Still living with the mammy

d1975 · 19-01-2010 10:05PM #1

I was thinking about this the other day, my girlfriend who's 35 in couple of weeks, her sister who'll be 36 in August and her Brother who's 31 in September all live with the mammy, (ok the brother was enganged and split up with his long time misses) anyway is it normal to still be living with your mam?

one is very close to her and I'd worry for her if god forbid if anything happened to her (she's so emotional even even shares a tear when she hears someone dies as in years ago)

My name is URL · 19-01-2010 10:07PM

I have 2 friends who recently moved back home to their parents houses but that was because of the recession.

I don't see the big deal tbh, if they're happy with their own lives then what business is it of anyone else's

Terry · 19-01-2010 10:08PM

Sister's number?

bonerm · 19-01-2010 10:11PM

It's not "normal" , but then what is these days?

My personal attitude is it's ok if these "kids" are paying their way and using the situation as an advantageous way of making quick savings to go towards a place of their own. Rent is dead money and all that yada yada.

However, if they're just using it as an easy way to sponge off mammy and daddy til the pair drop dead then they're tools.

admiralofthefleet · 19-01-2010 10:12PM

Terry wrote: »

Sister's number?

here you go

OutlawPete · 19-01-2010 10:13PM

Terry wrote: »

Sister's number?

See, that's what I love about blokes

Bet you no woman on here wants that Brother's number

sunnyside · 19-01-2010 10:28PM

It's not ideal and unfair on the parents. I know some people who live like that, whatever they contribute is usually nowhere near the cost of surving on your own.

Mike 1972 · 19-01-2010 10:32PM

sunnyside wrote: »

whatever they contribute is usually nowhere near the cost of surving on your own.

In fairness the cost of living with other people is usually lower than surviving on your own

Having said that some people do take the piss

But if the parents let them away with it more fool them really !

AnonoBoy · 19-01-2010 10:46PM

I've been living away from my parents since I was 19 or thereabouts.

Most of my friends are financially independent from their parents and have been for quite some time. If somebody is in their 30's and still living at home I would have to wonder to be honest. Do they have the ability to actually make it by themselves?

(Moving home because of the exceptional circumstances like the recession is one thing but just being too lazy or incapable of moving out is quite another)

19-01-2010 10:53PM

It was very common back in the day though, well in the country anyway. In almost every family one member lived on in the home house, often a son taking over the farm etc but sometimes a daughter. When/if they got married the person would who they married would move in, then take on the house when their parents died. This was the case all around me and much of the country im sure, in my parents generation.

19-01-2010 10:55PM

They were saying on the radio this morning that Berlusconi is trying to introduce a law in Italy that says you can't live with your parents once you turn 18 :eek:

bonerm · 19-01-2010 10:57PM

Deleted User wrote: »

They were saying on the radio this morning that Berlusconi is trying to introduce a law in Italy that says you can't live with your parents once you turn 18 :eek:

Mama mia!

stepbar · 19-01-2010 11:01PM

AnonoBoy wrote: »

I've been living away from my parents since I was 19 or thereabouts.

Most of my friends are financially independent from their parents and have been for quite some time. If somebody is in their 30's and still living at home I would have to wonder to be honest. Do they have the ability to actually make it by themselves?

(Moving home because of the exceptional circumstances like the recession is one thing but just being too lazy or incapable of moving out is quite another)

There's a chap who lives across from where I live. The odd morning I happen to come out the door at the same time, his mammy is out in her dressing gown seeing him off as he wheels his bike down the garden path. I'd say the chap is the wrong side of 40.

The fcuking sap.

My name is URL · 19-01-2010 11:11PM

Deleted User wrote: »

They were saying on the radio this morning that Berlusconi is trying to introduce a law in Italy that says you can't live with your parents once you turn 18 :eek:

It only applies to females though, and he's building houses for them in his yard

Princess Consuela Bananahammock · 19-01-2010 11:14PM

Deleted User wrote: »

They were saying on the radio this morning that Berlusconi is trying to introduce a law in Italy that says you can't live with your parents once you turn 18 :eek:

One way of getting the housing/accomodation industry moving.

