Why does BF usually only want to have oral sex?

LegacyUser · 28-01-2009 05:21PM #1

BF of two months seems only interested in oral sex (both giving and receiving.) Of course I love oral sex as much as the next lady, but I also love regular sex too (penetrative.) We have had regular sex and it was good, so I know he is physcially able. It just seems like 9/10 times he just wants oral.

The obvious answer is talk to him about it. I know that. In a new-ish relationshop it's not always easy. I don't want to offend or make him feel critisized.
Why would a man be interested in oral but not regular sex? any ideas?

Bottle_of_Smoke · 28-01-2009 06:14PM

Unregistered wrote: »

BF of two months seems only interested in oral sex (both giving and receiving.) Of course I love oral sex as much as the next lady, but I also love regular sex too (penetrative.) We have had regular sex and it was good, so I know he is physcially able. It just seems like 9/10 times he just wants oral.

The obvious answer is talk to him about it. I know that. In a new-ish relationshop it's not always easy. I don't want to offend or make him feel critisized.
Why would a man be interested in oral but not regular sex? any ideas?

HE might just prefer it. Maybe his penis isnt very wide and it vaginal sex doesn't do much for him.

So it's not a big deal once he's not refusing you penetative sex

liah · 28-01-2009 06:15PM

Well, could be a multitude of reasons... Oral feels quite a bit different to your regular PIV. Maybe he prefers the sensation. Maybe he's lazy. Maybe you're just incredible at oral and mediocre in bed. Best to just ask him I guess.

PauloMN · 28-01-2009 06:18PM

Unregistered wrote: »

The obvious answer is talk to him about it. I know that. In a new-ish relationshop it's not always easy. I don't want to offend or make him feel critisized.

Sorry, but that's a belter. You can suck each other off ok, but talking is hard?

Nevyn · 28-01-2009 06:20PM

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Gone Drinking · 28-01-2009 06:20PM

Just next time say something like

"I want your hot average sized ccok inside my huge dripping wet pussy now!"

And i bet he'll be in there in no time!

This is serious advice by the way, don't ban me.

Cuddlesworth · 28-01-2009 06:25PM

Your going to have to ask him.

Craft25 · 28-01-2009 06:29PM

sometimes as a man it's drilled into us that we should go looking for the clit to get you'se off... perhaps he doesnt feel he can please you as much with penetration as with his tongue..

also has he had problems with premature ejaculation?? recieving oral or pentration from behind can sometimes allow a guy to last alot longer than orthodox girl on bottom(depending on each guy obviously).. so if he is in the early stages and trying to impress you in some way he could be trying to avoid PE, by avoiding penetration.. perhaps exploring positions that he can last longer(if that turns out to be his issue)..

let him know you really like it when he penetrates you, that should encourage him

partyguinness · 28-01-2009 06:31PM

Maybe he is not emotionally ready for sex just yet..you said it is new-ish relationship..so give it time for the relationship to develop.:)

LegacyUser · 28-01-2009 06:43PM

I'm the OP-
Just to clarify a few things. We have had penetrative sex several times. His penis appears normal sized. I haven't seen tons to compare it with, but AFAIK it's certainly not small. My vagina is not "huge" as the other poster mentioned. When we do have sex the fit seems fine and quite tight. I don't think the relative size of our private parts is the issue here.

When we do have sex there hasn't been any issues with premature ejaculation. He seems to last about an average amount of time. I enjoyed it. He seemed to enjoy it as well based on the sounds he was making and the fact he was screaming out for Jesus. There were no awkward glitches as far as I could tell. He just seems to always go for the oral and prefer that.

I doubt it's laziness, because he seems to enjoy performing oral as much, if not more, than he enjoys receiving it.

King of Kings · 28-01-2009 07:11PM

maybe he is afraid of getting you pregnant (or STI's?) - after 2 months he is prob afraid if you get pregnant - he hardly knows you and is prob anxious.
oral may seem like a safer bet.

nomorebadtown · 28-01-2009 07:15PM

Unregistered wrote:

He seemed to enjoy it as well based on the sounds he was making and the fact he was screaming out for Jesus.

