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Relationships vs On The Pull

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  • #32
    Kasabian
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    Tar.Aldarion wrote: »
    Hey I did the same thing, best of luck to you, was worth it I think!
    Much more casual with sex after that.


    I did the same , waited till I had met " the one ", I was hopelessly in love , it was a disaster , we had no rythmn at all. I fumbled , she lay there and held her breath. It was terrible , it was suppose to be magical , she cried.

    Edit , I now know what I am doing:p


  • #33
    GLaDOS
    Moderators, Regional East Moderators Posts: 23,246 Mod ✭✭✭✭GLaDOS


    Relationship man myself, the single scene is so shallow, especially in clubs

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • #34
    Tar.Aldarion
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    lonad wrote: »
    I did the same , waited till I had met " the one ", I was hopelessly in love , it was a disaster , we had no rythmn at all. I fumbled , she lay there and held her breath. It was terrible , it was suppose to be magical , she cried.

    Edit , I now know what I am doing:p

    lmao, sorry to hear man, good effort though! We made the mistake of performa condoms, they anaesthesise you...so nobody knew they were having sex, it was more like a marathon :D


  • #35
    Kasabian
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    ScienceNerd wrote: »
    Relationship man myself, the single scene is so shallow, especially in petri dishes


    fyp:pac:


  • #36
    Super-Rush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,473 ✭✭✭✭Super-Rush


    I'm so lonely.


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  • #37
    GLaDOS
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    lonad wrote: »
    fyp:pac:
    I'm just looking for someone with a little culture

    Cake, and grief counseling, will be available at the conclusion of the test



  • #38
    Wibbs
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    I prefer mutual medium term relationships myself. I think it suits my personality. One nighters not so much at all.

    Now there are very good and healthy long term partnerships out there. I know a few. That said IMHO they're rarer than people think and too many are in couples for the sake of it, or because they're so interdependent, emotionally and socially, to leave. I see too many that I would go mad with boredom in. Ones where the woman requires constant emotional upkeep and will never be satisfied or the guy is emotionally detached and will never be satisfied and both are going through the motions. All too common archetypes unfortunately.

    So I've come to the conclusion I'll not do another long termer again. That could change of course, but I'd be surprised TBH. I'm emotionally independent and dont want kids so not so much an issue.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #39
    Mr Benevolent
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    Wibbs wrote: »
    I prefer mutual medium term relationships myself.

    What are you, a building society?


  • #40
    Wibbs
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    Naw a **** bank.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #41
    pirelli
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,876 ✭✭✭pirelli


    bronte wrote: »
    D'you know that bit at the beginning where you both haven't a clue what's going on but it's ridiculously exciting.
    You fancy the pants off each other and everyone else is teasing you about it.
    You feel like your 15 year old self in the midst of an intense crush on (insert 15yr old self's crush here!)
    When you have to find something to lean against every time he walks in the room because it genuinely feels like you're going to fall over.

    That.

    I want to have that forever, whatever it is!
    It makes me stupidly happy!
    I may also try and bottle it and sell it to people.

    Sounds like an exciting beginning of a good relationship but these strong feelings can sometimes be biased and even truncated leading to emotional pain.

    When your are out meeting ( trying to meet) women you can experience feelings and emotions similar to the above post but your not as tied to these emotions.

    A smart woman can make you swoon, literally; and a pretty face can make your head feel a bit lighter . An attractive woman can entrance and with a even a slight movement of her eye in your direction can spark a romantic encounter sometimes brief and sometimes mysterious.

    Then there is just hard core need a woman and this is the human instinct at work and everyones a wonderful encounter. Rather than be like this i would much rather have a relationship.

    The OP question is fanciful for most and meeting beautiful women at the drop of a hat seems a bit fantastical.


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  • #42
    mikom
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    bronte wrote: »
    When you have to find something to lean against every time he walks in the room because it genuinely feels like you're going to fall over.

    That.

    I want to have that forever, whatever it is!
    It makes me stupidly happy!

    Tried heroin?


  • #43
    Davidius
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4,893 ✭✭✭Davidius


    There's less work involved in getting sex from the same girl multiple times than there is in getting sex from multiple girls, especially at the same time.


  • #44
    mikom
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    Davidius wrote: »
    There's less work involved in getting sex from the same girl multiple times than there is in getting sex from multiple girls, especially at the same time.

    You ever been married?


  • #45
    Darlughda
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    Wibbs wrote: »
    Now there are very good and healthy long term partnerships out there. I know a few. That said IMHO they're rarer than people think and too many are in couples for the sake of it, or because they're so interdependent, emotionally and socially, to leave. .

    :eek:
    It always amazes me when people dread or fear being single when THIS in bold above is my idea of the most suffocating, claustrophobic hell imaginable.


