Is it easier for guys to pull women or women to pull guys?

Dublin_Gunner · 22-06-2010 03:51PM

Scenario 1
Guy: Fancy a Shag?
Gal: **Slap**

Scenario 2
Gal: Fancy a shag?
Guy: **boink boink boink boink boink boink**

bonerm · 22-06-2010 03:57PM

I don't know why any bloke would find it unreasonable that he and his peers were getting blanked for some toothless, inbred GAA star when if the tables were turned and blokes were guarenteed offers of action without even having to make an effort he would soon consider many of these offers advances equally valueless and uninteresting.

OutlawPete · 22-06-2010 05:51PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Fair enough but you´re not seeing it from our perspective. Women can smell desperation.

Can they?

What does it smell like / look like?

You really believe this crap, don't you.

This is more drivel made up by women for an excuse to treat men like crap.

What if a guy told you that he was in club "desperate" women kept coming on to him all night?

You'd laugh at him and you'd be right.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

I´ve been in various pubs in Dublin as last orders are approaching. Desperation is not attractive.

If I am in a pub and girl comes up to me and I can tell she is "desperate" for a man and I like her, I'm having her.

Why should I care that she is "desperate"?

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

If you know a man just wants to pull you regardless of what you look like, it´s not very appealing in fairness.

This thread is about "Pulling", not looking for Mr or Mrs Right.

If this so called "desperate radar" puts you off men, fine - but don't tell me that it is easier for a woman to pull than a guy or that men have more options, they don't.

You may be turning down a "desperate" guy, but it is still an option for you that most men do not have.

Show me a nightclub where there will be a few hundred decent looking "desperate" women at 2am.

If you can - then I'll accept you assertion that men have more options with regards to 'pulling'.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Call me out fashioned but desperate decent-looking men with desperation in their eyes are not an option for any self-respecting woman..

Of course it's an "option", one which you have a right not to take, but it is still an option.

These men do not want to marry you, they want to 'pull' you, which is what the thread is about.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

.. most of the time I know very well and I´m just not interested so I choose come across as oblivious so they´ll finally get the message..

Ah, some honesty.

All this "I have no idea if men like me" is tosh, it's oblvious when girls know you are checking them out and of course you have the right to act oblivious.

But here's the thing, how are guys supposed to know the difference between you being coy, shy or that you're just acting oblivious cause you think you smell desperation and so are not interested?

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

If a man doesn´t act like a horny, desperate, drunken idiot, he´ll have PLENTY of options, believe me.

So here we have more of the same old stuff women resort to.

Guys that don't pull are desperate drunken idiots.

Well, guess what - if 'drunk' people are such a turn off for you or any other women, don't go to places that serve alcohol looking to pull.

These are not places to find Hugh Grant types, sipping a mineral water.

Deus Ex Machina · 22-06-2010 06:14PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

Women can smell desperation

You can do this?? You need to get James Randi on the telephone ASAP.

Joking aside, levels of perceptiveness and nous fluctuate between members of either gender, to say that fem. as a whole can establish when a masc. is "desperate" (a pejorative which actually obfuscates the issue a great deal) is clearly ridiculous. There are plenty of gormless men who show themselves to be idiots and fail to succeed in many spheres of activity, not just this contemptible issue at hand, just as there are thick as mud women who lack any level of sagacity.

moonpurple · 22-06-2010 06:17PM

men can pull a bird
or pull themselves
off

spoilt for choice

stupidusername · 22-06-2010 06:19PM

Deus Ex Machina wrote: »

You can do this?? You need to get James Randi on the telephone ASAP.

Joking aside, levels of perceptiveness and nous fluctuate between members of either gender, to say that fem. as a whole can establish when a masc. is "desperate" (a pejorative which actually obfuscates the issue a great deal) is clearly ridiculous. There are plenty of gormless men who show themselves to be idiots and fail to succeed in many spheres of activity, not just this contemptible issue at hand, just as there are thick as mud women who lack any level of sagacity.

I can't smell desperation, I can see it though. You do get a sense of it alright.

Cullen82 · 22-06-2010 06:29PM

ash23 wrote: »

Any attempt I've made to pull a guy on a night out has been successful so in that respect, I think it's easier for women.

Haha Classic!

Snowie · 22-06-2010 06:32PM

alwaysadub wrote: »

I'm a woman,i think it's easier for a fella to pull.

