Would many girls approach guys on a night out?

j1974 · 24-03-2010 05:44PM

JaxxYChicK wrote: »

You can't really say that either. Where exactly have you been going!? What kind of girls are you approaching? Supermodels? Because if that's the case then mate I'm sorry, no offense but the girls you're approaching are not going to give you the time of day. Because if they liked you and were into you then trust me they'd be very sweet to you.

Next time you're out have a look around. If you see a girl(s) having a laugh and a giggle and a good time, animated while telling a story, smiling at random passersby and maybe even catching your eye, approach HER. She's the one that will give you the time of day, not the unattainable snob with her nose in the air and a sour expression while she hangs around waiting for some rich yah-yah southsider in a polo shirt to buy her some Moet.

I've said it before and ill say it again, girls like you are as rare as you are ahead of your time.

ancapailldorcha · 24-03-2010 05:52PM

When I moved to Dublin, a girl once told me she wanted to "fook" me.
Not being a native of the big smoke and therefore unfamiliar with the local dialect, I declined.

j1974 · 24-03-2010 05:53PM

Max Power1 wrote: »

+1

Dear Poster

I find that "remark" very offensive and repugnant

get a harder neck then "MAX". or go sit in the ladies lounge with the rest of the women.

OOOH Yeah DUFF-MAN takes no prisoners!!!

recylingbin · 24-03-2010 06:46PM

I've mulled over whether I should share this killer line with you, as most of you seem to be gimps and I don't want gimps impregnating women so that there will be a plethora of little gimps running around. But I feel I must divulge it for the greater good of the boards community.

The next time you see a hot chick sat at the bar, after she says hello, hit her with this one

I don't exactly know what I am required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me. But could we assume that I said all that. I mean essentially we are talking about fluid exchange right? So could we go just straight to the sex.

billser08 · 24-03-2010 06:50PM

just sooo wish that they did...woul be great for the ego....:)

having said that thik girls I have hit on hav alway been incredibly generous with ther hapy put down of me in a subtle way....no prolem with the no.....just dont make guy suffer

jackiebaron · 24-03-2010 09:28PM

j1974 wrote: »

I'm a guy and I'd go home with you, you're just lovely!!:D

If you snogged me passionately I'd let you keep the corpse's shoes.

jackiebaron · 24-03-2010 09:32PM

recylingbin wrote: »

I've mulled over whether I should share this killer line with you, as most of you seem to be gimps and I don't want gimps impregnating women so that there will be a plethora of little gimps running around. But I feel I must divulge it for the greater good of the boards community.

The next time you see a hot chick sat at the bar, after she says hello, hit her with this one

I don't exactly know what I am required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me. But could we assume that I said all that. I mean essentially we are talking about fluid exchange right? So could we go just straight to the sex.

Yeah, we all saw "A Beautiful Mind" jelly-head!

ilovebiology · 24-03-2010 09:46PM

Hi all. OP here again! I read most of the thread, and as I said before I am a very shy girl, but the best thing to do would be to just smile at someone I like, and hope for the best? Getting tired of going out and no guys talking to me! Time for me to take the bull by the horns at this stage of my existance :rolleyes:

Jaxxy · 24-03-2010 09:51PM

ilovebiology wrote: »

Hi all. OP here again! I read most of the thread, and as I said before I am a very shy girl, but the best thing to do would be to just smile at someone I like, and hope for the best? Getting tired of going out and no guys talking to me! Time for me to take the bull by the horns at this stage of my existance :rolleyes:

Fair play. Best of luck to ya.

Big Nasty · 24-03-2010 10:17PM

ilovebiology wrote: »

Hi all. OP here again! I read most of the thread, and as I said before I am a very shy girl, but the best thing to do would be to just smile at someone I like, and hope for the best? Getting tired of going out and no guys talking to me! Time for me to take the bull by the horns at this stage of my existance :rolleyes:

Pics or GTFO?

Pretty_Pistol · 25-03-2010 12:00AM

ilovebiology wrote: »

Haha! I am a girl! And a very very shy one at that. I never get approached by guys, and I am not ugly, and am slim but get no where

ilovebiology wrote: »

Hi all. OP here again! I read most of the thread, and as I said before I am a very shy girl, but the best thing to do would be to just smile at someone I like, and hope for the best? Getting tired of going out and no guys talking to me! Time for me to take the bull by the horns at this stage of my existance :rolleyes:

You said you're very shy. Maybe your shyness is coming across in your body language and gives off the don't come near me vibe. Keep your back straight, open body (no arms folded) and stand facing towards the guy you like.

