Would you be nervous going to a pub/club alone?

when i am in new york i love going into bars on my own - most of the people over there love chatting to irish people in the irish bars.. and you can meet some genuinely nice people..

would go to a nightclub over there no bother (although i havent)

going to a nightclub all by your lonesome in ireland....... no way

Wouldn't be my cup of tea at all. In fact i'd rather have a cup of tea than go to a pub by myself! I hate been in a pub alone even for a half an hour waiting on someone to turn up. I get all self conscious and think everyone is looking at me!
Could be some sort of latent mental problem, or maybe the f'uckers do just look at me.
Either way, i don't like it:mad:

Pub wouldn't bother me at all and I've often done it. Was working in Dublin city a few weeks ago and was meeting a friend that night, rather than go all the way home and back in I just got a few pints and some dinner in a pub and read my book. Went travelling on my own around Europe when I was 20 so obviously ended up in many pubs and restaurants on my own. Would meet a lot of people in the pubs or hostels too and would head out with them some nights too but they weren't necessarily better nights, just a bit more crazy. I enjoyed the solice.

Club I definitely wouldn't. It's somewhere I go with friends because pubs close earlier and I can dance the night away. Saying that, I was away on the weekend with the lads and spent about an hour just dancing on my own, then again I was hammered and hyper on redbull and jager and needed an outlet for the energy .

sbsquarepants wrote: »

Wouldn't be my cup of tea at all. In fact i'd rather have a cup of tea than go to a pub by myself! I hate been in a pub alone even for a half an hour waiting on someone to turn up. I get all self conscious and think everyone is looking at me!
Could be some sort of latent mental problem, or maybe the f'uckers do just look at me.
Either way, i don't like it:mad:

when i go to the pub by myself everyone there thinks i'm paranoid,
atleast i think thats what they say

I've no problem going to the pub on my own, a few years ago I would have been. I'm now quite fond of relaxing with a book and a pint.

However, only sex criminals go to clubs alone.

It's a tricky one , depends on if you mean being nervous about attention from people wondering who you are or if you've got bad intentions or if you're worried about getting abused physically or verbally. Generally going to your local on your own wouldn't draw too much attention unless you got steaming drunk and started making an a**e of yourself.

You tend to see fellas even in city centre pubs on their own just reading the paper and having a few pints on the way home from work. There's also those weird fellas who you see sometimes on their own at the bar just staring at groups of people. I don't think you'd want to be mistaken for one of those. There's certain pubs where I wouldn't feel comfortable going to alone but you'd generally be able to tell that from the vibe you get from the place.

Clubs are a different kettle of fish imo. You sometimes see the protagonist in films hanging around the club on his own and picking up a woman but I don't know how often this happens in reality. I don't really go to clubs myself so maybe I'm wrong on that one. I think people in Ireland would tend to see a lone male hanging out in a club as either a drug dealer or a Rohypnol creep. Maybe that's a sad indication of society though.

I do it literally all the time at the moment, it's amazing craic if you get into it. My friends have turned into the most appalling bottlers recently so it's either that or don't go out at all!

It's much, MUCH easier to score if you're by yourself, this I will say. You have no choice but to talk to randomers - and also girls will talk more to you for some reason, I think possibly because it's less intimidating than pulling someone out of a group?

I don't think I've ever actually scored when I've been out with a gang. Maybe once but that time was questionable since I scored during a moment when I was away from everyone else - and when they saw it happening they all started dancing around us in a circle jeering. Real mature, I know :rolleyes:

I'd recommend it to anyone with the confidence. I built up the confidence for this in Thailand over the summer when I literally just talked to everyone I met at the tubing bars and later on the beach parties. It's an incredible buzz if you do it right.

One issue is that Dublin in particular has this serious clan mentality whereby people tend to stick to themselves and it can be harder to meet people when everyone's stuck in their own corner with their own crowd but it does happen.

I'll never go out alone, I'll only go out if I have at least one person with me. I'd just feel really uncomfortable, and unsafe too. But I guess maybe being a girl'd add to me not feeling safe.

EDIT: I can't believe a forgoit about my local back home. I'd go alone there no problem. Know practically everyone in the place . But a club'd be different.

whydoibother? wrote: »

"socializing on your own" seems a contradiction in terms. What would be the point of it?

Ah well it's about either having a bit of 'peaceful time' to yourself or having a bit of banter with the others there - it's amazing how easily you can get talking to folks & great conversations can be had.