Living with your folks when you're an adult.

AckwelFoley · 14-10-2009 12:11PM

i think at 22 pighead was being a tad harsh on his young mind, and in my eyes just a mere piglet at that age.

I myself was 28 when i finally left the home. My reasons for being with the parents up to that age were financial. I was building a home for my self. I came across a few snags in the early stages of building, particularly with the soundproofing of the basement.

However, i finally moved out. I have a small mortgage, and the parents are free to roam the house in the nip if the so desire

Saint_Mel · 14-10-2009 12:18PM

Moved back home in between returning from my world tour and getting a job. Was there for a few months and although the cooked brekkie in the morning was top notch, it was still not an ideal situation. Started work and then rented a place with some work mates.

Then after a couple of years I bought a place and moved back home for a bit to save money while the building was being finished. Worst couple of months ever ... with the exception of the 3 decent meals a day of course.

Have to agree about the boxers. A good pair are sure hard to find. Bought some recently and they were just brutal and as my previous batch had been sent on a burning boat to Valhalla I'd an uncomfortable couple of days before I could start the quest for a new collection.

KTRIC · 14-10-2009 12:21PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

snyper wrote: »

I came across a few snags in the early stages of building, particularly with the soundproofing of the basement.

Seems to be a problem with new builds down this neck of the woods as well. German and Austrian houses have notoriously bad insulation in the basements calling for extensive remodelling, adding of firewalls and hidden passages.

AckwelFoley · 14-10-2009 12:23PM

KTRIC wrote: »

Seems to be a problem with new builds down this neck of the woods as well. German and Austrian houses have notoriously bad insulation in the basements calling for extensive remodelling, adding of firewalls and hidden passages.

yes. My plans were drawen up by a Belgian architect first. Then i decided not to go with it, so i went with an Austrian chap.

KTRIC · 14-10-2009 12:25PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

snyper wrote: »

Then i decided not to go with it, so i went with an Austrian chap.

Good idea, not like there would be a reason not to trust an Austrian.

Run_to_da_hills · 14-10-2009 12:34PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

I left home late 20ies but moved back recently mainly to look after the old bo*lix.

IvyTheTerrible · 14-10-2009 12:36PM

I haven't lived at home full time since I was 18. I used to just stay there for the summer holidays when I was in college but otherwise I was always living somewhere else.

I love my folks, and maybe mostly because i love them I couldn't live with them.

Pighead · 14-10-2009 12:39PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

Run_to_da_hills wrote: »

I left home late 20ies but moved back recently mainly to look after the old bo*lix.

Pighead hears ya Run_to_da_hills. Too much lovemaking can leave the old testicles tender and raw. A bit of time out at home to recharge the boys is never a bad idea.

Kipperhell · 14-10-2009 01:30PM

It's only a short term thing.

There are a lot of people still living at home in their 30s and 40s having never moved out.

I know a few and I think it is pathetic and they show no signs of moving out. When there is more than one over 30 still at home with their parents it is really quite sad.

One guy I knew was still at home in a small corpo house but was earning well over 100k a year. Never could figure out what he did with his money because if you saw him he looked like a manual labourer.

The worst was my grandmother took in a distant cousin for a week but he stayed 45 years before getting a corpo old folks flat. It might not have been his child hood home but it was like my gran was his mother he even called her that.

Fighting Irish · 14-10-2009 01:34PM

It's only a short term thing.

brummytom wrote: »

My cousin lives at home - she's never had a boyfriend and never left home for more than a week. She's Nearly 30.

It's pathetic

My cousin doesn't live at home, she and her husband bought their own home - She's Nearly 30, married with 2 kids and a €400,000 mortgage

It sounds great

seamus · 14-10-2009 01:41PM

I moved out when I was 19 and the longest I've spent at home since was 3 days over Christmas. Everyone should move out as soon as they can, especially if they're students. Nothing like being able to come at 5am, get up at 5pm and sit around for 3 or 4 hours watching TV without anyone else even blinking at you.

