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Are there any silly traditional courting rituals in Ireland ?

  • 09-08-2010 09:50PM
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,789 ✭✭✭✭


    Back where I grew up, it was traditional to put up a "May tree" for the one that caught your eye to signal to her that she had a secret but earnest admirer.

    The May tree is traditionally a birch (the bigger, the better) decorated with a few ribbons. You plant that in front of the bedroom window of your "darling" on the night of April 30th to May 1st.

    So, there I was (19 or so), heavily infatuated with this stunning, temperamental red head. She was blowing hot and cold, showing great interest and the cold shoulder and I didn't quite know where I stood and seen as how it was the end of April I decided I'd force the issue.

    Off to the forest then with my friend ...pick the tallest birch sapling that we could find (about 6 meter high :D), cut it down (highly illegal of course), stuff it in the back of a Renault 4 van (with lots of it hanging out) and drive it to her place (possibly without getting caught by the police), tie some ribbons to it and put it front of her bedroom window at 3 am.

    That was rather fun :D

    What wasn't was her reaction.
    Now ..it needs to be said that this May tree thing is a somewhat rural tradition ...village life and all that ...but herself lived in town and had some airs and graces about living in the better part and all that.
    So she was mortified by some "bogger" putting this tree in front of her house and all the neighbours seeing it :D

    That was the end of a beautiful relationship that never was :(:D


    Anything similar in Ireland?

    Anyone ever done anything similar?


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Comments

  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,239 ✭✭✭KittyeeTrix


    Jaysus OP, I'd have rang the police if I were her about the nutter in my front garden with a tree:eek:


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,556 ✭✭✭✭AckwelFoley


    Would have been easier to Kidnap her tbh


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 24,755 ✭✭✭✭Cookie_Monster


    knacker drinking and spin the bottle


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,745 ✭✭✭laugh


    snyper wrote: »
    Would have been easier to Kidnap her tbh

    You can do that in Chechnya and she has to marry you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,090 ✭✭✭questionmark?


    Yep it was called the local teenage disco.


    EDIT: OP was this tree thing a tradition your father made up to make you look stupid for the craic???


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,789 ✭✭✭✭peasant


    Jaysus OP, I'd have rang the police if I were her about the nutter in my front garden with a tree:eek:

    She didn't find out until the following day ...rather late, as the 1st of May is a bank holiday. (which also means that all the neighbours (and her parents!) had plenty of time to wag their tongues :D)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,733 ✭✭✭oppenheimer1


    Stupid courting rituals? Texting.

    The rules of texting, is it too soon, is it being too pushy, too forward? Will she know I spent hours crafting this witty 160 character message that Wilde would be proud of? All bull****.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,900 ✭✭✭InTheTrees


    The matchmaking festival at Lisdonvarna is a kind of wacky irish tradition. Is it still going?

    I went to the music festival that they held for a few years in the 70's, that was craic.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 359 ✭✭messymess


    Man pays for everything!



    SUCKS!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,535 ✭✭✭Raekwon


    Going off with the mate of a girl you fancy to get her attention and hopefully make her jealous (and visa versa with girls that fancy you).

    It obviously rarely worked and I don't know if this is still the norm but in my day teenagers really liked to mind f**k each other for some strange reason :D


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,534 ✭✭✭FruitLover


    messymess wrote: »
    Man pays for everything!

    Only a sucker pays for everything.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 20,739 ✭✭✭✭starbelgrade


    InTheTrees wrote: »
    The matchmaking festival at Lisdonvarna is a kind of wacky irish tradition. Is it still going?

    Yes - it's on in July every year.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,745 ✭✭✭laugh


    Yes - it's on in July every year.

    4th time lucky?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 804 ✭✭✭round tower huntsman


    tradtionly round my way you'd buy the lovely girl 2 bottles of blue wicked or 2 scrumpy jack, then you'd be a sure bet for tit/poke/**** at the very least:D
    they were innocent times really!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭I_AmThe_Walrus


    Indeed there is.

    But for an 'auld Dub like myself, preparing yourself or even trying to understand the sheer mind of the culchie horde is an ever troublesome past time or in hindsight, one which you wondered why you'd even bothered.

    In a land far far away; a land ridden with horrendous ghouls which the locals refereed to as "pikies" and brain dead zombies roam the land driving combine harvesters, I had lost my way from the tavern one night. Ghoulish as the place was, the inhabitants referred to it in a taboo fashion...."The Cuntry".

    I met a young woman who promised to take me back to civilisation to where a man may order a cooked meal, instead of killing it himself, such barbarianism it was. I followed her to her house taking a short stroll down a lane to where I was pushed up against the wall and savagely gobsmacked.

    I enjoyed it.

    Now, come to think about that night I realised that "culchie" women have a certain sense of irony about them. They have a fondness for back lanes.

    I shudder to think of the horrors that lay outside the pale.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 18,239 ✭✭✭✭WindSock


    It's a popular tradition in my town to hang out of a car window and scream compliments or insults to any female form within range then rev up and speed off. I think the girls are ment to reciprocate by flashing or something. Either that, or run after the car as fast as possible in the hope to catch up with it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    Raekwon wrote: »
    Going off with the mate of a girl you fancy to get her attention and hopefully make her jealous (and visa versa with girls that fancy you).

    It obviously rarely worked and I don't know if this is still the norm but in my day teenagers really liked to mind f**k each other for some strange reason :D

    I still think that happens these days in my opinion!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    What happened to buying a girl a bag of chips at the chipper after a night out! :( Never mind just plying her with drinks!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,508 ✭✭✭ElaElaElano


    Where I'm from, the ritual is thus- if you haven't impregnated at least three young wans by the age of 22, you're doing it wrong.

    God bless the innur cihee.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,227 ✭✭✭The Highwayman


    Getting tanked up in the pub, a few shorts in the club before you swagger(stagger) over to your belle of choice. Then sluring something incoherent that you think is oh so witty before puking on her shoes.
    Ah happy days...... next I'm seen face down in a 1/4lb in Micky D's at 4 in the morning thinking she was probaly a lesbian.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 804 ✭✭✭round tower huntsman


    she was defo a lezzer;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,943 ✭✭✭ballsymchugh


    courting rituals??

    "will you shift my friend?!!"


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    So what is the typical courting ritual these days then? I've not had much in that sense other than the silly texting ritual that leads to no-where!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,255 ✭✭✭✭The_Minister


    knacker drinking and spin the bottle

    I never played spin the bottle:(

    One of my regrets (that and never going to Wesley).


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,784 ✭✭✭Superbus




  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,425 ✭✭✭FearDark


    The fact that Irish men are expected to pay for everything on a first date.

    Ah fúck off will yea, equality me hóle.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,349 ✭✭✭✭starlit


    I never played spin the bottle:(

    One of my regrets (that and never going to Wesley).

    Neither have I played spin the bottle but I'm not complaining!:D


  • Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 17,904 Mod ✭✭✭✭Manic Moran


    laugh wrote: »
    You can do that in Chechnya and she has to marry you.

    Kyrgizstan as well.

    NTM


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 106 ✭✭Smarmy


    courting rituals??

    "will you shift my friend?!!"

    haha thats brilliant.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 619 ✭✭✭Dj Stiggie


    courting rituals??

    "will you shift my friend?!!"

    60% of the time, it works every time


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