What am I doing wrong?

sceptre · 23-08-2002 10:16PM

Nice post MAJD

POTM material

LegacyUser · 24-08-2002 03:21AM

Originally posted by s10
If you're really desperate, you could try pretend you have a girlfriend, cos it's a well-known phenomenon that your attractiveness to women increases proportional to how long you've been in a relationship.

The way I see this is that men in long term relationships are for the most part not looking for casual sex or the casual shift. They approach conversations with girls in a completely different way. None of the instant fawning or the acting like wanker because they're not thinking of the person they're talking to as a prospective sexual partner. They're being themselves. Chicks like this. Try and act like yourself when single and things will work out.

Oh and listen Minesanalchoholicbeverage. It knows things.

NeMiSiS · 24-08-2002 03:49PM

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/niceguys.shtml probably not at all helpfull but enlightening all the same wheh wheh wheh

Mercury_Tilt · 24-08-2002 04:00PM

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s10 · 26-08-2002 09:18AM

but is it conversation ... i don't think so
i think its smell , hormones ,,?/?
that say your fertile , domant male or somethink strange
like that .,
ok this weeks assignment is to not wash after sex
immediatly run around the street to c if the opposite sex is attracted to you more so than normal
:cool:

STaN · 26-08-2002 09:33PM

n1 s10

:E

Clintons Cat · 27-08-2002 02:37AM

~Note To Self

Must Cancel Order For Twenty Gallons Of Marmalade.

fisty · 27-08-2002 03:57AM

be horribly nice
horribly lewd
horribly good looking
and horribly exciting.
works every time.

LegacyUser · 27-08-2002 12:42PM

Be yourself and try not to judge a book by it's cover. There is no generic way of approaching a girl that will impress all 3 billion females on the planet. "Treating 'em mean" may work with some girls in the short term but anyone with any self respect doesn't respond particulary well to being treated like ****. If you lik2 someone, let them know. People see through false personas. Just be patient.

The Sweeper · 27-08-2002 01:44PM

Originally posted by DapperGent

Oh and listen Minesanalchoholicbeverage. It knows things.

It's Minesajackdaniels, and I'm a she thank you.

Honestly, these really aren't difficult concepts to grasp if you try hard enough.

LegacyUser · 27-08-2002 02:39PM

well that was a interesting comment missjd. unfortunately, I think it is bolloxs. I used to be a bastardo to the ladies and I had a lot of lady friends. I messed up by treating a girl i really liked like **** and then dumped her. Few months down the line, i decided I had made a huge mistake and decided to be a nice guy. Since stopping acting like a *****r, women have been scarce. I don't believe it has anything to do with self-confidence as i have loads of confidence. I reckon it is just too do with the fact that women like men who don't appear interested in them. As to why i have not turned back to being a *****r, my morals have taken hold. So anyone who thinks being nice and treating women like equal, intelligent adults don't! unless you want to become a sexual hermit.

Mossy Monk · 27-08-2002 03:14PM

patience is a virtue etc. etc.

if you can be patient it will pay off. none of the women i know go for that treat em mean stuff, maybe 1

The Corinthian · 27-08-2002 03:25PM

Originally posted by DapperGent
Oh and listen Minesanalchoholicbeverage. It knows things.

Eeek, speed read that and you’ll feel queasy... :rolleyes:

Madj is correct in many respects, but so are the rather simplistic observations of the b@stard brigade here. Different women (or men) go for different types at different points in their lives. The same woman may look for an older more experienced and ‘exciting’ men at twenty, a breeding partner with good prospects at thirty and a companion (or a toy boy) at forty. And in this regard men are much the same.

The other thing is, that while many, if not most women, will shy away from the archetypal b@stard, some seek them out - either for the challenge and excitement of possibly taming one or as a proxy to a patriarchal, domineering and often unemotional or even violent father figures in their lives.

So b@stards do get the girls - no matter how old a man gets, there will never be a shortage of nineteen year olds with Electra complexes. But they seldom keep them. Such relationships tend to be short-lived, unstable affairs, and most women grow out of seeking such men by the time they hit twenty-five. And some never do.

It can be very easy for a man to fall into the habit of being such a b@stards. You can easily seduce women in both quantity and quality, while your nicer friends are trapped in monogamous relationships for long periods.

But, if so be sure that you enjoy your own company, because invariably every woman you will ever be with, will be almost perfect, and your own company is all you’ll be able to settle down with in the long run.

The Sweeper · 27-08-2002 03:32PM

Originally posted by teejay
well that was a interesting comment missjd. unfortunately, I think it is bolloxs.

Why is that unfortunate? Are you in some hitherto undisclosed position of supreme power that means I'm in deep kaka because you don't agree with me?

I used to be a bastardo to the ladies and I had a lot of lady friends. I messed up by treating a girl i really liked like **** and then dumped her. Few months down the line, i decided I had made a huge mistake and decided to be a nice guy. Since stopping acting like a *****r, women have been scarce. I don't believe it has anything to do with self-confidence as i have loads of confidence. I reckon it is just too do with the fact that women like men who don't appear interested in them.

