Women in high heels

08-01-2010 01:01AM

I don't understand how other girls wear heels. Just don't it's worth it! They are so painful. And awkward. I have tried wearing them a few times but now I've given up. Plus they make me feel like a giant.

Pity because I do think heels look nice.

Mackman · 08-01-2010 02:44AM

I love high heels on the ladies, i can see how certain ones can look trashy, e.g. thigh high boots, but overall im a fan

The_Kew_Tour · 08-01-2010 02:46AM

candlegrease wrote: »

Am I the only one who doesn't like it? I just think girls look slightly trashy/slutty in high heels. Yes, I know they all wear them, nut I don't like it. Anyone with me?

Nothing sexier then seeing hot girl in heels.

Comon man ya now it too;)

grenache · 08-01-2010 03:30AM

I don't see anything trashy about heels. Ok, maybe if they're bright pink with diamond studs on them, then they may be considered OTT. But normal heels? no they're fine.

beks101 · 08-01-2010 04:03AM

amacachi wrote: »

Obviously there are exceptions, some women do like wearing heels, I've not met any that I know of. :P.

Well hello there, I'm one of em.:D

I love wearing heels. I'll wear them to work as well as the pub, night club etc

I'm not talking thigh high boots or six inch stilettos (there's a time and place!) but for example, at the moment it's winter so I'm generally wearing leather boots with a 4-inch heel, black ankle boots or simple office heels to work.The only time I'm not wearing them is when I'm exercising or lounging around the house.

I don't cake myself in makeup or fake tan or any of those generalisations that seem to be thrown about; nor am I wearing heels to attract male attention - I couldn't give a crap, I just genuinely love wearing heels.

However I am picky about my shoes and wouldn't dream of buying a pair that caused me pain - I'd just be limping around the place thinking of nothing but how uncomfortable they are and dying to take them off anyway, which to me sort of defeats my purpose for wearing them - they make me feel good.

I think it's the confidence rather than the heels themselves that make heels a hit with a lot of men (except the OP obviously) although I do agree that there's nothing more unattractive than a woman plodding along in a pair of hideously high heels that she's clearly just wearing to make an impression

BumbleB · 08-01-2010 04:49AM

Interesting article on high heels apparently catherine de medici wore them in 1533 .

http://www.apparelsearch.com/Definitions/Footwear/high_heeled_shoes.htm

I'm going to invent super comfortable high heels for Ladies ,and every girl in the world will love me ,yeah !!!!.Onward and upward.

Otis Driftwood · 08-01-2010 03:07PM

Heels can lead to a woman feeling sexier,this leads to the woman feeling more confident,confidence (not arrogance) is hugely desireable.

Therefore heels = good.

However heels that result in her walking around like Bambi on ice = bad.

pikachucheeks · 08-01-2010 05:10PM

beks101 wrote: »

I think it's the confidence rather than the heels themselves that make heels a hit with a lot of men

nedtheshed wrote: »

Heels can lead to a woman feeling sexier,this leads to the woman feeling more confident,confidence (not arrogance) is hugely desireable.

Therefore heels = good.

Agree with both of these statements.

If a woman feels sexy and confident in what she's wearing, that's often very attractive to men.

amacachi · 08-01-2010 05:43PM

beks101 wrote: »

Well hello there, I'm one of em.:D

I love wearing heels. I'll wear them to work as well as the pub, night club etc

I'm not talking thigh high boots or six inch stilettos (there's a time and place!) but for example, at the moment it's winter so I'm generally wearing leather boots with a 4-inch heel, black ankle boots or simple office heels to work.The only time I'm not wearing them is when I'm exercising or lounging around the house.

I don't cake myself in makeup or fake tan or any of those generalisations that seem to be thrown about; nor am I wearing heels to attract male attention - I couldn't give a crap, I just genuinely love wearing heels.