Shryke · 19-01-2010 11:18PM

Burlesconi is taking an extreme but at the same time it would be a healthy thing. Make it a compulsory year of independent living. If you can go live back under your parents roof after that then there is something wrong with you.
That's not to insult those that have no choice in the matter. I moved home for a few months there. Didn't save as much since I drank so heavily. Family are insufferable. I'd rather be water boarded.

pretty-in-pink · 19-01-2010 11:18PM

Unless they can't work, are out of work (damn recession) or are saving to buy a house, its a bit tragic to be living at home in your 30's. Heck, if I get a job back home, I only intend to stayin my folks for long enough to save a deposit, but even then it's been so long since I've lived at home I'd prob crack.

Dunno how they are doing it.

bonerm · 19-01-2010 11:18PM

Ikky Poo2 wrote: »

One way of getting the housing/accomodation industry moving.

I heard he's not too fond of buildings these days.

phantom_lord · 19-01-2010 11:21PM

i think you're a bit of a failure if you're still living at home in your twenties.

stepbar · 19-01-2010 11:22PM

Shryke wrote: »

Burlesconi is taking an extreme but at the same time it would be a healthy thing. Make it a compulsory year of independent living. If you can go live back under your parents roof after that then there is something wrong with you.
That's not to insult those that have no choice in the matter. I moved home for a few months there. Didn't save as much since I drank so heavily. Family are insufferable. I'd rather be water boarded.

Lol

19-01-2010 11:23PM

phantom_lord wrote: »

i think you're a bit of a failure if you're still living at home in your twenties.

I don't agree at all. Sure you could be in college til your 23.

stepbar · 19-01-2010 11:29PM

phantom_lord wrote: »

i think you're a bit of a failure if you're still living at home in your twenties.

That's such a load of bollox.

Forties yes but twenties? Eh?

Bajingo · 19-01-2010 11:33PM

bonerm wrote: »

It's not "normal" , but then what is these days?

My personal attitude is it's ok if these "kids" are paying their way and using the situation as an advantageous way of making quick savings to go towards a place of their own. Rent is dead money and all that yada yada.

However, if they're just using it as an easy way to sponge off mammy and daddy til the pair drop dead then they're tools.

Quick savings! clearly not if theye're mving towards 40! It may be sh1t to pay rent but at that age I think it would be necessary for them to be moved out a good while by the time they're 36..they're far from children..if their parents could move they should be able to..

pretty-in-pink · 19-01-2010 11:33PM

Depends on 20-what though.
Early 20's, sure give them sometime
mid 20's- you really should consider getting your own place & life
late 20's - loser

Pretty_Pistol · 19-01-2010 11:35PM

It sounds a bit much to be in your 30's and still living with your parents unless you are their care giver, they're afraid to live on their own or because of the recession you've had to move back home.

TestTransmission · 19-01-2010 11:35PM

Deleted User wrote: »

I don't agree at all. Sure you could be in college til your 23.

I never got that,I always thought college was about getting independence.Moved out when I was 17 and I never looked back.

I did move home for a few months before and after I did the obligitary year away travelling.

phantom_lord · 19-01-2010 11:36PM

stepbar wrote: »

That's such a load of bollox.

Forties yes but twenties? Eh?

i guess up until you finish college would be ok. but most people finish college in their early twenties. there's really no excuse for it after that.

19-01-2010 11:37PM

pretty-in-pink wrote: »

Depends on 20-what though.
Early 20's, sure give them sometime
mid 20's- you really should consider getting your own place & life
late 20's - loser

early 20's - finish college at 23 - spend a few months getting a job, probably on a fairly rubbish salary - seeing as you've no experience

Mid 20's start saving to buy your own house circa 25k deposit

Mid to late 20's finally have saved that deposit - start looking for house and finally buy

Late 20's move out.

Fairly normal I'd say.

phantom_lord · 19-01-2010 11:42PM

Deleted User wrote: »

Late 20's move out.

seriously? i'd certainly consider that a major failure.

Fairly normal I'd say.

not for the vast majority of people i know.

myflipflops · 19-01-2010 11:43PM

You're girlfriend and her siblings are losers and general life failures.

They are probably perfectly happy with that though so fair play to them i say.

hitman79 · 19-01-2010 11:44PM

Im 30 and moved back home 4 months ago but only cus i was put on a 3 day week and couldnt afford the rent on my apartment! Its not ideal but what choice do i have? Have since got planning permission to build so as soon as im back working full time i'll be buiding and living in the house with only one room furnished!!

Still living with the mammy

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