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Would many girls approach guys on a night out?

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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,345 ✭✭✭landsleaving


    Everyone. EVERYONE!!! has been rejected lots of times. Trust me, I know I have, and not always very nicely either! Don't let it bother you, it's no fun but meh, no major loss, they weren't nice enough to have a chat with you so they probably weren't worth it anyway.

    Oh and if you think you're probably maybe attractive, you're more than likely great looking. In my experience girls either think 'I'm gorgeous' and look like they had a nasty accident in a make up factory or are like you and haven't a clue how the opposite sex really sees them. You could be intimidatingly gorgeous for all you know! I had to find that out about myself the hard way. (*Cough* lies... *cough*.)

    Oh and if it makes you feel any better my quite shy girlfirend approached me in a club, then proceeded to make me make all the conversation, so maybe try that. Didn't bother me


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 387 ✭✭force majeure


    Strange as it may sound but until I started reading this topic I thought to myself 'never happens to me' now though I realised it does. Women mainly well say Hi just about any where,bus stops shops doorways smoking a ciggy so all you got to do me thinks is not think about it or plan it, just walk up near some one and say Hi ye. Bingo your off.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭jackiebaron


    I understand what you are saying and thanks. See in my past, I have ben rejected by guys I like and therefore have no confidence with guys anymore, and am too afraid of been rejected again. So for a long time I go out, and live in hope that someone speaks to me, which dosn't happen, and then I'm here on my own. I don't wish to complain about it or anything, but I just find it really hard to talk to someone I like, its definately my weakest point, but something I need to fix. Sure I'll get there! Alot of good advice and opinions here, so thanks to everyone

    Ara, for Jaysus sake, snap out of it girl! Have you ever gone on a job interview and been rejected? Hasn't made you sit in your room and never apply for a position again, has it? If that was the case you'd starve to death or spend your life on welfare. I was once in a bar in New York with a group of friends. This attractive older blonde lady walked in and sat at the end of the bar and ordered a drink. She looked like a fairly powerful woman who'd had a bad day and I said to my mates "Gentlemen, watch and learn". I approached the woman and before I could get a word out of my mouth she exhaled a drag of her cigarette and without even looking at me she said "Go to hell!". My mates and the barman howled with laughter. It was priceless. A real "I'll get my coat" moment.

    Don't be frightened of rejection. Sometimes it can be a cleansing experience. Sometimes an education. Sometimes even a relief. And sometimes funny. I think you'll find that as a woman, 9 times out of 10 you WON'T be rejected.
    Just remember, the nervous, blushing, stuttering, stammering candidate in a situation like this is the sweetest and most charming thing imaginable in these tense romantic moments.
    If a girl blushed and stuttered in my presence I'd be in love with her straight away. It would tell me that she's infatuated with me.


  • Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,441 ✭✭✭old hippy


    What would you say though? Us Irish don't approach randomers anywhere else so I'm still convinced if I said hi to a randomer, they'd look at me like I'd grown a second head!

    Whaaat? Sez who? :confused:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Fago! wrote: »
    A girl more often then not has all the power in these situations.

    Fago... can I interest you in a night of passion?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 21,731 ✭✭✭✭entropi


    Is this the one serious thread a month that nobody ruins? sweet!:)

    OP, i wish ye the best of luck in getting yerself a man...it is true that men would like women to do more of the chasing, but most of the time that wont happen in Ireland so i guess you'll have to do some too:D Have fun!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,009 ✭✭✭KarmaGarda


    Tellin ya, blokes get rejected all the time. I'm not really one of those "approachers" unless I reckon I'm in with a chance. I don't do this machine gun cocky effort to plant my seeds, I pick and choose, and I still got rejected about 4/5 times.

    On the flip side, being approached can be mighty hot. If she's cocky and confident a lot of the times she just wants a drink out of ya and then buggers off (had this happen too. I learnt quick, only let it happen about 10 times). But, if the girl is fumbling her words a bit and a bit embarrassed, and seems like she's actually into you, she'd barely have time to blink before me cacks would hit the floor... although maybe that's why I spent a lot of my life single...

