If you were to get married...

Senna · 01-02-2011 03:18AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Thanks is for the double-entendre

See thats just it - €25000 for a party.....no...just no. You could buy a car. or deposit on a house. Or emigrate and set yourself up comfortably in a sensible country

Its not for everyone, maybe you wont be the person that has a tradition wedding, but most will. As i said above, its the woman who decides the wedding, I (men in general) dont really care, so if thats what the woman you love wants, why would I (we) argue.
Its not that big a deal, and its not like i had to write a cheque for €25k;)

Sibylla · 01-02-2011 03:29AM

I think a large majority of people think of having a small family wedding, I've seen it several times then the 'bridezilla' emerges and the small ceremony suddenly turns into 200 guests. Of course women are to blame on this one

I have yet to meet a man who really has any input in the planning their only focus is to make sure their future Mrs has her day. I have noticed people still having large weddings cutting costs in a number of ways, getting family members involved, making invitations etc. It is generally very expensive and sometimes wasteful but it's (hopefully) the one and only time it will happen so it's probably worth it once people don't have to go into huge debt to fund it.

OPENROAD · 01-02-2011 03:32AM

Senna wrote: »

Its not for everyone, maybe you wont be the person that has a tradition wedding, but most will. As i said above, its the woman who decides the wedding, I (men in general) dont really care, so if thats what the woman you love wants, why would I (we) argue.
Its not that big a deal, and its not like i had to write a cheque for €25k;)

Would you not prefer to put that towards something though, kids education etc..

Sardonicat · 01-02-2011 03:56AM

Senna wrote: »

Its not for everyone, maybe you wont be the person that has a tradition wedding, but most will. As i said above, its the woman who decides the wedding, I (men in general) dont really care, so if thats what the woman you love wants, why would I (we) argue.
Its not that big a deal, and its not like i had to write a cheque for €25k;)

hmmmm

Perhaps it's time i went high maintainance.

Being laid back, reasonable and having a sense of proportion dont seem to be doing much for my love life.

"Who were you talking to? Yes, I know you've been friends with Mark since school, but your with ME know and I don't think he is the right kind of person we should have in our social circle! You're not wearing that! It's been half an hour and i havent recieved a text form you telling me what you are doing, how dare you treat me like that! What are you thinking? I want , I deserve, I need..."/passive aggressive/tantruming/demanding/princess complex/

Hows that for ye guys? Any takers?

Senna · 01-02-2011 03:57AM

Weddings pay for themselves, most of what we spend was in the year or two running up to it, buying smaller things every so often. After the event i had spent about 3k out of my savings. Which was well worth it.

Senna · 01-02-2011 04:00AM

Sardonicat wrote: »

"Who were you talking to? Yes, I know you've been friends with Mark since school, but your with ME know and I don't think he is the right kind of person we should have in our social circle! You're not wearing that! It's been half an hour and i havent recieved a text form you telling me what you are doing, how dare you treat me like that! What are you thinking? I want , I deserve, I need..."/passive aggressive/tantruming/demanding/princess complex/

Is that you [insert my wifes name]?

only joking:D

just encase my wife reads this

Sardonicat · 01-02-2011 04:05AM

Senna wrote: »

Is that you [insert my wifes name]?

only joking:D

just encase my wife reads this

Ya see! Ye fecking love being treated like that!

Tomorow my symphony in me major starts, and i'll be married within the year!

watna · 01-02-2011 04:25AM

rainbow kirby wrote: »

A country where it's actually legal. :mad:

Come to NZ - they'll welcome you with open arms - no really, you can get a visa to live permanently in NZ if you have lived with your partner for more than a year, and that includes same sex couples. In Ireland even heterosexual couples had to be married until very recently. I was at a gay wedding two weeks ago. It was a great night!

I am getting married soon (well ish, next year) and I always swore I'd never get married in a church all through my teens and early twenties but when it came to it I found I want to, so the church is all booked. My Dad is thrilled and isn't a big part of the day for your family as well? It's not a Catholic church though, I think taking marriage advice from a celibate priest would be just too much.

tdv123 · 01-02-2011 04:33AM

I went for

None of the above, I ain't the marrying kind

Just cant see the point in getting married. The cons of it out weigh the pros. IMO

Dr. Baltar · 01-02-2011 06:32AM

Anywhere but a church/place of worship.

Also, I have to wait for some legislation to even start thinking about marriage. :mad:

Guill · 01-02-2011 10:11AM

I'm getting married in a few months.
I am an atheist.
So I am going abroad to do it abroad, in a catholic church, in Rome!

