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confession: i may be a bit homophobic!

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  • #32
    Gary4279
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 419 ✭✭Gary4279


    Galwaymother wrote: »
    Hi!
    Well I have gay male friends of all types (they do like to live in Paris...), and the one who is most fun to be with, for my husband,

    hmmmm.....:p


  • #33
    sponsoredwalk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭sponsoredwalk


    flanum wrote: »
    i dunno.. maybe somebody qualified or something can come up with some freudian explanation about this...

    There's your problem right there...

    Just try to accept people for who they are without analyzing trying to find some ulterior motive, fostering the hate gets nobody nowhere...


  • #34
    orourkeda
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,916 ✭✭✭✭orourkeda


    flanum wrote: »
    (as thread title says) im not sure but i think i may be.. im certainly uncomfortable around blatantly camp gay men, yet im fairly comfortable around gay women (im a straight male by the way). Now in my experiences, ive had a one night stand with 2 lesbian women (actually one of them was bi cos she said i was allowed to "participate" with her but not the other lassie)!
    i dont feel like i have any anti- gay feelings etc,, its just that overtly camp men kind of annoy the **** out of me... i dunno.. maybe somebody qualified or something can come up with some freudian explanation about this... but anyhows.... without trying to troll or anything... i just find myself uncomfortable around camp gay men..

    also.. do straight women feel comfortable around feminine gay women??

    this is my crappy response to all the other threads about transsexual adoptions etc.. im givin a voice to maybe some of us that are still not that fully up on the whole shebang of it!?!

    Niiiiiccccce


  • #35
    doncarlos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,860 ✭✭✭doncarlos


    AskMyChocolate wrote: »
    A lesbian snogged me once too.

    Before she became a lesbian?? That's not something you should boast about :P


  • #36
    sbsquarepants
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,810 ✭✭✭✭sbsquarepants


    doncarlos wrote: »
    Before she became a lesbian?? That's not something you should boast about :P

    I think i've turned a girl or two myself! I wonder if i can claim commission from somewhere?


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  • #37
    ibarelycare
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 58,456 ✭✭✭✭ibarelycare


    I have 2 male gay friends and both of them hate the camp stereotype (well one of them is slightly camp, but he denies it!). Personally, I don't mind a bit of campness, as long as it's not TOO in your face...but then I hate in-your-face people in general.

    I wouldn't feel uncomfortable around lesbians either, be they feminine or masculine (butch I guess? I hate that word!)

    I hate the attitude that some (a lot!) of straight Irish men have around gay men, when they think that JUST because the guy is gay he's going to hit on him! Get over yourself!


  • #38
    Kasabian
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    liah wrote: »
    Camp doesn't necessarily mean gay.

    Yes you are correct , but in tends to . What with the generalisation on AH , camp = gay.


  • #39
    Banned Account
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,553 ✭✭✭Banned Account


    flanum wrote: »
    (as thread title says) im not sure but i think i may be.. im certainly uncomfortable around blatantly camp gay men, yet im fairly comfortable around gay women (im a straight male by the way). Now in my experiences dreams, ive had a one night stand with 2 lesbian women (actually one of them was bi cos she said i was allowed to "participate" with her but not the other lassie)!
    i dont feel like i have any anti- gay feelings etc,, its just that overtly camp men kind of annoy the **** out of me... i dunno.. maybe somebody qualified or something can come up with some freudian explanation about this... but anyhows.... without trying to troll or anything... i just find myself uncomfortable around camp gay men..

    also.. do straight women feel comfortable around feminine gay women??

    this is my crappy response to all the other threads about transsexual adoptions etc.. im givin a voice to maybe some of us that are still not that fully up on the whole shebang of it!?!

    Fixed;)


  • #40
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,424 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    ibarelycare wrote: »
    I hate the attitude that some (a lot!) of straight Irish men have around gay men, when they think that JUST because the guy is gay he's going to hit on him! Get over yourself!

    I've got a brother to stear'em towards so I've nothing to worry about...


  • #41
    fryup
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18,067 ✭✭✭✭fryup


    Whats get me is this recent phenomenon (in this country) of the "gay friend"..people who previously wouldn't be seen dead with a gay person now have a gay friend so as to look trendy/hip.

