Did you ever know somebody who died young?

19-02-2011 03:14PM

A lad I went to secondary school with died in an accident the summer after the leaving, he was a splendid chap, everyone liked him, from the jocks to the nerds, even the teachers. A genuinely great person.

whydoibother? · 19-02-2011 03:22PM

Yes, quite a few - as a result of some horrific accidents, illnesses and crimes. Like someone else said I'd prefer not to discuss because some of the ciricumstances were so unique that they would be easily identifiable.

squeakyduck · 19-02-2011 03:28PM

When I was 13 I went on holiday to Turkey, when we got back to Dublin airport my dad was called off the plane. His best friends son had comitted suicide, he was a good friend of mine too, I was too young to properly understand suicide, but I remember it was election day and went to see my mother at the polling station and there was tears running down her face as she checked people off the list.

RIP James.

My brother was in a car crash back in 2002, came out of it with a broken neck, the other guy who was only 19 died. The only reason my brother survived is that he was asleep. If he had been awake he would have tried to protect himself. I remember going to the wake, and they guys mother was so upset, she was so glad to see that other young people came to his funeral as it was all older people as there was no young people in his family.

CitizenKeane · 19-02-2011 03:29PM

Xivilai wrote: »

A very close friend died in a car accident along with 2 others, nearly four years ago. It was a couple of days before his birthday. Miss him terribly. I was still mourning the stupid killing of my 14 year old dog on the road when this happened

3 other people I spoke to but didn't really know well died young. One of them smothered in a laundry basket.

Also, a couple of people a friend of mine knew committed suicide. One hung himself in his dad's garage and not long afterwards so did his sister.... Makes you wonder, had he realised the damage it would do to his family, how different could be..

Another friend of a friend died on the road.. boy racers *sigh*

I know this is a sensivite topic, but how in the hell did that happen!?

Personally, I know a couple of people who died young. The funerals were so sad, seeing young people barely turned 20 having to deal with one of 'the gang' lying in a coffin....

marcsignal · 19-02-2011 03:33PM

A former girlfriend from the 90's died in mid 2006. I was back in a second relationship with her at the time. Also a second former girlfriend who was a great mate, and only married a year herself, died in late 2009.

both in their early 30's, both struck down with cancer

fucked me up for a long time tbh, and have been single ever since.

stovelid · 19-02-2011 03:34PM

darrcow wrote: »

my son died suddenly from heart failure aged 11 months

Hope you found the strength to eventually come to terms with it. I'm really sorry to hear that.

jprender · 19-02-2011 03:34PM

I am very fortunate that this sort of sorrow has never touched my life.

It must be devastating.

Hank_Jones · 19-02-2011 04:22PM

Don't like the thoughts and feelings this thread brings.

.E_C_K_S. · 19-02-2011 04:31PM

As as young person myself this thread is awfully depressing:( Makes me realise how lucky I really am not to experience some of the previous posts

Xivilai · 19-02-2011 04:32PM

CitizenKeane wrote: »

I know this is a sensivite topic, but how in the hell did that happen!?

It was an epileptic seizure or something and she collapsed with her face in the washing

Ali Babba · 19-02-2011 04:40PM

My sister, one of my best friends, died from a brain hemorrhage very suddenly three years ago. RIP M. I'll never forget...........

partyndbs · 19-02-2011 04:43PM

yeah 1 most tragic circumstances imaginable bout 7 yrs ago....unbelievable. its something that will stay with all of us that live her for our whole lives. incident was in south dublin u mite know what it was

admiralofthefleet · 19-02-2011 04:43PM

yeah a fella in my primary school class died in a car crash in our early teens

Tubsandtiles · 19-02-2011 04:51PM

I remember when I was about 9 or 10, my Auntie was having a baby, there was complications with the baby's heart the day it was born. Alot of my family were there at the hospital seeing if everything was going too be ok, however the baby died the same day. I can't really describe the feeling as a ten year old seeing your Aunties face leaving the hospital without her baby the same day, and being around adults that were really upset. I honestly think that day I matured so much.

hada · 19-02-2011 05:01PM

My mother sums it up, as most Irish mothers do best in general, with the following: "Tomorrow is promised to no one".

I, like the vast majority of people, have suffered from the terrible loss of a young friend. Reflecting this, I don't really get when people have "hang-ups" about turning X or Y in age terms around their birthday. Not to jump on a high horse, but every year I reach my birthday, I'm just so thankful I'm around and well , and none of this "oh god, isn't it terrible to be 25, 30, 40, etc".

seanybiker · 19-02-2011 05:04PM

Yeah sadly I know plenty of people who died young.

pow wow · 19-02-2011 05:17PM

Two of my classmates were carjacked and murdered when I lived in the States. That's the only case that haunts me, the rest I can think of were very tragic accidents.

