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Is sex with a 3rd world prostitute a form of rape?

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 38,989 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Interesting points KRD

    Here is a position paper by Feminists for Free Expression in the USA

    http://www.ffeusa.org/

    They are part of the Sex Positive Feminist movement and usually have clarity in what they say and a lot of their papers are prepared by academics.



    The Free Speech Pamphlet Series: Prostitution
    A proposed revision of the laws governing prostitution is a complicated and multi-faceted issue. Feminists for Free Expression advocates the decriminalization of prostitution. This paper sets forth why this position is necessary and why prostitution is a feminist issue. Although decriminalization will not solve all of the problems associated with prostitution, it is a first step in granting women and other members of the sex worker population their basic civil rights.
    Definitions
    Prostitution: For purposes of this position paper, “prostitution” means any consensual sexual activity among or between adults where money or any other material compensation is involved. Nonconsensual sex acts, whether perpetrated by fraud, threat of force, or force, as well as any sex acts perpetrated against minors are not prostitution, and are referred to instead as criminal sexual acts, collectively.
    Prostitute: Anyone who by choice, either because she likes the work, likes the money or chooses it as a way to feed herself and her family, offers consensual sexual activity for money or any other consideration. Women are referred to in this discussion, because prostitutes have most often been identified as women. In reality, the prostitute population also includes men and transgendered persons, and these recommendations hold for those members of the profession as well. The 1996 San Francisco Task Force on prostitution concluded that prostitution is not a monolithic institution. It encompasses people working in the pornographic media industry, live theater, massage parlors, bordellos and through print advertising, as well as the street workers most commonly envisioned when the word “prostitute” is mentioned.
    Sex worker is a term of self-definition created by those within the prostitutes’ rights movement in order to find a term that does not carry the pejorative connotations or legal implications of prostitution. The term includes people whose work involves sexual entertainment, art, or education that is not within the ambit of the laws against prostitution, though it might have been in the past. The term “sex worker” also includes all prostitutes.
    Decriminalization means the removal of existing laws and is different from legalization which is the establishment of laws within which prostitution can exist (as in the regulated brothels of Nevada).

    Why does FFE favor decriminalization?
    Decriminalization allows those who are prostitutes to go into business for themselves. Self-determination is a tenet of feminist politics. Decriminalization removes hypocrisy within the criminal justice system and fosters responsibility, empowerment, self-esteem and self-care.

    What are the present laws?
    Laws that prohibit prostitution concentrate on Soliciting for the purposes of prostitution. A third party living off the earnings of a prostitute.

    What issues are the present laws supposed to address?
    1) Quality of life. These laws concern complaints about the adverse impact of street prostitution on neighborhoods: litter, traffic, drugs, and crime.
    2) Trafficking, slavery, and protection of our youth.
    3) Morality and the undermining of marriage and “traditional” family values.

    Why don’t these laws work?
    Quality of Life
    Police crackdowns on street prostitution simply shift street prostitutes to other neighborhoods at tremendous taxpayer expense.
    Arresting street prostitutes is selective prosecution. Some segments of the prostitute population, especially poor women and members of minority groups, are prosecuted more than others are. Street solicitation is prohibited but newspaper ads for prostitutes proliferate in most major cities.
    In most cases only the seller of the service is arrested, not the buyer.
    The quality of life for the woman who chooses sex work is ignored, as is the quality of life for the person who chooses to purchase the service.
    Laws against third parties living off the earnings of a prostitute put prostitutes’ homes and families in jeopardy because domestic partners and landlords can be charged.
    Arrest records stigmatize sex workers, making it difficult for them to find employment in other fields. Fear of arrest prevents sex workers who are victims of crimes from reporting those crimes.
    Predators see sex workers as easy targets who “won’t be missed”. For example, Gary Ridgeway, the Green River strangler who murdered 48 women, admitted that he chose mostly prostitutes because he saw them as easy victims.o intimidate their victims.

    Trafficking and Slavery
    Unscrupulous people dupe women, especially those in poorer countries, with the promise of a good job in another country, and instead force them to work in brothels. This is non-consensual sex trafficking, not prostitution, and those who perpetrate it are guilty of fraud, kidnapping, and criminal sexual acts. Prostitution law does nothing to inhibit such individuals.
    In fact, these criminals are helped by the prostitution laws because they use the threat of arrest and deportation, as well as the shame these laws promote, to intimidate their victims.
    Protection of Our Youth
    Many children leave home, to escape child abuse or discrimination and abuse based on sexual or gender orientation. Some are runaways, and some are thrown away. They arrive in cities and become prostitutes for their survival. Money wasted on prosecution of adult prostitutes could be better used to provide care and services for these needy youths.
    Moral Issues
    The idea that consensual sex between adults involving financial or other remuneration is symptomatic of moral turpitude is based not on civil code but on religious ethic. Among Americans, there diverse opinions on religion and sexuality. Any law that respects an establishment of religion violates the First Amendment (1) to our Constitution.

