The stingey-assed wedding thread

05-02-2009 04:43PM #1

A friend of mine once went to a wedding where, after the church part ended at 2pm, it was announced that the couple along with their immediate family were going to a local restuarant for dinner. None of the other guests knew about this or were invited along. They were told to meet back at a particular pub at 8pm that evening for a bit to eat.

As you can imagine, a lot of guests were very pissed off and just headed home but others hung around for the 6 hours and made it to the pub where the drinks were flowing and everyone was told to order from the bar food menu. After they'd eaten, the very embarrassed bestman had to walk around to everyone with a big till receipt, finding out what everyone had an getting the appropriate amount of money from them.

I'm putting this in AH rather than Weddings and Marriage as I want general stories, not just from those who are in the process of arranging a wedding themselves.

So, what's the meanest looking, tight-assed thing you've seen pulled by a couple getting wed?

Mingey · 05-02-2009 04:45PM

Fair play to them. Looks like the people only went for the free feed then. Why bother spending that much on people who are only going for their 'day out.'

javaboy · 05-02-2009 04:48PM

00112984 wrote: »

So, what's the meanest looking, tight-assed thing you've seen pulled by a couple getting wed?

The last wedding I was at, the happy couple hogged the first song the band played all to themselves. There were loads of people just left standing around because they didn't want to share the dancefloor. It was ridiculous. There was plenty of room for everyone else. Stingy feckers.

ejmaztec · 05-02-2009 04:48PM

A tight-fisted bitch-cousin of mine charged people an entry fee to the reception.

MarkR · 05-02-2009 04:49PM

I'd say you'd get more life out of a stingey-assed wedding guests thread. I've been to quite a few weddings and never felt that the bride and groom did anything less then their level best to make sure everyone had an enjoyable day.

LeahBaby · 05-02-2009 04:52PM

Weddings wreck my head. My bf's brother's wedding is in 2 weeks. Not only is it taking our valentines away, it's gonna cost us a grand.

I'm going abroad to get married. All in in Hawaii including a week hotel with band etc is like 10g. compared to meal costing that here.

05-02-2009 04:52PM

Mingey wrote: »

Fair play to them. Looks like the people only went for the free feed then. Why bother spending that much on people who are only going for their 'day out.'

People went because they were invited.

Inviting someone to a party, excluding them from the bulk of it and then charging them for the food they consumed at your party is tight-assed.

If you want a small wedding, have it. Don't artifically inflate the number of people you have there in order to garner more presents.

BaconZombie · 05-02-2009 04:55PM

FYP

ejmaztec wrote: »

A tight-fisted bitch-cousin of mine charged people an entry fee to ther eception. ass

axel rose · 05-02-2009 04:58PM

5 months after going to a wedding I had to phone the bride to check if she recieved my €250 cheque! I dont want anyone to give me any etiquette crap- A thank you card wouldnt have broken her hand! :mad:

Mingey · 05-02-2009 05:00PM

00112984 wrote: »

People went because they were invited.

Inviting someone to a party, excluding them from the bulk of it and then charging them for the food they consumed at your party is tight-assed.

If you want a small wedding, have it. Don't artifically inflate the number of people you have there in order to garner more presents.

They were invited back to the pub later but went home because they were very pissed off you said. That just seems a bit off. On both sides I suppose. But the amount people spend on weddings are so over the top. It seems it is hard to have a low key wedding for fear of putting people out. Its all a bit silly really.

stovelid · 05-02-2009 05:01PM

axel rose wrote: »

5 months after going to a wedding I had to phone the bride to check if she recieved my €250 cheque! I dont want anyone to give me any etiquette crap- A thank you card wouldnt have broken her hand! :mad:

Maybe she was embarrassed because it bounced?

partyguinness · 05-02-2009 05:01PM

I was at a dirt cheap wedding in England last year with my English g/friend:

a. It was on a Monday.
b. It was a Civil wedding and it took place in the same building as the reception.
c. The bride bought her dress in TKMaxx and an indentical one for the flower girl which was cut up to fit.(£40 each)
d. No bridesmaids.
e. The meal was a self service buffet in the room next door.
f. The desert was the wedding cake.
g. 40 people invited.

It was great. Very cheap, lovely food and very civilised. I had the whole bar to myself which closed at 10.30 pm.

I would never get married in Ireland. My g/friend has been to weddings with me in Ireland and she thinks it crazy..

all the expense, hassle, 4000 people at it, waiting around for the reception for hours on end...and year long preparation..just a big money racket..

The couple were/are in their mid 20s.

Oh yeah..in England the ettitqette is to give money to cover the cost of the meal viz. £40-£50 between 2 of us.

buynow · 05-02-2009 05:01PM

Agreed, if there is one thing you need to do when inviting people to a wedding , is feed them. People get grumpy when they are hungry.

Any time I have heard people complain about going to a wedding, not getting fed is the main one.

