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Failed Job Hunt Ends in Overdose at 21

  • 23-04-2010 05:24PM
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 61 ✭✭


    Very sad story. The title really speaks for itself. Although in the UK, it highlights the universal tradegy of starting your adult life on the dole queue. Youth, rejection and a feeling of hopelessness are a lethal combination. Let Ireland be warned as youth unemployment is much higher here. Indeed, I, like many others, will be joining them again soon I'd imagine.

    As taken from the Times:
    A young woman who had left school with ten GCSEs and three A levels apparently killed herself because she felt “humiliated” when she could not get a job.

    Vicky Harrison, 21, spent two years looking for work but with no success. The day after receiving yet another letter saying that she had failed in her application and interview for a job, this time at a nursery, she took an overdose of pills, her family said.

    She left a note to them which read: “I don’t want to be me any more. Please don’t be sad. It is not your fault. I want everybody in my life to be happy.”

    The case comes the day after unemployment rose to a 16-year high of 2.5 million.

    Miss Harrison’s mother, Louise, said: “She kept asking me why things weren’t working out for her. I think she had so many knock-backs that it affected her confidence and it is no wonder that she was not getting jobs when she was so lacking in confidence.”

    Her father, Tony, said: “In the end it obviously got her down to such a point that she felt she had no future. It shouldn’t have been like that. She had a lot to give and was very determined.”

    Describing their daughter as “wonderful and bubbly”, they said she was struggling to get by on Jobseeker’s allowance and felt she was losing touch with her friends because she could not afford to go out with them. Mrs Harrison added: “But also she was humiliated that she couldn’t find work. It was an embarrassing situation for her.”

    Miss Harrison, from Darwen, Lancashire, had ten GCSEs at grade A-C and three A levels at grade B-D, but could not find work after dropping out of university in her first year.

    She was due to sign-on at the Jobcentre the next morning. More than 270 people have posted tributes to her on Facebook, the social networking website. Now the family, along with her boyfriend Nathan Haworth, hope to set up a charity or foundation in her name to provide support for the thousands of young people who struggle with being unemployed.

    New figures show that there are more than 4,000 young people claiming Jobseeker’s allowance in East Lancashire, up about 48 per cent since the country went into recession.

    The family said that Miss Harrison left three suicide notes, one each for her mother, father and boyfriend. They said she had no history of depression but had become upset at her lack of success in the jobs market. She had applied for about a dozen jobs a week, which included shop work, waitressing and being a school dinner lady. Her father said he found her in the sitting room of her disabled mother’s home on March 31. She was surrounded by pill packs and tablet bottles.

    Mr Harrison said: “She was such a gorgeous girl and had a stunning smile. She was clever too. There was no reason why she shouldn’t have been able to find a job.”

    Miss Harrison met her boyfriend more than three years ago on a night out in Blackburn where Mr Haworth, 22, lives. He said he had lost his “soulmate” and added: “We want to start a group where we can raise awareness for people who are struggling like Vicky was. It needs to be a place where people can talk and understand that it is not the end of the world.”

    Vicky’s funeral took place last week at Darwen Masonic Hall.
    A full inquest is set for next month.


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Comments

  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    Stories like these dont shock me anymore. I know two guys that took their lives this year because they lost their jobs and couldnt provide for their families.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    A very sad case indeed.
    Sympathies to her family.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,651 ✭✭✭✭El Weirdo


    Kiera wrote: »
    Stories like these dont shock me anymore. I know two guys that took their lives this year because they lost their jobs and couldnt provide for their families.
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    Kiera wrote: »
    Stories like these dont shock me anymore. I know two guys that took their lives this year because they lost their jobs and couldnt provide for their families.

    Ah yeah but they're guys, it's way more tragic and worth publishing in a national newspaper when it's a woman it happens to.


    Sad case, though a classic example of middle-class journalism.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?

    Suicide tends not to follow from the kind of logic that someone who has never been in that situation would understand.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,589 ✭✭✭✭dsmythy


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?

