People claiming 'love at first sight'

Max Power1 · 28-03-2011 10:37AM

Wibbs wrote: »

A lot of couples have started from the ashes of a previous relationship. More than haven't I'd say. That's life.

I used to laugh at this notion, however as this is how I got with my current GF I would tend to agree.

Richard Dower · 28-03-2011 10:40AM

love is nothing more then a cascade of checimals in the brain, it's not real!

Richard Dower · 28-03-2011 10:42AM

leggo wrote: »

Didn't believe in it until I took the iPhone out of its box. It completes me.

That's true love there bro, embrace it!

opinion guy · 28-03-2011 10:42AM

Richard Dower wrote: »

love is nothing more then a cascade of checimals in the brain, it's not real!

Cascades of chemicals aren't real ??!?!?!

28-03-2011 10:44AM

Love at first sight - nope. Meet someone, be attracted to them, then fall in love with them then come out with the love at first sight speel at the wedding speech. Bit like the bride's father always saying the bride is beautiful even when she's a pig :pac:

stovelid · 28-03-2011 10:45AM

Love at first sight is usually instant attractive retrospectively viewed as love at first sight when both people involved eventually fall in love.

Max Power1 · 28-03-2011 10:47AM

stovelid wrote: »

Love at first sight is usually instant attractive retrospectively viewed as love at first sight when both people involved eventually fall in love.

+1
the feeling of "love at first sight" is always just "I want to nail you".

If this subsequently develops later into love the "love" is backdated to the beginning even if this was not applicable.

Wibbs · 28-03-2011 10:51AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh jesus that hardly qualifies. I mean what woman is going to turn down Steve McQueen. Equally since he was so famous the first time she met him was hardly "first sight"

Exactly.

I return to my previous point thou - what was he going to say to the girl after he's hunted her down Predator style on the street ?

Hello. Then ask her out I reckon.

Max Power1 wrote: »

I used to laugh at this notion, however as this is how I got with my current GF I would tend to agree.

Yep. looking around and back through my life I'd say at least half of the relationships I've known or been in started that way. Again magical thinking can come into that too. To avoid the questions and maybe even some guilt of how the couple started.

opinion guy · 28-03-2011 10:58AM

Wibbs wrote: »

Hello. Then ask her out I reckon.

Lol...... I watched predator 2 last night. I now have this image in my head of this guy chasing the girl down the street, invisible, swinging from lamposts and us seeing the girl from his perspective in infrared......he swings in front of her, becomes visible and then stutters.......eh...eh....eh...eh....eh.....w.....w...ww......wwill u have co.....co......co...coffeee with me ???:D

prinz · 28-03-2011 11:00AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Lol...... I watched predator 2 last night. I now have this image in my head of this guy chasing the girl down the street, invisible, swinging from lamposts and us seeing the girl from his perspective in infrared......he swings in front of her, becomes visible and then stutters.......eh...eh....eh...eh....eh.....w.....w...ww......wwill u have co.....co......co...coffeee with me ???:D

...with a laser dot on her forehead to encourage clarity of thinking.

Scanlas The 2nd · 28-03-2011 11:02AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh jesus that hardly qualifies. I mean what woman is going to turn down Steve McQueen. Equally since he was so famous the first time she met him was hardly "first sight"

I return to my previous point thou - what was he going to say to the girl after he's hunted her down Predator style on the street ?

How about.... " I saw you walking by and had to come over and say hello" or "I saw you walking by and just had to come over and flirt for a bit"

Norma_Desmond · 28-03-2011 11:04AM

I know this guy who is in love with a new girl everyday.
A girl will walk past him in college and he's in love with her and if we say anything about the said girl we get "Shut up, how dare you talk about the love of my life in that way"!!!

chiefbrody1974 · 28-03-2011 11:04AM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Quite the romantic aren't you.
How do you know he saved himself embarrasment? Sounds to me like your jealous of this guys confidence.
Had the odd knock back have you?

