21 years old and losing interest in sex..

LegacyUser · 11-07-2008 11:46PM #1

so i'm a perfectly "regular" guy.. finished college, normal social life, no problems with girls etc.

my problem is very simple but seems impossible to me to fix.. i cant, and have never orgasmed with a girl. i've had girlfriends and i get fully aroused, no issues there but there is some mental block where i just cant do it.. from my first handjob when i was 15 till the last time i had sex 2 weeks ago, i just pass it off or fake it after an hour. i dont even bother trying hard to score anymore cause there's no drive, no reward..

if i'm losing interest this early in life and the only way i orgasm is to regular porn, and i do, very easily.. what will i be like when i'm 40? like i've errectile dysfunction written all over me by the time i'm 30.

i just dont know what to do, i would like to have an orgasm with a girl once in my life instead of pretending to have one.. and i'd like to think that when i'm 30, i'll still enjoy sex.

any ideas, or is this one of those cases where my body is just gonna be like this?

p.s. i have no "issues" with my looks or with my penis.. apart from the non-functioning part of it.

Kold · 12-07-2008 01:21AM

Sex isn't the sole motivation for looking for a girl. You haven't had sex in 2 years but surely you've felt something else for a girl?

Also, I'm assuming you can make yourself cum, do you find it easy?

Esel · 12-07-2008 03:01AM

Kold wrote: »

You haven't had sex in 2 years..

Can't see any mention of this in the original post, unless it was edited inside the two minute window?

OP, quit worrying about ED and all that crap! Have you tried to analyse what might be stopping you from orgasming? Are you holding yourself back to prove what a stud you are?

Just keep trying (without trying!) if you know what I mean. Don't give up anyway.

A Primal Nut · 12-07-2008 03:07AM

Try taking a break from **** see if that helps. I find its much easier to cum if you haven't already wanked that day.

LegacyUser · 12-07-2008 03:28AM

2 weeks, not 2 years.. jesus. lol

ehm yea, if i know im gonna be havin sex i wont **** for a day or two before hand.. i think my problem lies with my glans (head), i cud rub sandpaper of it and i'd barely feel a thing. no joke, its as sensitive as my finger nail.. and since i can orgasm from porn, ive started tryin to fantasise during sex but i find it very weird and no success yet.

this is something i hadnt actually thought about ina long time and jus remembered now.. in terms of insensitive glans, wud a frenum piercing be an idea?

Wibbs · 12-07-2008 11:02AM

pele wrote: »

ehm yea, if i know im gonna be havin sex i wont **** for a day or two before hand..

Try for longer. Maybe a week. I know I know climbing the walls time, but..

i think my problem lies with my glans (head), i cud rub sandpaper of it and i'd barely feel a thing. no joke, its as sensitive as my finger nail..

:eek: Ok we all differ in sensitivity, but if you're that insensitive. Do you roll back the foreskin before sex? I only ask as others writing here have said they don't. Now it works for them, but it may explain lack of sensitivity. Or are you circumcised? It's possible there's a skin condition that may have reduced sensitivity. If it was me I'd be going to my GP to see if there's something amiss in the area. There would be options I would imagine to help get sensitivity back.

and since i can orgasm from porn, ive started tryin to fantasise during sex but i find it very weird and no success yet.

Well it's a different detached mindset, which would not be the same as being with someone. Add in your lack of sensitivity and it would compound the problem.

this is something i hadnt actually thought about ina long time and jus remembered now.. in terms of insensitive glans, wud a frenum piercing be an idea?

No clue. Maybe the body modification guys would know. The skin on the glans itself would remain the same though, I would have thought.

21 years old and losing interest in sex..

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