Would you go out by yourself?

southsiderosie · 18-07-2010 08:44PM

FunnyStuff wrote: »

I dont see whats wrong with it really. Like to go out the odd time, have a nice steak, couple of pints and read the paper. We're adults, why the **** would it be wrong?

Pace2008 wrote: »

The problem with Ireland is that too many people believe there's only one "correct" way to live your life, and everyone else's business is your own.

Is this really an Irish thing? I'm asking because I still don't quite understand socializing here. On the one hand, people like to go out and meet guys/girls. On the other hand, there are all these seemingly strict norms: you only go out in a group, you only approach someone in a pub or club, girls generally don't approach guys. These seems to be particularly strong for the ladies - I've met so many girls who won't even go to a cafe by themselves.

I'm not saying it's impossible, and in my experience guys rather like it when girls approach them (;)), but I find it odd that in a country where people are generally laid back about things, there is so much underlying angst when it comes to going out.

Or maybe I'm just completely off here, in which case...don't mind me, I'm just another confused foreigner...

My name is URL · 18-07-2010 08:44PM

I've made up some of the best lies of my life about nights where I've gone out alone

opinion guy · 18-07-2010 08:47PM

Bog wrote: »

FYP

You've clearly never travelled.

18-07-2010 08:48PM

I've often gone to pubs on my own, wouldn't say it's going out as such because I'd be going in there to watch a watch, if I want to see a match I'd rarely go to my local. Have recently gone to a nightclub on my own, was up in Mayo, in Westport, on my own and when I checked into the hotel the guy at reception said residents got in free to the nitelclub. Wandered down there, only one niteclub in Westport, was fine. I'm a big boy now

opinion guy · 18-07-2010 08:54PM

RoverJames wrote: »

I'd be going in there to watch a watch

Tsch! The things you hip young kids get up to these days! :rolleyes: Is that street code for somethin cool and hip ?

Bog · 18-07-2010 08:56PM

opinion guy wrote: »

You've clearly never travelled.

Clearly. Every country except Ireland is a free living utopia where people don't have expectations or criticisms on how others live their lives.

jellybean08 · 18-07-2010 08:56PM

I can only speak for myself but as a girl I think it is difficult to go out by yourself.

For instance if a girl is on her own in a bar .club etc its like a free for all , for guys to ...well for want of a better word..harass them. I'm not saying all men are like this but lets face it, these guys do exist. I can honestly say this from experience

Of course the other side of the story is that you could meet some very nice people who are also out alone but there is 2 sides to every story.

Speaking of story, Toy story 3 is here!!! huzzaw

4zn76tysfajdxp · 18-07-2010 08:58PM

jellybean08 wrote: »

For instance if a girl is on her own in a bar .club etc its like a free for all , for guys to ...well for want of a better word..harass them.

"Approach" is a better word.

jellybean08 · 18-07-2010 09:01PM

James Greasy Nitroglycerin wrote: »

"Approach" is a better word.

Apologies I was genuinely looking for a better word and that would be it. Dont get me wrong I'm not guy bashing .

18-07-2010 09:05PM

opinion guy wrote: »

Tsch! The things you hip young kids get up to these days! :rolleyes: Is that street code for somethin cool and hip ?

I meant match, sorry your brain couldn't figure that out, old cnuts these days :rolleyes:

southsiderosie · 18-07-2010 09:11PM

jellybean08 wrote: »

I can only speak for myself but as a girl I think it is difficult to go out by yourself.

For instance if a girl is on her own in a bar .club etc its like a free for all , for guys to ...well for want of a better word..harass them. I'm not saying all men are like this but lets face it, these guys do exist. I can honestly say this from experience

Of course the other side of the story is that you could meet some very nice people who are also out alone but there is 2 sides to every story.

Speaking of story, Toy story 3 is here!!! huzzaw

I've noticed that if I go somewhere in a big pack of girls, or if I go solo, I get approached less than if I go with one other girl. Then it's like open season.