As for love at first sight..... absolutely it can happen! 100%

Let me guess?? You’re a girl????
Yeah, you got me! I’m sick with Envy. I really wish I could lose all control of myself and chase someone like you down the street. Forget the poster, you sound just great!! Nope haven’t had the odd knock back and I’d have no problem saying YES, If I did!
And judging by your 100% remark, I’d say you’ve already found your prince charming, complete with gravely drive, 4 x 4, two gorgeous kids and a Labrador, or as people like you call them “a Lab”!!

opinion guy · 28-03-2011 11:05AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

How about.... " I saw you walking by and had to come over and say hello" or "I saw you walking by and just had to come over and flirt for a bit"

That could work in the UK or the US but no way would that work in Ireland. In fact I'd say a guy who does that in Ireland is setting himself up for abuse.

knick_knack · 28-03-2011 11:07AM

That story of michael cain is brilliant. It also means I now know that all those times where I have seen a beautiful maiden on the tv she could indeed be the one

I can't help but believe in love at first sight since almost everyday a beautiful girl seems to just appear on the bus, train, etc on the way to work. Since you can love more than one person at a time I figure I must love them all

knick_knack · 28-03-2011 11:09AM

opinion guy wrote: »

That could work in the UK or the US but no way would that work in Ireland. In fact I'd say a guy who does that in Ireland is setting himself up for abuse.

yep the irish dating scene is very hard unless your in a pub/nightclub/houseparty. That said however every now again it works and you feel a little like a god

that said if ever you have friends around ditch them before trying as it can also end so so badly

Scanlas The 2nd · 28-03-2011 11:14AM

opinion guy wrote: »

That could work in the UK or the US but no way would that work in Ireland. In fact I'd say a guy who does that in Ireland is setting himself up for abuse.

Try it out for yourself and see if you get abuse.

Really well I live in Ireland and it worked for me. Sometimes it does work and sometimes it doesn't just like anywhere. I witnessed a friend of mine ask an Irish girl out in a sauna and it worked.

You realise people in every country say the same things. "That might work in Australia, but there's no way it would work in New Zealand" That might work in California but there's no way it would work in Chicago.

opinion guy · 28-03-2011 11:18AM

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Try it out for yourself and see if you get abuse.

Really well I live in Ireland and it worked for me. Sometimes it does work and sometimes it doesn't just like anywhere. I witnessed a friend of mine ask an Irish girl out in a sauna and it worked.

You realise people in every country say the same things. "That might work in Australia, but there's no way it would work in New Zealand" That might work in California but there's no way it would work in Chicago.

Oh trust me I have tried. Of course it will work some times. But the reality is there are certain cultural differences. In the US particularly its alot more acceptable for randomers to compliment each other on the street or whatever. In Ireland the default response is suspicion and abuse. There are of course exceptions to this - but on average you do stuff like this in Ireland and you are going to get yourself alot of abuse.

Wibbs · 28-03-2011 11:21AM

chiefbrody1974 wrote: »

Let me guess?? You’re a girl????

What's that gotta do with it?

Yeah, you got me! I’m sick with Envy. I really wish I could lose all control of myself and chase someone like you down the street. Forget the poster, you sound just great!! Nope haven’t had the odd knock back and I’d have no problem saying YES, If I did!

Angry loud noises!! And what's with the mad font Ted?

And judging by your 100% remark, I’d say you’ve already found your prince charming, complete with gravely drive, 4 x 4, two gorgeous kids and a Labrador, or as people like you call them “a Lab”!!

Jeez calm down there. You'll likely blow a gasket. TBH I have no clue what point, if any you're trying to make.

liah · 28-03-2011 11:23AM

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Quite the romantic aren't you.
How do you know he saved himself embarrasment? Sounds to me like your jealous of this guys confidence.
Had the odd knock back have you?

As for love at first sight..... absolutely it can happen! 100%

Are you the guy mentioned in the OP, by any chance? :P

Logical Fallacy · 28-03-2011 11:34AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh trust me I have tried. Of course it will work some times. But the reality is there are certain cultural differences. In the US particularly its alot more acceptable for randomers to compliment each other on the street or whatever. In Ireland the default response is suspicion and abuse. There are of course exceptions to this - but on average you do stuff like this in Ireland and you are going to get yourself alot of abuse.

I completely disagree, when single i used to approach ladies in all kinds of circumstances and i would say about 80% of the time i ended up with the digits and the other 20% of the time the girls were very flattered but simply uninterested. No harm no foul.

I reckon people only get themselves abuse when they are

a) Ugly
b) **** at chatting to people

Scanlas The 2nd · 28-03-2011 11:37AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh trust me I have tried. Of course it will work some times. But the reality is there are certain cultural differences. In the US particularly its alot more acceptable for randomers to compliment each other on the street or whatever. In Ireland the default response is suspicion and abuse. There are of course exceptions to this - but on average you do stuff like this in Ireland and you are going to get yourself alot of abuse.