    Anyway, just do it, balls first (or breasts in your case) and think later. Seriously, before you have time to think, just do it. Start walking over, seriously, just start walking, and a couple of hours later when yer burnin the leather off the back seat of your car you'll wonder what all the fuss was about. (...or weeks later, I dunno how long ye yung uns wait these days)

    Good luck. Happy lampin.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,010 ✭✭✭Shapey Fiend


    Foreign women are much more inclined to approach, and make pretty overt signs that they're interested. Irish women hardly ever do this. Not that I'm complaining. I find the other a little bit intimidating. I'm used to having to chase so that's my comfort zone. :D

    Ratio of men and women in a place makes a huuuuge difference as well. I'm down the country and there are feck all women around so any attractive women are getting approached constantly and they don't bother doing much of it themselves. If you go to Dublin the ratio can sometimes be women than me (shock horror!) and you find the dynamic changes.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,587 ✭✭✭Xinkai


    Abitar wrote: »
    Fago... can I interest you in a night of passion?

    Gwan the Fago!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,647 ✭✭✭✭Fago!


    Abitar wrote: »
    Fago... can I interest you in a night of passion?

    Yes..... Yes you can Abi. After Hours beers. ;)
    Xinkai wrote: »
    Gwan the Fago!

    Fagoooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Woo!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    Fago! wrote: »
    Yes..... Yes you can Abi. After Hours beers. ;)

    Wat?! You're gonna make me wait?? :eek:



    Fuck that shit...



    /booty calls


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,647 ✭✭✭✭Fago!


    Abitar wrote: »
    Wat?! You're gonna make me wait?? :eek:



    Fuck that shit...



    /booty calls

    PM baaaaaaaaayyyyyyyybzzzzz


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭jackiebaron


    Abitar wrote: »
    Fago... can I interest you in a night of passion?


    OP, there's your answer right there. Walk up to the bloke and utter the words above.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,647 ✭✭✭✭Fago!


    Fago... can I interest you in a night of passion?
    OP, there's your answer right there. Walk up to the bloke and utter the words above.

    What if that bloke's not called Fago!?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    OP, there's your answer right there. Walk up to the bloke and utter the words above.

    They've never let me down anyway...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,647 ✭✭✭✭Fago!


    Abitar wrote: »
    They've never let me down anyway...

    Courage is the way to a mans penis heart


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 266 ✭✭GHOST MGG2


    Years ago i was approached by 2 women in a irish bar in paris..both stunners..i thought all my birthdays had come together when they asked me back to there apartment..we were sitting on a couch in there front room drinking vodka and talking ****e.next thing the "lets hit the sack" conversation started,so like shergar at the track i made my way into there bedroom,they went to get "ready".I decided to start to take me clothes off..with that these 2 massive african gentleman burst out of a sliderobes kinda wardrobe and grabbed me.my whole life flashed in front of my eyes,after getting a few slaps they took my coat and wallet and my watch and they ran..i was like wtf..i put my jocks back on and legged it..didnt even see the 2 chicks.Long story short in the end it was some kinda setup that had being happening in that area for a while the gendarmes said,the apartment was rented to a 60yr artist who was on holidays.So anytime a woman approaches me i get that scared rabbit look and run..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 3,038 ✭✭✭jackiebaron


    Abitar wrote: »
    They've never let me down anyway...

    I was in this bar in Amsterdam vying for the attention of this sparkly English maiden with some other boorish spud-head. He eventually threw down the gauntlet stating to me (and her) that she was going home with him. I said "Fine mate, but I don't think you'll both fit under your rock."

    I made her a lovely brekky the next morning. The shameless minx scabbed taxi money off me too to get back to her hotel. I was only too happy to oblige. It added to the sensation of being used. :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    The shameless minx scabbed taxi money off me too to get back to her hotel. I was only too happy to oblige. It added to the sensation of being used. :D


    I like her style!


    /makes up phone number :pac:


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 204 ✭✭red herring


    Yep I would defo approach a hot guy on a night out, I just accidently bump into him, or ask him for a smoke, or start dancing with him on the dancefloor.. But I usually need a drink before I'm fully confident, so I'm trying to work on that! :)


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 50 ✭✭Opium led greed


    GHOST MGG2 wrote: »
    Years ago i was approached by 2 women in a irish bar in paris..both stunners..i thought all my birthdays had come together when they asked me back to there apartment..we were sitting on a couch in there front room drinking vodka and talking ****e.next thing the "lets hit the sack" conversation started,so like shergar at the track i made my way into there bedroom,they went to get "ready".I decided to start to take me clothes off..with that these 2 massive african gentleman burst out of a sliderobes kinda wardrobe and grabbed me.my whole life flashed in front of my eyes,after getting a few slaps they took my coat and wallet and my watch and they ran..i was like wtf..i put my jocks back on and legged it..didnt even see the 2 chicks.Long story short in the end it was some kinda setup that had being happening in that area for a while the gendarmes said,the apartment was rented to a 60yr artist who was on holidays.So anytime a woman approaches me i get that scared rabbit look and run..