    I guess when you fall into that dark hole you lose your capacity for rational thinking.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,102 ✭✭✭easyeason3


    If half the people I've heard of that have taken their lives because of the recession then we are in big trouble.

    What does the government do about it? Offer advice? Support?

    Nah...they just pr!ck around the Dail trying to score points off each other & deluding themselves that they are the best ones to bring this country around or that we actually give a flying fcuk about any of them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    That's really awful.

    I know getting a job is a big deal, but no one should ever feel that they're not good enough or whatever because they can't get one. It's just so sad that things got to that stage for her where she felt that she was at a point with no return. Things like this really affect me. It's such a pity there isn't more than can de done because losing a life over a job, it seems so trivial.

    RIP.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,651 ✭✭✭✭El Weirdo


    amacachi wrote: »
    Suicide tends not to follow from the kind of logic that someone in that situation would understand.
    dsmythy wrote: »
    I guess when you fall into that dark hole you lose your capacity for rational thinking.
    Obviously.

    Must be awful to be in that state of mind.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Obviously.

    Must be awful to be in that state of mind.

    Indeed.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    That is just so sad :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,510 ✭✭✭wicklowwonder


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?

    Agree it is very sad and again wish to not feel or sound insensitive but why don't people see the other side of problems? we all have have hard times in our life be it redundancy or relationships breaking up etc. really feel a human has alot more to offer our race alive than dead....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    That poor girls family .

    RIP.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 9,182 ✭✭✭dvpower


    easyeason3 wrote: »
    If half the people I've heard of that have taken their lives because of the recession then we are in big trouble.

    What does the government do about it? Offer advice? Support?

    Nah...they just pr!ck around the Dail trying to score points off each other & deluding themselves that they are the best ones to bring this country around or that we actually give a flying fcuk about any of them.

    For some information about what the government does about it, you can check here
    http://www.nosp.ie/
    There are lots of links to the resources that are available.


    (Or were you just looking for an excuse for a rant?)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21,190 ✭✭✭✭Latchy




  • Closed Accounts Posts: 13,130 ✭✭✭✭Kiera


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?
    I guess all they think about it the pain they're in and just want to end it. Kinda like tunnel vision.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 34,567 ✭✭✭✭Biggins


    Agree it is very sad and again wish to not feel or sound insensitive but why don't people see the other side of problems? we all have have hard times in our life be it redundancy or relationships breaking up etc. really feel a human has alot more to offer our race alive than dead....
    Deep, deep depression is a very hard thing to understand to those outside it and a vary hard thing to climb out of when your in that hole of depression.
    I know, I speak from experience, having been there a number of years ago after losing a wife, home and other things at the time I considered important (I don't no longer - my kids happiness and health is my main worry now).

    True deep depression is seriously like a well hole that your at the bottom of and you can't see a ladder to help you climb out of.
    I would say you have to be there to understand what drove the poor girl to take the outcome that she did - but I wouldn't wish anyone to experience deep depression.
    Its an experience you will never forget if you manage to pull through and recover.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    Latchy wrote: »


    It's even sadder when you see that picture with that big lovely smile.


  • Posts: 24,286 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    Jesus these stories are so sad. :(
    Consider that the competition for jobs is so intense (barristers and accountants are queuing in their droves for one or 2 jobs in Mcdonalds ffs).

    tragic waste of life. RIP to the bereaved.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,510 ✭✭✭wicklowwonder


    Biggins wrote: »
    Deep, deep depression is a very hard thing to understand to those outside it and a vary hard thing to climb out of when your in that hole of depression.
    I know, I speak from experience, having been there a number of years ago after losing a wife, home and other things at the time I considered important (I don't no longer - my kids happiness and health is my main worry now).

    True deep depression is seriously like a well hole that your at the bottom of and you can't see a ladder to help you climb out of.
    I would say you have to be there to understand what drove the poor girl to take the outcome that she did - but I wouldn't wish anyone to experience deep depression.
    Its an experience you will never forget if you manage to pull through and recover.

