my daughter's homework

Aoifey! · 04-05-2011 10:22PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Aaaahhhhhh:mad::mad::mad: this drives me berzerk. I hope to jebus you are just having a laugh and not doing your kid's homework. When you can think clearly please ask yourself the following question.....

Q: When I do my child's homework I am teaching my daughter...

(a) that homework has no importance.
(b) that she can gain nothing by completing it.
(c) that she can say to the teacher "yes, I did my homework" when this is not the case.
(d) that she is not really expected to do it.
(e) that someone do things for her / bail her out.

Just tick off whichever you think is the answer.

OK bring on the criticism.. harsh.. get off your high horse.. take that thing out of your h0le etc. etc.
I am super sensitive to this I know.It's cos recently I've seen some bad cases of parents NOT realizing what they are teaching their children through their actions. Saying one thing/ doing another.....'helping'/when really they are not helping.

Don't bother with the 'ah she's only___ years old or they give too much homework or it is too difficult or the teacher is 'crap'. If you believe in those, then address those.
Too Young - talk to the school, ask them to explain their policy or practices, get information.
Too much homework - see above, look for info, ask other parents to gauge the situation.
Too difficult - again see above, but do not do the typical thing and only get involved when the teacher mentions something or there is a problem with some assessment or other. Take a proactive approach and interest in your kid's education. Sit down with them more often, start homework a little earlier in the day without making a big deal about it, ask what they are learning, pretend you don't understand something she is reading or learning and ask her to explain it to you, all in a softly softly way.
Teacher is crap - that is the easiest thing to say of the cuff for an adult or a child. Again, info , talks, etc etc.

OP, I don't mean to bag on you, I think in reality I am just getting some crap off my chest re: other people I've seen recently. You could be the best parent out there and this was just some one-off case for whatever reason. Still, some people may read this and get some good out of it.I'm sure other's will say 'what a twat" Oh well.

And finally, as the smoke rises from my finger tips and I mop up the trickle of blood that is now running down my forehead from banging it of the wall in rage, I apologize to AH for an out of character 'serious' post. The matter was close to my heart and I couldn't refer to piss nor to blasting nor any other such tom foolery..................next time though, next time.

...and breath.

ShamoBuc · 04-05-2011 10:23PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Aaaahhhhhh:mad::mad::mad: this drives me berzerk. I hope to jebus you are just having a laugh and not doing your kid's homework. When you can think clearly please ask yourself the following question.....

Q: When I do my child's homework I am teaching my daughter...

(a) that homework has no importance.
(b) that she can gain nothing by completing it.
(c) that she can say to the teacher "yes, I did my homework" when this is not the case.
(d) that she is not really expected to do it.
(e) that someone do things for her / bail her out.

Just tick off whichever you think is the answer.

OK bring on the criticism.. harsh.. get off your high horse.. take that thing out of your h0le etc. etc.
I am super sensitive to this I know.It's cos recently I've seen some bad cases of parents NOT realizing what they are teaching their children through their actions. Saying one thing/ doing another.....'helping'/when really they are not helping.

Don't bother with the 'ah she's only___ years old or they give too much homework or it is too difficult or the teacher is 'crap'. If you believe in those, then address those.
Too Young - talk to the school, ask them to explain their policy or practices, get information.
Too much homework - see above, look for info, ask other parents to gauge the situation.
Too difficult - again see above, but do not do the typical thing and only get involved when the teacher mentions something or there is a problem with some assessment or other. Take a proactive approach and interest in your kid's education. Sit down with them more often, start homework a little earlier in the day without making a big deal about it, ask what they are learning, pretend you don't understand something she is reading or learning and ask her to explain it to you, all in a softly softly way.
Teacher is crap - that is the easiest thing to say of the cuff for an adult or a child. Again, info , talks, etc etc.

OP, I don't mean to bag on you, I think in reality I am just getting some crap off my chest re: other people I've seen recently. You could be the best parent out there and this was just some one-off case for whatever reason. Still, some people may read this and get some good out of it.I'm sure other's will say 'what a twat" Oh well.

And finally, as the smoke rises from my finger tips and I mop up the trickle of blood that is now running down my forehead from banging it of the wall in rage, I apologize to AH for an out of character 'serious' post. The matter was close to my heart and I couldn't refer to piss nor to blasting nor any other such tom foolery..................next time though, next time.

please don't hold back, tell us what you really think;)

Kiera · 04-05-2011 10:25PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Aaaahhhhhh:mad::mad::mad: this drives me berzerk. I hope to jebus you are just having a laugh and not doing your kid's homework. When you can think clearly please ask yourself the following question.....

Q: When I do my child's homework I am teaching my daughter...

(a) that homework has no importance.
(b) that she can gain nothing by completing it.
(c) that she can say to the teacher "yes, I did my homework" when this is not the case.
(d) that she is not really expected to do it.
(e) that someone do things for her / bail her out.

Just tick off whichever you think is the answer.