    The french sure do put a lot of effort into their muggings, makes our local "gimme yer bleedin phone" knackers look tame in comparison.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 547 ✭✭✭shayno90


    It's funny how all of a sudden, most the female Board's posters to this thread say they approach men, seems like they are trying to save face by saying their are proactive by taking some initiative!. But in reality, very seldom on a night out do I see women approach men. They believe it's not their responsibility and who wants to leave their comfort zone. Time for a reality check, me thinks :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,650 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    shayno90 wrote: »
    It's funny how all of a sudden, most the female Board's posters to this thread say they approach men, seems like they are trying to save face by saying their are proactive by taking some initiative!. But in reality, very seldom on a night out do I see women approach men. They believe it's not their responsibility and who wants to leave their comfort zone. Time for a reality check, me thinks :)

    Do you actually spend the night watching women?

    Maybe they just don't approach you? :P

    IME, they aren't as likely to explicitly approach as they are to make there intentions painfully obvious by dancing right up to you.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,358 ✭✭✭seraphimvc


    shayno90 wrote: »
    It's funny how all of a sudden, most the female Board's posters to this thread say they approach men, seems like they are trying to save face by saying their are proactive by taking some initiative!. But in reality, very seldom on a night out do I see women approach men. They believe it's not their responsibility and who wants to leave their comfort zone. Time for a reality check, me thinks :)
    thats what i think too after i read some pages in this thread.

    been observing the situation for few years now and i am confident to say if you get a girl approached you on a night out,that means she must been eyeing you for a long long long time(<-this can means few hours if she just sees you:eek:) and you moron didnt get the vibe so she have no choice but to do it herself.

    i miss the real world:o


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 22,058 ✭✭✭✭Abi


    shayno90 wrote: »
    It's funny how all of a sudden, most the female Board's posters to this thread say they approach men, seems like they are trying to save face by saying their are proactive by taking some initiative!. But in reality, very seldom on a night out do I see women approach men. They believe it's not their responsibility and who wants to leave their comfort zone. Time for a reality check, me thinks :)


    /looks at ground

    /twists foot nervously


    Ummm... would you uhhh... like to go out with me? :o





    ;)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 712 ✭✭✭arsenallegend


    No way do girls come up to you especially in this country. Its the guys who have to do the work and i think its selfish that girls can't take the time to do more to chat up a guy. In their mind they think its there god given right not to do anything and let the guy make a tit out of themselfs trying the right words to impress 'em.

    I know there's a few women who will do the chatting up but i can't say i ever saw it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 547 ✭✭✭shayno90


    Do you actually spend the night watching women?

    Yep, I hide in a dark corner with a pair of binoculars like watching the gazelle on the plain being chased by some cheetahs (like the analogy!)
    Maybe they just don't approach you? :P

    I am not bothered if they do or don't but I just found it laughable when all of sudden most of the female posters say they approach guys, let me guess you one of them also :D
    IME, they aren't as likely to explicitly approach as they are to make there intentions painfully obvious by dancing right up to you.

    Yep, you need a guide book to apparently read these supposed signals women think they are giving plus the binoculars don't help :)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 720 ✭✭✭Des Carter


    Never had a girl approach me but come to think of it Im often on the dancefloor minding my own business when out of nowhere some chick would shoulder me in the back or push me away violently. This happens quite often is it a sign there interested or do I always stand on womens toes or something without noticing.

    If they do it to get my attention its a crap strategy and a total turnoff.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,650 ✭✭✭✭minidazzler


    shayno90 wrote: »

    I am not bothered if they do or don't but I just found it laughable when all of sudden most of the female posters say they approach guys, let me guess you one of them also :D

    Yep, you need a guide book to apparently read these supposed signals women think they are giving plus the binoculars don't help :)

    Most of the female posters who posted on this thread said it. Not most of the female posters.

    No guide book needed if you aren't afraid to throw caution to the wind and let the cards fall where they may.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 712 ✭✭✭arsenallegend


    Des Carter wrote: »
    Never had a girl approach me but come to think of it Im often on the dancefloor minding my own business when out of nowhere some chick would shoulder me in the back or push me away violently. This happens quite often is it a sign there interested or do I always stand on womens toes or something without noticing.

    If they do it to get my attention its a crap strategy and a total turnoff.


    No your taking up their personal Diva space:D


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