Larianne · 19-02-2011 05:20PM

hada wrote: »

I, like the vast majority of people, have suffered from the terrible loss of a young friend. Reflecting this, I don't really get when people have "hang-ups" about turning X or Y in age terms around their birthday. Not to jump on a high horse, but every year I reach my birthday, I'm just so thankful I'm around and well , and none of this "oh god, isn't it terrible to be 25, 30, 40, etc".

Same as.

My friend was knocked down and killed by a bus when he was 20. I always think of him when I get a bit down and think "Well, Colm never got to see his 21st." I usually cop myself on pretty sharpish after!

HarryPotter41 · 19-02-2011 05:21PM

Sangre wrote: »

3 people from my year in school have died since we've left. I'm only 25. Attending three differnt funerals with your schools friends before the age of 25 shouldn't happen.

I agree, had buried two by the time I was 18, including my best friend, shouldn't happen but unfortunately it does.

shogunpower · 19-02-2011 05:26PM

i know the fella that was knocked down in donegal on Thursday night:(, it will be the second worst funeral i will have to attend, the worst was my 4 year old cousins, she died of a brain tumor, followed shortly by the death of my 24 year old auntie on my 12th birthday. yea i've known a lot about young death at a young age.:(

rossie1977 · 19-02-2011 05:38PM

second cousin died at 18 from cancer, a friend from primary school drowned at 22 and my best friend died from a heart aneurysm at 29 some 5 five years ago now, friend of my brother died last year from epilepsy he was mid 20s, built like a rugby player too, over 6ft probably 16-17 stone

Stuffy · 19-02-2011 06:06PM

Xivilai wrote: »

Also, a couple of people a friend of mine knew committed suicide. One hung himself in his dad's garage and not long afterwards so did his sister.... Makes you wonder, had he realised the damage it would do to his family, how different it could be..

I know that family, tragic incident that will never heal tbh.

It is also nice to see that this is one of the very rare threads on AH that hasn't been infected with smart comments or jibes, kudos.

sashafierce · 19-02-2011 06:23PM

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Nodferatu · 19-02-2011 06:24PM

my cousin died when she was 18

QueenV · 19-02-2011 06:40PM

My good friend commited suicide last year, I was devastated.Till this date I still havent gotten over it.

I think about him everyday and wish he was still here with us.

RIP ND MISS YOU E

W.Shakes-Beer · 19-02-2011 06:51PM

I attended the funeral today of a great man and a great friend who this time last week was in perfect health and on facebook monday night. He was found dead sadly on tuesday morning from natural causes.

theg81der · 19-02-2011 07:11PM

My wonderful aunt - accident when I was young. Gone but never forgotten xxx

There was a girl from where I use to live killed herself at 13 - I felt deeply disturbed, although I did not know her she went to my old school and like me had been bullied there.

Another young 19 year old absolutely stunning girl that I knew. I still can`t stop scanning her online profile to try to figure out why I was jealously thinking one day when I saw her - "god you have the world at your feet".

Too many more suicides.... :-(

nosey rosie · 19-02-2011 07:29PM

As the OP... I understand that some people don't want to discuss bereavments of people close and loved. Nor do I, and believe me I've experienced such bereavments. Those that are open enough to discuss it, here, have done nothing wrong. Even if its on a forum, remembering people with such sincere feeling, can't be a bad thing?

Personally speaking, it was just that one death, of such a young girl, so young and full of life... that affected me. I don't think its that insensitive to discuss it here, and to hear other peoples experiences.

rebel10 · 19-02-2011 07:39PM

nosey rosie wrote: »

As the OP... I understand that people don't want to discuss bereavments of people close and loved. Nor do I, and believe me I've experienced such bereavments.

It was just that one death, of such a young girl, so young and full of life... that affected me. I don't think its that insensitive to discuss it here, and to hear other peoples experiences.

Wasn't having a go at you when i said i found it insensitive, was more of a personal choice more than anything else. I would find it insensitive of me to discuss deaths of young people when the people could be identified from my posts by family/friends. Obviously, I'm not saying people shouldn't, but i am saying i won't.

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 19-02-2011 07:44PM

I'll never forget the day we went from being a big gang of immortal mates to being confronted with our own mortality and realising how fragile we all are.
Think everyone experiences this at some stage, and things are never quite the same afterwards

Did you ever know somebody who died young?

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