Have you ever had a stalker?

stevejr

I have, luckily for me the problem sorted itself out once she went to Specsavers....

Asphyxia

:D:D
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policarp

Have you ever had a stalk...?

Karona

I have a stalker... will not stop texting me even though I dont text back. Keeps saying Hey, How are you?

Its so flucking annoying. I never text back.

policarp

Asphyxia wrote: »

:D:D
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Peeping Tom...

Asphyxia

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im invisible

Karona wrote: »

I have a stalker... will not stop texting me even though I dont text back. Keeps saying Hey, How are you?

Its so flucking annoying. I never text back.

Hey, how are you? I txted you there, but you never replied

The Princess Bride

In the 80s,I went out with a guy called Spud,and he had a brother who was a bit intense.
Every time we went out as a group,he'd spend the night staring at me.
One night,when Spud went to get drinks,Spud eile( cannot for the life of me remember his name,but no doubt will have nightmares and remember it later)
sidled in closer and said " msthe80s,you know it's really me you love .You want to marry me and have my babies, you know you do..................."
:eek::eek::eek::eek:
Jesus,I didn't even want to marry Spud,let alone psycho brother!!!

PseudoFamous

msthe80s wrote: »

In the 80s,I went out with a guy called Spud,and he had a brother who was a bit intense.
Every time we went out as a group,he'd spend the night staring at me.
One night,when Spud went to get drinks,Spud eile( cannot for the life of me remember his name,but no doubt will have nightmares and remember it later)
sidled in closer and said " msthe80s,you know it's really me you love .You want to marry me and have my babies, you know you do..................."
:eek::eek::eek::eek:
Jesus,I didn't even want to marry Spud,let alone psycho brother!!!

My name is John, dear.

later12

A stalker is not an unwelcome texter who doesnt get the message. A stalker is someone who sneaks into your house to write love messages in his bodily fluids on your wallpaper, or follows you in your everyday life to an intrusive degree.

I find it is mediocre looking naive girls who usually like to proclaim that somebody is stalking them. Maybe it has something to do with attention seeking, maybe it has something do do with paranoia - maybe they really do believe they are Paris Hilton. In any case, I think most so-called stalkers are just friendly guys/girls who may not immediately get the message that their friendship is unwanted.

Midnight_EG

Why'd you close the blinds

Marty McFly

Yep I can sadly say ive had two in my lifetime, is it a bad dthing I wonder or is it like a badge of honour.

One was a complete pyscho called into my house one day and after realising I was in work invited herself in and sat there with my mother for 2 hours until I arrived home from work to find my ma laughing when she opened door saying you have a visitor I spent the next 5 hours squirming trying to get her out of my house.

Kojak

I read the title as "Have you ever been a stalker?"

Wolfe Tone

later10 wrote: »

A stalker is not an unwelcome texter who doesnt get the message. A stalker is someone who sneaks into your house to write love messages in his bodily fluids on your wallpaper, or follows you in your everyday life to an intrusive degree.

I find it is mediocre looking naive girls who usually like to proclaim that somebody is stalking them. Maybe it has something to do with attention seeking, maybe it has something do do with paranoia - maybe they really do believe they are Paris Hilton. In any cases, I think most so-called stalkers are just friendly guys/girls who may not immediately get the message that their friendship is unwanted.

Friendship isnt unwanted, she just hasnt got any credit... for the past 2 months

CrazyRabbit

I do the stalking....from your back garden. It's my job.

cesc77

I once had a stalker who took their own life after I made it clear that I wasnt interested.

They were harmless to me but it has obviously had an effect on me and how I deal with people from now on.

Be careful as you dont know what goes on in peoples heads.

Doogieboogie

I had an ex who stole my address book, stalked me and various members of my family/friends. Wrote me 5 letters a day, sent me bizarre mix tapes (this was in the mid 90's) turned up at my house, my place of work...Eventually went away when I had a burly friend and his burly mates have a 'word' or three. Scary.... I don't think I slept right for about 8 months.

Karona

Karona wrote: »

I have a stalker... will not stop texting me even though I dont text back. Keeps saying Hey, How are you?

Its so flucking annoying. I never text back.

Same here, been there, done that. Ended up changing my number... she asked me at one stage if we'd make a pact that if neither of us were married by the time we were 25 that we'd marry each other! :eek:

saintsaltynuts

I class a stalker as an unwanted erection that appears out of the blue maybe four/five times a day.

Kanoe

yes, at first I was flattered and then I told her she kissed like a girl.

