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To what extent do you pay for food/drinks for your girlfriend?
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I came in here because the OP asked what do the girls think..
In my opinion I think it is good manners and a gentlemanly thing to do for a man to pay for the first date..
I am not 12yrs old and would not be interested in a man that would think I would go splits on a first date.
Isn't that what a first date is about?
Trying to win each others approval?
My post that you quoted was a reply to someone who said..
"Well, I hope you sleep with them on the first date, manners ya know"
I don't know where that statement came from and thought it was quite bad manners to imply that I should sleep with a man because he bought me dinner :rolleyes:
I stated my opinion..
From reading some of the male posters answers it seems that most of them do/did pay for first few dates...
I believe its called chivalry
Yeah, but how are you trying to win his approval? He's paying for the meal. He's trying to be charming, dressing well, etc. If it's an equal relationship, why is he doing more than you are?
I'm not insulting you, I'm giving my opinion on your opinion.
I think it's worthy of discussion why, since women now have jobs and earn closer to what men earn, some women think that not being treated as equal is an essential part of being a prospective mate.0 -
Remind me to NEVER EVER post in AH after having a **** bad day at work..
Remind me never to voice my opinion..
Remind me ... meh........
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Woman #1: I froze to death.
Woman #2: How horrible!
Woman #1: It wasn't so bad. After I quit shaking from the cold, I began to get warm and sleepy, and finally died a peaceful death. What about you?
Woman #2: I died of a massive heart attack. I suspected that my husband was cheating, so I came home early to catch him in the act. But instead, I found him all by himself in the den watching TV.
Woman #1: So what happened?
Woman #2: I was so sure there was another woman there somewhere that I started running all over the house looking. I ran up into the attic and searched, and down into the basement. Then I went through every closet and checked under all the beds. I kept this up until I had looked everywhere, and finally I became so exhausted that I just keeled over with a heart attack and died!
Woman #1: Too bad you didn't look in the freezer. We'd both still be alive. just to cheer yu up 0 -
Snakeblood wrote: »Yeah, but how are you trying to win his approval? He's paying for the meal. He's trying to be charming, dressing well, etc. If it's an equal relationship, why is he doing more than you are?
I'm not insulting you, I'm giving my opinion on your opinion.
I think it's worthy of discussion why, since women now have jobs and earn closer to what men earn, some women think that not being treated as equal is an essential part of being a prospective mate.
IF HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME...
HE PAYS FOR THE FIRST DATE...
I don't care what other women want a man to do...
That is what I want...
Apologies for the shouting but I think I've been slated enough for today...
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IF HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME...
HE PAYS FOR THE FIRST DATE...
I don't care what other women want a man to do...
That is what I want...
Apologies for the shouting but I think I've been slated enough for today...
If you don't like the way the conversation is going, or you don't actually have a a good answer, it would be mannerly to be mannerly.0 -
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IF HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME...
HE PAYS FOR THE FIRST DATE...
I don't care what other women want a man to do...
That is what I want...
Apologies for the shouting but I think I've been slated enough for today...
Like you said your opinion, your entitled to it, I'm not being funny here. However, I don't think your being slated, that seems a tad too much, all I see is a discussion.
Personally, if I ask someout out for a first meal, I take it for granted I'm paying. However, I don't like ladies who expect it, I do like to here an offer to pay. I would never accept, but at the same time it tells me something about the person, each one will be different in some way, but it does say something. As others have said I'm not attacking you, but that's my thought on the matter.0 -
Can someone please pass the bottle of Jack...
It's ok I'll pay for it myself...
Lads, I've had a shiv day and was only posting my opinions..
I'm not up to a big discussion on why I'm wrong, maybe I'm an old fashioned romantic.. but that's how I feel.
To be honest I do feel like I've been slated for voicing my opinion
*puts on coat (paid for by me) and leaves the building* 0 -
Can someone please pass the bottle of Jack...
It's ok I'll pay for it myself...
Lads, I've had a shiv day and was only posting my opinions..
I'm not up to a big discussion on why I'm wrong, maybe I'm an old fashioned romantic.. but that's how I feel.
To be honest I do feel like I've been slated for voicing my opinion
*puts on coat (paid for by me) and leaves the building*
I think a man should always pay on the first date too. I'd never expect a woman to pay... call me old fashioned, but that's the way it should be.0 -
Can someone please pass the bottle of Jack...
It's ok I'll pay for it myself...
Lads, I've had a shiv day and was only posting my opinions..
I'm not up to a big discussion on why I'm wrong, maybe I'm an old fashioned romantic.. but that's how I feel.
