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Delaying having kids

  • 30-03-2009 03:35PM
    #1
    sticky29
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4 ✭


    My Partner and I have been mulling over this for a while. We are both 30 and married a few months. We are in the process of beginning to build a home for ourselves which is looking like it'll take at least a year and a half.
    I definitely want to have kids soon enough but realise that this may not be the best time for us. DH would prefer to wait till the house is built etc. etc, he has thrown out the figure of 2 years as being a nice time to wait between getting married and having kids as he feels we will never have this special time on our own again, and I do agree with him.

    Also the possibility of him being able to take a creer break has come up and as Im not working at the moment we thought while the house is being built we could take 6 months off and go travelling as again, we'll never have this opportunity again.

    Im super excited about all these plans but every now and then I worry that I'll regret putting off having kids for another 2 years. I'll be 31, possibly nearly 32 before we start ttc.

    Is this too late, are we mad? Should we start sooner rather than later? I know for everyone, it's different but I'd really like some feedback as Im beginning to feel a bit guilty as a few people have expressed surprise that we are leaving it for a while.

    Thanks


Comments

  • #2
    vibrant
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 826 ✭✭✭vibrant


    I don't think it's too late at all, in fact I think early 30's is a good age. Ignore the people who are surprised you are waiting. What's it to them? Don't let them make you feel guilty.


  • #3
    cantdecide
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,363 ✭✭✭✭cantdecide


    I hope you're looking forward to building because it can be an absolutely gruelling process and you can expect a hell of an education.

    There are infinite reasons why people choose to build but if having kids was very high on your list of priorities until now, would you not consider simply buying a house and getting on with having kids after your bit of travel etc?? I know several people who built in their 40s and 50s...


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    vibrant wrote: »
    I don't think it's too late at all, in fact I think early 30's is a good age. Ignore the people who are surprised you are waiting. What's it to them? Don't let them make you feel guilty.
    It's not about what you think, it's about what is biologically possible.
    Every year after 30 makes it more difficult to concieve, early 30's should be no problem.
    If you want a baby in your arms in 3 years time, start planning now.
    Get house sorted, finances while you have no stress, in a years time, improve your diet exercise, supplements etc. Start reading up about pregrency conception etc. Then in 2 years enjoy the baby making process and have a health baby in 3 years.


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