However I am picky about my shoes and wouldn't dream of buying a pair that caused me pain - I'd just be limping around the place thinking of nothing but how uncomfortable they are and dying to take them off anyway, which to me sort of defeats my purpose for wearing them - they make me feel good.

I think it's the confidence rather than the heels themselves that make heels a hit with a lot of men (except the OP obviously) although I do agree that there's nothing more unattractive than a woman plodding along in a pair of hideously high heels that she's clearly just wearing to make an impression

Ah yeah that's totally fair enough but in my experience you are an exception. I'm probably over-rationalising my point of view, like heels wouldn't directly put me off a woman but the lack of them, along with a lack of the other stuff just appeals to me.

If a woman gets confidence from wearing them and that makes them feel good, fair enough. If they do that while putting up with pain then I doubt I'd like them very much. For someone to be willing to put up with pain to "look good" and feel confident then I don't like that.

P.C. · 08-01-2010 10:18PM

amacachi wrote: »

Ah yeah that's totally fair enough but in my experience you are an exception. I'm probably over-rationalising my point of view, like heels wouldn't directly put me off a woman but the lack of them, along with a lack of the other stuff just appeals to me.

If a woman gets confidence from wearing them and that makes them feel good, fair enough. If they do that while putting up with pain then I doubt I'd like them very much. For someone to be willing to put up with pain to "look good" and feel confident then I don't like that.

While I respect your views and opinions, I do not share them.

I like it when a woman has gone to the effort to look good.

I also put in a bit of effort - clean shaven, appropriately dresses, etc.
When I look good, I feel good about myself.

I know the argument that you don't need to dress up to feel good about yourself, or be confident - and while that is correct, I do think looking good helps you feel good.

If a girl woman feels good in a hoodie top, baggie jeans and no makeup, good for her, but the girl woman in heels with make up, wearing pretty clothes will get my attention.

ChewChew · 08-01-2010 10:56PM

Well, some of us girls are just too short

and in order to see over the bar, we need heels

And when on a night out, a nice pair of heels make us feel incredibly sexy. And at the end of the day, it's how we feel about ourselves not how everyone else feels.

SprostonGreen · 08-01-2010 11:33PM

I love women in heels, they look sexy.

loctite · 08-01-2010 11:47PM

serenacat wrote: »

hey i'm a girl and am being nosy reading this discussion but thought a bit of honesty is required.

as a high heel wearer i own many heels most of which after 1 hour of contant wear really hurt and i agree that even flats are painful sometimes but heels are made to
1) make a girl's bum stick out
2) elongate the legs
3) make feet look smaller

overall to feminise a womens body and i look hotter in heels as well every women for those reasons as these are all ques for fertility.

I only wear heels on occasions such as dinner/drink with boyfriend/party/nightclub event as i can't walk far in most of heels.
I wear heels to look more attractive to my boyf and before i was with him to every male nearby so i thought i would be honest as some others are claiming they endure such pain/blisters for their self if that was the case girls would wear stilletos at sleepovers and around the house.

And another thing is i do think some heels do look 'slutty' like the very very high narrow ones that are in for awhile.

Finally some honesty! I believe that this (from my experience) would be the norm...
Its great that some people think that heels may make a woman feel/look sexier but we can agree to disagree on what turns people on.

However the fact that women wear heels to increase their confidence.... is it just me who thinks that to endure the aforementioned pain to increase your confidence seems wrong and perhaps you should examine what is causing your lack of confidence???

thethedev · 09-01-2010 03:38PM

I must be weird.
I think shorter girls look better without to be honest, I think a girl who can confidenty wear a dress with a pair of old white trainers is my type of girl

I dont see the point in them apart from as already mentioned about elongating the legs etc
But then I prefer the natural look on a girl.
If anything heels make a girl look sexy but if they feel they need to wear them then its a big turn off for me, girls who dont buy into the usual **** and have they're own ideas about things get me going.
Yeah they can have they're own ideas and wear heels but thats not the message I get.

cowzerp · 09-01-2010 04:41PM

thethedev wrote: »

I must be weird.
I think shorter girls look better without to be honest,.

