Do good looking people....

liah wrote: »

That's for me to know, etc

Pics or GTFO:)

Probably.

If you go to a night club there are always lots of men surrounding good looking women trying to chat her up and all...

Where as the average to ugly people get left out all the time.

af_thefragile wrote: »

Saw a very pretty chick today in a book store.

Though... come to think of it, I felt attracted to her because of her dressing sense and like "style" if you'ld call it. So if she was dressed in tracks (be it nike or abercrombie/hollester) I doubt I would have had found that that attractive. Also the fact she was in a book store (rather than some clothes store) made her a bit more attractive.

Which brings me to the question... how many people appear to be attractive because of the way they dress or carry themselves than just because of their naked natural beauty or lack of if there's such a thing??

Oh I'd say hugely. "Attraction" often has very little to do with objective beauty. Like you said; a chick could be a stone fox but dress like a goth, and if you're not a goth you won't be as attracted to her.

I don't think it's of the way they dress/carry themselves, it's how they do these things in relation to how YOU do these things.

I had this convo with my dad last night, I don't think I'd be attracted to someone who believed in God, because I don't. Even if he was a roooooooooide.

RichieC wrote: »

That would depend tbf, certain types of religious people are okay, personal faith or whatever, but the types that have to scream at the unhosed and unsaved, most certainly not.


Oh and some goth chicks can be nice, run it through google images

Yeah that was his argument, but I mean, to engage in a long term relationship I don't think it would be feasible. Their attractiveness would diminish in my opinion because I don't think I would be attracted to someone with such polar opposite views as me.

Oh and I know. I have a bit of a "thing" for Emo boys. But that's a secret shame. The point was that how people think, act and dress and stuff has a massive effect on whether or not you're attracted to them.

LambsEye wrote: »

Yeah that was his argument, but I mean, to engage in a long term relationship I don't think it would be feasible. Their attractiveness would diminish in my opinion because I don't think I would be attracted to someone with such polar opposite views as me.

Oh and I know. I have a bit of a "thing" for Emo boys. But that's a secret shame. The point was that how people think, act and dress and stuff has a massive effect on whether or not you're attracted to them.

But when you look into it, its very superficial in reality.

People suddenly assume such people the person of the opposite sex dresses and hangs out in places he/she likes, the person is perfect.

But this is where appearances lie and you get to know them and you just can't get along. While on the other hand you might come across someone whom you think you'ld never end up in a relationship with and surprise surprise! you end up in a relationship with them!!

Its more about getting together, having common interests, working things out, enjoying one another's company, overlooking one another flaws and such. At the end you realise appearances are just an illusion.



Still if you just wanna bone them, then maybe appearances is all you're looking for!

LambsEye wrote: »

Good Point. I guess sometimes you should suspend your preconceived notions of what's your "type," and stuff.

Still though, common interests (which is normally expressed through dress, music choices, books choices etc) are often the basis of relationships. I'm being kind of general here, like assuming that a person who chooses to dress like a goth will probably not have similar interests to a person who dresses like a jock. BUT this can be proved wrong too. The point is that people are usually attracted to people who are like them.

Initially though we were talking about what ATTRACTS people to other people, which is superficial in itself as if you don't know someone you're usually attracted first to them physically.

Hmm... well for me it was always like I first became friends with the person, like we met somewhere and we got along really well so stayed in contact. It wasn't really a physical attraction. It was just the fact we got along really well, we could stay engaged in conversation that could last for hours and still not run out of things to talk about. Then as time passed we kept getting closer until we sorta realised we were kinda behaving like two people in a relationship. And we're like who are we fooling, we are in a relationship!!

And that how it was with me pretty much every time... And I'ld be surprised if it turns out different next time. Maybe its just me. But like everytime I spoke to a person I was attracted to physically, we usually just couldn't get along and even if we did, the whole chemistry, if you call it, wasn't there and we (or I!) could never see it developing any further.

I usually don't have much problem getting to know people. But once I get to know them, there are very very few I can actually get along with and I don't have a choice over whom I get along with and whom I don't. It just completely depends on how well the other person's personality matches with mine and it moves on from there.

Although I have to say I can't see myself getting into a relationship with a fat/obese girl or someone who doesn't look after themselves well... Even if they had the perfect personality, I just can't see myself taking things further...