[edit; it was like opening up the 7th circle of hell]

Mal-Adjusted

i have a FB stalker (who's branching out into real-life) . the ex of a friend. she's always on my page, leaving comments & long private messages as well as bothering my girlfriend.

later12

While admittedly this is a self-selective response pool, I am amazed that 9 people out of about 20 have so far suggested that they have had stalkers. Boards.ie respondents must be particularly fascinating, beautiful people relative to the general population!

Can this thread have a poll? It would be interesting to see how high the stalk-o-meter will go:pac:

Mal-Adjusted

later10 wrote: »

While admittedly this is a self-selective response pool, I am amazed that 9 people out of about 20 have so far suggested that they have had stalkers. Boards.ie respondents must be particularly fascinating, beautiful people relative to the general population!

Can this thread have a poll? It would be interesting to see how high the stalk-o-meter will go:pac:

well to be fair, if you didn't have one, then why even bother posting?

Kanoe

stalkbook uhuh uhumm .. k i'm stalking somebody as we speak. well maybe not stalking but I haven't thought about them in ages and went and checked out their page. I still would.

Needler

Havn't had a stalker, why the feck would anyone want to? lol

and yes a lot of girl's "stalker" are just ordinary fellas who she hasn't told to feck off yet because secretly she likes the attention

LisaLee

Yes, he used to wait for me outside of lecture halls then come over and start asking me what I was doing later on.

I always told him I was busy, but he wouldn't back off until I started dating someone. Bit of an oddball, especially since he knew what lecture halls I'd be in each day.. :eek:

Fozzydog3

who else is here to see if they've been found out ?

later12

Mal-Adjusted wrote: »

well to be fair, if you didn't have one, then why even bother posting?

Well yes, I took account of that by adding that the pool is self selective. But I would consider having a stalker to be quite a rare thing, not being convinced that the country is over-run with stalkers. So it strikes me as amusing that in a thread that is just over one hour old, very late on a Sunday night, already so many people claim to have been stalked.

Maybe stalkees are just more likely to be sleepless, and therefore online at 3am when their stalker is hiding in the wardrobe in the next room, though, who knows...

Kanoe

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Needler

later10 wrote: »

Well yes, I took account of that by adding that the pool is self selective. But I would consider having a stalker to be quite a rare thing, not being convinced that the country is over-run with stalkers. So it strikes me as amusing that in a thread that is just over one hour old, very late on a Sunday night, already so many people claim to have been stalked.

Maybe stalkees are just more likely to be sleepless, and therefore online at 3am when their stalker is hiding in the wardrobe in the next room, though, who knows...

ah sure if you posted this thread in tLL you won't get one girl saying she never had a stalker

Biggins

Had two serious ones which had to be dealt with.
An ex-girlfriend also had a serious one for a year too.

7sr2z3fely84g5

More people have read this thread than posted,mmmm...

Sanjuro

Yeah. An ex. Lasted about 13 months. Poor girl was a bit nuts.

Gandalph

I used to follow this girl around town but she never noticed me, So I started following her with my lad in my hand. I snook into her room 1 night and stole her underpants which I fed to my dog (sniffing them is just creepy). I followed her dad to work one day and keyed "I love your daughter" into his car to show my affection.

later12

Girls love that, though.

Needler

Biggins wrote: »

Had two serious ones which had to be dealt with.
An ex-girlfriend also had a serious one for a year too.

What did you do to em?

I'm sure there is a good story behind these

Richard Hillman

I have an online stalker from another forum i use. He tracked down my facebook page and saved all my pictures before i could make it private and now he posts up pictures of me online and will only address me by my real name. The chap is a wierdo.

PseudoFamous

Richard Hillman wrote: »

I have an online stalker from another forum i use. He tracked down my facebook page and saved all my pictures before i could make it private and now he posts up pictures of me online and will only address me by my real name. The chap is a wierdo.

Well, Dick, when you use your real name as your username, you should expect that sort of thing.

Richard Hillman

PseudoFamous wrote: »

Well, Dick, when you use your real name as your username, you should expect that sort of thing.

My user name is in tribute to Coronation Streets greatest ever character. He found out my real name through other users on the forum that i was friendly with.

Chairman Meow

Hell yeah. Its pretty much the best FPS of all time.

Luxie

Yeah, I guess so, he'd be waiting at the ticket barriers of my local tube station when I got back after work.

Didn't last long though.

OutlawPete

Yes, I have one right now.