    Why does FFE take this position now?
    Sex Workers’ Rights Movement
    There exists today a unified international sex workers’ rights movement, consisting of thousands of members, including those in the United States, who have organized to demand their basic human rights. So far, this activism has resulted in the decriminalization of prostitution in Australia, New Zealand, and the Netherlands, with very strong movements in other countries such as India and Taiwan, where tens of thousands demonstrate for prostitutes’ rights. In the United States, lobbying efforts by sex workers themselves are strongest in San Francisco, California. In 1996, a report by the city of San Francisco’s Task Force on Prostitution recommended decriminalization. The “Angel Initiative” to decriminalize prostitution nearly passed when it was put on the ballot in the city of Berrkely in 2004. We believe this will be the first of many more initiatives in this country, and FFE is in support of such initiatives. Among the many rallying points for this movement, the strongest is the fight to save the lives of prostitutes in jeopardy because of laws that silence them for fear of arrest or lead those who prey on women to believe that this is a “disposable” segment of the population.
    Decriminalization models
    We can benefit by using other countries that have decriminalized prostitution as research models.
    Lawrence vs. Texas
    The June 2003 ruling by the Supreme Court in Lawrence vs. Texas upheld the right of individuals to engage in consensual sexual acts in private. Before Lawrence, the courts held that one must prove that liberties not mentioned by the Constitution are valid to be pursued. Thus far, the Court has been silent on whether consensual sexual acts between consenting adults in which the participants also agree on financial remuneration are protected liberties; we question whether these activities are so different.
    Model Penal Code
    In his majority opinion in Lawrence vs. Texas Justice Kennedy cited the The American Law Institute that in 1955 promulgated a Model Penal Code and made clear that it did not recommend or provide for “criminal penalties for consensual sexual relations conducted in private.” It justified its decision on three grounds: (1) The prohibitions undermined respect for the law by penalizing conduct many people engaged in; (2) the statutes regulated private conduct not harmful to others; and (3) the laws were arbitrarily enforced and thus invited the danger of blackmail.
    The New Sex Education Model
    Left in the hands of the entrepreneurs and free from prosecution, the concept of the back alley bookstores has evolved into women-owned sexuality boutiques that are also centers of learning. The Adult Industry Medical Clinic (AIM), which offers medical care and education for members of that industry, is another fine example of the good that can come when practitioners are permitted to govern themselves. From these examples, we may assume that providers of sexual service left to govern themselves could also offer a great benefit to society. There are many prostitutes and others who consider sex work a healing art that enhances our quality of life on many levels, physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual. It follows that those who are responsible providers of this service contribute to society’s health, not society’s ills, and should be given support and not condemnation. Prostitution laws have turned a social asset into a liability. It can be argued that this has been done for community hygiene, but we believe anti-prostitution laws, by keeping sex information underground, have only helped maintain a dangerous ignorance that breeds disease. Feminists For Free Expression supports the efforts of the organized sex worker movement. We believe that sex workers allowed to govern themselves have the greatest potential to promote positive change. Decriminalization fosters an environment where education, growth, and good health can flourish.

    Whose Body is it anyway?
    Some Comparisons
    Reproductive rights analogy Some argue the state has an interest in a woman’s use of her own body for reproduction (Roe vs. Wade). Some may also argue that anti-prostitution laws are for the protection of women. In actuality, these laws infantilize women and usurp their power, undermining women’s rights to self-determination and liberty under the Fifth (2) and Fourteenth(3) Amendments. Whether a woman uses her body for reproduction, recreation or remuneration is her business, not the state’s.
    Athletes choose to subject their bodies to physical stress that is not only within the law, but widely praised and financially compensated.
    Cosmetic surgery that greatly changes the body is not against the law; moreover, it is very popular and doctors are handsomely paid for this service.
    Adult Movies: Hardcore adult movies in which people engage in sex acts for fun and profit are widely accepted and enjoyed by a very large segment of the population.
    Gender Parity: Women do not have equal rights under the Constitution. The Equal Rights Amendment was never passed. It is, therefore, more difficult for women to fight for and retain their rights to equality and autonomy under the law. Women fight for equal pay in almost every field. Yet, society arrests women for performing the only job in which they can set their own rates and make more than men who provide the same service. Many women who do not identify as prostitutes need and are able to use prostitution for a limited time in their lives to support themselves, be it for one night, one year, one semester, etc. The fact that so many women are prosecuted for exploiting this asset reinforces the position of women as second-class citizens.
    It is for the reasons set forth in this paper that Feminists For Free Expression advocates the decriminalization of prostitution.
    © FFE developed for FFE by Veronica Vera
    1 First Amendment: Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the government for a redress of grievances.
    2 Fifth Amendment: No person shall be held to answer for a capital, or otherwise infamous crime, unless on a presentment or indictment of a grand jury, except in cases arising in the land or naval forces, or in the militia, when in actual service in time of war or public danger; nor shall any person be subject for the same offense to be twice put in jeopardy of life or limb; nor shall be compelled in any criminal case to be a witness against himself, nor be deprived of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor shall private property be taken for public use, without just compensation.
    3 Fourteenth Amendment: All persons born or naturalized in the United States, and subject to the jurisdiction thereof, are citizens of the United States and of the state wherein they reside. No state shall make or enforce any law which shall abridge the privileges or immunities of citizens of the United States; nor shall any state deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law; nor deny to any person within its jurisdiction the equal protection of the laws.

    The Job Centre scenario above would seem to fall into the coercion and trafficking situation if it is not a free choice.

    As would the soldiers using the Joy Division as they knew that they themselves were part of a military force and the women were not their voluntarily.

    Someone visiting a country and engaging a prostitute will not know.

    I came accross ffe a few years back and I emailed them a question on an article one of the board members had published.

    They did email me back and were very helpful.

    Some time later when the UCC Bat Sex had not yet become public in Ireland I got an email from one of them suggesting I should start a thread on boards to support the guy.

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2055914071


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 38,989 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Permabear wrote: »
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    sorry permabear - i started the post got distracted etc and pressed post not seeing yours.