You might call it hypocrisy, I call it using and abusing.

bonerm · 01-02-2011 10:14AM

Chapel O' Love

daveyboy_1ie · 01-02-2011 10:22AM

Getting married in 3 months in the better half's local church, never thought I was the marrying kind. I suppose it takes meeting the right person, wanting a family etc. Anyway countdown is on.............cannot wait

sensibleken · 01-02-2011 10:24AM

on a mound of my enemies skulls

01-02-2011 10:53AM

Registry office/hotel

billlumbergh · 01-02-2011 10:59AM

My husband and i went to Gretna Green, just the two of us, it was perfect!

Kiera · 01-02-2011 11:06AM

I've no intention of ever getting married or having brats.

kelle · 01-02-2011 11:20AM

I got married in 1996, it was a big wedding (200 guests) but nothing like the weddings of today! Ours set us back about £10000, but at subsequent weddings over the years we were amazed at the gimmicks that added heaps of expense that were not around at the time of ours. There are hired limousines, singers at the church, choice of meals for the guests (not available in 1996, back then nobody would have paid the exhorbitant prices!), balloons, chocolates labelled with bride and groom's name, gifts at the tables for the guests - it's bloody ridiculous and the guests won't remember any of those things, no wonder so many couples get themselves into debt.

If I was to do it again, it would be a Gretna Green job.

Kimono-Girl · 01-02-2011 12:36PM

Kiera wrote: »

I've no intention of ever getting married or having brats.

you say that now

we are getting married in a church....but its ok though, our priest is very funny and can switch from the serious religious bits to jokes very quickly and easily .... my partner is his nephew too, so embarrassing stories are going to be told at the mass

also he was my aunt's priest at her wedding back in 2006 and everyone loved that he did the mass itself very quick he didn't draw it out, he's great fun!

our wedding is going to be a small and intimate affair, we are only having 50 close family members at the meal and 150 friends and family at the afters...we chose these options on what suited us and nether one of us wanted the 'big' 200 plus wedding, i am not one of these 'princess' brides, i just want a simple day that everyone including ourselves can enjoy.

Kiera · 01-02-2011 12:42PM

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

you say that now

we are getting married in a church....but its ok though, our priest is very funny and can switch from the serious religious bits to jokes very quickly and easily .... my partner is his nephew too, so embarrassing stories are going to be told at the mass

also he was my aunt's priest at her wedding back in 2006 and everyone loved that he did the mass itself very quick he didn't draw it out, he's great fun!

I'm 31 there's no changing my mind at this stage

orourkeda · 01-02-2011 12:44PM

bollocks to marriage

starbelgrade · 01-02-2011 12:45PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Seriously, the kind of women who take control like that nauseate me. Some of us dont want to have comlplete control over the men in their lives. And i'm and old wan. I'm also a single wan, and am begining to wonder do ye actually want to marry controlling bitches?

Jeez.. I was just takin' the piss.

Guill · 01-02-2011 12:45PM

Kiera wrote: »

I'm 31, it's too late for me so i'll pretend to have made up my mind to never get married

FYP

Kiera · 01-02-2011 12:48PM

Guill wrote: »

FYP

Haha, good one :rolleyes:

JimmyCrackCorn · 01-02-2011 12:50PM

Iraq

Lumen · 01-02-2011 01:12PM

Sardonicat wrote: »

Seriously, the kind of women who take control like that nauseate me. Some of us dont want to have comlplete control over the men in their lives. And i'm and old wan. I'm also a single wan, and am begining to wonder do ye actually want to marry controlling bitches?

My wife had complete control over our wedding. I was about to get offended by your comment until I realised that the reason she had complete control was because I contributed the square root of f'ck all to the planning and preparation. One man's loss of control is another's welcome gift of free time.

On the matter of venue, in our case the decision was driven by the reality that there were several important elderly guests who would have been unable to travel.

We had a lovely local reception for about 80 people, and it cost well under €4k all in. For that money we might have got a handful of people to a beach somewhere. Why not leave the sun and sand for the honeymoon?

Odats · 01-02-2011 01:26PM

If I was to get married and that is a big IF, I'd like it to be a small intimate wedding with just close family and friends (80/100 max) at a local church and small reception nearby hotel.
Plain and simple nothing OTT like my Big Fat Gypsy Wedding.

LambsEye · 01-02-2011 01:31PM

A Botanical Gardens in New York then reception on a rooftop overlooking the city at night.

Y'know.........off the top of my head like...It's not like I have this all planned or anything...um......I CERTAINLY don't have secret sketches of my dress or anything.......Um..UM.

common sense brigade · 01-02-2011 01:31PM

i got married in Vegas! on spur of the moment when we were on a driving holiday for a month in usa. was fantastic!

Doyler92 · 01-02-2011 01:34PM

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4-94JhLEiN0

If you were to get married...

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