Ansty · 14-10-2009 01:51PM

hmmm.... i don't think i really started living my life until I left home. In so many ways i think that (depending on the household now) living at home can hold you back and prevent you from moving forward. By living with your parents, in some ways your always going to be 'the child'!Can't stay in that comfort zone forever. I wonder does your cousin feel like she's missing out at all?!

Pighead · 14-10-2009 01:53PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

seamus wrote: »

I moved out when I was 19 and the longest I've spent at home since was 3 days over Christmas. Everyone should move out as soon as they can, especially if they're students. Nothing like being able to come at 5am, get up at 5pm and sit around for 3 or 4 hours watching TV without anyone else even blinking at you.

Ok seamus, fair enough they are all positive aspects of living away from home but what about the other side of the coin?

You're sitting on the sofa shaking like an epileptic chicken after a massive drinking binge the previous night. Who's going to wrap you in a blanket and refuel you with hot Lemsip? Who's going to rub the back of your neck and say something soothing like "Awwww my poor little Piggy, did the big bad beer monster give him the achy wakeys?" Pighead will tell you who. Your mother that's who. If you were living at home she'd have you fixed before you could say "Let's do it all again" Instead you're sitting on the sofa trying not to vomit while your flatmate Mental Mickey is pointing and laughing at you and calling you a big smelly nancy girl.

Captain Havoc · 14-10-2009 01:58PM

It's only a short term thing.

28 back living with parents after eight years living in various European countries. My parents see me as a live in security guard and any time I mention moving out me da either explains the financial implicatons of moving out or that it wouldn't be good for me ma.

Handsome Bob · 14-10-2009 02:00PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

brummytom wrote: »

Yep, she's got two.

She's in no hurry to leave home though

This is it really. I'm still living at home at 22, but I'm a student so it doesn't bother me. However, when the time comes where I have hopefully nailed down a reliable job I will definitely begin saving from the get go with the plan in being getting my own place. My brother is hitting 40 and has gotten way too comfortable living at home, there's no chance I'm going to end up like that if I can help it!

seamus · 14-10-2009 02:03PM

Pighead wrote: »

Ok seamus, fair enough they are all positive aspects of living away from home but what about the other side of the coin?

You're sitting on the sofa shaking like an epileptic chicken after a massive drinking binge the previous night. Who's going to wrap you in a blanket and refuel you with hot Lemsip? Who's going to rub the back of your neck and say something soothing like "Awwww my poor little Piggy, did the big bad beer monster give him the achy wakeys?" Pighead will tell you who. Your mother that's who. If you were living at home she'd have you fixed before you could say "Let's do it all again" Instead you're sitting on the sofa trying not to vomit while your flatmate Mental Mickey is pointing and laughing at you and calling you a big smelly nancy girl.

Lemsip? After a drinking binge? You big nancy.

You're never too hungover to pick up the phone, ring the local chinese and ask them to bring you a mountain of curry, fried rice, chips and drop into the local spar and pick you up a bottle of lucozade on their way.

The key to not looking like a wimp in front of housemates is to arrive into the sitting room, t-shirt on backwards, pants barely pulled up over your arse, pumping sweat and green faced, then pick up the bottle of jack and neck two slugs of it before going and getting your phone.

Lux23 · 14-10-2009 02:07PM

I moved out when I was 23 for the first time and moved back in for a couple of times due to problems with landlords etc. I am sharing with just one person at the moment but desperately want to rent a place of my own which I think I may be able to manage in a couple of months. My flatmate is nice but he wouldn't be the most social of people so he is home alot so i rarely got the place to myself.

Pighead · 14-10-2009 02:23PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

seamus wrote: »

Lemsip? After a drinking binge? You big nancy.

You're never too hungover to pick up the phone, ring the local chinese and ask them to bring you a mountain of curry, fried rice, chips and drop into the local spar and pick you up a bottle of lucozade on their way.

