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  • #32
    Silverfish
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 16,698 Mod ✭✭✭✭Silverfish


    Boston and Liam Byrne, this is the end of it.

    Thanks.


  • #33
    polly_wolly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 ✭polly_wolly


    No I honestly don't think he is bi. When he explained why he did it, it kind of made sense. He's a typical guy with typical male friends. Ive had some personal illness issues and it's freaked him out a bit. He didn't want to tell his friends because they wouldn't be the most sensitive or good for advice. He said if his friends came to him for advice on a serious matter he'd probably be rubbish too- he's not the sensitive type! So he wanted to talk to someone who might guide him without laughing it off.
    As I said he has no gay tendancies and is sex mad! So it makes sense after all:)


  • #34
    Boston
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    I wasn't saying he was Bi. The vast majority of straight men will be curious about homosexuality at some point in their life. Most won't "Do" anything but rather they'll shrug it off and eventually not care, some will pick the brains of their gay friends (or chat on-line if they have none), download abit of gay porn maybe or kiss anther guy. A few may even sleep with another man. The fact remains that most of these guys will be straight.

    As an aside, he'd probably thought you'd be more comfortable with him talking to Gay guys rather then possibly straight women about your relationship, i.e. you wouldn't see them as a threat.


  • #35
    polly_wolly
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 18 ✭polly_wolly


    Thats exactly what he said. He told me I know him well enough to know he isn't gay so chatting to gay guys is a non-threatening action, whereas if I found him chatting on-line to girls......different story.
    I totally jumped to conclusions at first but thankfully this makes a whole lot more sense. And he guy he was talking to actually gave him great advice about our relationship so in hindsight it was kinda worth it:o


  • #36
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    As long as you're happy, Polly - that's all that counts.

    Glad you got it sorted.

    :cool:


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  • #37
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Polly...what was the site that was used?

    Why wouldn’t he talk to his family? To people in work?

    I know a guy who was engaged too. He was also logging onto gay chat sites, and ultimately hooking up with men. His girlfriend didn’t have the faintest idea.

    He got married last summer, and he's still logging onto the same site. Sometimes, people are just very good liars.


  • #38
    Boston
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,163 ✭✭✭✭Boston


    sounds fishy wrote: »
    Polly...what was the site that was used?

    Why wouldn’t he talk to his family? To people in work?

    I know a guy who was engaged too. He was also logging onto gay chat sites, and ultimately hooking up with men. His girlfriend didn’t have the faintest idea.

    He got married last summer, and he's still logging onto the same site. Sometimes, people are just very good liars.

    Maybe he doesn't want to bring his personal life into the work place? Maybe he's not close to his family? Why would that be odd.


  • #39
    Zaph
    Registered Users, Subscribers, Registered Users 2 Posts: 47,405 ✭✭✭✭Zaph


    Boston wrote: »
    I wasn't saying he was Bi. The vast majority of straight men will be curious about homosexuality at some point in their life. Most won't "Do" anything but rather they'll shrug it off and eventually not care, some will pick the brains of their gay friends (or chat on-line if they have none), download abit of gay porn maybe or kiss anther guy. A few may even sleep with another man. The fact remains that most of these guys will be straight.

    As an aside, he'd probably thought you'd be more comfortable with him talking to Gay guys rather then possibly straight women about your relationship, i.e. you wouldn't see them as a threat.

    Boston, Silverfish already requested to desist from that line of discussion and yet you repeat your earlier post almost verbatim. Infracted for ignoring mod instruction.


  • #40
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,006 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    My friend discovered her fiance was having gay chats. It really shocked and upset her. He came up with some story about having a high sex drive and having done all the regular stuff and agreed to never do it again. So far all good but I know the doubt will always be in her mind. But some people (her fiance?) are very good at compartmentalising and maybe thats ok. I think thats what she's chosen. Your bfs story doesn't sound very likely tbh, though of course you know him. (?)

    I've been with guys before who told me they've been with men (and are over it) and that was ok with me. Though a friend of mine was led on by an actively bi bf for two years and found out the truth by accident. Honesty is the main thing here. Let him know its ok for him to be honest with you, though he may find that very difficult. And then work out what you can accept.


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