Also are you in a big group or a small group? Do you go to the bathroom on your own or with your friends? If you are with a big group and you are in a big enough club/pub go for a quick walk around to check things out on your own.

Bloody Nipples · 25-03-2010 01:31AM

I've found the dance floor and the smoking area are the hotspots for picking up the ladies.

I'd be a bit on the shy side about approaching the ladies so generally I leave them approach me which I've always found they have no problem doing. Generally they'll just start talking or laughing at my "energetic" dancing. Then I just interact, bide my time and Lob the Gob* :pac:

*works 60% of the time, every time.

The_Kew_Tour · 25-03-2010 01:33AM

Have had my fair share girls come up to me.

Thankfully I always help them have great night:D

southsiderosie · 25-03-2010 01:34AM

ilovebiology wrote: »

Apologies in advance if this is a silly thread, or feel free to move it. I am wondering if many girls approach guys when on a night out? Or are most ladies these days leaving it up to guys, or they are just shy themselves?

I wouldn't approach a pack of guys trying to talk to one, but I would definitely chat someone up at the bar while waiting to order drinks...Just did that last week actually and had a most excellent evening...and follow-up.

I honestly don't get the whole "I'll wait for him to approach me" thing. But then again I'm American, and we chat each other up at the grocery store, the gas station, at the bus stop...Maybe I seem like a brazen hussy here in Ireland, but I've certainly had a good time so far...

Fago! · 25-03-2010 01:38AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

I wouldn't approach a pack of guys trying to talk to one, but I would definitely chat someone up at the bar while waiting to order drinks...Just did that last week actually and had a most excellent evening...and follow-up.

I honestly don't get the whole "I'll wait for him to approach me" thing. But then again I'm American, and we chat each other up at the grocery store, the gas station, at the bus stop...Maybe I seem like a brazen hussy here in Ireland, but I've certainly had a good time so far...

I wish irish people had the mentality to do that. If I tried to chat someone up at the shops (Even assuming she has a fetish for ugly 19 year old nerds with spikey), she'd run a mile.

Also marry me.

Waterloo Sunset · 25-03-2010 01:42AM

What would you say though? Us Irish don't approach randomers anywhere else so I'm still convinced if I said hi to a randomer, they'd look at me like I'd grown a second head!

ilovebiology · 25-03-2010 01:43AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

I wouldn't approach a pack of guys trying to talk to one, but I would definitely chat someone up at the bar while waiting to order drinks...Just did that last week actually and had a most excellent evening...and follow-up.

I honestly don't get the whole "I'll wait for him to approach me" thing. But then again I'm American, and we chat each other up at the grocery store, the gas station, at the bus stop...Maybe I seem like a brazen hussy here in Ireland, but I've certainly had a good time so far...

No you don't at all. You are right, and have a bit more courage than me, anyways. Good for you. I'll see how I get on!

pavcro10 · 25-03-2010 01:45AM

Yeah, i would. I hope not in an obvious way though, like just a "Hi" type thing, that it hopefully would lead on from there

southsiderosie · 25-03-2010 02:01AM

Fago! wrote: »

I wish irish people had the mentality to do that. If I tried to chat someone up at the shops (Even assuming she has a fetish for ugly 19 year old nerds with spikey), she'd run a mile.

Also marry me.

Sorry, I have a thing for balding 40-something nerds. Maybe in about 25 years or so...

I find Irish people to be quite chatty. I always shoot the **** with shopkeepers, I end up talking to strangers in restaurants and bars all of the time, and I haven't had a quiet trip in a taxi yet. I've even chatted with strangers in the grocery store. It may be easier as a foreigner, because people are usually curious about where I'm from (people are usually surprised by my accent). Also, part of my job is getting strangers to talk to me, so I'm less shy about these things. But are there some kind of rules about under what conditions you can talk to strangers? Because if there are, I really haven't noticed them.

ilovebiology · 25-03-2010 02:05AM

Fago! wrote: »

That won't matter. As long as you have a vagina and a pulse, an AH'er will try it on with you.

