Crazy about a Russian girl

I've been a long time lurker here, and until this post, had absolutely no desire to contribute to anything. I don't have any experience with Russian girls - not that I want to divulge in while sober, anyway - but I was in a similar situation.

4 years ago, I met an American in a bar in Dublin. He was on a one week holiday here. We hit it off immediately, and the spark and chemistry was unbelievable. Spent a week walking around town like Siamese twins. I was sad (as was he) when he left, but we kept in touch. Like OP, I honestly didn't see it going anywhere. I was in my final year of college, looking forward to getting a job, starting a professional life, etc. But I was absolutely crazy (still is, by the way) about him and we talked everyday and visited each other as much as possible.

I must add OP, I'm of a South-east Asian origin - granted, I have a bit of English in me, but I can be ridiculously Asian at times. I don't know if he ever thought along the line of 'Ah you know, she's Asian, and they do have a reputation of latching on the next westerner they see for the Green Card/citizenship' - I had never given him the impression of that at all - but I was aware of the stigma attached to such stereotyping and because of that I was hesitant about the future of our relationship.

To make the long story short, we continued this long distance relationship, we took it slowly. It was painful when we parted, absolutely amazing when we were together. A year and a half ago, while I was in the States, he proposed and I didn't hesitate saying yes. Now I'm leaving for the States permanently at the end of the month.

These things do work, I was exactly like you (or your Russian girl) 4 years ago. Didn't see the appeal of moving to the States, hated the idea of some people might think I'm just there for the Green Card, didn't know where we were going, but really liked the way I felt whenever I was with him, physically. But as time passes by and the more we spend what little time we had together, the more 'right' it felt to be with him. Now I'm absolutely sure of my decision to move there permanently.

My advice? Take it slowly. You may not know what you want from the relationship right now, but the decision will come naturally when you've been together for a long period of time. It's not all roses and butterflies though, and you have to have a lot of patience. In the long run, it's well worth it.