    None more so than in my workplace where there is this gay guy who alot people lick up to...they think he's such great fun to be with, well he's not he's a nasty peice of work that spreads viscous rumours about other work collegues but if you complain you're accused of being homophobic OR not getting his gay ways. eerrrrr!!!!!


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  • #42
    Mr. Presentable
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,495 ✭✭✭Mr. Presentable


    OP, don't blame yourself. Gay is spooky - to quote Homer "If there was a law it'd be against it"

    To quote F Boyle
    Dear Points of View, watching Queer Eye For The Straight Guy made me think that if I had gay friends, they'd give me fashion tips. Actually, they f*cked me

    :pac:


  • #43
    Mr. Presentable
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,495 ✭✭✭Mr. Presentable


    fryup wrote: »
    Whats get me is this recent phenomenon (in this country) of the "gay friend"..people who previously wouldn't be seen dead with a gay person now have a gay friend so as to look trendy/hip.

    None more so than in my workplace where there is this gay guy who alot people lick up to...they think he's such great fun to be with, well he's not he's a nasty peice of work that spreads viscous rumours about other work collegues but if you complain you're accused of being homophobic OR not getting his gay ways. eerrrrr!!!!!

    Ah, the gay as fashion accessory.

    Viscous rumours are without question the most difficult to spread........


  • #44
    Foxhound38
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,547 ✭✭✭Foxhound38


    It depends. It annoys me when the campness is so OTT that it's blatently put on - they tend to be the loud and abnoxious ones. With that said I have known lads (in the closet, out of the closet and straight) that have been fairly campish all their lives and I'm totally fine with it, because when it's genuine it tends to be at a lower level and just seems less forced. I tend to get annoyed at people that have make their every action about their sexuality, as if who they choose to sleep with is the only defining aspect of their lives - I dislike the OTT camp gay lads in the same way as I dislike the OTT macho straight lads that need to spend every waking moment proving how straight they are. Sometimes you feel like saying to the extremely camp ones: "Lad, you're gay, we get it. Chill out ffs..."

    That said I'm a big fan of Sen. David Norris! :D


  • #45
    reallyrose
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,727 ✭✭✭reallyrose


    Karl Hungus wrote: »

    The world IS a mobius strip, damn you!

    It would be so awesome if that were true. Imagine the pain in your face looking at an atlas?

    I have to say that the super-camp gay guys annoy me as well. Yer man off Pineapple Dance Studio? Argh!
    But I am not annoyed by them because they are gay exactly. I just think that they are doing LGBT folk no favors. Same as the people who behave like any stereotype. I'm not gay though, so maybe I am being over-PC about the issue, or something.

    Also, any really loud person is annoying.

    My clarity of thought sucks.

    /me waits for the LGBT army to show up with lynching ropes.


  • #46
    philstar
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 2,985 ✭✭✭philstar


    Foxhound38 wrote: »
    That said I'm a big fan of Sen. David Norris! :D

    he wrecks my head:( can't stand him

    much prefer discreet gays like Louis Walsh


  • #47
    Foxhound38
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,547 ✭✭✭Foxhound38


    philstar wrote: »
    he wrecks my head:( can't stand him

    much prefer discreet gays like Louis Walsh

    Ah but you gotta admit, at least the man has a sense of humour! :pac:


  • #48
    pickarooney
    Moderators, Arts Moderators Posts: 36,496 Mod ✭✭✭✭pickarooney


    I'm a bit confused. There was a gay bad guy in Desperate Housewives?


  • #49
    bonerm
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,594 ✭✭✭bonerm


    philstar wrote: »
    much prefer discreet gays like Louis Walsh

    He does do a good job of downplaying it. Tom Cruise too.


  • #50
    Noreen1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,654 ✭✭✭Noreen1


    I don't have a problem with someone being camp - but I find "exaggerated" camp really irritating. Having said that - I also find either "exaggerated" masculinity or femininity thoroughly annoying. So, I suppose I just dislike exaggerated or "loud" behaviour, generally.

    I don't really have a problem with "masculine" lesbians either, unless they refuse to accept that the object of their affections is heterosexual - in that case, it becomes a problem!