    I goes the same applies though - a woman should be free to make the choice to work in the adult entertainment industry.

    While it may not be what I would want , they should still have the freedom and employment and workplace protections etc.

    A person should not be compelled to do a job against their moral or ethical considerations - lapdancer or vegetarian butcher.

    I am in 2 minds whether or not they should be advertised in job centres


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    Permabear wrote: »
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    I never said that. It's not the position as of the moment. I have heard people argue it should be.

    There is a discussion in the UK on the legalisation of prostitution and the liberalisation of strip clubs etc.

    If you legalise and normalise prostitution, where do you stop?

    I know in the US, where there is less social welfare, many women who end up in prostitution or working strip clubs do so because they have no alternative. And before you think any pretty young girl should be able to get a receptionists job so she doesn't go hungry - think of the ugly inner city black girl who has no other alternatives or options.

    So the situation of women forced into prostitution for basic existential reasons is already a reality in the developed world.

    Remove social welfare in Ireland - people will not be magically energised and incentivised to start world beating enterprises. We'll have prostitutes coming out our ear.

    Job Centres were forced to accept sex-industry advertising in 2003 after the High Court ruled in favour of Ann Summers, which had previously been banned from placing adverts in Job Centres.

    The legal position has now been clarified by the British government. Any job that involves the direct sexual stimulation of others may not be advertised in a Job Centre. Other jobs, such as retail positions in Ann Summers stores, may be advertised. There's quite a clear line there.

    I have been informed by people who have seen the ads that massage parlors and strip clubs in England do recruit through the job centres. Though the ads are not explicit in their description of the advertised work. Cleaners and receptionists for massage parlors are also paid a premium. They're usually coaxed into doing the grubbier work by the threat of the sack, once they've done a little time as receptionist/cleaner.

    People are groomed into prostitution.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    krd wrote: »

    There is a discussion in the UK on the legalisation of prostitution and the liberalisation of strip clubs etc.

    If you legalise and normalise prostitution, where do you stop?

    I know in the US, where there is less social welfare, many women who end up in prostitution or working strip clubs do so because they have no alternative. And before you think any pretty young girl should be able to get a receptionists job so she doesn't go hungry - think of the ugly inner city black girl who has no other alternatives or options.

    So the situation of women forced into prostitution for basic existential reasons is already a reality in the developed world.

    If a person decides to become a prostitute or sex worker -while I may not agree with it - it is their choice.

    If a woman becomes a nun - it is her choice too.

    Men also face economic hardship or homelessness too. Think of the ugly man who may go hungry.
    Remove social welfare in Ireland - people will not be magically energised and incentivised to start world beating enterprises. We'll have prostitutes coming out our ear.

    I cant believe you posted that and think so little of irish women and men and their families that you have posted this..

    Why are you depicting poverty in a way that only females are affected.


    I have been informed by people who have seen the ads that massage parlors and strip clubs in England do recruit through the job centres. Though the ads are not explicit in their description of the advertised work. Cleaners and receptionists for massage parlors are also paid a premium. They're usually coaxed into doing the grubbier work by the threat of the sack, once they've done a little time as receptionist/cleaner.

    People are groomed into prostitution.

    People do not have free will then.

    It depends what you mean by massage parlours - like do you mean beauticians - I went for a spa treatment and my g/f bought it off boards and it was a foot soak, full swedish body masssage and facial.

    Most people who go for massages go for massages nothing else.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,747 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Excuse me?? To recap, you claim that a man who "marries" a woman (he doesn't marry her really though, if it is against her will, does he - not in any civilised sense of the word?) and then has sex with her without her consent/against her will, is NOT a rapist? Wonderful. :mad:

    I'd love to read some elaboration of this attitude of yours, Permabear. One thing I certainly don't want to read, though, is how "cultural practices" and inhuman laws in certain countries make rape not a rape really, or that the fact that these situations and "marriages" happen to many millions of women throughout their lives, makes them morally A-OK.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    CDfm wrote: »
    If a person decides to become a prostitute or sex worker -while I may not agree with it - it is their choice.


    It could be argued in every economic transaction there is an element of coercion or coercive forces.

    Someone holds a gun to your head and offers you a choice. Either do as they say or get shot in the head. You make the choice of your own free will to do as they say.


    It's really a question of how far you go with the coercion. Or incentivisation - how much carrot, how much stick. What people should be coerced into doing - what they shouldn't.

    The "I pulled myself up by my own breeches" brigade believe everyone should be forced to dance for their dollar.
    If a woman becomes a nun - it is her choice too.

    Wasn't always the case. Many women were forced into the nunnery - by their family. It used to be a good way of getting rid of the quare wan.
    Men also face economic hardship or homelessness too. Think of the ugly man who may go hungry.

    They do.
    I cant believe you posted that and think so little of irish women and men and their families that you have posted this..

    Would these be the same salt of the earth Irish men and women, who gambled the farm on a Ponzi property scheme?

    You're aware of that children's story. The one about the greedy couple who had a golden goose that laid golden eggs - and they killed it and cut it open. It's very hard to argue it's not the perfect allegory for Ireland.
    Why are you depicting poverty in a way that only females are affected.

    Prostitution mostly effects women. This thread is about prostitution. Some men are involved in prostitution. Something tells me, you do not have egalitarian beliefs when it comes to gender politics and you're only throwing in 'what about the menz' for the sake of being awkward.
    People do not have free will then.