OK bring on the criticism.. harsh.. get off your high horse.. take that thing out of your h0le etc. etc.
I am super sensitive to this I know.It's cos recently I've seen some bad cases of parents NOT realizing what they are teaching their children through their actions. Saying one thing/ doing another.....'helping'/when really they are not helping.

Don't bother with the 'ah she's only___ years old or they give too much homework or it is too difficult or the teacher is 'crap'. If you believe in those, then address those.
Too Young - talk to the school, ask them to explain their policy or practices, get information.
Too much homework - see above, look for info, ask other parents to gauge the situation.
Too difficult - again see above, but do not do the typical thing and only get involved when the teacher mentions something or there is a problem with some assessment or other. Take a proactive approach and interest in your kid's education. Sit down with them more often, start homework a little earlier in the day without making a big deal about it, ask what they are learning, pretend you don't understand something she is reading or learning and ask her to explain it to you, all in a softly softly way.
Teacher is crap - that is the easiest thing to say of the cuff for an adult or a child. Again, info , talks, etc etc.

OP, I don't mean to bag on you, I think in reality I am just getting some crap off my chest re: other people I've seen recently. You could be the best parent out there and this was just some one-off case for whatever reason. Still, some people may read this and get some good out of it.I'm sure other's will say 'what a twat" Oh well.

And finally, as the smoke rises from my finger tips and I mop up the trickle of blood that is now running down my forehead from banging it of the wall in rage, I apologize to AH for an out of character 'serious' post. The matter was close to my heart and I couldn't refer to piss nor to blasting nor any other such tom foolery..................next time though, next time.

Teeheehee

You need a drink now after all that

Mycroft H · 04-05-2011 10:30PM

landsleaving wrote: »

What's confirmation homework? I can only remember one piece of sacrament-related homework I ever had. Learn Zacchaeus was a Greedy Little Man.

The nightmares persist. DAMN YOU ZACCHAEUS YOU GREEDY B*STARD!

Reminds me of this clip

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3UL_uCNWCo

Actually I remember the song we had to learn

"Zacchaeus, he was a wee little man and a wee little man was he

he climbed up in a sycamore tree for the lord he wanted to see"

or something along those lines......

whatdoicare · 04-05-2011 10:32PM

ShamoBuc wrote: »

Isn't modern society fantastic!
Ecka for confirmation.
Theory tests for driving.
And my personal favourite - Pre Marriage Course!!!!

I never did any homework for confirmation beyond learning some prayers or something, I don't remember, I didn't really care all that much.....I'd have been fair annoyed if I had to do any more than that!
(ps the only test there that is worth doing is the driving one- I got out of dong the pre marriage one- not getting married in a church haw haw- I laugh at all my friends that have to do it though!)

pow wow · 04-05-2011 10:32PM

I rarely did my homework. No-one did it for me, I just never did it. Fond memories of school

holystungun9 · 04-05-2011 10:35PM

ShamoBuc wrote: »

please don't hold back, tell us what you really think;)

'Why I aughta....'

*shakes fist furiously

...ahh lads, not that kinda fist shaking

TGQ · 04-05-2011 10:38PM

I got confirmed in 1990 and we had to do a project on the name we were taking which was pretty difficult considering there was no such thing as internet and google and very few families had Encyclopedia. We certainly didn't. i actually cant remember how i got it done.

ShamoBuc · 04-05-2011 10:39PM

holystungun9 wrote: »

'Why I aughta....'

*shakes fist furiously

stopped reading there;)

Vizzy · 04-05-2011 11:06PM

TGQ wrote: »

I got confirmed in 1990 and we had to do a project on the name we were taking which was pretty difficult considering there was no such thing as internet and google and very few families had Encyclopedia. We certainly didn't. i actually cant remember how i got it done.

And no mobile phone either,how deprived were you !

You probably got your parents to do it for you

ShamoBuc · 04-05-2011 11:08PM

Vizzy wrote: »

And no mobile phone either,how deprived were you !

You probably got your parents to do it for you

Nah, that doesn't happen, does it?:D

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 04-05-2011 11:13PM

Osgoodisgood wrote: »

I "helped" with the confo bit and I checked the proper bit. About 50:50 tonight I'd guess.

I don't feel the tiniest bit guilty I assure you. My daughter just told me I'm awesome. I'll overlook the Glee vocab and just revel in the fact that tonight at least she meant it.

Nor should you! I still think words need to be bad with the teacher. Not THAT will earn you daddy-cool points

byhookorbycrook · 04-05-2011 11:14PM

I doubt the work SHOULD take 3 hours, but I know some children are absolute perfectionists and spend too long on stuff. Other will also say it takes 3 hours,but neglect to mention the 3 hours included watching tv, having dinner, petting the dog etc.

ShamoBuc · 04-05-2011 11:25PM

byhookorbycrook wrote: »

I doubt the work SHOULD take 3 hours, but I know some children are absolute perfectionists and spend too long on stuff. Other will also say it takes 3 hours,but neglect to mention the 3 hours included watching tv, having dinner, petting the dog etc.