Also, pics or GTFO!!! :P

I'm getting afraid now

Fago! · 25-03-2010 02:10AM

Not so much. Some people are quite happy to have a chat or be chatted up in the supermarket or bus stop or whatever and others will find it creepy.

I'm finding as I get older, I am more confident when talking to a girl in a pub or club. But not so far as to go out of my way all the way over to her table. usually I would strike up a chat at the bar while waiting for a drink.

All this shiz about waiting for the girl to do it is poo. Although I'd prefer it, I don't stick to that thought at all.

Fago! · 25-03-2010 02:10AM

ilovebiology wrote: »

I'm getting afraid now

PAHAHAHAHAHA

Bless.

The_Kew_Tour · 25-03-2010 02:14AM

starbelgrade wrote: »

Yr sooo cool. Can I be yr friend?

NOOOOO

only cause ya cant spell for ****

starbelgrade · 25-03-2010 02:14AM

southsiderosie wrote: »

But are there some kind of rules about under what conditions you can't talk to strangers? Because if there are, I really haven't noticed them.

There are;

1. If they offer you sweeties.
2. If they offer you a lift home & you don't know them.

ilovebiology · 25-03-2010 02:17AM

Pretty_Pistol wrote: »

You said you're very shy. Maybe your shyness is coming across in your body language and gives off the don't come near me vibe. Keep your back straight, open body (no arms folded) and stand facing towards the guy you like.

Also are you in a big group or a small group? Do you go to the bathroom on your own or with your friends? If you are with a big group and you are in a big enough club/pub go for a quick walk around to check things out on your own.

I'm always genuinely happy to be out, and always have a good time. I usually go out with one or 2 friends, and have always have a great laugh. I have been told I'm attractive, but just don't know whats up with the whole thing at all!

landsleaving · 25-03-2010 02:23AM

Your mother telling you you're attractive doesn't count!

Seriously though, any lads I know would be really glad a girl started talking to them, they're just as shy as you most of the time. If you catch his eye and he smiles but doesn't come over to you, he's probably assuming you'll go to him. It's the 21st century you know, girls can chat up guys, and who knows, maybe you'll get to neck in his rocket car later...

Either that or invest in a push up bra and miniskirt.

ilovebiology · 25-03-2010 02:28AM

landsleaving wrote: »

Your mother telling you you're attractive doesn't count!

Seriously though, any lads I know would be really glad a girl started talking to them, they're just as shy as you most of the time. If you catch his eye and he smiles but doesn't come over to you, he's probably assuming you'll go to him. It's the 21st century you know, girls can chat up guys, and who knows, maybe you'll get to neck in his rocket car later...

Either that or invest in a push up bra and miniskirt.

My male friends have said it to me. But if I see someone I like looking at me, I freeze and shy away....I seriously have to get courage somewhere or by the looks of things I'll end up alone

Fago! · 25-03-2010 02:33AM

ilovebiology wrote: »

My male friends have said it to me. But if I see someone I like looking at me, I freeze and shy away....I seriously have to get courage somewhere or by the looks of things I'll end up alone

Do. If you're attractive as you say you are (and I'm not doubting it), you'll have no problem getting a fella and more often then not won't be rejected if you initiate the chatting up.

A girl more often then not has all the power in these situations.

ilovebiology · 25-03-2010 02:41AM

Fago! wrote: »

Do. If you're attractive as you say you are (and I'm not doubting it), you'll have no problem getting a fella and more often then not won't be rejected if you initiate the chatting up.

A girl more often then not has all the power in these situations.

I understand what you are saying and thanks. See in my past, I have ben rejected by guys I like and therefore have no confidence with guys anymore, and am too afraid of been rejected again. So for a long time I go out, and live in hope that someone speaks to me, which dosn't happen, and then I'm here on my own. I don't wish to complain about it or anything, but I just find it really hard to talk to someone I like, its definately my weakest point, but something I need to fix. Sure I'll get there! Alot of good advice and opinions here, so thanks to everyone

Fago! · 25-03-2010 02:48AM

If I had a penny for everytime I got rejected I'd have millions. Real confidence killer. 4 out of 5 times I got rejected. But I just kept it up. Now, I'm still single, but confident and happy.

Would many girls approach guys on a night out?

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