To be honest I do feel like I've been slated for voicing my opinion
*puts on coat (paid for by me) and leaves the building*
You off for the free food?0 -
Can someone please pass the bottle of Jack...
It's ok I'll pay for it myself...
Lads, I've had a shiv day and was only posting my opinions..
I'm not up to a big discussion on why I'm wrong, maybe I'm an old fashioned romantic.. but that's how I feel.
To be honest I do feel like I've been slated for voicing my opinion
*puts on coat (paid for by me) and leaves the building*
Fair enough you had a sh!t day. I could be wrong but I think the thing that got people responding to your post was that you stated it would be the last one, if you the man didn't pay.
Anyway, not expecting you to reply/defend your opinion; so to depersonalise it, if a woman I was taking out for a date held such an opinion, she would have to had some other very strong points of attraction in order for me to consider a second date.
I earn a relatively decent wage so I don't mind paying; it's not really about the money. I used the words "taking out" above, so the emphasis is on me in that statement. Whilst I would not believe that a woman would be just after my cash, by expecting me to pay; it would make me think twice.
It's not really about the cash, some people earn more than others; but being willing to part with some cash suggests that any relationship would be more two sided.0 -
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I came in here because the OP asked what do the girls think..
In my opinion I think it is good manners and a gentlemanly thing to do for a man to pay for the first date..
I am not 12yrs old and would not be interested in a man that would think I would go splits on a first date.
Isn't that what a first date is about?
Trying to win each others approval?
My post that you quoted was a reply to someone who said..
"Well, I hope you sleep with them on the first date, manners ya know"
I don't know where that statement came from and thought it was quite bad manners to imply that I should sleep with a man because he bought me dinner :rolleyes:
I stated my opinion..
From reading some of the male posters answers it seems that most of them do/did pay for first few dates...
I believe its called chivalry
if a guy asks a girl out to dinner he pays
if two people decide to go they bothy pay
if a girl asks guy she pays
most first dates are a guy asking a girl so he pays0 -
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starbelgrade wrote: »If I take you for breakfast, lunch, the dinner will you ride me in the evening?
Im a morning person myself
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Fair enough you had a sh!t day. I could be wrong but I think the thing that got people responding to your post was that you stated it would be the last one, if you the man didn't pay.
Anyway, not expecting you to reply/defend your opinion; so to depersonalise it, if a woman I was taking out for a date held such an opinion, she would have to had some other very strong points of attraction in order for me to consider a second date.
I earn a relatively decent wage so I don't mind paying; it's not really about the money. I used the words "taking out" above, so the emphasis is on me in that statement. Whilst I would not believe that a woman would be just after my cash, by expecting me to pay; it would make me think twice.
It's not really about the cash, some people earn more than others; but being willing to part with some cash suggests that any relationship would be more two sided.
I've no problem answering your post.. I'm talking only about first date, or first few..
If I was on a first date and a man didn't offer to pay, I would find it strange.. I would politely pay all or half of the bill and probably wouldn't see him again..
If a guy asks me out for dinner, I would expect him to pay.
It's not about the cash as you said. I just think of it as chivalry, and maybe old fashioned, I think it's what happens most of the time anyway.
I wouldn't say to a man before/during the date " I hope you are paying or you won't see me again"
It's the same as if you thought a woman was just after you for your money... it would make you think twice..
If a man did not pay for the first date it would make me think twice..
I have often paid all/half/none for a date. I have no problem going splits or even paying all the bill.
I just don't think that it is what I want to have to do on a first date.
It's not about the money at all... 0 -
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I've no problem answering your post.. I'm talking only about first date, or first few..
If I was on a first date and a man didn't offer to pay, I would find it strange.. I would politely pay all or half of the bill and probably wouldn't see him again..
If a guy asks me out for dinner, I would expect him to pay.
It's not about the cash as you said. I just think of it as chivalry, and maybe old fashioned, I think it's what happens most of the time anyway.
I wouldn't say to a man before/during the date " I hope you are paying or you won't see me again"
It's the same as if you thought a woman was just after you for your money... it would make you think twice..
If a man did not pay for the first date it would make me think twice..
I have often paid all/half/none for a date. I have no problem going splits or even paying all the bill.
I just don't think that it is what I want to have to do on a first date.
It's not about the money at all...
See the viewpoints are not that different, as you said if you were "asked" so I would see it as being somewhat implied. I don't think based upon one experience though I would bin the person, just on that point though.
That would the difference on opinions though, chivalry personally I would not see as old fashioned. We all fall into some type of gender role.0
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