To what extent do you pay for food/drinks for your girlfriend?

0verblood · 26-10-2010 06:57PM #1

Would ye split the bill when going out for a dinner? (Not talking about valentines or anything, just a dinner of a weekend or whatever) Who buys the drinks when yer out on the town? Who pays for shopping? I pretty much always pay for the dinners at least, and a lot of the drinks if I'm out in the club. Is that gentlemanly or is it a bit too much?

Scuid Mhór · 26-10-2010 07:00PM

forget chivalry and ask yourself what looks classy instead.

WindSock · 26-10-2010 07:02PM

Not enough. Dig deeper or you are going in the stingy thread.

Dudess · 26-10-2010 07:02PM

/awaits the usual "Women are gold-diggers" suspects

KeithM89_old · 26-10-2010 07:03PM

50/50 until i get drunk, then i just pay for everything til she puts out

J77 · 26-10-2010 07:03PM

Ehm.. Does she offer to pay much or is there a bit of an expectation placed on you?? My GF seems to strive to make it even i.e. if I buy lunch she'll buy dinner and god help me if I argue!

I have a 2 friends in a 1920's relationship where the guy buys everything and its like he owns the girl. Its pretty funny sometimes! He's way to nice a guy to take advantage though!

Lab_Mouse · 26-10-2010 07:04PM

Dudess wrote: »

/awaits the usual "Women are gold-diggers" suspects

Was gonna say something then remembered it was AH.Thats a good bet actualy

WindSock · 26-10-2010 07:05PM

Dudess wrote: »

/awaits the usual "Women are gold-diggers" suspects

That's ridiculous. Prostitutes at the very least.

Kimono-Girl · 26-10-2010 07:06PM

with us its mostly 50/50, although he likes to spoil me occasionally and i always let him

Standman · 26-10-2010 07:07PM

If you could sort me out with a girlfriend I'd tell ya

tman · 26-10-2010 07:07PM

It usually ends up as "you get this, I'll get the next one"
I'll occasionally try to treat her, but given the amount I earn that isn't anywhere near often enough!

Wouldn't consider going out with anybody who expected any different tbh (that might make me sound stingy, but I'm really not!)

Snakeblood · 26-10-2010 07:08PM

0verblood wrote: »

Would ye split the bill when going out for a dinner? (Not talking about valentines or anything, just a dinner of a weekend or whatever) Who buys the drinks when yer out on the town? Who pays for shopping? I pretty much always pay for the dinners at least, and a lot of the drinks if I'm out in the club. Is that gentlemanly or is it a bit too much?

I would pay 60-70% of the time. Still, jokes on her when she finds I rob the money from her purse.

Dudess · 26-10-2010 07:08PM

Kimono-Girl wrote: »

with us its mostly 50/50, although he likes to spoil me occasionally and i always let him

You're in for it now love...

.E_C_K_S. · 26-10-2010 07:08PM

I have my suspicions that women are gold diggers.

Vinta81 · 26-10-2010 07:12PM

tman wrote: »

It usually ends up as "you get this, I'll get the next one"
I'll occasionally try to treat her, but given the amount I earn that isn't anywhere near often enough!

Wouldn't consider going out with anybody who expected any different tbh (that might make me sound stingy, but I'm really not!)

This. Any girl who thinks a guy should pay for every meal, drink, date etc...bloody twats! One of my friends does this, she just expects him to pay and it annoys me to no end, her boyfriend is a college student too he can't afford to pay for all your crap. I bought him a couple drinks last time we were out, felt lousy for him

Oh and he might like to spoil you but did you offer in the first place?

InTheTrees · 26-10-2010 07:13PM

I earn more than she does so I tend to pay more. We try and even it out in proportion.

It comes down to how much you each earn really.

0verblood · 26-10-2010 07:14PM

Yeah I we should go 50/50 like you guys! Because I pay for so much food and drinks I end up not wanting to buy her surprises & treats etc. cos I've been spending a lot of money on her anyways. We go for dinners a lot, coffees during the day, I even pay for the feckin cinema! Feck.

Anyways what do the girls think of this?

FreudianSlippers · 26-10-2010 07:15PM

I never split the bill or anything on dates. I just paid.