I prefer short girls too but high heels still look sexy,

BumbleB · 09-01-2010 05:04PM

pikachucheeks wrote: »

Agree with both of these statements.

If a woman feels sexy and confident in what she's wearing, that's often very attractive to men.

sexy and confident what a combo .

Shinyboots · 15-01-2010 04:25PM

more of a boot lover myself now, nothing beats a great pair boots with a great pair of heels!

marwelie · 15-01-2010 06:46PM

Theres nothing worse than a woman who is trying too hard to impress, they stand out a mile. They are the ones who wear 6 inches of make-up, short skirts and low tops at the same time (apparently a no-no!) and heels they cant stand in. And they all seem to take themselves way too seriously. The host of a certain Sunday Night Talent show and the Posh wife of a very famous English footballer would be prime examples, far too high maintenance for me, can't see the attraction at all!

I love seeing women in heels but if they look like they can't sit in them let alone stand in them I steer clear.

I'd much rather see a girl who looked like she just fell out of bed with no make up, hair scraped back, wearing trackie bottoms and a hoodie if she looked comfortable in them than someone who pours herself into the latest fashion because she thinks thats what men like. Sense of humour is more important to me than what any girl looks like. Once knew a girl who refused to wear anything but Doc Martens on her feet and she was one of the sexiest women I ever met!

nicegirl · 18-01-2010 10:53PM

I can only wear high heels! I have been wearing high heels for almost 15 years, and whenever I wear flat shoes for a few hours I get sore feet! Its a good thing at the moment, as long as I don't end up with a bad back in years to come!

amacachi · 19-01-2010 03:26AM

P.C. wrote: »

While I respect your views and opinions, I do not share them.

I like it when a woman has gone to the effort to look good.

I also put in a bit of effort - clean shaven, appropriately dresses, etc.
When I look good, I feel good about myself.

I know the argument that you don't need to dress up to feel good about yourself, or be confident - and while that is correct, I do think looking good helps you feel good.

If a girl woman feels good in a hoodie top, baggie jeans and no makeup, good for her, but the girl woman in heels with make up, wearing pretty clothes will get my attention.

As I said, I prefer when confidence comes from within, rather than from how one feels as a result of their physical appearance. Different strokes and all that.

shellyboo · 19-01-2010 04:18AM

Not really sure I buy that amacachi. If you took a girl out to dinner at a nice restaurant and she showed up in jeans and a hoody, would you be ok with that?

It's all very well to say confidence comes from within, but you can have inner confidence and still like to dress up for a night out. I personally think that it means a lot to make an effort for a guy - even more so if you're the kind of girl who'd look good in a binbag.

Heels are part of that for many women, I know they are for me. They make me feel sexier; or rather they make me feel like I look sexy, if that makes sense. I'd still feel sexy in flats.

amacachi · 19-01-2010 04:44AM

shellyboo wrote: »

Not really sure I buy that amacachi. If you took a girl out to dinner at a nice restaurant and she showed up in jeans and a hoody, would you be ok with that?

It's all very well to say confidence comes from within, but you can have inner confidence and still like to dress up for a night out. I personally think that it means a lot to make an effort for a guy - even more so if you're the kind of girl who'd look good in a binbag.

Heels are part of that for many women, I know they are for me. They make me feel sexier; or rather they make me feel like I look sexy, if that makes sense. I'd still feel sexy in flats.

