Have you ever had a stalker?

Yeah. An ex. Lasted about 13 months. Poor girl was a bit nuts.

I have an online stalker from another forum i use. He tracked down my facebook page and saved all my pictures before i could make it private and now he posts up pictures of me online and will only address me by my real name. The chap is a wierdo.

PseudoFamous wrote: »

Well, Dick, when you use your real name as your username, you should expect that sort of thing.

My user name is in tribute to Coronation Streets greatest ever character. He found out my real name through other users on the forum that i was friendly with.

Yeah, I guess so, he'd be waiting at the ticket barriers of my local tube station when I got back after work.

Didn't last long though.

I had a same-sex stalker. She used to work in the same place as me, got it into her head that I was her best friend forever (I had barely ever even made small talk with her). She got my phone number from a fellow colleague and started off by texting me every now and then. Then she started turning up at places where I had arranged to meet friends - some of them were other collegues and she'd quiz them about where we were going. If my boyfriend (now husband) was ever present, she'd completely blank him and sulk in a corner for the night. If he wasn't around, she'd try and position herself next to me for the night and intrude on every conversation I attempted to have during the night. She was obsessed with herself, seemed to think I wanted to know her life history. Being a nice girl, I started by giving subtle hints (not returning invites, avoiding her at work, never texting back) but had to become more blatant, telling her to back off. No joy though. Although she lived at the other side of the city to me, she'd often hang out on my street waiting to bump into me, joined a club I was in, then started turning up on my doorstep unannounced. She even started to look like me, dying her hair the same colour as mine and buying similar clothes. There wasn't much I could do about it, but we were moving country anyway so I figured it would come to an end naturally. But no, international stalking continued, ended up having to delete my Facebook account, change my phone numbers and warn everyone I know that she is an absolute fruit. She's been gone a few years now, but I still take precautions. I don't know what caused it. I don't think it was sexual, I never encouraged anything, I'm fairly average in every way. Freaky. I'm still a bit wary about making friends with new people in case they also turn out to be nuts.

I used to have this young fella who would turn up outside the house. And wait until I came out, even if it was 7 hours. He'd be out there at 3am some mornings. He used to follow me to work and followed my Mam and Dad around. I thought he was harmless until I was in his room one day (before I knew he was a bit touched) and found my name written out thousands and thousands of times. Mis-spelt.

He got bored though eventually.

A one night stand took my phone number on the sly somehow and proceeded to pester me with phone calls and text updates on her life for about 6 or 8 months, where she'd gone, who she'd seen there and so on, (i didn't know either her or any of these people by the way). I assume she must have been lonely or something (and probably sexually frustrated to boot:D)
Thankfully the texts and calls just stopped one day, for some unkown reason, probably her next one nighter.
Thank fúck there is someone else out there with beer goggles as defective as mine!

Raminahobbin wrote: »

He patronised me constantly in an 'ahhhh isn't she so cute' kinda way, which I HATE. The actual stalkerage creepy behaviour lasted 4-5 months.

You are such an over exagerator, I didnt do it that much...Here I need help with another project

sbsquarepants wrote: »

A one night stand took my phone number on the sly somehow and proceeded to pester me with phone calls and text updates on her life for about 6 or 8 months, where she'd gone, who she'd seen there and so on, (i didn't know either her or any of these people by the way). I assume she must have been lonely or something (and probably sexually frustrated to boot:D)

This is called Twitter

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Thankfully the texts and calls just stopped one day, for some unkown reason, probably her next one nighter.
Thank fúck there is someone else out there with beer goggles as defective as mine!

So you found the unsubscribe button


I haven't been stalked but i wouldn't mind stalking someone, there's a nice stretch to the evenings and I'm looking for a pastime

Most of the examples of Stalkers given on here are no more than pests who can't take a hint. I kinda find myself cringing for them, to be honest.

I've had one. A very scary ex. We lived in the same building (large student accomodation type set up in the UK back in the early 90s)

He stole all my post. He broke into the attic of the building we lived and and crawled along it til he was over my room so he could hear what I was doing and if I was talking about him.He'd creep along the corridors at night and listen at my (and other people's) door. He vandalised his own room door with abusive graffitti and tried to claim it was me. When I moved out he found out where I was living and would drive up and down the street. I got a new job outside of the city I lived in and he would drive past the bus stop when I was going home, staring me out. i was terrified of him and lived in a constant state of fear, which, looking back, is what he wanted.

This continued til i moved back to Ireland.

There is nothing flattering about having a stalker and it has nothing to do with being attractive and interesting. It is about intimidation and control.