    That's really a philosophical question. What is the will and where does it come from? To a certain extent, I do not believe in free will.

    I live near the grand canal. I go by canal lock near Baggot street bridge a bit on the way to the late night spar. At night it's spooky. There are women/prostitutes who hide in the dark around the trees. They pop out of nowhere like ghosts and offer me blowjobs. Their faces are covered in sores - they look terrible. Whatever has them there is not free will. Is whatever drives the men to them free will either?
    It depends what you mean by massage parlours - like do you mean beauticians - I went for a spa treatment and my g/f bought it off boards and it was a foot soak, full swedish body masssage and facial.

    I'm mean **** off shops - there are a few in Dublin. Full body with a happy ending.
    Most people who go for massages go for massages nothing else.

    That's what they all say - that's what they all say. CDfm....sporting injury?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    seenitall wrote: »
    Excuse me?? To recap, you claim that a man who "marries" a woman (he doesn't marry her really though, if it is against her will, does he - not in any civilised sense of the word?) and then has sex with her without her consent/against her will, is NOT a rapist? Wonderful. :mad:

    I'd love to read some elaboration of this attitude of yours, Permabear. One thing I certainly don't want to read, though, is how "cultural practices" and inhuman laws in certain countries make rape not a rape really, or that the fact that these situations and "marriages" happen to many millions of women throughout their lives, makes them morally A-OK.

    I think what Permabear believes, is that if all other choices are removed - and you acquiesce to the only realistic option, it's not rape.

    In Saudi. Women effectively have no legal rights. They have no rights to property and a man can divorce his wife on a whim and kick her onto the street.

    They have no effective choice over who becomes their husband. That's decided by male relatives. They may not see or even speak to their prospective husband before their wedding day.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 4,001 ✭✭✭Mr. Loverman


    If I went to a city in Africa where absolute poverty is rampant, should I expect to find every poor female working as a prostitute?

    If the answer is "no", that means some women are choosing to do something other than work as a prostitute. In other words, there is still a choice, even if it is a difficult one.

    Therefore the women are not being raped.

    If you were to change the situation and say the woman has been kidnapped and is chained to a wall, well that's obviously a rape situation.

    The reality of prostitution (which most people refuse to accept) is that it is overwhelmingly populated by women who have realised they can make a lot more money a lot more quickly if they have sex for money rather than do something crappy like work as a cleaner or sell scrap metal or join the army.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    krd wrote: »
    It could be argued in every economic transaction there is an element of coercion or coercive forces.

    i think you are digging yourself in it here


    Wasn't always the case. Many women were forced into the nunnery - by their family. It used to be a good way of getting rid of the quare wan.
    and here .

    Would these be the same salt of the earth Irish men and women, who gambled the farm on a Ponzi property scheme?

    You're aware of that children's story. The one about the greedy couple who had a golden goose that laid golden eggs - and they killed it and cut it open. It's very hard to argue it's not the perfect allegory for Ireland.

    and here


    Prostitution mostly effects women. This thread is about prostitution. Some men are involved in prostitution. Something tells me, you do not have egalitarian beliefs when it comes to gender politics and you're only throwing in 'what about the menz' for the sake of being awkward.

    actually i do but this thread was about the ethical responsibility of a prostitutes client and you have turned it into social welfare cuts will cause women to become prostitutes.

    That's really a philosophical question. What is the will and where does it come from? To a certain extent, I do not believe in free will.

    I go to work cos I cant afford not to
    I live near the grand canal. I go by canal lock near Baggot street bridge a bit on the way to the late night spar. At night it's spooky. There are women/prostitutes who hide in the dark around the trees. They pop out of nowhere like ghosts and offer me blowjobs. Their faces are covered in sores - they look terrible. Whatever has them there is not free will. Is whatever drives the men to them free will either?

    Have you asked any of these women if they qualify for social welfare

    I'm mean **** off shops - there are a few in Dublin. Full body with a happy ending.

    I get full body massages and get them bought for me from boards deals.

    I have never been offered extra services ever.

    Facials usually mean , a wash, scrub, moisturoise and serum etc


    That's what they all say - that's what they all say. CDfm....sporting injury?

    Actually, around once a month I go to my girlfriends sister for a sports injury treatment and she hasn't offered my extra's either.



    Hmmmmmmmmmm krd you have me confused


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    CDfm, the women at Baggot Street bridge are addicted to drugs. They may also have mental problems.

    I've ended up in conversation with them a few times. They've asked me why I've never used their services - and Jesus, I wanted to weep. The conversations I've had with them have been hilarious and heartbreaking at the same time. I've also seen them have altercations with their clients - that is very ugly.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    krd - you havent answered my question as to why the situation for women is different than that for men.

    On prostitution, at a shove (I have to say while it is not my thing ), I have to recognise that it is a lifestyle choice for some and that they should not be criminalised because if it.

    You have come back and said drug addicts - so what do you want to do them -take them home or lock them up.


    At some level these people have responsibility for themselves.

    And why suggest that young men in this situation are in a less vulnerable situation to young women -when it is an area that is not either researched or policed.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,747 ✭✭✭seenitall


    krd wrote: »
    I think what Permabear believes, is that if all other choices are removed - and you acquiesce to the only realistic option, it's not rape.

    Oh I see. Well that's alright then. It's not rape as long as "all other choices are removed" - sounds reasonable enough. :rolleyes:

    I wonder what Permabear would make of a situation where an Irish woman was stripped of "all other choices" by her father and then her husband, by being sold into marriage like chattel and being kept a prisoner on a farm by virtue of social and religious mores, and repeatedly forced into sexual intercourse until subdued and acquiescent in her own abuse.