Cat Melodeon

I had a same-sex stalker. She used to work in the same place as me, got it into her head that I was her best friend forever (I had barely ever even made small talk with her). She got my phone number from a fellow colleague and started off by texting me every now and then. Then she started turning up at places where I had arranged to meet friends - some of them were other collegues and she'd quiz them about where we were going. If my boyfriend (now husband) was ever present, she'd completely blank him and sulk in a corner for the night. If he wasn't around, she'd try and position herself next to me for the night and intrude on every conversation I attempted to have during the night. She was obsessed with herself, seemed to think I wanted to know her life history. Being a nice girl, I started by giving subtle hints (not returning invites, avoiding her at work, never texting back) but had to become more blatant, telling her to back off. No joy though. Although she lived at the other side of the city to me, she'd often hang out on my street waiting to bump into me, joined a club I was in, then started turning up on my doorstep unannounced. She even started to look like me, dying her hair the same colour as mine and buying similar clothes. There wasn't much I could do about it, but we were moving country anyway so I figured it would come to an end naturally. But no, international stalking continued, ended up having to delete my Facebook account, change my phone numbers and warn everyone I know that she is an absolute fruit. She's been gone a few years now, but I still take precautions. I don't know what caused it. I don't think it was sexual, I never encouraged anything, I'm fairly average in every way. Freaky. I'm still a bit wary about making friends with new people in case they also turn out to be nuts.

thewintermute

Hey until the Judge tells me different I'm calling it 'selective walking'

Teyla Emmagan

I used to have this young fella who would turn up outside the house. And wait until I came out, even if it was 7 hours. He'd be out there at 3am some mornings. He used to follow me to work and followed my Mam and Dad around. I thought he was harmless until I was in his room one day (before I knew he was a bit touched) and found my name written out thousands and thousands of times. Mis-spelt.

He got bored though eventually.

Raminahobbin

I've had a couple- worst was a guy I met when I had to do a project with him for college. We started having lunch together to talk about it, and it went from there... If I didn't respond to texts asking if I wanted to meet up, he would check my various internet profiles/forums to see if I was online and then walk around all the computer rooms in the college looking for me. He started proclaiming his love for me after a couple of months, and frequently told me how horny he was. Then he dumped his girlfriend. Then he started stroking my hair and cooing at me, and actually GROWLED at other guys I was friends with when they were being friendly to me. One guy he saw me flirting with he threatened to chop off his willy with his penknife... I was arranging a night out with a friend in class one day and all he overheard was the town we would be out in. That night, he joined us, saying he had gone around every pub in the town to find me.

I have a real issue with boundaries so I find this kind of thing very very difficult to deal with...so thankfully my friends stepped in and saw him off. But it was really, really creepy. He was the oddest person I've ever met, physically uncomfortable to be around ALL the time. He patronised me constantly in an 'ahhhh isn't she so cute' kinda way, which I HATE. The actual stalkerage creepy behaviour lasted 4-5 months.

sbsquarepants

A one night stand took my phone number on the sly somehow and proceeded to pester me with phone calls and text updates on her life for about 6 or 8 months, where she'd gone, who she'd seen there and so on, (i didn't know either her or any of these people by the way). I assume she must have been lonely or something (and probably sexually frustrated to boot:D)
Thankfully the texts and calls just stopped one day, for some unkown reason, probably her next one nighter.
Thank fúck there is someone else out there with beer goggles as defective as mine!

katiebelle

I have been stalked online. I met someone through another forum and I was bombarded with pm's and im's morning noon and night. This person did everything they could to find out where I lived and my phone number. They harassed other people I was friendly with to try to get this information. They researched me online and did find something about me being in Boston but I had actually moved on from there a long time before. I had to shut down my account on the forum, let me email account bounce and was delighted to be moving back to Europe. Americans can be weird sometimes

gimmick

I have a stalker right now. Damn those wimmin who I work with dressing so provocatively. Can't wait to get home.

az2wp0sye65487

Doogieboogie wrote: »

I had an ex who stole my address book, stalked me and various members of my family/friends. Wrote me 5 letters a day, sent me bizarre mix tapes (this was in the mid 90's) turned up at my house, my place of work...Eventually went away when I had a burly friend and his burly mates have a 'word' or three. Scary.... I don't think I slept right for about 8 months.

7 months, 25 days, 15 hours and 12 minutes, actually.

Doogieboogie

Marilyn Nutty Buckle wrote: »

7 months, 25 days, 15 hours and 12 minutes, actually.

:eek::eek::eek::eek::eek:


Seriously, though, this guy was a fruit'n'nut. I started to get calls from friends and family asking why this guy was writing to them begging them to help him get me back. He got friends of his to write to me too. I was only 19/20 at the time, had no clue how to deal with him - I maintained the head in the sand approach until he started showing up outside my house and job.

Thank fcuk there was no such thing as FB etc back then, I'm very cautious with privacy settings on it now, just in case the dude ever goes looking for me!