Teejay, make an effort to read posts more closely. I agree completely that you'll score if you're a *****r. It's what you'll score that's the issue - the original poster wants a serious long term relationship with a nice girl. Nice girls don't like *****rs.

As to why i have not turned back to being a *****r, my morals have taken hold. So anyone who thinks being nice and treating women like equal, intelligent adults don't! unless you want to become a sexual hermit.

I think your last sentence invalidates the claim of your second last sentence.

Although since you're having trouble reading, let me clarify this for you.

You, pal, are still a *****r.

Hobnail Monkey · 27-08-2002 03:37PM

Flippin' heck, there is a lot of bile on this thread today. I think it proves one thing though - guys DO get frustrated and annoyed when they are having a drought of women. And possibly vice versa, but I think I'll need one of the ladies to confirm this for me.:cool:

Dave · 27-08-2002 03:39PM

So anyone who thinks being nice and treating women like equal, intelligent adults don't!

Right... so treat them like 2nd class, mentally challenged children. Wow you must have picked up some really classy ladies.

BigDaddyKone · 27-08-2002 04:21PM

well, we all like to spin soothing metaphors about life but they are not true (most of the time). As for me not reading the first post, indeed I did. What I was getting at, to meet women be it in a pub/nightclub ectera.. you need to be confident. A lot of being confident with regards to women, is appearing as if you could do without them. I think most women find needy men a major turnoff. so if you look desperate your chances are very slim. Thus, I think that (as per my prev post) being confident and perhaps a bit of wnkr gets your foot in the door and not in my opinion to a lousy slapper always. I have been out with girlfriends of mine, who are very attractive and get constantly harrassed, the men they fall for (and they are very intelligent) tend to be blokes I would label as wnkrs as well. I am still a wanker perhaps but not in the more successful mode of the past. As for my second last sentence, I am guilty of a bit of hyperbole.

s10 · 27-08-2002 04:40PM

well said ,, except the part about your girlfriends who are s

,, nice ,, friendly ,..
say things like "can't find a decent man "
they should know they prob go through quite a few .

@ none the less

thats my experience with my friends ex's
nice girls , no taste

smiles · 27-08-2002 05:17PM

MAJD - stop insulting. good points but the insults make them childish.

[mines-an-anal-chocolate...... thats what *my* eyes saw btw.]

teejay - you're flaming.

Stop it both of you.

<< Fio >>

DapperGent · 27-08-2002 06:06PM

Originally posted by The Corinthian

Eeek, speed read that and you’ll feel queasy... :rolleyes:

Ooops. *slap*

LegacyUser · 27-08-2002 07:56PM

my sister said this to me once .
quote :
in primary school you look up to the boys in 6th class
& think wow big good looking etc
in secondary school you look up to the 6th years &
think , wow they're real men
when you get there you realise they are not
so does it be the barmen she looked up to for a few years after
& @ 21 she realised again ,
THERE ARE NO MEN , JUST A BUNCH OF OLD CHILDISH BOYS.
its safe to say "most" women are looking for a "man" ..
but since their dad does not go clubbing ..............

memphis · 12-09-2002 10:28PM

wooooo

Alot of interesting comments and opinoons flying around there.
Maybe I should try out a few of those for myself and see if they work.... if its any constilation to ya unregi, I haven't being having much luck in this field either.

WhiteWashMan · 17-09-2002 04:49PM

its easy to find someone to fúck.

finding someone you want to spend the rest of you life with is different altogether.

LegacyUser · 20-09-2002 10:27PM

ATTENTION YOU PEOPLE!!!

STEP AWAY FROM THE DATING SCENE!

No wonder most of you lot can never get a date. Sweet Jesus.

People, you're all MENTAL.

'Try to look as though you're not interested'
'Try to pretend you don't want her'
'Try to pretend you have a girlfriend'
'Try making her feel like you dont need her.. that way she will be more attracted to you'...

So your combined advise is to act like a wánker to pull birds??

If you do any of the above, yes, you'll score.

You'll score some slapper with a past job history as a human mattress whose got more issues than Afghanistan and more ex boyfriends than Liz Taylor, Zsa Zsa Gabor and Freddie Mercury combined. She'll shág you on your first date, tell you she loves you within a week, propose that you marry her within a month and screw your best mate or your brother a week later.

As for being nice and it not working, here's the problem.

Are you normally a nice outgoing person who complements people on their appearance and goes out of their way to do things for them (pulling out seats, opening doors, buying drinks)? Do you do that for your everyday mates? No? Then why do you think that when you do it to a stranger it'll come across as natural? It just appears false!

First rule, be yourself. If you don't prostrate yourself as a human doormat for your mates, don't do it for a girl you're interested in, you'll just look marginally more undesirable than Michael Jackson coated in marmalade.

If you are on the hunt for someone long term, you have to start out being the person you are. Chances are you're quite likeable, but the gobshíte you turn into when you deliver chat up lines isn't.

Wánkers get laid because there's a certain type of woman out there who wants to get laid by a wánker. And unless you're a bona fide wánker all the time, you don't want to hook up with a woman like that.

Love it!!!
I laid that girl Hee Hee
But stay on the scene man, you will find a lady when you sift through the garbage.
Hiya Gemma, long time no see xx

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