    (I'm only asking because I have read somewhere, whether true or not, that this is exactly what used to happen in Ireland not too many decades ago.)

    I honestly can't believe what I'm reading here.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 38,989 ✭✭✭✭Permabear


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    seenitall wrote: »

    I wonder what Permabear would make of a situation where an Irish woman was stripped of "all other choices" by her father and then her husband, by being sold into marriage like chattel and being kept a prisoner on a farm by virtue of social and religious mores, and repeatedly forced into sexual intercourse until subdued and acquiescent in her own abuse.

    Ah but that assumes Permabear could conceptualise such a situation -could you imagine yourself in that type of relationship PB.

    I can't answer for PB but I would not want a woman like that as a partner and I have a daughter and why would I want that for her.

    I have a very close lesbian friend and I would have been lost without her as a friend. I have several female friends who have genuinely enriched my life. Why would I want that for them.


    (I'm only asking because I have read somewhere, whether true or not, that this is exactly what used to happen in Ireland not too many decades ago.)

    I honestly can't believe what I'm reading here.

    When & where.

    I am often dismayed when I read about patriarchy etc in Ireland when we really were a peasant society where neither men or women had money or the vote.

    The 1940's and 50's had a TB epidemic like a medieval plague.

    It is often conveniently forgotten that the Magdelene Laundries were run by women for women and that Irish mammies brought up their sons and the men went to work and did not handle child rearing.

    I find it weird when I see people allege that the type of society you describe is a society men want as if we were another race or species.

    As I guy I went thru the divorce courts and was treated like some sort of second class citizen.

    Maybe we have a sucessive evil matriarchy who have passed on their bile from the Magdelene Laundries thru the Womens Movement and now control the family law system.

    It seems very plausable to me.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,747 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Permabear wrote: »
    This post had been deleted.

    The quote from your earlier post, Permabear, which lead me to believe (by virtue of reading the bolded bit) that you do not consider someone who has been forced into sex against their will, to have been raped.

    A woman may not object to the rape she is being subjected to because she may justifiably feel that it would be pointless or anti-productive. It is still rape. Why? Because she is being made to have sex when she doesn't want to or with the person she doesn't want to have sex with. This applies in Saudi Arabia as well as in Ireland or China or Zanzibar, the only difference is that in some places marital rape is sanctioned, and therefore I would take a very dim view of the attitude that "what happens in bed between husbands and wives" needs to be looked at separately from the "horrific rapes" (what horrific rapes? You mean the non-sanctioned-by-the-cultural mores ones?) that you mention.

    EDIT: Oh, and I never assumed anything of the sort that you mention (every Saudi man rapist... eh? :confused:),


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    CDfm wrote: »
    krd - you havent answered my question as to why the situation for women is different than that for men.

    Do you want to expand the discussion to cover male and child prostitutes?
    On prostitution, at a shove (I have to say while it is not my thing ), I have to recognise that it is a lifestyle choice for some and that they should not be criminalised because if it.

    I'm not so sure. For every Belle Du Jour, how many Belle Du Junkies are there?
    You have come back and said drug addicts - so what do you want to do them -take them home or lock them up.

    If they are on the streets because of drugs - I would rather they had the drugs and were off the streets. They're a health hazard as well as public nuisance. A hazard to themselves and the public. Something tells me, it's not just the drugs.

    At some level these people have responsibility for themselves.

    I'm not so sure. I've talked to the women at Baggot street a few times - there is something eerily child like about them. I wouldn't be surprised to find out they're not all a little retarded.
    And why suggest that young men in this situation are in a less vulnerable situation to young women -when it is an area that is not either researched or policed.

    I wouldn't say that. I have never come across male prostitutes - I'm sure they're there - I've never met any. It could be there isn't a market and there are plenty of men willing to have sex with each other for free.

    I have witnessed child prostitution taking place in Ireland, but that was a long time ago and since then I believe the Guards take it very seriously. There was a few incidents in the 90s of the Guards being aware of child prostitution in some places and not doing anything.


    Maybe with this recession we'll become an international hub for sex tourism - like Jamaica - the young men and middle-aged American and British women.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    krd wrote: »
    Do you want to expand the discussion to cover male and child prostitutes?

    if the OP and mods are ok with it.


    I'm not so sure. For every Belle Du Jour, how many Belle Du Junkies are there?

    Now who is glamourising it.

    If a woman or man makes a decision to prostitute themselves to buy drugs well their priority is their addiction and how can that be their clients fault.

    If they are on the streets because of drugs - I would rather they had the drugs and were off the streets. They're a health hazard as well as public nuisance. A hazard to themselves and the public. Something tells me, it's not just the drugs.

    What is that something. You dont like seeing it.

    I'm not so sure. I've talked to the women at Baggot street a few times - there is something eerily child like about them. I wouldn't be surprised to find out they're not all a little retarded.

    I think you are being a bit of a snob here.

    Have you considered that some people like the lifestyle and like their drugs.



    I wouldn't say that. I have never come across male prostitutes - I'm sure they're there - I've never met any. It could be there isn't a market and there are plenty of men willing to have sex with each other for free.

    I have witnessed child prostitution taking place in Ireland, but that was a long time ago and since then I believe the Guards take it very seriously. There was a few incidents in the 90s of the Guards being aware of child prostitution in some places and not doing anything.

