Mother 'Tweets' as Son Dies

kumate_champ07 · 19-12-2009 02:50AM

she went online for a few seconds and asked people to pray for her dying son, religion is strange, some people think that they can talk to a man in the sky and he'll help them with things. she obviously thought that if 5000people do that same thing that her son might have a good chance of being saved. theres nothing crazy or selfish about that(well actually religion is a bit crazy, but it seems to be the acceptable kind of crazy)

ferg2020 · 19-12-2009 03:20AM

This is seemingly more an argument about whether the mother was wrong to twitter during the tragedy of losing a child than the fact that she mustn't have been supervising her child very well, to state a fact. Of course many incidents happen where children have been killed by lack of supervision or by simply a parent not assessing the risk of the child getting injured as serious, which is a something that happens often on Farms and the like. It was the way she reacted to it that is shocking.
She was adding to the culture of fly on the wall to an extreme. Not really sure about Twitter but don't see how someone would have the presence of mind to twit while there child was dying. Think it would be the last thing on most peoples minds. You would want to tell people what had happen, but it would be friends and family, not people who follow you on some website.

psycho8itch · 19-12-2009 03:40AM

I find this sick and repulsive.

tech77 · 19-12-2009 03:42AM

This "attention seeking"/look at my life thing.
It's a cliche, but in the last decade in particular, this has become more and more disturbing.
Everyone has to be a mini-celebrity.
I'd love to understand the real psychology behind it.
Mind-boggling.

koHd · 19-12-2009 03:54AM

She obviously tweets about everything. And has done for a long time. Maybe me and you wouldn't even remember we have a twitter account, but if she has the mobile there with her and she does it every couple of minutes I can see why she did it. She asked people to pray put of hope. She just lost her son for ****s sake. Would you give out as much **** for a shaking parent addicted to smoking, that lit up a cigerette, as her sons life was in the balance? We can question why a 2 year old was out and about by himself without supervision, especially near a pool. But do we have the full facts on this? But to get so annoyed about her tapping a few letters in her phone for support/comfort is stupid.

RoyalMarine · 19-12-2009 03:59AM

i dont have a twitter page.

ferg2020 · 19-12-2009 04:00AM

koHd wrote: »

She obviously tweets about everything. And has done for a long time. Maybe me and you wouldn't even remember we have a twitter account, but if she has he mobile there with her and she does it every couple of minites I can see why she did it. She asked people to pray put of hope. She just lost her son for ****s sake. Would you give out as much **** for a shaking parent addicted to smoking, that lit up a cigerette, as her sons life was in the balance? We can question why a 2 year old was out and about by himself without supervision, especially near a pool. But do we have the full facts on this? But to get so annoyed about her tapping a few letters in her phone for support/comfort is stupid.

One persons sane is another persons crazy. I guess its not as if she's going to be charged for texting while her son was dying. You've a point that just because we wouldn't do it means we can judge her. Maybe twitter is as you pointed out with the analogy of smoking, her addiction.

HashSlinging · 19-12-2009 04:01AM

I know someone who sent an email stating someone from their immediate family had very suddenly died, they couldnt speak through the shock so they typed it and sent it through email.

koHd · 19-12-2009 04:01AM

RoyalMarineComm wrote: »

i dont have a twitter page.

You're safe from the Iranians so. Good job.

Midnight_EG · 19-12-2009 04:02AM

The Express wrote: »

But if the bitch was expecting a screen full of 'Thanks' she can f*uckin' burn in hell for eternity.

The internet doesn't revolve around thanks you know

mayordenis · 19-12-2009 04:14AM

Nobody (or at least most thankfully) know what goes through someones head when they lose a child at that age,
to condemn her for this is stupid wankery.

jill_valentine · 19-12-2009 04:15AM

A few points -

1) Twitter is a way of contacting a lot of people in a split second. A split second - that's the point. People have, famously, managed to tweet while being arrested and there is at least one user confirmed to be tweeting from prison.

You don't need to load up a computer screen to use it, and once you're used to it, it doesn't cost you a thought to do so. It's just an integrated part of your lifestyle.

2) Many people use it to keep in touch with "real life" friends and family, as well as other posters. It's very effective for keeping a lot of people informed, easily, in real time.

3) She couldn't do anything else to help her son at the point when she sent the message. The paramedics were already at work.

So where's the harm? It seems weird, but just because she didn't panic in the way you or I might doesn't make her sick, or a psychopath. I don't see why using Twitter to inform people of a crisis is any more callous than using any other communicative medium.

Barname · 19-12-2009 04:16AM

I suggest we set Danny Foley on her

pablomakaveli · 19-12-2009 09:31AM

Barname wrote: »

I suggest we set Danny Foley on her

Theres no point. I bet the lads in Listowel are on her side anyway.