The key to not looking like a wimp in front of housemates is to arrive into the sitting room, t-shirt on backwards, pants barely pulled up over your arse, pumping sweat and green faced, then pick up the bottle of jack and neck two slugs of it before going and getting your phone.

As usual you're right seamus. Pighead was just trying to make all the home dwellers feel a bit better about their miserable existences but you're tough love method although immediately painful for them will probably be better in the long run.

By the way seamus, how come you use a small s in your name? Is it because you hate capitalism?

Fago! · 14-10-2009 02:30PM

My uncle lives with my Nanny and Grandad. (Now only Grandad)

He's 51.

That's the honest truth.

Whaddda Loooooooser!!!!!

krudler · 14-10-2009 02:33PM

My parents retired in Spain, I'm praying they ask me to move in with them:D

congo_90 · 14-10-2009 02:34PM

At age 19 and recently only suffering the hemorage of unemployment I never quite had the chance to move out. Now still 19 years old. I fear I'm the youngest here but maybe just maybe one day I'll land the money to get up and go. Until then, theres food and laundry and this bed.

littlefriend · 14-10-2009 02:36PM

I think I love pighead.
Lemsip are brilliant for a hangover by the way.

seamus · 14-10-2009 02:39PM

Pighead wrote: »

By the way seamus, how come you use a small s in your name? Is it because you hate capitalism?

Because it's not my proper name. It's a grammar geek's joke.

Piste · 14-10-2009 02:49PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

I'm 18, I'm not going anywhere soon. Well in 4th year of college I'll be shunted around the country, but once that year's over I'll be right back here in my cosy sitting room.

14-10-2009 02:58PM

I know plenty of people close relations and neighbours etc that never moved out. One son/daughter stayed at home, got married and the husband/wife moved in and then when the parents got older/died the house would be theres. This was very common in my parents generation but probably not so much anymore.

Im 24 and I am not too long living away from home. Feck I would still be there if I was working near home. Bloody rent is a pain!!

Joey the lips · 14-10-2009 03:05PM

It's only a short term thing.

Pig head for mod anyway. Your very funny.

Nothing wrong with living at home IMO. But would your girlfriend be ok with shareing a bed above the kitchen......

The advantages of living together are usually the disadvantages of at home

Living at home: Living alone
Family No rows
Dinners made Tesco Microwave
Washing done Launderatte
No cleaning or shared. Spanish or latavian made

Personally I would love to live at home and visit the girlfriend in her pad.... The best of both worlds really.

bug · 14-10-2009 11:51PM

There's a difference between living with your parents and living off your parents.
The latter seems to be most peoples interpretation of the former.

Moved out when I was twenty one for a few years and moved back, moving out again in a month or so.

But no, once you are looking after yourself and not relying on them for anything I don't see it as shameful or really think about it.

You're just occupying space. I'd rather pay rent to my ma than some landlord that owns three properties in Dublin 4.
Depends on how you get on with your parents too I suppose.

In fairness IMO its more shameful to admit you go to Copper Face Jacks > see other thread.

Azureus · 14-10-2009 11:53PM

I live on the streets with a hobo called Harry.

Im 21 and moved out last year, much as I love Mammy I could never go back!!

Ahhhh, sweet sweet freedom

Fey! · 15-10-2009 12:02AM

It's only a short term thing.

Pighead wrote: »

Sometimes people don't know what they've got til it's gone.

Then they go out and pave paradise, and erect a parking lot...

Senna · 15-10-2009 12:15AM

Moved out when i went to college at 18, didn't really stay at home for longer than a week till i was 22, moved back in for a year during a college work placement. Was back at home from 24-26 then i rented a house in town. But when i was 29 i moved back seen my mum was on her own, was there for a year.

Couldn't really move back in again unless i dragged the missus with me, but i wouldn't have a problem moving back at any age.

Living with your folks when you're an adult.

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