Sex & Girlfriend

LegacyUser · 22-03-2009 11:18PM #1

(Mods, if you feel this belongs in Sex and Sexuality please feel free to move. I do have access, just thought I'd post here for the benefit of anonymity)

Anyway, here we go.

My girlfriend. She's the most precious thing to me. The most beautiful woman I have ever met (people are constantly commenting her/guys checking her out [I don't care, the way I see it is that they can look all they want, I'm the one shes with]) and everything I want from a woman.

And I would like to pleasure her in every way possible. Especially sex. Only thing is that she finds it hard to relax before and this does tense her up. I would like to find some techniques that the both of us can do to help her relax i.e breathing techniques and the like.

If anyone knows of any, please let me know!

Stheno · 22-03-2009 11:32PM

Do you tell her how special she is to you?

Are you affectionate outside the bedroom?
Have you tried lots of stuff like massage/cuddles etc?

Finally do you talk about what turns you on sexually both individually and as a couple?

LegacyUser · 22-03-2009 11:36PM

I pretty much always tell her how special she is to me. To the extent that sometimes I think it have to quota myself!

I'm a very touchy feely guy so we're always either holding hands (when we're walking I would often kiss the back of her hand), or cuddled up with each other (I'd regularly kiss her forehead/cheek). As for massages, I've actually learnt how to do some and bought back massages.

As for the discussion, this is something I feel like I want to do more i.e. during sex. I know it's important for her to tell me what she likes and if there is something she feels I should do.

Are there any techniques that might come in handy? She means the world to me and I really want to be able to pleasure her.

LegacyUser · 22-03-2009 11:56PM

Maybe all of your enthusiasm towards pleasuring her is making her feel under pressure to feel pleasured. Ask her what she likes, then do that. Then don't ask for a review of how you did, sometimes girls have great fun without having an orgasm, for example, and for the guy, he's a failure if she doesn't have an orgasm, even if she had a lot of fun otherwise.

LegacyUser · 23-03-2009 12:18AM

Agree with the above post about feeling pressure to feel pleasured. My boyfriend is amazing and always tells me how much he loves me, cuddles me etc. but he's always asking if I'm getting enough pleasure when we're having sex. While it's nice he cares it annoys me a bit as I can't just have fun and relax fully and usually means I don't orgasm!

I'm sure you're giving her everything she needs, just listen to what she says and be sensitive to her body movements etc because that will tell you alot about if what you're doing is right!

PK2008 · 23-03-2009 12:21AM

Unregistered wrote: »

Maybe all of your enthusiasm towards pleasuring her is making her feel under pressure to feel pleasured. Ask her what she likes, then do that. Then don't ask for a review of how you did, sometimes girls have great fun without having an orgasm, for example, and for the guy, he's a failure if she doesn't have an orgasm, even if she had a lot of fun otherwise.

Got to agree, sounds a bit full on
Not that showing your love is a bad thing but there is a fine line where you can kind of become a pardoy of the whole "serenading under her window" if you go to far, can deffo be a turn off- maybe ease up a little (sugar is sweet but too much can make you sick)

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