Puke in our garden - should I bring it up

LegacyUser · 06-07-2008 09:14PM

Firstly, me mentioning my pregnancy was just an aside to do with the noise levels. I am pretty tolerant to odd bit of noise, as who knows when I may be having a party in the future sometime.(never that loud now - but still) Now the music was very loud. I could from the front room clearly make out the song - it was like being in a nightclub. Anyway that I'm over. I would expect my neighbours to be reasonable and I also guess that as someone pointed out that my neighbours are not even aware that one of their guests spewed in our garden. I'm actually surprised that no one else complained but that said they're on the corner - the other side of their house is a field. My other next door neighbours are away. I guess the people at the back of us are fairly tolerant. Like I said I wont be nasty and will only mention it if I happen to meet them and we happen to bring the party up in the next day or two. Otherwise it isn't worth it. I was just a lot more emotional about the whole thing this morning!

MissHoneyBun · 06-07-2008 09:50PM

I find it very irritating how often pregnant women expect the rest of the world to cater for the fact that they got knocked up. I'm sure there are people who are depressed, bereaved, terminally ill, all suffering much more than any pregnant female yet dont make public announcements precipitating attention and sympathy. You seem to expect others to make allowances for your personal condition OP, perhaps you might do the same for your neighbour on this occasion?

SarahSassy · 06-07-2008 09:54PM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

I find it very irritating how often pregnant women expect the rest of the world to cater for the fact that they got knocked up. I'm sure there are people who are depressed, bereaved, terminally ill, all suffering much more than any pregnant female yet dont make public announcements precipitating attention and sympathy. You seem to expect others to make allowances for your personal condition OP, perhaps you might do the same for your neighbour on this occasion?

+100

MJOR · 06-07-2008 09:54PM

I'd definately say it to them.... And about the music it is a bit full on when you are pregnant.

Abi · 06-07-2008 10:02PM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

I find it very irritating how often pregnant women expect the rest of the world to cater for the fact that they got knocked up. I'm sure there are people who are depressed, bereaved, terminally ill, all suffering much more than any pregnant female yet dont make public announcements precipitating attention and sympathy. You seem to expect others to make allowances for your personal condition OP, perhaps you might do the same for your neighbour on this occasion?

The posters issue is not about her pregnancy, the pregnancy was merely a side note, and she has said this in one of her recent posts.

Why would you try make that the primary topic here? The issue is about her neighbours guest leaving vomit in her garden.

Nevyn · 06-07-2008 10:15PM

SarahSassy and MissHoneyBun you can grind those axes elsewhere I suggest humanities as they are off topic in this thread.

dothis · 06-07-2008 10:22PM

I think that this is being blown up way too much. People have parties. They make lots of noise sometimes. Sometimes the guests do things they shouldn't do. If you wanted to run the risk of falling out with them then you could have asked them to clean it up. I wouldn't have.

Loud music occurs at parties with young people these days :-) Maybe your baby will disturb them in a few months.

bored and tired · 06-07-2008 10:23PM

pregnancy and vomit aside, im surprised that the op wasnt invited along with her partner to the party, never mind that she saw them earlier on that day and they didnt mention the fact that they were having a party.

I would never dream of having a partly without inviting the neighbours, its just good manners. And i live in the country so there is only the cows to complain about the noise.

bug · 07-07-2008 12:04AM

If its really bothering you and there is no one else in your house to clean it up for you, I would ask the neighbour nicely to use your hose and get rid of it cos you can't face it/ do it being pregnant and all. I would ask in a 'lil help please?.. way.

If they said no or didnt give a hand I'd be a little less tolerant in future.

ShoulderChip · 07-07-2008 12:09AM

It will go away in time leave it there.

craichoe · 07-07-2008 10:34AM

Tusky wrote: »

This is the correct answer. It will take you all of 30 seconds to clean up. No need to cause a fuss.

Tell you what, i'll stand on the roof of your car and take a massive sh*t.

Sure it'll only take 30 seconds to hose off.

If they got sick in the Neighbours house they'd have to clean it.

LegacyUser · 07-07-2008 11:32AM

MissHoneyBun wrote: »

I find it very irritating how often pregnant women expect the rest of the world to cater for the fact that they got knocked up. I'm sure there are people who are depressed, bereaved, terminally ill, all suffering much more than any pregnant female yet dont make public announcements precipitating attention and sympathy. You seem to expect others to make allowances for your personal condition OP, perhaps you might do the same for your neighbour on this occasion?

I thought I already pointed out that I mentioned my pregnancy more as an aside as I was probably feeling sorry for myself that morning. I was mentioning that in relation to the noise levels, but I also said that I got over that as it's not like they have a party every weekend, and of course I'll have a noisy little one running around soon too.
My main aggravation was at the vomit only, and my pregnancy doesn't come into it - I think it's disgusting either way, so please don't jump down my throat for 'getting knocked up'

dudara · 07-07-2008 12:14PM

craichoe That comment was completely unacceptable. Please refrain in future.

Never mind the pregnancy, it was rude of your neighbours not to give you a heads up about the party (espcially as it appears a fair level of planning went into it - 2 marquees).

Secondly, a puddle of puke is never tolerable. But is it worth approaching the neighbours over? I think your mother's advice was spot on in this respect. It's worth a mention, if you get the chance. It's not worth going over there deliberately.

How Strange · 07-07-2008 04:26PM

Thaedydal wrote: »

There are some nasty possible health hazzards when it comes to cleaning up a strangers vomit I would be far from impressed.

But I am sure the tables will be turned soon enough when you have your baby and all all healthy babies they cry a fair bit and at all hours of the night.

+1
OP, there's nothing like being woken up the sound of a crying baby next door to annoy you at 2am.

I agree that you should just wash the vomit away. Living cheek to jowl with people isn't easy and your baby will wake them up on more than a few occasions over the next couple of years and they won't say a word to you about it no matter how irritating it gets.

However, you mention the vomit then they start mentioning that your baby keeps them awake because they think feck her she was quick enough to mention the puke and the whole thing descends into avoidable pettiness.

CPT. SURF · 07-07-2008 06:11PM

im surprised that the op wasnt invited along with her partner to the party, never mind that she saw them earlier on that day and they didnt mention the fact that they were having a party.

Maybe because she is the nitpicking annoying neighbor that they are hoping will move out when her family has finally gotten too big for the semi-d?

Abi · 07-07-2008 07:48PM

CPT. SURF wrote: »

Maybe because she is the nitpicking annoying neighbor that they are hoping will move out when her family has finally gotten too big for the semi-d?

That post serves no other purpose than trying to get a rise out of the OP. Try again, and this time come up with something useful.

LegacyUser · 07-07-2008 08:21PM

CPT. SURF wrote: »

Maybe because she is the nitpicking annoying neighbor that they are hoping will move out when her family has finally gotten too big for the semi-d?

Mod(s) may I suggest you close this thread as for me the issue has been resolved and I don't see the benefit in people posting just to be rude.
I had a genuine complaint - I have decided not to initate any contact with my neighbour because of it. Until this point I have had no complaints with them and things have been pleasant between us both. This puke thing annoyed me yesterday morning (which I'm sure is reasonable). I have indeed decided it is not worth potentially ruining the relationship with the neighbour for, so why are people still being so rude? It's fine to point out that I may be making mountains of molehills etc if that is your point of view, but why post just to offend??

dudara · 07-07-2008 09:25PM

Closed at OP's request.

dudara

Puke in our garden - should I bring it up

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