    There is very little research done on it

    Maybe some one male prostitutes serving gay clients

    http://www.irishhealth.com/article.html?id=3387

    But why wouldnt a woman pay for sex if she wants it - it is ludicrous to suggest they wont

    http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/7914639.stm

    Maybe with this recession we'll become an international hub for sex tourism - like Jamaica - the young men and middle-aged American and British women.

    how do you know that irish men and women are not using them already

    and we may see it happening


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,360 ✭✭✭Boskowski


    No one has free will really. From an early age we are coerced into the rat race. I really don't want to go to work. At all. But unless I want to turn into some sort of outcast it's what I have to do in our society to be part of it and not be discriminated.

    Interesting question sprung into my mind.
    On PI every now and then a thread pops up where we have a married couple with non matching libidos. The argument usually goes along the lines of 'he/she never initiates sex and only sleeps with me once a month and I feel he/she isn't very enthusiastic about this either'.

    One could argue our culture coerces these women - to remain in the tone if this thread, it's not always women actually - into sex against their will.
    Would you consider their husbands rapists?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    Boskowski wrote: »

    Interesting question sprung into my mind.
    On PI every now and then a thread pops up where we have a married couple with non matching libidos. The argument usually goes along the lines of 'he/she never initiates sex and only sleeps with me once a month and I feel he/she isn't very enthusiastic about this either'.

    One could argue our culture coerces these women - to remain in the tone if this thread, it's not always women actually - into sex against their will.
    Would you consider their husbands rapists?

    +1

    and if the person with the higher libido were to enter into a commercial transaction for consensual sex with another person -would that be wrong ?


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,449 ✭✭✭krd


    CDfm wrote: »

    If a woman or man makes a decision to prostitute themselves to buy drugs well their priority is their addiction and how can that be their clients fault.

    The client is exploiting the prostitutes addiction. And feeding their addiction. The client is effectively supplying the prostitute with drugs, even if they're one step removed. It's not a fair contract for goods and services. It's the exploitation of someone with an illness. A drug addict is not simply a drug user - they have an uncontrollable compulsion to use drugs. It's essentially drug assisted rape - even if a little money changes hands it doesn't make the situation any better. If you offered one of the women their drug of choice - they take it in lieu of cash payment.

    It's a moral question. You either believe you have no moral responsibilities and a moral right to exploit the helpless for your pleasure - or you don't.

    Having sex with these women is like having sex with a down syndrome.
    What is that something. You dont like seeing it.

    No I don't like seeing it. Desperate looking women, who look sick, offering me a blowjob every time I head to the shop late at night. They also do their business in the open - so if you're not careful you might walk up on them. Then the frequent trouble with clients - from what I've seen, there are men who come down to attack the women. Possibly because they know they can get away with it.

    What's there to like seeing? If anyone thinks these women are erotic temptresses, they seriously need to seek professional help.
    I think you are being a bit of a snob here.

    Have you considered that some people like the lifestyle and like their drugs.

    Yes, I considered that. I have seen the women out at all hours, in the wind, rain, sleet and snow. It doesn't look like fun - I don't think they're doing it for fun.

    I think it would be foolish to think they're enjoying themselves.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    krd wrote: »
    The client is exploiting the prostitutes addiction. And feeding their addiction. The client is effectively supplying the prostitute with drugs, even if they're one step removed. It's not a fair contract for goods and services. It's the exploitation of someone with an illness. A drug addict is not simply a drug user - they have an uncontrollable compulsion to use drugs. It's essentially drug assisted rape - even if a little money changes hands it doesn't make the situation any better. If you offered one of the women their drug of choice - they take it in lieu of cash payment.

    It's a moral question. You either believe you have no moral responsibilities and a moral right to exploit the helpless for your pleasure - or you don't.

    Having sex with these women is like having sex with a down syndrome.

    Thats the problem with your logic you are passing on responsibility to the punter for all lifes ills.

    Personally, I do not agree with prostitution but equally I do not agree with its criminalisation.

    By extention, I have to say that it is a persons right to be a prostitute or sex worker if that is what they want.

    No I don't like seeing it. Desperate looking women, who look sick, offering me a blowjob every time I head to the shop late at night. They also do their business in the open - so if you're not careful you might walk up on them. Then the frequent trouble with clients - from what I've seen, there are men who come down to attack the women. Possibly because they know they can get away with it.

    Then do your shopping earlier or if you see an assault report it.

    There is a sexual assualt unit in Harcourt St and if I am not mistaken the Domestic Violence Unit there was headed by a female Superintendent.

    http://www.garda.ie/Controller.aspx?Page=32&Lang=1

    What's there to like seeing? If anyone thinks these women are erotic temptresses, they seriously need to seek professional help.

    .

    There are organisations to help these people and have you gotten involved.

    The ex head of Womens Aid who now heads the Immigration Council of Ireland called for a system based on punter prosecution.

