luckiest man in the world to have had another opportunity to be in a relationship with the most marvellous, patient, loving woman in the world.

7sr2z3fely84g5 · 20-07-2011 01:07PM

msthe80s wrote: »

Always thought there was something wrong with me growing up as the thought of a white fluffy wedding was the biggest recurring nightmare ever.:eek::eek:

Once upon a time, I met a handsome prince,fell in lust/love/whatever......lived together ,had some babies......and felt the legal system in this strange country was our worst enemy.He wasn't officially my next of kin, plus we had to seek guardianship every time we had a child- just because we weren't married.

So,7 years ago,we hit the registry office with a bang- the bride did NOT wear white(the colour washes me out,tbh) and being 100% honest,the only difference to our relationship bar the piece of paper- is our rings and our titles.
And yes....when I say my "husband" I automatically stop myself as I think it sounds so foreign on my tongue.

Each to their own- just be happy whatever you do:)

This is what i like,none of this OMG what im gonna wear or who im gonna invite rubbish.

Karona · 20-07-2011 01:07PM

I want to get married. Just haven't found the right one yet.

KungPao · 20-07-2011 01:07PM

Siuin wrote: »

I'm in the exact same situation- if we'd get married, it's purely for practicality reasons in getting visas to work in eachothers countries (not sure which we'd pick yet!) Did you have any legal issues? Were they quite strict with processing because she wasn't an EU citizen?

PM sent.

Siuin · 20-07-2011 01:09PM

KungPao wrote: »

PM sent.

Many thanks!

pragmatic1 · 20-07-2011 01:44PM

No. Every relationship has a time limit.

Rubberlegs · 20-07-2011 02:19PM

We are together 21yrs now, we have 2 kids, 18 and 11. We never married, why fix what isn't broken? I can't imagine anything more stressful than planning a wedding, far better things for money to go on IMO. I'd feel a right twat getting married at this stage anyway:o. The only thing that bugs me is I never know how to refer to him. Boyfriend sounds childish, partner sounds a bit "yee ha, ride em cowboys", other half I hate cos it makes it sound like I'm only half a person. Usually end up referring to him as "himself" out of desperation:(

Kevin Duffy · 20-07-2011 02:20PM

Did you hear about the two television aerials that got married? The reception was brilliant.

I want to get married, mostly so I can tell wonderful jokes like that in my speech.

replica · 20-07-2011 02:32PM

73Cat wrote: »

We are together 21yrs now, we have 2 kids, 18 and 11. We never married, why fix what isn't broken? I can't imagine anything more stressful than planning a wedding, far better things for money to go on IMO. I'd feel a right twat getting married at this stage anyway:o. The only thing that bugs me is I never know how to refer to him. Boyfriend sounds childish, partner sounds a bit "yee ha, ride em cowboys", other half I hate cos it makes it sound like I'm only half a person. Usually end up referring to him as "himself" out of desperation:(

I'm the partner... at 42 I haven't the energy to be anyone's boyfriend... boyfriend conjures up images of late night, discos etc... himself almost sounds like a dull dreary over weight crank... better half sounds as if or my partner are not up to scratch...

20-07-2011 02:33PM

73Cat wrote: »

We are together 21yrs now, we have 2 kids, 18 and 11. We never married, why fix what isn't broken? I can't imagine anything more stressful than planning a wedding, far better things for money to go on IMO. I'd feel a right twat getting married at this stage anyway:o. The only thing that bugs me is I never know how to refer to him. Boyfriend sounds childish, partner sounds a bit "yee ha, ride em cowboys", other half I hate cos it makes it sound like I'm only half a person. Usually end up referring to him as "himself" out of desperation:(

What about guardianship with the kids etc, I know one is 18 but the 11 year old. If you passed away or something.

The Princess Bride · 20-07-2011 02:33PM

73Cat wrote: »

The only thing that bugs me is I never know how to refer to him. Boyfriend sounds childish, partner sounds a bit "yee ha, ride em cowboys", other half I hate cos it makes it sound like I'm only half a person. Usually end up referring to him as "himself" out of desperation:(

I know- this used to do my head in.I've always hated "labeling" and think that's why I still feel uneasy being described as someone's wife.
I'm me- just me. The fact I'm a daughter,a mother and a wife etc....is beside the point.
Having said that,I still sometimes refer to mrthe80s as boyfriend.....have to be careful,though, as don't want people to think I'm being unfaithful!!!!

floutingmaxims · 20-07-2011 02:38PM

deathrider wrote: »

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3IlEXetYssE

Thats the one

Rubberlegs · 20-07-2011 02:45PM

bluewolf wrote: »

What about guardianship with the kids etc, I know one is 18 but the 11 year old. If you passed away or something.

Good point:) He has legal guardianship of them both.

metalfest · 20-07-2011 03:15PM

Larianne wrote: »

You get to be a princess for the day!!!!!!!!!!

christ it'd take a lot more than a shave and a dress for me to be a princess for a day :pac:

Do you want to get married?

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