I can relate to the absolute perfectionists theory - but I very much doubt if this is the case as it would have raised it's head long before the last term. The tv/dinner/txting/surfing/snacking 3 hours would be a far more likely possibility - who knows!

TGQ · 04-05-2011 11:35PM

Vizzy wrote: »

And no mobile phone either,how deprived were you !

You probably got your parents to do it for you

I certainly did not. being the eldest of 8 my parents certainly didn't do my homework. they had enough to do.

Buceph · 04-05-2011 11:50PM

byhookorbycrook wrote: »

petting the dog etc.

Petting the dog is a vital activity I'll have you know. Dogs are people too.

Osgoodisgood · 05-05-2011 09:22AM

holystungun9 wrote: »

Aaaahhhhhh:mad::mad::mad: this drives me berzerk. I hope to jebus you are just having a laugh and not doing your kid's homework. When you can think clearly please ask yourself the following question.....

Q: When I do my child's homework I am teaching my daughter...

(a) that homework has no importance.
(b) that she can gain nothing by completing it.
(c) that she can say to the teacher "yes, I did my homework" when this is not the case.
(d) that she is not really expected to do it.
(e) that someone do things for her / bail her out.

Just tick off whichever you think is the answer.

OK bring on the criticism.. harsh.. get off your high horse.. take that thing out of your h0le etc. etc.
I am super sensitive to this I know.It's cos recently I've seen some bad cases of parents NOT realizing what they are teaching their children through their actions. Saying one thing/ doing another.....'helping'/when really they are not helping.

Don't bother with the 'ah she's only___ years old or they give too much homework or it is too difficult or the teacher is 'crap'. If you believe in those, then address those.
Too Young - talk to the school, ask them to explain their policy or practices, get information.
Too much homework - see above, look for info, ask other parents to gauge the situation.
Too difficult - again see above, but do not do the typical thing and only get involved when the teacher mentions something or there is a problem with some assessment or other. Take a proactive approach and interest in your kid's education. Sit down with them more often, start homework a little earlier in the day without making a big deal about it, ask what they are learning, pretend you don't understand something she is reading or learning and ask her to explain it to you, all in a softly softly way.
Teacher is crap - that is the easiest thing to say of the cuff for an adult or a child. Again, info , talks, etc etc.

OP, I don't mean to bag on you, I think in reality I am just getting some crap off my chest re: other people I've seen recently. You could be the best parent out there and this was just some one-off case for whatever reason. Still, some people may read this and get some good out of it.I'm sure other's will say 'what a twat" Oh well.

And finally, as the smoke rises from my finger tips and I mop up the trickle of blood that is now running down my forehead from banging it of the wall in rage, I apologize to AH for an out of character 'serious' post. The matter was close to my heart and I couldn't refer to piss nor to blasting nor any other such tom foolery..................next time though, next time.

Feeling better now?

Maybe you didn't read the thread carefully. I didn't do her homework. Not her real homework anyway. I did do her confo homework which IMO isn't real homework as it's not a real subject. But maybe you had read the thread and just felt the need to bang on for a while. In either case I don't care. She is an intelligent, funny and well adjusted girl getting an excellent education who in a couple of weeks time will be coming home from a party with pockets stuffed with cash. If that was even slightly assisted by her dad knocking out a few pages of bilge concerning the deeds of the baby jeebus then I'm happy to help.

araic88 · 05-05-2011 09:55PM

As a teacher I've come to think a lot of homework is overrated. The majority of kids do it in such a rush that they're barely thinking about it, and many who get help from parents either get too much help (not a dig at the OP

) or can get confused by different methods (I only left primary school in 2000 yet so much has changed even since then!) Teachers can't really rely on it as a proper way of checking how much children understand what they've been learning, in maths etc. as there's no way of knowing how much help they got, how much effort they put in, how much they were distracted by the TV being on etc. but we still have to correct it all and obviously set it all which takes a lot of valuable time in the school day that could be used another way. I think if kids have been at school for the day they shouldn't have to face a massive pile of work at home, especially the weaker ones who find school tough enough as it is. I try to give varied homework (I teach 9-10 year olds) like brainteasers and general knowledge challenges, creative writing or handwriting practice which isn't difficult but is obvious if it's rushed. I include a lot of reading, of books they choose themselves usually to try and foster a love of reading which would hopefully be more valuable in the future than finding homework a chore and doing it for the sake of it.
I don't give very much homework, especially if the weather is really good, but you'd be surprised the amount of times I've had to explain myself to parents who think they should get more. Ya can't win :pac:

parker kent · 05-05-2011 10:02PM

Galway K9 wrote: »

Ypur darling daughter wotn learn anythign if you do it for her. I think DD had daddy wrapped ha:D

Did your Daddy do your homework for you as well?

my daughter's homework

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