    However, the people who are making the calls do not appear to represent the sex workers themselves
    Pressure groups lock horns over changes to laws on prostitution


    By JIM CUSACK

    Sunday February 20 2011

    IRELAND'S first mini-marathon to promote rights and better safety for sex workers is to be held this June. It is also being organised to highlight what they say are dangerous proposals coming from left-wing, feminist and Catholic groups, seeking to outlaw prostitution entirely.
    The Sex Workers' Alliance of Ireland (SWAI) says it is very concerned that proposals from an alliance of groups opposed to prostitution will oppress women and men who are voluntarily working as prostitutes and would force them on to the streets and so put them in greater danger.
    The alliance of groups advocating the total prohibition of prostitution in Ireland is calling itself 'Turn off the Red Light'. It has emerged after a group calling itself the 'Dignity Project' submitted proposals for new legislation to Dermot Ahern, then Minister for Justice, in January. Mr Ahern passed these proposals on to the Attorney General's office for consideration.
    The main prohibitionist proposal is to adopt the model currently in use in Sweden, where men are prosecuted, along with the prostitutes, if they attempt to pay for sex.
    A group, including representatives of the Irish Council of Women -- a State-funded body -- and Ruhama, the Catholic organisation which encourages women out of prostitution, An Garda Siochana and the Department of Justice, took part in a visit to Sweden last year, which led to the proposals.
    Teresa Whitaker, one of the founders of the SWAI, told the Sunday Independent that sex workers' views had not been sought. She said the introduction of the "Swedish" model would force prostitution further underground and create much more dangerous conditions for those voluntarily in the sex trade.
    Last year, the supreme court in Canada overturned that country's laws on prostitution, which were almost identical to those in Britain and Ireland. The court found that laws which criminalised prostitution put the sex workers' lives at danger.
    The "harm-reductionist" proposals being put forward by the SWAI would provide protections that are not in place in Britain, Ireland or Sweden.
    The 'Turn off the Red Light' campaign says it wants to "end prostitution and sex trafficking in Ireland". It states: "Trafficking women and girls for the purposes of sexual exploitation is a modern, global form of slavery."
    - JIM CUSACK


    http://www.independent.ie/national-news/pressure-groups-lock-horns-over-changes-to-laws-on-prostitution-2548122.html


    You might be interested in the NWCI blog where Teresa Whittaker of The Sex Workers Alliance of Ireland responded to Susan McKay in more detail.

    http://www.nwci.ie/blog/2009/11/23/susan-mckay-new-campaign-against-prostitution/

    Here are some abstracts
    Susan McKay, New Campaign Against Prostitution

    Posted on November 23, 2009 at 11:59 AM

    200911231157431_sm.jpg Susan McKay, Director, NWCI

    The newly formed Sex Workers Alliance urges us to accept that prostitution is a freely chosen occupation, as viable a way of paying your bills as any other. The Alliance claims it can promote the health, safety and empowerment of those it calls sex workers in what it calls the sex industry. These are not victims, it insists. This view sees the man who uses prostitutes as a person buying a service from a person selling it.
    Choosing to do something means weighing it up against other possibilities and deciding it is the best option. As in: will I be a doctor, or a civil servant, or a shop assistant, or will I be a prostitute? But of course that isn't how women enter prostitution. For the most part, they do it because they feel they have no choice. They feel they are forced into it.
    Now - I somehow think will I be a Doctor or a prostitute argument is patronising.

    Will I be a cleaner or prostitute seems more likely


    Among the things Whitakker of SWAI says is that "prohibitionists"create stigma and prevent access to health care etc
    Reducing Stigma
    We wish to broaden the discourse on the topic of sex work in Irish society and advocate for a group who don’t always speak for themselves and who have often been silenced by stigma. Those who do speak out often attract media attention that frequently seeks to sensationalise rather than discuss the issues. Historically, prostitution was largely considered sinful and immoral; in Ireland in 1767 in Lesson Street, Dublin’s, “fallen women” were often ‘rescued’ and put to work in Magdalene laundries – a brutal life considered better than that which they had chosen for themselves. We wish to move the discussion from the Victorian notions of ‘rescuing’ sex workers to a discourse that includes human rights. SWAI also challenges the stigma attached to sex work. Mc Gréil’s research on prejudice in Irish society (2006) (n=1,005) found that certain groups such as prostitutes, drug addicts ‘people with AIDS’, gays and travellers elicit a significant degree of prejudice. He wondered how the Holocaust could have happened in a society which was so civilised; he concluded that certain groups are ‘out groups’ or become hated in society because of prejudice which leads to their being stigmatised. The question should be asked as to whether societal attitudes towards sex workers are based on centuries of teaching as to the ‘sinfulness’ and immorality of sex work, or based on the actual negative consequences of sex work, which in our opinion are best explained by sex workers and their clients. In this regard, we do not stand in judgement of consenting sex between adults, even when there is money involved. SWAI has no wish to demonise or vilify the men who buy sexual services except of course those who buy services from minors, in which case it is child sexual abuse.

    Research carried out by the NACD (2009) in which 35 sex workers were interviewed found that although a few of these women had been coerced into prostitution the majority had entered it voluntarily, mostly through female networks. In relation to choice, it can be argued that even the most desperate drug user exercises choice, women spoke about trying drug dealing, shop-lifting, etc. before turning to sex work to find funds not only for drugs but also for their children. From a public welfare perspective it is also a logical argument that forms of earning and income that have no victims (sex work) are far better than those which victimise such as shoplifting and robbery. Some of the women talked about how their earnings from sex work funded their children (of course), holidays abroad, private child care, and one woman had planned on buying a new car when she returned from her holiday.
    ‘Interventions that focus on changing behaviour among commercial sex workers and their clients are important strategies to reduce HIV transmission. Sex workers who work 'on the street' have been identified as being most at risk of HIV transmission , as well as finding themselves in circumstances where they are vulnerable to high levels of violence and exploitation.’
    The National Drugs Strategy (interim) 2009-20016 also refers to drug using sex workers as an ‘at risk’ group , and identifies the importance of improving harm reduction services to them by providing access to needle exchange and condoms.
    Members of our Steering Committee work as outreach workers on the street, distributing condoms and lubricants to reduce the harm of STIs including HIV. Harm reduction and health promotion emphasise the importance of respecting individuals choices and empowering them to maximise their health, whatever the circumstances.
    Migrant Sex Workers
    However, trafficking should not be conflated with sex work, and in particular migrant sex workers. Nicola Mai (London Metropolitan University) carried out research in England with 100 migrant sex workers and concluded that: contrary to public perception, the majority of migrant sex workers have chosen prostitution as a source of "dignified living conditions and to increase their opportunities for a better future while dramatically improving the living conditions of their families in the country of origin". After detailed interviews with 100 migrant sex workers in the UK, Mai found: "For the majority, working in the sex industry was a way to avoid the exploitative working conditions they had met in their previous non-sexual jobs."