I wouldn't go to a nightclub solo, but I have definitely gone to bars, especially when travelling (although I agree with the earlier poster - it's pretty easy to end up solo in a club because you lose your friends in the crowd). I also went to a lot of bars solo during the World Cup because most of my friends had to work in the afternoons. Sometimes it's just a nice thing to do to get out of the house, and if someone makes you uncomfortable, you can just leave.

opinion guy · 18-07-2010 09:20PM

Bog wrote: »

Clearly. Every country except Ireland is a free living utopia where people don't have expectations or criticisms on how others live their lives.

Just because some countries are free/not free does not imply all countries are free/not free.

RoverJames wrote: »

I meant match, sorry your brain couldn't figure that out, old cnuts these days :rolleyes:

Whassa cnut ???

starviewadams · 18-07-2010 09:59PM

Have gone out a few times by myself over the last few months,mainly cos most of my friends are either unemployed or students and have feck all money!

Went to The Globe and the Stags Head mainly and it felt a bit strange at first,but just got the drink into me and ended up enjoying meself,better than sitting in my room alone and gettin pissed!

Nulty · 18-07-2010 10:03PM

Pauleta wrote: »

I go to the boozer a fair bit on my own to watch football or cricket. I went to a nightclub on my own once before. I was drinking all day and nobody would go out so i said feck them and went out and sat at the bar for a couple, then got bored and went home.

:pac:

I can picture your progression for enthusiasm to boredom...

Twee. · 18-07-2010 11:34PM

I go to gigs by myself as my friends aren't really interested in the same music as me. I just got sick of missing great bands play because I didn't want to go on my own. Just head in, grab a pint and enjoy

Paco Rodriguez · 18-07-2010 11:41PM

I often go to the pub alone. *cough*i sometimes bring a book to a quiet pub*cough*

But id never go to a nightclub alone, thats just weird...

PrettyBoy · 18-07-2010 11:42PM

I couldn't drink on my own, at home or in a club/pub. I'm only a social drinker, I wouldn't be able to enjoy the pint if I was sitting there by myself and had no one to talk to.

I have gone to the cinema on my own before, either because my friends couldn't make it or they didn't want to see the film. Went to a concert on my own once as well, no one else wanted to go and I didn't want to miss it so I said fook it and went.

chirogirl · 18-07-2010 11:55PM

As a woman I've no problem going in a pub on my own, but it would be usually after work for one or two plus I'd have my book / paper with me. As for clubs I wouldn't go it alone plus I'm a bit old for them now anyway.

19-07-2010 12:07AM

opinion guy wrote: »

Whassa cnut ???

i'll give you a clue, your ma had two

Pace2008 · 19-07-2010 12:18AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

Is this really an Irish thing?

I honestly don't know. I've lived here all my life so I can only speak for this island. I'm not saying it's necessarily an Irish thing, though I can see how my post could have been construed as such.

worded · 19-07-2010 12:50AM

TouchingVirus wrote: »

It's tough but in fairness if you go out in Dublin you could spend €100 getting outta your face, taxis, food etc

Flights on Ryanair to London Gatwick late on Friday, early home Saturday - €30.
Trains - €20 return.
Tube to Ministry of Sound - €5.
Entrance - €15.
Food (breakfast) - €10
Drink - €50
Epic night with great music and atmosphere - €0

Total - €130

I know what one I prefer. It's even cheaper if you go to Manchester, which I did on Friday night -- Flights were €35. Train return was €10. Club entry was €15. Drink - €40. Breakfast - €10.

Absolutely shattered arriving home at 9am but a little power nap and it's all good. You'll always meet people around if you're not that shy, I'm fairly shy but it doesn't hurt to say hello.

I wouldn't go out to a regular "best of the 90s/00s" club though. It's not my scene unless I've got friends there to keep me occupied

Loved that London clubbing scene when I lived there. Magical nights.
The thoughts of going out for one night with a passport on you? Exciting for sure.

Fair play to you.

Would you go out by yourself?

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