LOL:D

Unregistered wrote:

I doubt it's laziness, because he seems to enjoy performing oral as much, if not more, than he enjoys receiving it.

Maybe thats it, he probably just prefers oral, its not that unusual i would guess. Just say you prefer to mix it up a bit. Whats stopping you two having oral and penetrative sex in the one sitting? Plus there is loads more stuff you could be doing to.

Otis Driftwood · 28-01-2009 09:34PM

Couple of possibilities.
1-He is afraid of underperforming ie making you orgasm during penetrative sex but KNOWS he can make you orgasm everytime through oral.We do think these things,especially in a relatively new relationship.
2-He is scared of getting you pregnant.
3-He simply prefers oral.Personally Ive never been a fan of receiving(dang teeth down there scare me a little

) but love giving.

You aleady know the solution and thats simply to ask.You are scared of critisising him but if you say something like - You know how much I enjoy what we do but why dont we have full sex that often?
Not a criticism,merely a question.

smellslikeshoes · 29-01-2009 04:35AM

Lots of over analyzing going on here, unless he is outright refusing he just prefers one over the other. Ask him nicely and I'm sure he will be more than happy to, you should only be getting worried if he starts outright refusing.

Benincasa · 29-01-2009 12:24PM

As some other posters said, you simply must talk with him. You know, if you are willing to have sex with someone you should be able to talk to them. If you simply can't talk to him then that may tell you something about whether you should be having sex or not.

Best of luck

Mr. Incognito · 29-01-2009 04:26PM

Are you sure you're not just overthinking the issue- the guy likes oral. To each their own. You want penetrative sex get on top.

BF of two months seems only interested in oral sex

We have had penetrative sex several times.

These seem to contradict each other.

My advice would be to stop thinking about it so much and enjoy it while it lasts. In another 6 months the oral may hae all but dried up

Koushki · 29-01-2009 08:28PM

Gone Drinking wrote: »

Just next time say something like

"I want your hot average sized ccok inside my huge dripping wet pussy now!"

And i bet he'll be in there in no time!

This is serious advice by the way, don't ban me.

you shouldn't say average sized! and LOL @ this post ^^

AlanSparrowhawk · 29-01-2009 08:33PM

might be just a phase. give him the auld "lob it on it to me there boss" should do the trick.

29-01-2009 08:42PM

Just sounds like he really enjoys oral. Unless he's being incredibly selfish and doesn't give as well as take, I'd sit back and enjoy the ride.

When you want penetrtion, tell him. Unless he refuses, the only issue is that he prefers oral.

Anyway, no law to say you can only have oral or only pentration etc. during a session. Mix it up a bit.

Wibbs · 29-01-2009 09:12PM

Koushki please stay on topic and read the charter about off topic posting on this forum. Thanks

panelb/sprayer · 12-03-2009 06:28PM

well ther well you do have to as your bf up to you too really sorry.

Joey the lips · 12-03-2009 06:44PM

I would not complain. There is thousends of nerve endings inside a women. Tell him if he is going to use his tongue to use a vib with it.

But I have to say as a man if my wife said

I want your hot ccok inside my huge dripping wet pussy now!"

I would do exactly what you say.

Aside from being scientific just be blahhsai(Mis spell) and say one night I would love to come with pen sex tonight simple.

Ennnjoyyyy!

kaimera · 12-03-2009 08:12PM

King of Kings wrote: »

maybe he is afraid of getting you pregnant (or STI's?) - after 2 months he is prob afraid if you get pregnant - he hardly knows you and is prob anxious.
oral may seem like a safer bet.

^^ this.

I've found myself thinking this before tbh early in a relationship. No complaints tho once one returns the 'favour'

Again tho, talk to him.

LegacyUser · 12-03-2009 11:24PM

Serious suggestion here ...

Ask him if he wants to try anal (that's if you are comfortable with it). If he likes it and wants to continue doing it maybe he doesn't like the feel of your vagina.

Then try ass to mouth action for double the fun again if you feel comfortable with that.

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Why does BF usually only want to have oral sex?

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