Quazzie · 05-02-2009 05:01PM

axel rose wrote: »

5 months after going to a wedding I had to phone the bride to check if she recieved my €250 cheque! I dont want anyone to give me any etiquette crap- A thank you card wouldnt have broken her hand! :mad:

Surely you'd notice if €250 was taken from your account?

dtwhaler · 05-02-2009 05:04PM

axel rose wrote: »

5 months after going to a wedding I had to phone the bride to check if she recieved my €250 cheque! I dont want anyone to give me any etiquette crap- A thank you card wouldnt have broken her hand! :mad:

Similar tale ............... months after the wedding I saw the bride and asked her why she hadnt cashed the cheque .................. I hadnt signed it !!!
I was mortified !!

January · 05-02-2009 05:06PM

Mingey wrote: »

Fair play to them. Looks like the people only went for the free feed then. Why bother spending that much on people who are only going for their 'day out.'

Weddings are by far not free!! I bet everyone of those guests brought a present because they thought they were going to a full day wedding...

Mingey · 05-02-2009 05:07PM

If you have a crap time at someones wedding tell them you are never going to another wedding of theirs again.

Mingey · 05-02-2009 05:07PM

adrieanne__x wrote: »

Weddings are by far not free!! I bet everyone of those guests brought a present because they thought they were going to a full day wedding...

Is that the only reason why you buy gifts for the couple?

Quazzie · 05-02-2009 05:09PM

Mingey wrote: »

If you have a crap time at someones wedding tell them you are never going to another wedding of theirs again.

Does that make you a stingey mingey?

axel rose · 05-02-2009 05:10PM

Stovelid! I take umbridge to your accucations! I put a curse upon your toenails!
I dont want to go in to to much detail but we were requested to pay the cheque into an account with a business so I couldnt be sure if there was a mixup with the business or that the couple were too lazy assed to thank their guests!..........Turned out that the couple were indeed too lazy assed to thank the guests.

Mingey · 05-02-2009 05:11PM

Quazzie2002 wrote: »

Does that make you a stingey mingey?

Whingey Mingey.

Stingey Mingey is when I show up to a friends wedding expecting a free feed and going home in a strop when I didnt get one.

dade · 05-02-2009 05:12PM

00112984 wrote: »

A friend of mine once went to a wedding where, after the church part ended at 2pm, it was announced that the couple along with their immediate family were going to a local restuarant for dinner. None of the other guests knew about this or were invited along. They were told to meet back at a particular pub at 8pm that evening for a bit to eat.

jaysus sounds like one I'm invited to. Reg office job, groomsman told to buy his own suit, those asked to the ceremony told we're going to a local restaurant for a feed after but you have to pay your own way, and it's a Friday.

so I have to loose a days pay and pay for my own grub? get F'd and the tight wench suggested that she was having a wedding list, eh in this case my presence will be my present

NinjaTruncs · 05-02-2009 05:15PM

LeahBaby wrote: »

Weddings wreck my head. My bf's brother's wedding is in 2 weeks. Not only is it taking our valentines away, it's gonna cost us a grand.

I'm going abroad to get married. All in in Hawaii including a week hotel with band etc is like 10g. compared to meal costing that here.

Pot and Kettle comes to mind, you are complaining about loosing a weekend, but you will expect people to travel halfway around the world to go to yours

dodgyme · 05-02-2009 05:18PM

javaboy wrote: »

The last wedding I was at, the happy couple hogged the first song the band played all to themselves. There were loads of people just left standing around because they didn't want to share the dancefloor. It was ridiculous. There was plenty of room for everyone else. Stingy feckers.

Roger Daltry was there?

Degag · 05-02-2009 05:18PM

In one way guys, weddings are really expensive these days and it's really hard for people to come up with the money these days. That said, if i couldn't afford to at least feed my guests then i wouldn't invite them. Or if i'm that hard up i wouldn't even get married.

ejmaztec · 05-02-2009 05:22PM

BOFH_139 wrote: »

FYP

No, I understand she never ever charged for that. :P

blackbox · 05-02-2009 05:24PM

I don't mind stingey, but what the OP described is MEAN.

To me it makes sense not to waste loads of money on a wedding, but inviting people and then telling them to get lost for a few hours is totally unreasonable.

Also, inviting them for a party with bar food and then going around asking them to pay afterwards is also pretty mean.

If money was an issue, there should have been no invites - as simple as that.

javaboy · 05-02-2009 05:25PM

dodgyme wrote: »

Roger Daltry was there?

Who? (Deja vu

)

I don't geddit.

blackbox · 05-02-2009 05:25PM

dodgyme wrote: »

Roger Daltry was there?

Roger Daltry was never in The Band - you must be thinking of Robbie Robertson.

05-02-2009 05:26PM

ejmaztec wrote: »

No, I understand she never ever charged for that. :P

Maybe you got the family discount? :pac:

partyguinness · 05-02-2009 05:27PM

Degag wrote: »

In one way guys, weddings are really expensive these days and it's really hard for people to come up with the money these days. That said, if i couldn't afford to at least feed my guests then i wouldn't invite them. Or if i'm that hard up i wouldn't even get married.

It doesnt cost any money to get married.

Its essentially a piece of paper. Go to a Registry office...

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