Fag Hags???

cgcsb · 24-11-2010 10:12PM #1

So started a new course, and it's about 3 months later and I've come out to most people in my year. Not that I was avoiding telling anyone, the opportunity to say it just didn't present it's self. So I tell this one guy, via electronic means (the topic did come up) and he was like "oh that's fine lad, I've no problem with that". I bumped into him in town randomly with his GF on his arm. She kept smiling at me and didn't speak a word.

Then she's adding me on Facebook and asking me to go shopping with her. And I'm like

, who are you? I've literally never said anything more than a "hello" to the girl. and she's gotten it into her head that we're best friends. The two of them are from the country though. Still, What's all that about?

Chuchoter · 24-11-2010 10:17PM

Blame SATC. You are a pretty handbag that talks.

OR maybe she was being nice?

L.Jenkins · 24-11-2010 10:20PM

It's very easy for a woman to be way more secure around a guy and she could be genuine.

ninty9er · 24-11-2010 10:48PM

Maybe your friend asked her to offer to show that it really isn't an issue for him.

cgcsb · 24-11-2010 11:45PM

ninty9er wrote: »

Maybe your friend asked her to offer to show that it really isn't an issue for him.

perhaps, over compensation. He's not really my friend though, Like I chat to him the odd time. we wouldn't hang out or anything.

Beruthiel · 25-11-2010 08:46AM

I think it is very unusual for someone to want to be your friend after one fleeting meeting.
Friendship grows organically and anyone pushing it out of the blue would raise an eyebrow for me.
She probably doesn't have a gay friend, and now, you're it!
Maybe I'm just paranoid though....

Barna77 · 25-11-2010 10:14AM

My housemate is the ultimate fag hag. I hate the way she calls me and some mates "honey", but even worse.... "chicken". :mad: I fúcking hate it. And she knows it

Rick_ · 25-11-2010 10:30AM

cgcsb wrote: »

He's not really my friend though, Like I shat to him the odd time.

Each to their own, but I don't like anything involving poop!

electrobi · 26-11-2010 04:03AM

OP, randomers add people on fb all the time having only met them once or twice, or sometimes even if they've only been in the same room as them at a party. I don't think it's a gay/straight/fag hag issue. It's a phenomenon know as bad facebook etiquette.

Aard · 26-11-2010 08:51AM

The shopping request is a giveaway. Just tell her deadpan that you don't like shopping, and delight in watching her bubble burst.

Beruthiel · 26-11-2010 10:17AM

Aard wrote: »

Just tell her deadpan that you don't like shopping

But, but, but, all the gays loooove shopping!!

Donnaghm · 26-11-2010 01:31PM

Yup, when I came out, the demographic of my friends changed from 4:1 to about 1:4 in terms of a male to female ratio. Funny that. And I'm as laddish as anyone I dare say.

cgcsb · 26-11-2010 06:43PM

Well she's only 18, and from the Bog so maybe she thought that when moving to the city she had to bag herself a pet gay, like they have on tv.

Donnaghm · 26-11-2010 06:59PM

cgcsb wrote: »

Well she's only 18, and from the Bog so maybe she thought that when moving to the city she had to bag herself a pet gay, like they have on tv.

To be fair, I'm sure it's an improvement on the perception of the gays of the people from the bog 20 years ago. They still need to learn we're regular people but it's progress!

LegacyUser · 26-11-2010 07:51PM

In fairness, it's very likely it could be nothing to do with you being gay. Why does it have to be?

If you've been on facebook long you will know that people you barely know add you for the sake of extending their network or just because they want to have a bigger friends count (sad, I know).

I've had countless requests from random people I met while drunk, people I've met once and barely talked to and people I don't recognise at all etc.

Sorry to be harsh, but it kind of annoys me that people jump the gun about everything other people think/do as if being so gay is so 'centre of attention' that just because someone adds you on facebook they MUST be trying to get a 'new gay pet' :S

mrDerek · 26-11-2010 11:11PM

I do get annoyed and i know personally at least 2 girls that surround themselves only wit gay lads almost to the point that these lads are accessories to them any of you feel d same way?

GalwayGuy92 · 27-11-2010 12:30AM

mrDerek wrote: »

I do get annoyed and i know personally at least 2 girls that surround themselves only wit gay lads almost to the point that these lads are accessories to them any of you feel d same way?