    You should read the blog as her response to McKay is very well referenced.

    Now, I do not nessessarily agree with all that she is saying but I do agree with decriminalisation and health issues.

    It amazes me that groups like the SWAI are not brought into the NWCI.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,644 ✭✭✭theg81der


    Yes I believe it is rape. I don`t believe all prostitution is bad thou, there is empowered women who choose to do it and more power to them.Its about power and control.

    When I think of the alternative options available to that man who goes to buy sex with that girl -he probably has more money and education than her and he could choose to help her, could choose to change her life. He does bare responsibility for his choices.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    theg81der wrote: »
    Yes I believe it is rape. I don`t believe all prostitution is bad thou, there is empowered women who choose to do it and more power to them.Its about power and control.

    According to others -its about money
    When I think of the alternative options available to that man who goes to buy sex with that girl -he probably has more money and education than her and he could choose to help her, could choose to change her life. He does bare responsibility for his choices.

    But he is not altruistic and does not want a relationship.

    Lots of people men and women are not.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,747 ✭✭✭seenitall


    Permabear wrote: »
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    Yes, of course that is that I "want to argue", Permabear! The same way that stealing someone's piece of jewelry (depending on its worth), or someone's car, is not viewed "exactly the same". It is still the same crime, only the degree of severity is different, implied by the worth of the object.

    I frankly find it quite scary how someone brought up in a civilised first world country cannot seem to grasp that the name of the act of forcing someone into sexual intercourse against their will/without their consent is rape, irrespective of circumstances ("married", gang-banged, enslaved, forced by pimp). Just because there are (always) "worse" rapes committed doesn't take away from this fact.

    As to your "law may view..." argument, I have addressed that already. Different laws in different countries will have different tolerances of this abhorrent act (usually a good reflection of the degree of misogyny of the culture).

    (BTW, no, I don't think that people who have sex because they are desperate for money are raped, as long as they enter into the transaction of their own free will - are you honestly telling me you cannot see the difference??)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,649 ✭✭✭✭CDfm


    seenitall wrote: »

    I frankly find it quite scary how someone brought up in a civilised first world country cannot seem to grasp that the name of the act of forcing someone into sexual intercourse against their will/without their consent is rape, irrespective of circumstances ("married", gang-banged, enslaved, forced by pimp). Just because there are (always) "worse" rapes committed doesn't take away from this fact.

    As to your "law may view..." argument, I have addressed that already. Different laws in different countries will have different tolerances of this abhorrent act (usually a good reflection of the degree of misogyny of the culture).

    Hi seenitall :)

    A quick question.

    Prostitute representative groups find some attitudes "patronising" in a 19th Century Salvation Army Way or middle class way. What is your feeling on this.

    When women in foreign cultures see criticism of their cultures and belief systems do they think its patronising or colonial.

    I have to be conscious that other people may not want what I want for them.

    AS with the Magdaline Laundaries isnt the culture passed doen via women to their children.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,747 ✭✭✭seenitall


    CDfm wrote: »
    Hi seenitall :)

    A quick question.

    Prostitute representative groups find some attitudes "patronising" in a 19th Century Salvation Army Way or middle class way. What is your feeling on this.

    When women in foreign cultures see criticism of their cultures and belief systems do they think its patronising or colonial.

    I have to be conscious that other people may not want what I want for them.

    AS with the Magdaline Laundaries isnt the culture passed doen via women to their children.



    Hi CDfm, :)

    if prostitutes find some attitudes patronising (and I'm sure they do, there is a lot of patronising going on in the world!), I think it is a damn shame if they are made to feel that in order to get help in whatever circumstances they find themselves in, they are made to listen to lecturing, preaching and what-not. However, your question is a little vague, so the answer might be likewise.

    I would have a similar attitude towards women being brought up in countries with savage and inhumane mores and regulations.

    "I have to be conscious that other people may not want what I want for them." Agreed.

    I, however, do not see the link between these questions of yours and my objections to Permabear quote of "you can claim with some justification that many such women have effectively been forced into sex against their will—but it does not make their husbands rapists"

    The reality is that many, many women in this world are forced into entering "marriages" and endure being repeatedly raped by their "husbands" throughout their lives. The fact that this is condoned by their culture and its laws does not make these experiences any less harrowing on them, and it does not make them any more willing to have sex with men they had no hand in choosing for themselves.

    The issue that I have been refering to all along, therefore, has nothing to do with people not wanting what I want for them, and a lot to do with me wanting people to be allowed to make their own choices, and considering it a moral wrong that they are not allowed to. With state-approved marital rape being the epitome of that misogynistic "morality", "culture", religion... Tip of the iceberg, so to speak.


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