Well I've never got abuse, the worst is a bit of a disapproving look from the woman, and I've even walked straight up to women asking them if they want to have sex, you can get away with a lot when you are unapologetic. When you are hesitant people will walk all over you in all areas of life.

When you are unapologetic your sense of what's normal influences other people's sense of what is normal.

stovelid · 28-03-2011 11:40AM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

and i would say about 80% of the time i ended up with the digits and the other 20% of the time the girls were very flattered but simply uninterested. No harm no foul.

You must be charm personified if they didn't object to you chopping off their fingers?

28-03-2011 11:40AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh trust me I have tried. Of course it will work some times. But the reality is there are certain cultural differences. In the US particularly its alot more acceptable for randomers to compliment each other on the street or whatever. In Ireland the default response is suspicion and abuse. There are of course exceptions to this - but on average you do stuff like this in Ireland and you are going to get yourself alot of abuse.

I compliment people I dont know/will probs never see again at work if they're wearing lovely shoes/whatever

prinz · 28-03-2011 11:43AM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

I reckon people only get themselves abuse when they are a) Ugly b) **** at chatting to people

Total nonsense.

here.from.day.1 · 28-03-2011 11:46AM

No such thing, its all lust.

eirn · 28-03-2011 11:46AM

If (when:D) a love struck man chases after me, I think depending on my humor that day (and what the guy was like) I'd either be hugely flattered or frightened.
I think people who believe in love at first sight must have a fairly shallow perception of love.

opinion guy · 28-03-2011 11:51AM

Logical Fallacy wrote: »

I completely disagree, when single i used to approach ladies in all kinds of circumstances and i would say about 80% of the time i ended up with the digits and the other 20% of the time the girls were very flattered but simply uninterested. No harm no foul.

I reckon people only get themselves abuse when they are

a) Ugly
b) **** at chatting to people

Oh forgive me Casanova.....or is it Adonis ????
Let me ask you this - that 80% of the time were the numbers real ??? I'm also inclined to recall that one female friend of mine often gives out her number to guys who ask....but she doesn't like being asked, finds it creepy and doesn't answer when they call. She just finds is easier to give out the number than to say no and is too honest to give a fake number.

Scanlas The 2nd wrote: »

Well I've never got abuse, the worst is a bit of a disapproving look from the woman, and I've even walked straight up to women asking them if they want to have sex, you can get away with a lot when you are unapologetic. When you are hesitant people will walk all over you in all areas of life.

When you are unapologetic your sense of what's normal influences other people's sense of what is normal.

That sounds really creepy - thats last sentence is borderline sociopathic to be honest. Does it even occur to you you may be making people feel uncomfortable/intimidated ?

bluewolf wrote: »

I compliment people I dont know/will probs never see again at work if they're wearing lovely shoes/whatever

Oh work is a different story. I, too, will play the charm game at work to get **** done

But then they are not really strangers they are people you see frequently and within a known social context.

Scanlas The 2nd · 28-03-2011 11:54AM

It all depends what people mean by love really.

I'd say what people think it is varies quite a lot.

Logical Fallacy · 28-03-2011 12:03PM

opinion guy wrote: »

Oh forgive me Casanova.....or is it Adonis ????
Let me ask you this - that 80% of the time were the numbers real ??? I'm also inclined to recall that one female friend of mine often gives out her number to guys who ask....but she doesn't like being asked, finds it creepy and doesn't answer when they call. She just finds is easier to give out the number than to say no and is too honest to give a fake number.

Adonis works better for me. Yes, the numbers were real. I understand there is normally a backlash in AH the second people imply even the remotest of success but if that makes you feel better then roll with it.

The simple fact of the matter is that i always felt far more comfortable chatting to a stranger in the street, on the luas, in a coffee shop than i did in pubs/clubs.

In pubs etc there is a general assumption that the only reason you are talking to a member of the opposite sex is because you want to take things further, you are also effectively trapped by the physical limitations of the establishment...an awkward encounter can haunt both parties all night as you run into each other on the dancefloor, at the bar etc.

The real world puts things on a far more even playing field, both people can just up and leave, end the encounter at any time and i have always found folk to be far more relaxed in those circumstances.

People claiming 'love at first sight'

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