    I realise now thinking about my post it was very insensitive and I truley have never been in those circumstances and I wish to apologise my feelings on this topic are not relevant...

    sorry RIP


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 142 ✭✭fcussen


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Sad.

    I don't want to seem insensitive but I always wonder how anyone could kill themselves for that reason. How are their families better off with them dead?

    I'm sure hearing loads of self-righteous "why don't you lazy spongers stop draining the state and robbing me of my taxes you useless gits" rhetoric probably doesn't help.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,102 ✭✭✭easyeason3


    dvpower wrote: »
    For some information about what the government does about it, you can check here
    http://www.nosp.ie/
    There are lots of links to the resources that are available.


    (Or were you just looking for an excuse for a rant?)

    Part rant but a lot of anger too.

    They give with one hand & take with the other.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 366 ✭✭johnnyjb


    dvpower wrote: »
    For some information about what the government does about it, you can check here
    http://www.nosp.ie/
    There are lots of links to the resources that are available.


    (Or were you just looking for an excuse for a rant?)

    I personally never heard of that group or website and id like to think im moderately up to date with the internet. How do you set up a website and expect people that never heard of it to find it and not commit suicide when their at the edge. They prob think that excuse of a thing is covering their ass in this sad thing people go through.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    Biggins wrote: »
    Deep, deep depression is a very hard thing to understand to those outside it and a vary hard thing to climb out of when your in that hole of depression.
    I know, I speak from experience, having been there a number of years ago after losing a wife, home and other things at the time I considered important (I don't no longer - my kids happiness and health is my main worry now).

    True deep depression is seriously like a well hole that your at the bottom of and you can't see a ladder to help you climb out of.
    I would say you have to be there to understand what drove the poor girl to take the outcome that she did - but I wouldn't wish anyone to experience deep depression.
    Its an experience you will never forget if you manage to pull through and recover.

    I too have experienced that black hole , it is a dreadful place to be , for anyone that thinks they are in it , I implore you to talk to someone.

    My best mate took his own life 20 years ago and I still wonder if things could have been different if he had opened up and talked to someone.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,058 ✭✭✭Gurgle


    Every sympathy for the poor girl & her family, but
    could not find work after dropping out of university in her first year
    kinda sounds like the start of the depression spiral preceeded the unemployment problem.

    Its a bit of a stretch making it a story about the recession.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21,190 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    lonad wrote: »
    It's even sadder when you see that picture with that big lovely smile.

    Yes , that's just the thing that hits home , talented attractive young girl , boyfriend , loving family , with all her life ahead of her who should be looking foreward to a great future but had enough of rejection and felt such a failure she takes her own life .


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 10,898 ✭✭✭✭seanybiker


    El Weirdo wrote: »
    Obviously.

    Must be awful to be in that state of mind.
    Well its not fun anyways. Dont be thinking straight half the time.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,688 ✭✭✭Kasabian


    Latchy wrote: »
    Yes , that's just the thing that hits home , talented attractive young girl , boyfriend , loving family , with all her life ahead of her who should be looking foreward to a great future but had enough of rejection and felt such a failure she takes her own life .

    Sadly Latchy , I am sure there are many more out there who are feeling just as low because of the way things have turned out during the downturn.


  • Posts: 24,286 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    fcussen wrote: »
    I'm sure hearing loads of self-righteous "why don't you lazy spongers stop draining the state and robbing me of my taxes you useless gits" rhetoric probably doesn't help.


    there's not many of them "why don't you lazy spongers stop draining the state and robbing me of my taxes you useless gits" round these times in fairness. its harder to meet someone in a job.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 23,315 ✭✭✭✭amacachi


    Gurgle wrote: »
    Every sympathy for the poor girl & her family, but kinda sounds like the start of the depression spiral preceeded the unemployment problem.

    Its a bit of a stretch making it a story about the recession.

    As I said, it's a very middle-class piece of journalism. Even her school exam results were mediocre at best.
    Being decent looking, coming from a decent family and, probably most of all, being female is what makes this noteworthy in journalism terms.


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