Obviously if there's a dress code whether stated or implied then I would meet it and expect anyone else to meet it. I'm talking about day-to-day stuff, or even week-to-week pubbing/clubbing. Obviously I would expect effort and make effort myself in certain situations but they're limited.
I dunno, if I wanted to spend a few paragraphs rationalizing it from my perspective and acknowledging things about myself I'm sure I could, but I don't really feel like doing that right about now.
Whether you believe me or not is another thing, of girls I've been with/liked, none of them I've ever seen wearing heels more than twice, all at debs/21sts/weddings, so it seems that in practice what I'm saying holds true for me.

shellyboo · 19-01-2010 01:24PM

No, you're kind of implying that women who DO wear heels and DO dress up are somehow lesser in confidence or value than women who don't - which is kind of offensive, really.

I respect your right to have a preference, we all do - but you come across as looking down at women who prefer to be dressed up than dressed down.

L31mr0d · 19-01-2010 01:52PM

shellyboo wrote: »

No, you're kind of implying that women who DO wear heels and DO dress up are somehow lesser in confidence or value than women who don't - which is kind of offensive, really.

I don't believe he is. He is saying some women feel more confident in heels, and some women don't require heels to feel confident.

Would you disagree with this?

He certainly has not insinuated a woman who wears heels is of a lesser "value", rather she is just not as attractive to him as someone who does not wear heels.

I personally would share a similar opinion. I find heels to be somewhat of a social convention for women. I find it a lot more attractive a women who ignores social conventions for their own individuality. My OH hardly ever wears heels (outside of formal gatherings) and ignores fashion trends. It was these qualities that attracted me to her.

amacachi · 19-01-2010 03:35PM

shellyboo wrote: »

No, you're kind of implying that women who DO wear heels and DO dress up are somehow lesser in confidence or value than women who don't - which is kind of offensive, really.

I respect your right to have a preference, we all do - but you come across as looking down at women who prefer to be dressed up than dressed down.

No, as I said it's a different type and source of confidence.

I don't look down on women who like to be dressed up, I just know which I prefer.

shellyboo · 19-01-2010 04:04PM

L31mr0d wrote: »

I don't believe he is. He is saying some women feel more confident in heels, and some women don't require heels to feel confident.

Would you disagree with this?

amacachi wrote: »

No, as I said it's a different type and source of confidence.

Some women don't require heels to feel confident but wear them anyway... that's the point I'm making. Just because a woman decides to wear heels doesn't make her a sheep, or lacking in confidence - which seems to be what you're both implying.

Shinyboots · 19-01-2010 04:43PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Some women don't require heels to feel confident but wear them anyway... that's the point I'm making. Just because a woman decides to wear heels doesn't make her a sheep, or lacking in confidence - which seems to be what you're both implying.

haha, it's all kicking off now....

junder · 19-01-2010 04:50PM

chatterpillar wrote: »

I find it kind of weird that you think girls endure "pain" to wear heels?

Some high heel shoes are painful to wear. Some low shoes are painful to wear.

I try to avoid the painful ones - low or high. As do most girls I know.

Believe me, we do not walk around in agony all day, in some effort to please you guys :rolleyes:

Personally, I usually wear 4-5 inch heels - because I like them, because they look good on me, because they're comfortable to walk in, because they keep my feet dry in the snow!

My boyfriend is the other side of the country, so it's not to please him - nor to please any other man, before you suggest it!

High heels are what I'm comfy in. In my opinion, nice heels worn with a fitted skirt suit are in no way "trashy" or "slutty" - in fact, I think it's quite a polished professional look.

You don't think so? I don't care.

here here, i remember when heels were out and big clumpy platform type shoes wre the in thing, its one of tye few time that i was glad that fashion is cyclical and it was just a matter of paitance until heels came back

L31mr0d · 19-01-2010 05:16PM

shellyboo wrote: »

Just because a woman decides to wear heels doesn't make her a sheep, or lacking in confidence - which seems to be what you're both implying.

Would you agree that some women feel more confident when they wear heels?

shellyboo · 19-01-2010 05:20PM

L31mr0d wrote: »

Would you agree that some women feel more confident when they wear heels?

I believe I just said that myself...

Women in high heels

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