Chalk and Cheese. A real lady.

AskMyChocolate wrote: »

The difference was, that you could have taken the lady behind the bar into either the members bar in the K club or into a crack den in Killanarden and she'd have got on fine ...

You just answered your own question.

AskMyChocolate wrote: »

So, (rambling aside) what defines a lady, or indeed posh?

They're usually very separate in my experience.

Posh usually involves a conscious assumption of superiority which is seldom justified .... indeed, one might argue that the very assumption negates the possibility of it being justified.

A lady (or indeed gentleman) will often have far more reason to feel superior, but doesn't. They will treat others with courtesy and respect, regardless of whether the other person is a millionaire or destitute. They are generally at home in any company, and will indeed relish the opportunities life throws at them to meet new people of all backgrounds. They go out of their way to put others at their ease. They tend to be highly self-confident, but it's a self-confidence that doesn't need to assert itself ... in fact, it almost obviates any need to be assertive.

Real class has nothing whatsoever to do with money or social status; it's an attitude and an outlook on life. You'll often hear it said in rural Ireland that it's about "breeding", but what we really mean is upbringing, not actual blood lines, which are irrelevant.



And kerist but that's a serious answer to an AH thread at this hour of the morning! :eek: