I had sex with an escort today

LegacyUser · 01-05-2009 09:04PM #1

And do you know what, i feel really good about it too, well for now anyway. The girl was amazing looking and extremely nice to talk to. I was a bit nervous going in but she put me totally at ease. Anyways im just looking for people's opinion.

A bit about me. Im 23, just finishing college and im going to be unemployed. I consider myself relatively good looking but I havn't had sex with a girl in 1.5 years. I really only had 4 sexual patners and I think I just got this escort to relieve sexual tension. I find my mind is at ease now.

I havn't told anybody and I dont think I ever will.

What do girls think about guys who had sex with excorts??

Lollipops23 · 02-05-2009 11:57AM

honestly...?i wouldn't be all that impressed if a guy told me that. call me old fashioned, but in my head it sounds a) desperate and b) gross. i'd make you get screened for STIs before i'd hold your hand:D seriously,i'm sure you have your reasons but i'm just telling you my own honest reactions.

CSC · 02-05-2009 12:00PM

It doesn't matter what other people think. By the sounds of it you are never going to tell anyone about so don't worry about it.

Monkey61 · 02-05-2009 12:09PM

I personally wouldn't have a problem with it, but there are obviously going to be girls that would. The STI factor wouldn't be big worry either provided that you get yourself tested regularly, as I imagine escorts (there being a difference between escorts and junkies selling themselves on the street) would be even more meticulous when it came to looking after their sexual health than the majority of drunks looking to score on a saturday night. I'd sooner sleep with someone who'd had protected sex with an escort once, than a guy who said he hadn't used a condom on a one night stand once.

I think you should feel really good about it. Why not? Much better and healthier than you being riddled with unnecessary guilt or shame.

My only concern would be if it became a habit, which I imagine could happen quite easily. Expense aside, I would worry that it might start to have an effect on your mental well being in general and possibly leave you less confident with women if you got out of the habit of meeting girls and chatting them up etc. It also might then leave you less likely to find an amazing relationship if you were too busy fulfilling your sexual needs elsewhere to be bothered looking for one. But that's just a theory...

star-pants · 02-05-2009 12:10PM

IF you're not going to tell anyone, why do you want opinions of people who are strangers?

Personally, I'd rather not know a guy I was with had been with an escort of any form. Again, old fashioned perhaps but the whole paying for sex thing, doesn't sit with me.
Once you were safe & careful and you feel fine about it, what does it matter?

Wagon · 02-05-2009 12:22PM

Unregistered wrote: »

And do you know what, i feel really good about it too, well for now anyway. The girl was amazing looking and extremely nice to talk to. I was a bit nervous going in but she put me totally at ease. Anyways im just looking for people's opinion.

A bit about me. Im 23, just finishing college and im going to be unemployed. I consider myself relatively good looking but I havn't had sex with a girl in 1.5 years. I really only had 4 sexual patners and I think I just got this escort to relieve sexual tension. I find my mind is at ease now.

I havn't told anybody and I dont think I ever will.

What do girls think about guys who had sex with excorts??

I can't see what's wrong with it, once you used protection.

Don't tell girlfriends or anything. They won't take kindly to the news. I dont think it smacks of desperation either, your human and one and a half years is a long time to be denied that part of your humanity. Personally, i think it was a safer option than sleeping around with randomers.

Queen-Mise · 02-05-2009 12:39PM

Go for it - it obviously was an issue for you that you hadn't had sex for 1 1/2 years.

You sorted it. Issue finished. Although I wouldn't tell anyone.

And lots and lots of people do it.

hello_there_jim · 02-05-2009 12:41PM

whats an escort, the car?

Salome · 02-05-2009 12:51PM

Firstly, it's your own business what you do - you don't need approval from strangers.

Secondly, if you used protection, you've nothing to be concerned about.

Thirdly, don't tell any girlfriend(s) about this - they won't like the fact that their man has been with an escort.

LegacyUser · 02-05-2009 01:17PM

A lot of men in marriages effectively pay for sex with their wife so I don't see too much wrong paying directly so long she is doing it out of her free will.

Apparently more women than you would think have accepted money for sex at some point in their lives.

JangoFett · 02-05-2009 01:23PM

I went a year without sex and it really got to me. I considered getting an escort but that would have depressed me more, but that's just me.

Fair play man!

Last night, I got my first ever lapdance. I haven't seen a naked woman in a few months, until last night anyway, and it was great!

hello_there_jim · 02-05-2009 01:26PM

no seriously, is it like a hooker?

herya · 02-05-2009 01:28PM

Salome wrote: »

Thirdly, don't tell any girlfriend(s) about this - they won't like the fact that their man has been with an escort.

Or, more honestly, choose a gf who has no problem with you using escorts in the past.

herya · 02-05-2009 01:29PM

hello_there_jim wrote: »

no seriously, is it like a hooker?

Yes it is. A prostitute in other words. They are now called escorts.

username123 · 02-05-2009 01:57PM

Im female and I wouldnt have an issue with it. I might have an issue with it if it was a very regular thing and the only way you ever had sex, because Id worry did you view sexual intimacy as a financial transaction only and perhaps find yourself less inclined to attach any emotion to it, but just to experiment, relieve some tension and have a good time - no worries.

Just out of curiosity, how much did it cost and how long did you get with the girl?

Wibbs · 02-05-2009 02:17PM

hello_there_jim stay on topic and read the charter forum. You know full well the guy isn't talking about one of Henry Fords offerings. That or you failed to spot the obvious in his original post, or the following posts which would worry me if that was the case. So take the humour to AH thanks.

LegacyUser · 02-05-2009 02:22PM

I would be very seriously put off by a guy doing that. Didn't you feel kind of crap having to pay her?

herya · 02-05-2009 02:38PM

Unregistered wrote: »

Im 23, just finishing college and im going to be unemployed.

TBH this part would be more worrying for me than the escort thing alone.

How do you know you're going to be unemployed? What are you going to do? Are you going to draw the dole and sleep with escorts now? That's when your real problems start.

02-05-2009 02:38PM

Salome wrote: »

Secondly, if you used protection, you've nothing to be concerned about.

Yes because condoms protect against all stds and never fail.

I wouldn't want to be with someone who had used a prostitue, in any way.

O'Coonassa · 02-05-2009 02:48PM

Unregistered wrote: »

What do girls think about guys who had sex with excorts??

They think that escorts are giving it away too cheaply IMO and when you look at the astronomical price you must pay to go the conventional route it's easy to see why they feel that way.

Wagon · 02-05-2009 03:24PM

herya wrote: »

TBH this part would be more worrying for me than the escort thing alone.

How do you know you're going to be unemployed? What are you going to do? Are you going to draw the dole and sleep with escorts now? That's when your real problems start.

A lot of people are unemployed. This is mainly cos there's no jobs and not because all young lads are sleeping with prostitutes.

O'Coonassa wrote: »

They think that escorts are giving it away too cheaply IMO and when you look at the astronomical price you must pay to go the conventional route it's easy to see why they feel that way.

Legend

kittenkiller · 02-05-2009 03:36PM

If you feel so good about it, why are you posting here?

If you're so good looking, why do you have to pay for it after not having any for nearly two years?

Personally I think it's a grand thing for sexless loners, but regular people should probably try not to fork out for a clinical transaction with someone who'd probably do your dad straight after you if he had the cash.

LegacyUser · 02-05-2009 03:43PM

Young guy why would you need the services of an expensive prostitute
and why tell us about it, do you feel you have done something wrong?

02-05-2009 03:43PM

Wagon wrote: »

A lot of people are unemployed. This is mainly cos there's no jobs and not because all young lads are sleeping with prostitutes.

No jobs? Really? I have a job and all my friends have jobs. I wouldn't want to go out with someone who has decided that they're 'going to be unemployed' before they'd even finished college. What a defeatist attitude and lack of ambition.

Wagon · 02-05-2009 03:46PM

[quote=[Deleted User];60078601]No jobs? Really? I have a job and all my friends have jobs.[/QUOTE]
I had one too. Then i got laid off.

I wouldn't want to go out with someone who has decided that they're 'going to be unemployed' before they'd even finished college. What a defeatist attitude and lack of ambition.

Yeah well sometimes, people are being realistic. They dont want to get their hopes up. It doesn't mean he won't try looking.

crotalus667 · 02-05-2009 04:09PM

username123 wrote: »

Just out of curiosity, how much did it cost and how long did you get with the girl?

Not that I have used one (don’t get me wrong I have no objections to them) but the norm is about , 120-150 for 30mins 200-300 (usually 250) per hour , the difference between escorts and prostitutes is escorts charge for time prostates charge per act (although a lot of escorts charge extra for certain tings ) the prices in Ireland are notoriously high so there is huge influx of very good looking girls (a lot of girls go on tour as well)

JonathanAnon · 02-05-2009 04:14PM

Unregistered wrote: »

What do girls think about guys who had sex with excorts??

Escort is a euphemism for prostitute in this context. Not that I know much about it, but dont arent escorts usually provide the service of being a partner for social occasions, not sex.

I dont see why you are getting a ego boost from paying a good looking woman to have sex with you. I'm not being critical of you, you can do whatever you want so long as you dont harm anyone, but I just dont see why a) you would get a confidence boost from having sex with a hooker or b) come on here expecting people to condone what you are doing.

thebiggestjim · 02-05-2009 04:31PM

How much did she cost?

02-05-2009 04:34PM

Wagon wrote: »

I had one too. Then i got laid off.

So that means there are 'no jobs' in the world? Still plenty of people with jobs out there, plenty of people finding other work after losing one, plenty of graduates coming out with job offers. It's much more difficult than it used to be coming out of college, but far from impossible. I don't know a single person from my year who isn't either doing a postgrad or in full time employment. The way people on here go on, you'd think the entire country was on the dole. But that's another topic.

Yeah well sometimes, people are being realistic. They dont want to get their hopes up. It doesn't mean he won't try looking.

It's not realistic, it's defeatist. Looking for ages and not finding anything is one thing, saying you're 'going to be unemployed' is another. With that attitude, yes, he probably will be. I couldn't tolerate that mentality in a partner.

As for the escort, I'd find it pretty sad to be honest that someone had to pay for sex. I'd wonder why they couldn't find a normal girlfriend, or someone to have casual sex with for free. Just seems very desperate to me.

iguana · 02-05-2009 04:49PM

JonathanAnon wrote: »

but I just dont see why a) you would get a confidence boost from having sex with a hooker

This is that part I don't quite get. You paid someone to have sex with you, everything between you was more than likely an act. If you looked like Henry VIII in his later years the escort would have oohed and aahed and made out like she had a good time. If the sex was the worst she ever had she would have faked that orgasm like it was the best she ever had. I mean sure there is a possibility that she was genuinely attracted to you and enjoyed the sex. But the strong odds are that she wriggled and writhed with an eye on the clock and mentally did her shopping list while silently urging you to hurry up and finish off so she could go home and watch Corrie or get on to the next John.

And this is the part I'd have a problem with if a partner had slept with prostitutes in his past. There have been a lot of PIs about past partners and self-respect. And I think that someone who had 200 past sexual partners, where each encounter was initiated through mutual desire, is someone who honestly respects themselves and their partners. But someone who had sex with someone who has no real interest in them and sees shagging them as a chore they do for money is either severely lacking in self-respect or foolishly deluded.

Mrmoe · 02-05-2009 05:00PM

I'd say that most women would not be too thrilled about it. But does it matter what they think?No. If you enjoyed it then there should be no problem. You are not alone either, loads of people have done the same thing worldwide throughout history.

I had sex with an escort today

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