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Did you ever know somebody who died young?

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 265 ✭✭nosey rosie


    rebel10 wrote: »
    Wasn't having a go at you when i said i found it insensitive, was more of a personal choice more than anything else. I would find it insensitive of me to discuss deaths of young people when the people could be identified from my posts by family/friends. Obviously, I'm not saying people shouldn't, but i am saying i won't.
    No offence taken; I see what you mean rebel10.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,048 ✭✭✭vampire of kilmainham


    A lot of the lads i served in the army with have passed on and all were relitivley young may they all REST IN PEACE I WILL ALLWAYS REMBER THEM..
    My young nephew of 17 also commited suicide nearly 8yrs ago now and allthough life goes on the pain for the familey never leaves RIP CONOR...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,048 ✭✭✭vampire of kilmainham


    My brothers best mate Stephen died about 3 years ago. They were both 20 at the time and had been out on the Saturday night for pints. Stephen called to our house on the Sunday afternoon to see my brother they had a laugh about the night beforehand and Stephen went home. The following Monday morning my brother on his way to work found Stephens crashed van 2 miles from his home. He had lost control, hit a pillar and part of that came through the windscreen..... It was a pretty horrific week after that. Stephen was 6'2", an accomplished athlete, boxer and was well on his way to playing inter county football having represented his county at minor and U-21. It was just such a massive shock to everyone that someone so full of life, healthy and happy could be gone like that. I had chatted to him the day before he died and when I think back over it my blood runs cold. He had just a matter of hours left to live as I chatted to him.

    Live your life to its fullest because you just don't know......
    Thats really sad may he REST IN PEACE it's true what you say we should live life to the fullest as we never really know whats around the corner for any of us.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,062 ✭✭✭✭Mr. CooL ICE


    Two friends from school (and another) died in a car crash at around 21.

    I never went to their funerals. To this day, I honestly have no idea why I didn't


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,048 ✭✭✭vampire of kilmainham


    hada wrote: »
    My mother sums it up, as most Irish mothers do best in general, with the following: "Tomorrow is promised to no one".

    I, like the vast majority of people, have suffered from the terrible loss of a young friend. Reflecting this, I don't really get when people have "hang-ups" about turning X or Y in age terms around their birthday. Not to jump on a high horse, but every year I reach my birthday, I'm just so thankful I'm around and well , and none of this "oh god, isn't it terrible to be 25, 30, 40, etc".
    You certinaly hit the button there it drives me mad too when people go on about their age we should live each day to the fullest we can for as in your mothers words TOMORROW IS PROMISED TO NO ONE... and in my own mothers words and she passed on 3yrs ago now this month MAN PROPOSES GOD DISPOSES...


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 265 ✭✭nosey rosie


    You certinaly hit the button there it drives me mad too when people go on about their age we should live each day to the fullest we can for as in your mothers words TOMORROW IS PROMISED TO NO ONE... and in my own mothers words and she passed on 3yrs ago now this month MAN PROPOSES GOD DISPOSES...
    Very true. I think you finally grow up, when you realise your own mortality.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,960 ✭✭✭allandanyways


    Too many, unfortunately.

    One that stands out was a friend who hung himself. He was only 15.

    A person I know is switching off his sister's life support this week, the girl is only 23.

    A friend of a friend was stabbed to death in a random attack 3 years ago. The guy was just walking home from the pub and 2 lads pulled a knife on him and stabbed him through the heart. He was only 21.

    Another person I know died recently from Sudden Adult Death Syndrome. He was only 21.


    Just so sad, so many young lives who will never get to experience so much. RIP to all those mentioned in this thread who died young.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 37,875 ✭✭✭✭Penn


    Best friend died when he was 11. Illness he was born with, always in and out of hospital.

    Funny though, I think when you're born with an illness which means you have a relatively short life, you tend to do more with it. He lived for 11 years, yet he did and experienced more things and enjoyed life more than I have, even though I'm in my mid-20s now.

    Unfortunately, you don't always know if your life is going to be a short one.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    Lost some good friends far to early.

    The best thing you can do is embrace life each day in their memory.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 265 ✭✭nosey rosie


    The stories on here have been saddening, but educating to read.
    I am reminded of James Joyce's story "The Dead"... if you haven't read it, read it now... Michael Furey is a symbolic character of all those who died before their time
    http://www.online-literature.com/james_joyce/958/


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,048 ✭✭✭vampire of kilmainham


    Barrington wrote: »
    Best friend died when he was 11. Illness he was born with, always in and out of hospital.

    Funny though, I think when you're born with an illness which means you have a relatively short life, you tend to do more with it. He lived for 11 years, yet he did and experienced more things and enjoyed life more than I have, even though I'm in my mid-20s now.

    Unfortunately, you don't always know if your life is going to be a short one.
    Quite true we sure dont all we can do is live life as full as we can each day we might not even get through a full day i rember a quote from a prayer i think it was my mother used to say GOD WILL COME FOR US LIKE A THIEF IN THE NIGHT... o sh1t i sound morbid now but iv come to realise it's very true..


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭nacho libre


    Two people. One died while helping his neighbour move cattle. The other died from lung cancer.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,130 ✭✭✭Azureus


    I know three in their teens/early 20's.
    One hung himself, had only spent the whole night dancing away with him two nights before and then he went missing... Found a few days later. Shocking and hard to swallow but really woke me up to the realities of life/mortality. Took a long time to get my head around that one.

