Should I give blessing to watch porn?

Yet another reason why new versions of browsers are coming with a “privacy mode” which makes cleaning up your browsing history uber easy…..They say its for online banking etc etc but lets be honest its for porn. As the song says “The internet is for porn, so grab your **** and double click”. Or to quote Dr Cox from Scrubs “if they removed all the porn from the internet there would only be one site left. www.bringbacktheporn.com”

Any way watch it with him or let him off to watch it himself (he is most likely doing this any way).

In fairness your boyfriend does not need your blessing to look at what he wants online its his choice, i'd be more worried if I seen he was looking up dating websites or something. Theres a lot worse things he could be doing.

Yeah I won't say anything about your issues; but if you are able to "allow" him (and I don't think you had the right to ban him in the first place) watch porn, then do. Just let it go

Watching watching watching all day long I'd say!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Unregistered wrote: »

OP again.

Thanks for your advice.

I know full well I cannot tell my partner what he can and can't do, but seing as we're in a long term relationship, matters where one feels strongly about should be discussed.

It wasn't the case of my saying - "Right, porn is banned"

It was just the result of the discussion at the time.

Well I go through phases where I think I'd be ok with it, but sooner or later I would start thinking that it's a reflection on me - ie. I'm not good enough/ attractive enough.

PS: I suggested watching porn together at the time, but he wasn't interested)

Well it's good to hear that you are being adult about it, it seemed like you had banned it as opposed to him doing it not to hurt your feelings, but even still, if it does hurt your feelings, you should allow it.

The reason I think this is that, you can't help how you feel about it, which is fine, but, when you tell him how it makes you feel, he would feel like a total cnut if he was to watch porno knowing how you feel. That makes it basically unintentional emotional blackmail (emphasis on the unintentional, like I said, you can't help how you feel).

Another thing is, it may be in the living room, but honestly, has he never been in the house alone, when he could have used it without you knowing, I find it unlikely that you are both always in the house at the same time..

I would watch porno with my girl, and we would do stuff, but I also like to watch it just so I can (well you know what :P ) - perhaps he doesn't feel comfortable with you around when he is watching said porno because for most people "self abuse" (a horrible old term!) is a very private thing which they never want anyone to see, let alone become involved in..

I say give him your blessing; you should know that if your sex life did not change after he stopped watching it, that your sex life is normal, he just wants to jerk off to some porno, which is a fairly typical male want, and if you say you are ok with it, even if you have reservations, I still think it's worthwhile.. he would be happier & nobody really suffers.. He wouldn't be with you if he didn't want to be & he wouldn't sleep with you if he wasn't interested in you in that manner.. you just need to realise that he likes you regardless of what odd sexual urges he needs to satisfy by watching porno

As someone said, he is going to watch is whether he tells you or not. At least if you talk to him about it he might understand where you are coming from.

Watch it with him... it wil make it more fun!!!

jessbeth wrote: »

I would agree with the don't ask, don't tell policy and tell him to clean up his cache and temporary files and not leave the evidence lying on the computer for you to see. Then theoretically once it's not an obsession he can do what he wants. I wouldn't agree with saying watch it with him. If you don't like it then don't watch it with him, just leave him to do his own thing on his own time.

Im tending to agree with the above and he probably does do it anyway. The fact that you've told him not to do it that would make him perhaps want to do it more you know the whole forbidden fruit thing.

As for your insecurities you'll have to work past that for the sake of your relationship, does your partner not tell you that your beautiful and that he loves you?