Housemate has the hots for me

LegacyUser · 25-03-2009 03:34AM #1

hey

i moved into a shared house a few months ago with 2 guys and a girl. I knew one of the guys before moving in so that was one of the reasons for choosing the place, anyway when I moved in i noticed the other guy(who is the other guys friend) was quite flirty with me and obviously had the hots for me.
it didnt bother me too much and i passed it off as innocent flirting, but about a month ago he has started to act very different toward me, hes been a lot more touchy feely, hes been making dirty jokes and purposely rubbing up by me as he passes me in the hallway or something. I have a boyfriend who ive been seein for 2 years and im totally not interested. Ive tried ignoring his jokes and comments whenever they offend me but it doesnt seem to be working! im a really shy person and find it very hard to speak up for myself..Im also afraid of saying anything to him because the rental agreement is in his name and i dont want to cause hassle. anyone have any ideas of what i can say or do to get him to stop?

cantdecide · 25-03-2009 09:06AM

I'd tip off your BF and agree that he should call round more often for a while and totally overdo the PDAs when the opportunities permit. When he gets a little smutty, be sure and have your glare perfected.

Okay, he's being a jerk in a way but he can't help his feelings for you no more than you can help your feelings for your BF so don't take it as license to try to p*ss him off...

sweetie · 25-03-2009 09:11AM

cantdecide wrote: »

I'd tip off your BF and agree that he should call round more often for a while and totally overdo the PDAs when the opportunities permit. When he gets a little smutty, be sure and have your glare perfected.

Okay, he's being a jerk in a way but he can't help his feelings for you no more than you can help your feelings for your BF so don't take it as license to try to p*ss him off...

he may have feelings but that doesn't give him the right to touch or insult anyone. I would have a word
with your friend first and if that didn't work tell your boyfriend to have a word altho I would be prepared
to move if need be.

cantdecide · 25-03-2009 09:37AM

sweetie wrote: »

...that doesn't give him the right to touch or insult anyone...

It sounds to me like he's just behaving in an over familiar manner making the OP uncomfortable, Sweetie.

He's not exactly being abusive.

sweetie wrote: »

...I would have a word with your friend first and if that didn't work tell your boyfriend to have a word altho I would be prepared
to move if need be...

Of course she has to be prepared that someone will have to move if it persists but if her BF confronts him, that's the absolute end of diplomacies. She may as well move instead at that stage. She wouldn't be asking if she didn't want to stay in the house....

LegacyUser · 25-03-2009 10:34AM

I think it is in appropriate how he is behaving toward her, and being on the end of a sleeze bag isnt easy to live with if your a shy girl.

He knows you have a boyfriend, and needs to cop on,

These are your first lessons in confrontation, its either you or him, he is going to have to be told to stop or he never will and you will be living with it.

Next time he feels you up tell push him away and tell him your BF wouldnt be happy about it.

Craft25 · 25-03-2009 12:57PM

Just spell it out to him, i'm sure he'll take it on the chin. You know how some guys can be sh!t at picking up the signals when a girl is interested; well the same is true forwhen she is totally not interested! Make it crystal clear!!

PS. Dont say it's cos you have a boyfriend, because he might hear that as, 'only for my boyfriend we could run off into the sunset together' - make sure he knows it's never gonna happen!!

Housemate has the hots for me

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