WindSock · 19-12-2009 11:02AM

Sharpshooter wrote: »

No More.

Huh? I'm giving my opinion like everyone else on this thread. Just because I don't agree with yours doesn't mean I am trolling.

HashSlinging wrote: »

I know someone who sent an email stating someone from their immediate family had very suddenly died, they couldnt speak through the shock so they typed it and sent it through email.

Exactly. Has anyone ever been in the position where they have to say to people that a loved one has died? To hear the words coming out of your mouth is extremely difficult.
Everyone deals with grief in their own way. If someone told me how I 'should' be grieving, expect a kick in the face.

old_aussie · 19-12-2009 11:11AM

she was probably on the twit wit site when she should have been supervising him in the pool

stovelid · 19-12-2009 11:13AM

Thankfully, I assume that not a single one of us actually knows what goes through your mind when this happens.

It seems mawkish to me but the woman (obviously) could have been crazed at that minute and there was nobody there to talk to.

old_aussie wrote: »

she was probably on the twit wit site when she should have been supervising him in the pool

You should consider using your powers of omniscience for the good of human race.

MagicMarker · 19-12-2009 11:25AM

I feel sorry for the 11 year old who didn't close the gate behind him.

Big Nasty · 19-12-2009 12:41PM

Twit

loreanatus · 19-12-2009 12:49PM

There is a line that has been drawn and crossed. This is a truely tragic event that happened and I'm really sorry for that family loss. They are suffering the bitter sorrow left by a death and will have to endure a future of thousands of moments of self-blaming, guilty, and painful memories. But why do the public have to come into this family tragedy?

Why is this 'news'? For the media to point and say 'look what this parent did' to the ever-consuming mob? The powers-that-be decided that in that in her stricken state when tweeting, that mother is waiving her right to privacy, that line is not crossed, and then go publish this story ???!

Is the publics 'right to know' greater than the familys real need to grieve, whether its happening quietly or loudly, in peace or in public? What about social responsibility?

I expect that we can show greater respect, and step back.

walshb · 19-12-2009 12:54PM

I can just see her at the Funeral:mad:

robby^5 · 19-12-2009 01:07PM

Really dont see the difference here between tweeting and say calling up a friend or family member thats getting people so angry. The only real difference is tweeting is contacting a much wider audience who may or may not know this person in real life, but the again who's to say that lots of her followers werent friends or family?

Also the fact that she is religious shows some motivation behind her tweeting, she believed that people praying could save her child and she had 5,000 people who might do so at the tips of her fingers...its ridiculous but it's one of those crazy beliefs which is tolerated by society.

the iceman come · 19-12-2009 01:23PM

Look ,the bottom line is this,if the selfish wagon spent as much time actuallt looking after her kids as she does on bloody twitter,her child would be alive now,of that much I am convinced,she should be prosecuted for child neglect and get counselling for her addiction,until then her other child(ren) should be immeadiatley taken into care to prevent another tradgedy.

sceptre · 19-12-2009 01:28PM

walshb wrote: »

I can just see her at the Funeral:mad:

"Coffin just lwred, will keep u all updated"
"Can't find d egg sandwiches, hpe they're hr somewhere"
"might hit 10k frnds 2day!"

VinnyTGM · 19-12-2009 01:31PM

old_aussie wrote: »

she was probably on the twit wit site when she should have been supervising him in the pool

Too right.

eviltwin · 19-12-2009 01:33PM

There's nowt as queer as folk as they say

I know everyone handles things like this in their own way but you'd have to wonder at the state of someone whose first thought when their child is dying is to update their twitter....

Not exactly the thought that would go through the heads of most normal people

19-12-2009 01:38PM

Why does anyone care about this?

Irish Guitarist · 19-12-2009 05:21PM

Some people think of online friends the same way they do real-life friends. If she had phoned all her real-life friends to tell them about this tragedy it wouldn't be in the news so I don't see why it should be in the news that she told her online friends. What I find sick is the fact that her grief is being used to sell 'news'papers. Anyway I feel sorry for the woman and I hope her son rests in peace.

InKonspikuou2 · 19-12-2009 05:32PM

Whether it was a traumatic reaction to use that twitter thing or just some weird attention seeking ploy it still doesn't take away from the fact that we are living in a sad pathetic time when a sub conscious reaction can be to update something like this on the internet.

time42play · 19-12-2009 05:46PM

Lots of lists I'm on have Americans asking for something-or-other to be "added to your prayer list and those of your friends and families. God fixed (deleted) for me because so may people prayed for it, we need to storm heaven once again for (deleted)." I think that's where she was coming from, although how she was calm enough to key it in as her child lay dying does surprise me.

Mother 'Tweets' as Son Dies

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