Now that we've been together ages, it's routine... we just try to split who pays when evenly. I usually pay more often as I have more money, but often I'll try to pay and she says "no you got it last time".
I buy booze more often though, like 75% of the time.

It's not something really that crosses our minds a lot. Sometimes she pays sometimes I pay.

Kimono-Girl · 26-10-2010 07:15PM

0verblood wrote: »

. cos I've been spending a lot of money on her anyways. We go for dinners a lot, coffees during the day, I even pay for the feckin cinema! Feck.

Anyways what do the girls think of this?

cos she's taking you for a ride? :eek:

WindSock · 26-10-2010 07:17PM

0verblood wrote: »

Yeah I we should go 50/50 like you guys! Because I pay for so much food and drinks I end up not wanting to buy her surprises & treats etc. cos I've been spending a lot of money on her anyways. We go for dinners a lot, coffees during the day, I even pay for the feckin cinema! Feck.

Anyways what do the girls think of this?

Do you mind paying more than half or not?

jokettle · 26-10-2010 07:19PM

My boyfriend and I have roughly the same take home pay, so we keep things as even as possible. We treat each other though; I took him for a fancy meal when he passed his exams, he took me for a fancy meal when I passed my driving test. Equality, fair treatment blah blah blah.

Sea Sharp · 26-10-2010 07:22PM

If they ask me to get them a drink a pint of water is what they get, with ice if they're lucky and if they don't like that they can go and fuck off.
I guess that explains why I'm single. :mad:
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orourkeda · 26-10-2010 07:27PM

Girlfriend? You are joking aren't you.

Micky Dolenz · 26-10-2010 07:29PM

Depends, have I slept with her yet or not?

0verblood · 26-10-2010 07:29PM

WindSock wrote: »

Do you mind paying more than half or not?

I'm paying pretty much 100%, every meal, every cinema ticket, almost every drink, and I do kind of mind! I just don't know how to tell her to start paying her half. Maybe next time the bill comes after a meal I'll just sit around and not say anything... she'll be like "What's up?" and I'll say "You're paying this time ya hewer".

foxinsox · 26-10-2010 07:30PM

OisinT wrote: »

I never split the bill or anything on dates. I just paid.

Now that we've been together ages, it's routine... we just try to split who pays when evenly. I usually pay more often as I have more money, but often I'll try to pay and she says "no you got it last time".
I buy booze more often though, like 75% of the time.

It's not something really that crosses our minds a lot. Sometimes she pays sometimes I pay.

I would think it's manners for a man to pay for the first few dates...

Especially the first date..
If a man suggested going splits on first date..
It would be the last date..

If I was with someone "officially" it just falls in to place that we take turns paying or whoever has the money..

No big deal..

bonerm · 26-10-2010 07:33PM

foxinsox wrote: »

I would think it's manners for a man to pay for the first few dates...

Especially the first date..
If a man suggested going splits on first date..
It would be the last date..

If I was with someone "officially" it just falls in to place that we take turns paying or whoever has the money..

No big deal..

Well I hope you sleep with them on the first date then . Ya know, for manners.

YumDeiseMum · 26-10-2010 07:36PM

0verblood wrote: »

I'm paying pretty much 100%, every meal, every cinema ticket, almost every drink, and I do kind of mind! I just don't know how to tell her to start paying her half. Maybe next time the bill comes after a meal I'll just sit around and not say anything... she'll be like "What's up?" and I'll say "You're paying this time ya hewer".

I suppose the important question is does she ever offer to pay for anything? is it a case of she offering and you saying no, or does she just take it for granted that you're footing the bill all the time.

foxinsox · 26-10-2010 07:37PM

bonerm wrote: »

Well I hope you sleep with them on the first date then . Ya know, for manners.

Well, it seems that your idea of manners and mine differ vastly..

Dont be at yourself · 26-10-2010 07:37PM

Girlfriend of almost 6 years has just started working so now it's payback time. 6 years of cinema tickets, drinks, meals and presents coming my way!

...Actually, I've never been one to penny-pinch. If I've had the money, I've paid. I don't like having things bought for me, so I've found it hard to let her buy me dinner!

Misanthrope · 26-10-2010 07:38PM

50/50

To what extent do you pay for food/drinks for your girlfriend?

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