    Another was a schoolfriend who got stabbed by her 'boyfriend' while abroad. Read about it in the papers-couldnt believe my eyes. Still think of her a lot and brought me to the realisation that you never truly know somebody/what others are capable of. The other young death was something similar-ish but a lot more controversial. I wont talk about it on here as I wasnt particularly close to the person and it was discussed a lot on here at the time. Still, death so young no matter what the circumstance is tragic.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 18,300 ✭✭✭✭Seaneh


    In response to the OP.
    Quite a few.
    When I was in primary school a kid I knew fell in the yard of his school and punctured a lung and died on the way to hospital that was fairly mental, just fell in the yard and was a bit hurt, seemed grand and then got really bad.

    When I was in 2nd or 3rd class a lad in my school died. Hung himself from the banister in his house, his auld lad walked in the door from work to find the young lad hanging there dead. Horrible thing to happen. People have said stuff like he was messing around and it went wrong, and it makes sense in a lot of way as he was a smart, happy young lad from a good family, was good a sports, good at school and had tons of friends, but I guess nobody will ever know the truth.

    Few years after that a neighbour died of leukemia, she was only about 8, lovely little girl, used to play with my little sister until she got sick, they she wasn away in hospital for treatment most of the time, she'd still play with my sister when she was home, but she'd be knackered after a few minutes and would need to go lay down, other times she didn't have the energy to play at all so she'd just sit on the lawn watching.

    Them when I was in 5th year (I think) a friend died. He'd been fighting cancer for a long time, tumours all over the place. It's weird though, because he was, apparently, closer to beating it than he'd been in years and then, bam, everything falls apart and within a few weeks he went from out and about to being on life support. A few years previous he'd been in hospital and needed to have a joint replacement done, tumors had been removed from the joint and it was useless so they fitted him for a titanium joint and it was being shipped from France, the joint almost didn't make it on time, there were lorry driver strikes at the ports in France and it was delayed for something like 12 hours. If it had been an hour longer they would have had to amputate his leg totally. He was one of the most universally like people I've yet to meet. Hadn't thought of him for ages until just now...

    Then about a year after I finished secondary school a lad who'd been in my year from 1st to 6th died of leukemia. Was a total shock, diagnosed out of the blue and died not long after. We weren't exactly friends but he was a nice lad and it's a shame when someone that young dies.

    Then about 2ish years ago someone told me a lad who'd been in our year killed himself.
    He was the year idiot, and he probably deserved the tag, he'd do anything for attention of approval. He'd routinely pick fights with about 4 lads in our year a few times a term and get his head kicked in every single time, but refuse to stay down, he'd keep getting up and coming at you until he couldn't any more. I remember the last time he did it to me I couldn't handle it, threw a freaker and smacked him a few times in the face, hoping he'd stay down, but he started getting up so I lifted him off the ground with a kick in the stomach, stayed down after that, but I felt like a bollocks for letting him bait me, he was obviously not well, even back then, mentally. I wasn't surprised when I was told he'd killed himself. Obviously whatever it was that made him act the way he did got the better of him in the end. Which is sad, because he wasn't actually stupid, he just liked to make everyone think he was...

    On the other side of the coin.
    I have 3 friends, and myself, who have been through the wars health wise.
    I am actually one of 3 people I know, who have had strokes ages 25 or under.

    I was 25, about 10 days after my 25th birthday. Wasn't fun but I was lucky to have no major long term damage. Was in warfarin for a year, such a pain in the arse, but off it since september, only have to take 75mg of asprin daily now, which is grand. almost back to normal, have remastered all the fiddly fine motorskills stuff, that was the hardest part, but can use chop sticks and sign my name and all that good stuff grand again now. Take another step that way this Wednesday when I get my hearing aid, finally, after 18 months of waiting (good ole HSE)!

    Another lad was 21, in college, playing basketball, fit as a fiddle and had a massive stroke, he hard to re-learn how to walk, write, grip stuff, he has had to have an internal cardiac defibrillator and pacemaker attached to his heart, has to take warfarin every day for the rest of his life, but you'd never hear the lad complain about it. Still involved with basketball and rugby as a coach and back in college finishing his degree.

    The other stroke victim was 16, in 5th year of school (he's 24 now) and he had a long recovery but is back to 100% now. He was in hospital and rehab for the guts of a year, couldn't talk for a long time, had to relearn how to walk, write, everything. But he's grand now, plays football, is a fantastic drummer (which is amazing, when you consider it) and in college studying science.

    The 4th lad is a cancer survivor, had several tumours removed from his legs, around his hip and knees, has a few bits of plastics and metals in there holding him together, had a long chemo treatment but been fit and well for about 3 years now. Mad into cycling, racers every week or two, does a few hundred miles a week on his bike and has a degree to his name.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,421 ✭✭✭major bill


    im 23 and two lads already that were in my school year have died.....didnt really know the first person or made the effort to get to know him which is sad now but the poor lad had alot of problems in his family!!the second god love him died about 3 years ago he was a really nice lad that wouldnt say boo to anyone...big loss was very intelligent lad that would have made something of himself, the funeral was a hard day!!. i know of friends of friends dying aswell.. its never a nice thing even if ye didnt know them.


  • Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 16,057 Mod ✭✭✭✭Tabnabs


    I know two guys who committed suicide and another who died of Sudden Adult Death Syndrome, all in their late teens/early 20s. I can still remember taking the call to hear the news of two of them, incredibly sad and tragic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,891 ✭✭✭Kersh


    My friend was knocked down and killed by a bus when he was 20. I always think of him when I get a bit down and think "Well, Colm never got to see his 21st." I usually cop myself on pretty sharpish after!

    I was his Scout Leader, Rip Colm.


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