    Noreen


  • #51
    RMD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,662 ✭✭✭RMD


    Any form of exaggerated attitude is headwrecking. Guys who act macho hardman, girls who scream "OMG" and sound like a gaggle of geese, gay lads who act more like girls, extreme feminist butch lesbians.

    If you're gay that's fine, if you're naturally camp that's fine, if you put on some whiny high pitched voice and deliberately act camp to show you're different, you're an attention seeking whore. Same goes for the other examples I mentioned.


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  • #52
    Joe Cool
    Closed Accounts Posts: 324 ✭✭Joe Cool


    flanum wrote: »
    (im a straight male by the way). Now in my experiences, ive had a one night stand with 2 lesbian women

    That certain tops my one night stand with 2 gay men.

    Totally agree with you though, camping is so ghey.


  • #53
    Killer Pigeon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,125 ✭✭✭Killer Pigeon


    Some straight men and bi men are camp too.

    Also it's been proven that a gay man would prefer to have sex with two lesbians than have sex with just one woman.


  • #54
    TheTMO
    Closed Accounts Posts: 403 ✭✭TheTMO


    Was this whole thread just an excuse to say you had a threesome?


  • #55
    flanum
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,107 ✭✭✭flanum


    TheTMO wrote: »
    Was this whole thread just an excuse to say you had a threesome?

    it wasnt.. but it is now... wahey.. actually they were both mingers but it was definitely something that doesnt happen everyday so waaheeyy!!

    but no, still tryin to get me head round the whole campness scenario and goin by all the replies thank fook im not alone..!!

    BUT in the words of john lennon ) (I dig a Pygmy by Charles Hawtrey and the Deaf Aids . . . Phase One in which Doris gets her oats," on The Beatles "Let It Be" album.

    charles hawtrey legend of the campness!!


  • #56
    Killer Pigeon
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,125 ✭✭✭Killer Pigeon


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jexGQM0VRQI


    This guy kinda annoys me though.


  • #57
    karlog
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,563 ✭✭✭karlog


    everyones gay once ina while. no need to confess OP

    Edit: i read the title wrong


  • #58
    bigeasyeah
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,290 ✭✭✭bigeasyeah


    You re probably homosexual. Carry on camping.


  • #59
    dublinguy2004
    Closed Accounts Posts: 191 ✭✭dublinguy2004


    flanum wrote: »
    (as thread title says) im not sure but i think i may be.. im certainly uncomfortable around blatantly camp gay men, yet im fairly comfortable around gay women (im a straight male by the way). Now in my experiences, ive had a one night stand with 2 lesbian women (actually one of them was bi cos she said i was allowed to "participate" with her but not the other lassie)!
    i dont feel like i have any anti- gay feelings etc,, its just that overtly camp men kind of annoy the **** out of me... i dunno.. maybe somebody qualified or something can come up with some freudian explanation about this... but anyhows.... without trying to troll or anything... i just find myself uncomfortable around camp gay men..

    also.. do straight women feel comfortable around feminine gay women??

    this is my crappy response to all the other threads about transsexual adoptions etc.. im givin a voice to maybe some of us that are still not that fully up on the whole shebang of it!?!

    Why do you feel the need to have to apologise for your instincts and pussy-foot around the PC mindset that's currently in vogue?

    I know lots of people who engage in homosexual acts and I can work with them and be friends with them, but I don't approve of their behaviour.


  • #60
    Seloth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,038 ✭✭✭Seloth


    A good friend of my is Gay and he hates all that,especially gay pride parades and speaking as a straight fella his guy is quite gay to most people standards too but theres a guy know about((Whos nickname is pretty much Fagam)) and he despises him for the simple fact he's all like "Whooo look at me I'm so gay".He goes no about how he's just attention seeking.


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  • #61
    altairscreed
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 645 ✭✭✭altairscreed


    Camp gay's wreck my head, i mean WTF are you, are you trying to be a girl because if you are then it's not working also do they have something wrong in their head's because who else act's like that, do they have no shame, have they ever heard of being embarressed, i dont give a sh1t about them being gay it's just how they act:confused:


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