  • #46
    Wibbs
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    And crazily common Darlughda IME. I think some in that situation make themselves feel better by saying and thinking "oh well being on your own would be so much worse". They equate being single with being on your own. Im single, but defo not on my own. Know lots of interesting people of both genders who enrich my life.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #47
    tupac10
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    i would say in a relationship , i was in a 6 year relationship since i was 16 .. im 22 now and on the pull making up for lost time.. All the lads think im having the tie of it.. but if im honest sex is alot better when you truly love the person .. i'd give anything to wake up to the same person every morning(eg, my ex) the some randomer..


  • #48
    Co45
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    I am sitting in the kitchen on my laptop whilst my girlfriend cleans up the delicious dinner she just made. Once she is finished cleaning up we are going upstairs where she will let me do whatever I want to her. Later she will iron my shirt for work tomorrow and more than likely throw me a quickie in the morning.
    So yeah, relationships ftw.


  • #49
    Red Hand
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    Co45 wrote: »
    I am sitting in the kitchen on my laptop whilst my girlfriend cleans up the delicious dinner she just made. Once she is finished cleaning up we are going upstairs where she will let me do whatever I want to her. Later she will iron my shirt for work tomorrow and more than likely throw me a quickie in the morning.
    So yeah, relationships ftw.

    You mean you had a pot noodle and ****.


  • #50
    _Kaiser_
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    As said above, it completely depends on the relationship and the stage you're in in it. They're constantly evolving and not something you can leave on "autopilot".

    If you both are keeping things fresh, making the effort and genuinely having fun together and enjoying being together - out of the bedroom as well as inside it - then a relationship is always gonna win out over a random one-nighter

    If however, you're together out of a fear of being alone, or just going through the motions, then better to end it and be single.


  • #51
    Cupcake_Crisis
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    Relationship's any day!! Im a firm believer that sex is better when you have a strong emotional connection with a person as well as a strong physical one so sex with randomers just doesnt do it for me! Goin out on 'the pull' is gettin fairly boring tbh!


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  • #52
    unluckystar
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    Definitely relationship, hate going on the pull but wish I was in a relationship with someone who wanted the same things as me.


  • #53
    BraziliaNZ
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    broke up with girlfriend a couple of months ago, was nice to wake up with same person etc in a way. Now single and lonely nights, never score when I go out, although I do have a girl I can hump whenever I feel like it but just not that into her.
    They both have their ups and downs I'm just not quite over the last one, as soon as that's out of my system single life will be the bomb again, meanwhile I have to live with the fact that she's probably getting banged senseless by blokes with bigger penises than me every weekend.


  • #54
    epgc3fyqirnbsx
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    Didn't vote

    I've always been single cos I like doing whatever I feel like
    But in the last few weeks, its hard to go out because everyone seems to have emigrated or is doing couple stuff.
    A lifetime of one night stands has left a record of women thinking 'why hasn't he had a girlfriend' so its hard to pull.
    That with the fact that women are like car parking places

    Could do with a chick around now :(


  • #55
    m5ex9oqjawdg2i
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    Grass is always greener on the other side ;)


  • #56
    bronte
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    pirelli wrote: »
    Sounds like an exciting beginning of a good relationship but these strong feelings can sometimes be biased and even truncated leading to emotional pain.

    Oh, I know, but that's the gamble!
    mikom wrote: »
    Tried heroin?

    :D You don't need heroin when you've got that!


  • #57
    Abi
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    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    broke up with girlfriend a couple of months ago, was nice to wake up with same person etc in a way. Now single and lonely nights, never score when I go out, although I do have a girl I can hump whenever I feel like it but just not that into her.
    They both have their ups and downs I'm just not quite over the last one, as soon as that's out of my system single life will be the bomb again, meanwhile I have to live with the fact that she's probably getting banged senseless by blokes with bigger penises than me every weekend.

    You can't think like that dude... you were probably with her a while and would know what shes like obviously, would she really do that every weekend? :/

    Chin up, buttercup (:


  • #58
    BraziliaNZ
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    Abitar wrote: »
    You can't think like that dude... you were probably with her a while and would know what shes like obviously, would she really do that every weekend? :/

    Chin up, buttercup (:

    Who knows, she doesn't know half the sordid stuff I got up to in the past!

    Anyway it's not like I lose sleep over these things it's just one of the downers of being recently single!


  • #59
    Abi
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    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    Who knows, she doesn't know half the sordid stuff I got up to in the past!

    So you assume shes like you then :p


    Don't over think things though, won't help ya :/


  • #60
    MIN2511
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    Catch 22 as far as i'm concerned...

    I've done the whole long relationship, been single for yrs and now i'll love to just meet someone :D

    It would be scary but maybe worth it?


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  • #61
    BraziliaNZ
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    Abitar wrote: »
    So you assume shes like you then :p


    Don't over think things though, won't help ya :/

    I don't assume, I know she's fairly "liberal" when it comes to sex, like I am! When you're at home jacking off on a Saturday night as all your friends are doing coupley things, these things have a tendency to get to you at times!


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