Work asshole spreading malicious rumours

Overheal wrote: »

i dont think pleading with him was the best move to make. personally idhave done things i cant repeat here. but you could also have turned it around on him. instead of worrying about it you could just think about it as him wanting you. He just wishes he could have you and spreads these rumours to fuel his wanktasy. It doesnt matter if its true or not, as long as you believe it, let him know it, i think he'd shut up.

But ultimately hippo MagicMarker might come off as the Bad Cop here but he and Wibbs not wrong. You have other things that you should be focusing your energies on, and not letting everyone around you play you like a cheap violin.

I can't actually see Magic Markers posts he is on my ignore list as he constantly abused my threads.

Wanktasy, very good. I may have to steal that from you

Carrigart Exile wrote: »

If he is sending these messages from a works computer simply e-mail him telling him that you have passed on his e-mails to your HR department. I suspect the guy knows how easy you may be to wind up and is enjoying himself at your expense. Don't play his game.

He is spreading the rumours by word of mouth, it's not winding me up, it's messing up my relationship......

micmclo wrote: »

Is this for real or you just posting for effect?
Your dad was 15 when you were born, realy?
This isn't offtopic if the OP is posting about issues.

Anyway, as said if it's off a work pc then just take it to HR

My dad was 16, have you got some sort of problem with that

Miss Fluff wrote: »

Each individual has their own boundaries, boundaries defined by them. While you think your behaviour towards this chap is acceptable or what have you, he clearly doesn't. Although it is hurtful that this man sees your behaviour as "stalkerish" you have to take your cue from that m'dear. A long, ranting email as outlined in your OP would be a red rag to a bull quite frankly and will make this situation ten times worse for you. DISENGAGE. I want you to remember the mantra "people that mind don't matter, and people that matter don't mind". Do not under any circumstances, by thought word or deed have any more contact with this person OK?

Edit: Just read back over your other threads and I'd be concerned that this experience would cause you to spiral into self-harm again. I'd second Wibb's advice when he said you really should look into counselling, I think it would do you good. Have you been to see your local GP?There is no stigma in seeing a professional but I think you have a lot on at present you poor sausage and being able to talk to someone qualified to help would go a long way in helping you work through and resolve a lot of your current issues.

Ive done counselling, I have aspergers syndrome and ADD,i was made.It didn't help.


No everything he is saying is all lies, I have only met the guy about 6 times, 3 in work, one in the pub and and two at his leaving parties.He added me on Myspace and I added him on facebook, we snet 4 email total to each other mostly about work stuff. If that is what any human being calls stalking then he is obviously the mental one

I can ignore him, it's my bf who is getting annoyed by the whole situation.

Dudess wrote: »

So you think maybe the Aspergers is causing you to be an easy target for bullies? That is ****ing horrible, my heart goes out to you.

However, when I hear people say "counselling doesn't work" I can't help but wonder how much work they put in themselves. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is supposed to be fantastic - would you consider it? The thing about counselling is, you have to be prepared to put things into practice and take responsibility for yourself too. It's not all up to the counsellor. I know you've been through awful **** with family deaths, living with grandparents whom you say are rather unpleasant, some very vicious bullying by schoolmates and less vicious but still nasty bullying at work... but there comes a point when we need to stop letting our problems hold us back (and I know that's easier said than done and I'm not trying to be harsh, I mean it in a respectful way).
And work on your self esteem - it really does project outwards when a person is lacking in confidence. Worrying about what people think of you, trying to please everyone etc - bad, bad ideas. It's so obvious when people are doing that. Just be yourself and keep telling yourself if people don't like you for the way you are, **** 'em. As long as you like yourself and consider yourself a good person, that's all that matters...

Did I read correctly that your boyfriend licks up to the Swedish guy? We are all entitled to be friends with whom we want (in general) but it still seems a rather crappy thing for him to be doing as your boyfriend.

Nobody really knows I have it. I don't tell people. I did it for 2 years in the Lucena Clinic, in rathgar, it was ok however I felt the counsellors although helped me with my anxiety issues and my akwardness in social situations, they failed to touch on some important issues, which they skimmed over. I then felt once i conquered my fear of social situations, they essentially booted me out, despite the fact taht I still had somethings to work on.



Well I have essentially moved out of my grandparents house and in with my bf which is great.Also I usually get on with everyone in work until this guy came back into the picture, I don't know exactly what it is i did but he has made me a target. Maybe he genuinely thinks im stalking him, but believe me I am far too shy to be stalking people.

That whole, it's them not me stuff worked for me for a good year until now. I just get the feeling, if you understand that not everyone can be wrong maybe I'm just not a likeable person, i feel as if I am doomed to go through life with no friends. I realsie this is nothing compared to what some people have gone through, but still I need someone to talk to, what better than a bunch of strangers on the net.
Also this is hitting me pretty hard as today is the one year anniversary of my mothers death and in 2 weeks there will be an inquest into her death at the coroner's court.

Yeah,My bf feels as though he owes this guy his job etc, and yeah I suppose he does, and to most people he comes across as a lovely guy however to a select few of us, he is nasty, particularly to females....My bf is really a great guy, he has helped me through so much these past 5 years and I would be lost without him, I don;t want him to come across as an arse here

Wibbs wrote: »

Well clearly it is winding you up, but your relationship will be messed up by you or your boyfriend. Yes external stresses play a part but in the end your boyfriend has to stand up for himself and you or he's not much of a boyfriend frankly.

I tend to agree. You do have a tendency to react first and ask questions later, or assume someone is taking the píss. Now sometimes they are but not always. Maybe your asbergers is what makes it difficult for you to see the difference. Who knows? That's why I suggest further counseling. Keep looking for one until you get a good one. One that you can work with. Each of us has a worldview that is to different degrees realistic and healthy. None of us is completely well balanced and sometimes we need that help.

Its not winding me up in the sense that im annoyed tht he is talking about me just that all my bf's workmates are taking the piss out of him cause they think his gf is in love with some other guy.

My bf is the best bf in thew world, no matter what **** im going through, he supports me, the past 5 years despite everything that has happened have been the best in my life just because he was in my life. I was lost before I met him, and thanks to him, I didn't end my life like I considered many times

micmclo wrote: »

Is this for real or you just posting for effect?
Your dad was 15 when you were born, realy?
This isn't offtopic if the OP is posting about issues.

Anyway, as said if it's off a work pc then just take it to HR

You accused me of saying my dad was 16 for effect. It is infact true.

Guy just emailed me there, asking about some work spec, I just ignored it instead of writing a nasty reply.Very proud of myself:D