EDIT: I seem to be alone in my thinking.
Maybe i'm just doing it wrong :pac:

what ya mean like walking down the street seeing a bloke O youle do? :pac:

Abi · 22-06-2010 06:35PM

moonpurple wrote: »

men can pull a bird
or pull themselves
off

spoilt for choice

yeah well women can pull

a guy or

flick themselves
off

spoilt for choice

alwaysadub · 22-06-2010 06:45PM

Snow-Monkey wrote: »

what ya mean like walking down the street seeing a bloke O youle do? :pac:

Ah now i'm not that bad that i'll pull randomers walking down the road. Yet.

Snowie · 22-06-2010 06:50PM

alwaysadub wrote: »

Ah now i'm not that bad that i'll pull randomers walking down the road. Yet.

give us a shout when your at the stage

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nice1franko · 22-06-2010 07:06PM

OutlawPete wrote: »

These are not places to find Hugh Grant types, sipping a mineral water.

No, he'll be out in the alley getting blown by a brasser :pac:

BumbleB · 22-06-2010 07:59PM

alwaysadub wrote: »

Ah now i'm not that bad that i'll pull randomers walking down the road. Yet.

I used to work with a lad (dirtbag ) who was completely wired with no discernible standards of any description ,he pulled a beggar one night and she robbed his laptop. eewww

BumbleB · 22-06-2010 08:27PM

OutlawPete wrote: »

Can they?

What does it smell like / look like?

You really believe this crap, don't you.

This is more drivel made up by women for an excuse to treat men like crap.

I can't wait to see Eve's response ,Eve is a little ,should I say "feisty" .

turnfan · 22-06-2010 08:33PM

BumbleB wrote: »

I used to work with a lad (dirtbag ) who was completely wired with no discernible standards of any description ,he pulled a beggar one night and she robbed his laptop. eewww

Oh. My. God.
I usually never trust a random woman who's interested in me, in case she injects me with an iron solution

Greyfox · 22-06-2010 08:50PM

Please close this stupid thread, it's at least 1,000 times easier for women to pull

At 3:00 in your avarage nightclub theirs always loads and loads of guys who would of liked to pull but haven't whereas if ANY women looks approacable/goes to the smoking area/sit's down on her own their guarenteed to have at least one or two guys try to score with them, and if the girl is above average looking she can afford to be quite choosy

rubadub · 22-06-2010 09:15PM

Its a stupid question. Just ask yourself why are there so many more female prostitutes than males ones? no-brainer.

JuneBug29 wrote: »

Also i would like to know how many of the 52 who answered are guys?

Then you should have made a decent poll...

OutlawPete wrote: »

Said it before and I'll say it again.

On a night out, most places you go .. 90% of the guys are out to hook-up.

Whearas, only 10% of the women are out to hook-up.

I don't think this is the case at all, depends on what you call a hook up though. I think most men would gladly ride whatever came along but many are not out specifically looking for it, they do not even expect it. I do not go out looking to find a €20 note, if one comes along sure as hell I will pick it up! I think a lot of women going out would like to be chatted up, but not do the chatting up, and are not going to ride whatever does chat them up. So it is easier to pretend they do not give a damn so if nobody does chat them up they have not appeared to have "failed", though like many men many might not give a damn. I think most want to be at least noticed, otherwise why would they go to so much bother doing themselves up with makeup etc, -oh right for themselves :rolleyes: -give me a break- if all men were struck down dead tomorrow do you really think makeup sales would not drop...

Sharlovesjohn wrote: »

I was always approaching men on a night out most couldnt have been bothered with me as im a brunette

Yeah, no man would ever fuck a dark haired girl, all virgin spinsters are brunettes. FFS go to gumtree and put up an ad looking for a ride and within seconds you would get a response, a man putting up a similar ad would only get responses from prostitutes.

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

A serious question: how can you pull someone you don´t think is attractive? I don´t get it. What´s the point? Why??

This genuine confusion says it all too...

Darksaga87 · 22-06-2010 09:29PM

Fat birds are harder to pull cause they are fat.

MIN2511 · 22-06-2010 09:33PM

Hmmm.... I dunno about this, being female i am very shy when it comes to chatting up men and would never chat up a guy...

PK2008 · 22-06-2010 09:33PM

Eve_Dublin wrote: »

PK2008....see the comment above? This is the kind of shiite women have to contend with and puts them off. Still a stigma attached to women talking the initiative and approaching a man in some circles.

Men figure out pretty young that unless they make the first move nothing will happen.