I know exactly what you mean. They basically aspire to be Karen Walker from Will and Grace, with a lovely little gay pet to play around with! To be fair most girls do realise that W&G isn't real but there's always one (or more)!

Chuchoter · 27-11-2010 10:41AM

I know plenty of girls (who are young now to be fair) who are obsessed with the GBF phenomenon. Its like they think gay men are like..cute terriers or something.

Barna77 · 27-11-2010 10:52AM

I might have told this before. I came out to a friend of mine a few months ago. We met the next day, in a shopping centre of all places :rolleyes: After talking to a salesman, who she thought was cute, she told me the from now on we could talk about guys. Excuse me? :mad:

A lemon · 28-11-2010 02:09AM

myusernameis123 wrote: »

In fairness, it's very likely it could be nothing to do with you being gay. Why does it have to be?

If you've been on facebook long you will know that people you barely know add you for the sake of extending their network or just because they want to have a bigger friends count (sad, I know).

I've had countless requests from random people I met while drunk, people I've met once and barely talked to and people I don't recognise at all etc.

Sorry to be harsh, but it kind of annoys me that people jump the gun about everything other people think/do as if being so gay is so 'centre of attention' that just because someone adds you on facebook they MUST be trying to get a 'new gay pet' :S

Ah come on - the girl asked him to go shopping with him. Read between the lines.

It's pretty bizarre. I have to say if someone did that to me I'd probably respond with something along the lines of:

"Sorry, I don't think I actually know you and I really don't enjoy shopping. While I appreciate the offer, I'd be out of my comfort zone going shopping with a stranger! All the best, [your name here]"

cgcsb · 28-11-2010 02:08PM

myusernameis123 wrote: »

In fairness, it's very likely it could be nothing to do with you being gay. Why does it have to be?

If you've been on facebook long you will know that people you barely know add you for the sake of extending their network or just because they want to have a bigger friends count (sad, I know).

I've had countless requests from random people I met while drunk, people I've met once and barely talked to and people I don't recognise at all etc.

Sorry to be harsh, but it kind of annoys me that people jump the gun about everything other people think/do as if being so gay is so 'centre of attention' that just because someone adds you on facebook they MUST be trying to get a 'new gay pet' :S

Yesterday, she asked if I could do her hair for her :eek:

Barna77 · 28-11-2010 04:20PM

Tell her you feel curious, and if she'd volunteer

If she doesn't freak out after that, tell her to GTFO

Gadgie · 28-11-2010 08:29PM

cgcsb wrote: »

Yesterday, she asked if I could do her hair for her :eek:

Give her a number one all over. She probably won't ask again.

Jinxi · 29-11-2010 11:00PM

I get the "fag hag" bashing, but why the Rural bashing?

cgcsb · 30-11-2010 02:10AM

Jinxi wrote: »

I get the "fag hag" bashing, but why the Rural bashing?

haven't bashed anyone, my dear.

Coeurdepirate · 30-11-2010 02:29AM

"____, I have to tell you something. I'm gay."
"OMFG! THAT'S LIKE THE BEST THING EVER!!"
"..."
"WE CAN GO SHOPPING!!"
".........................no."

Barna77 · 30-11-2010 07:26AM

Posted a billion times before, but had to

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46WSydfCMSQ

Fag hag at home

Jinxi · 30-11-2010 12:35PM

cgcsb wrote: »

Well she's only 18, and from the Bog so maybe she thought that when moving to the city she had to bag herself a pet gay, like they have on tv.

DEAR

ongarboy · 30-11-2010 01:20PM

as someone said earlier, if the friendship didn't grow organically then there is something wrong. You can't just force a friendship as it is not just natural then. If I were you, OP, I would just politely decline the offer of shopping or whatever else she asks, if that is not something you want to do at this moment. She'll get the point quickly if she's not an airhead. There may be occasions in the future when you, she and the boyfriend socialise a bit more and that you two will connect a bit better and possibly at that point, you might want to take part in things with her. But it should all be a natural development and mutual to both of you.

SugarHigh · 01-12-2010 10:36PM

Jinxi wrote: »

I get the "fag hag" bashing, but why the Rural bashing?

I agree people do seem to be pushing a sentiment that people from the countryside are ignorant morons.

Bottle_of_Smoke · 01-12-2010 10:55PM

Why not take the opportunity to inform her that homosexuality is in fact just attraction to someone of the same sex.

Explain to her shopping has no relevance to you as a gay man. If she realises her misconceptions she might make a good friend.

Fag Hags???

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