Will eventually want to get pregnant but not interested in sex

LegacyUser · 11-01-2011 05:52PM #1

I am a female in my early 20s and I know that a few years down the line I will want to have a baby (I know I'm still young but I always think ahead) but the thing is I have no interest in sex and even the thought of conceiving makes me want to throw up.

It's probably to do with some things that happened to me when I was younger and I am currently seeking help about it.

Does anyone have any experiences with donor insemination?

Uriel. · 11-01-2011 07:22PM

Op I assume you have a fear and/or dislike of sex (intercourse particularly) due to a (traumatic) sexual incident(s) from your past.

Seeking professional help to overcome the mental side effects of such a matter is both brave and extremely worthwhile, as well as being very important for your long-term happiness and moving on from the past and learning to live as full a life as possible.

I gather that you have either only recently sought help or are just about to. I think in that case you need To focus on the help you will be getting and on repairing your psyche/mind and your view and interaction of/with the world around you.

Don't worry about artificial insemination at this stage, that can come in the future if necessary. Artificial insemination is definitely option available if you so wish to pursue it.

Really now though you should focus on the issue at hand and work on getting over that. It is very possible to get over and live a full/happy life following a traumatic event. It's not easy of course, and you won't forget it but that doesn't mean you can't cope with it and move forward with your life. With the right help it is possible.

Best of luck op, you are doing the absolute right thing by seeking help from professional(s)

Sleepy · 12-01-2011 11:39AM

Focus on your issues with sex first OP. There's very, very few men who'll be prepared to stay in a committed relationship with someone who has no interest in having a sexual relationship with them so without dealing with your issues around it, any parenthood in your future would most likely be single-parenthood. Of course, there's nothing wrong with being a single parent but it's certainly a harder path and most single parents I know would have preferred to conceive with someone who'd be there to support and nurture both themselves and their offspring.

Peanut2011 · 12-01-2011 01:16PM

Dear OP, first of all I must say that you are doing very well in the fact you recognise the issue you have and that you have started looking for help.

I can say counselling will help with your issues and you will only be able to make the final decision on your future after you go trough it. Some people never get over their traumatic experiences (what ever they are) and require counselling for many, many years.

As it's obvious you recognise the issues and all I can say to you is keep working on them and don't worry yourself with more at this time.

Once the time is right I'm sure you will be able to make the choice that is right for you.

I wish you best of luck.

Neyite · 12-01-2011 02:29PM

I would suggest that if you do think in the future you would need assisted conception, then start saving now. Fertility treatment is expensive, and may take several attempts before a pregnancy occurs. You could easily spend a couple of thousand, before you concieve and thats only if you decide to have just one child.

Private health insurance does not usually cover it, and public waiting lists are very long. If it transpires that you end up not requiring this path to motherhood, then you've got a nice nest egg to spend how you like.

Best of luck with the counselling.

Will eventually want to get pregnant but not interested in sex

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