Even the shy guys will give it a shot once in a while, its very rare to see women attempt it though.

I think, in general, men are just willing to take more risks then women, in this regard at least.

If they did though, Ive no doubt the average womans success rate would be way higher than an average lads

BumbleB · 22-06-2010 10:19PM

PK2008 wrote: »

its very rare to see women attempt it though.

Thats not true at least in my experience .

rubadub · 22-06-2010 10:40PM

MIN2511 wrote: »

Hmmm.... I dunno about this, being female i am very shy when it comes to chatting up men and would never chat up a guy...

That was NOT the question, and I think too many are reading it like that, i.e. seeing the question as something like are men more likely to chat up women or something. Of course they are, and of course it is easier for women to pull men.

It would be like if the question was "is it easier for guys to pick up a heavy handbag, or women to pick up a heavy handbags". And me replying "oh, I dunno, being a male I would rarely need to pick up a handbag, so I say women do it easier, I see them do it all the time with ease", when it is blatantly obvious men are naturally stronger.

sarmer · 22-06-2010 11:34PM

I'm female and totally think that guys can pull much more easily!!!

Guys can just go up to a girl they like and chat her up. A girl generally can't do the same without being judged - sad but true.

Not wanting to sound in any way full of myself, but I don't think I'm a bad looking girl (although I'm not a model either!), I'm a size ten, dress well and I'm friendly to people when I'm out and about. I rarely if ever get chatted up. I haven't kissed anyone in a couple of months and I go out every weekend.

Guys have it easier because guys have the power in the dating/mating game. It shouldn't be that way but it is.

22-06-2010 11:55PM

sarmer wrote: »

I'm female and totally think that guys can pull much more easily!!!

Guys can just go up to a girl they like and chat her up. A girl generally can't do the same without being judged - sad but true.

Not wanting to sound in any way full of myself, but I don't think I'm a bad looking girl (although I'm not a model either!), I'm a size ten, dress well and I'm friendly to people when I'm out and about. I rarely if ever get chatted up. I haven't kissed anyone in a couple of months and I go out every weekend.

Guys have it easier because guys have the power in the dating/mating game. It shouldn't be that way but it is.

You're probably fairly stunning but not cheap looking so lads reckon there's not much point chatting her up. I chatted up one of you before and she completely ignored me, 'twas lovely having all that power you speak of

(I hope you get chatted up by a lovely chap this weekend)

BumbleB · 22-06-2010 11:56PM

sarmer wrote: »

I'm female and totally think that guys can pull much more easily!!!

Guys can just go up to a girl they like and chat her up. A girl generally can't do the same without being judged - sad but true.

Not wanting to sound in any way full of myself, but I don't think I'm a bad looking girl (although I'm not a model either!), I'm a size ten, dress well and I'm friendly to people when I'm out and about. I rarely if ever get chatted up. I haven't kissed anyone in a couple of months and I go out every weekend.

Guys have it easier because guys have the power in the dating/mating game. It shouldn't be that way but it is.

Where in the name of god did you get the idea you were being judged ?. ,just go for it girl .All it takes is HELLO !:)

sarmer · 23-06-2010 12:03AM

You're probably fairly stunning but not cheap looking so lads reckon there's not much point chatting her up. I chatted up one of you before and she completely ignored me, 'twas lovely having all that power you speak of

(I hope you get chatted up by a lovely chap this weekend)

Thanks!

And it really irrates me when girls are really rude to a guy who makes the effort to chat up a girl. Even if a girl isn't interested, she should always be polite. I'd only be rude if a guy was being seriously weird or sleazy.

Where in the name of god did you get the idea you were being judged ?. ,just go for it girl .All it takes is HELLO !

Any time I've ever made an effort to initiate chat or make any kind of contact etc when I'm out I get funny looks!!

TheTosh · 23-06-2010 12:10AM

Just go to Fibbers on Parnell St, the place is crawling with confident girls willing to chat up blokes

BumbleB · 23-06-2010 12:13AM

TheTosh wrote: »

Just go to Fibbers on Parnell St, the place is crawling with confident girls willing to chat up blokes

Gone ....................................

BumbleB · 23-06-2010 12:21AM

sarmer wrote: »

Any time I've ever made an effort to initiate chat or make any kind of contact etc when I'm out I get funny looks!!

Interesting from exactly who ?.

TheTosh · 23-06-2010 12:27AM

BumbleB wrote: »

Interesting from exactly who ?.

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Is it easier for guys to pull women or women to pull guys?

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