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Sick of man in work

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  • #92
    GA361
    Closed Accounts Posts: 609 ✭✭✭GA361


    I ndairire,ta se an-soilear go bhfuil duine cairdiuil aonrach e.I mo thuaraim,ta saghas meabharghalair nua-aimseartha agatsa[OP],an meabhairghalair a bhi le feiceal sa dan 'Gealt'.Bionn bron orm nuair a fecim daoine mar tusa.Ta tu an-pharanaid[paranoid].


  • #93
    lorna100
    Closed Accounts Posts: 168 ✭✭lorna100


    i dont agree with GA361 at all, OP you're not paranoid in any way, i think you should go to HR with this one.. this mans obvioulsy affecting you in a negative way and id say its not likely to improve if you leave it.
    Regardless of the issue of sexual harassment or the mans motives, if its affecting you then something needs to be done. i cant imagine going to work is the nicest, knowing hes going to be making some smart comment, staring at you etc.

    Lorna x

    edited to add: how on earth does the OP have a new age mental illness of some kind... that makes zero sense!


  • #94
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,362 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    GA361 please write in the commonly understood language around here, which is English, as not doing so smacks of extracting the urine. Only warning.

    Many worry about Artificial Intelligence. I worry far more about Organic Idiocy.



  • #95
    GA361
    Closed Accounts Posts: 609 ✭✭✭GA361


    What a shamefull response.
    Irish is the first language of this country,I surely hope Irish people aren't critiscised for using Irish on an Irish website.I hope you don't take that attitude to Teach na nGealt,or even this country's Ard-Fheis.Recent studies have showed that about half of Irish people deem themselves competant at speaking Irish.Therefore,Irish can easily be stated as 'commonly understood language'.
    Please do not associate the language of this country with urine as the majority of Irish people take offence to such behaviour.
    lorna100 wrote: »
    i dont agree with GA361 at all, OP you're not paranoid in any way, i think you should go to HR with this one.. this mans obvioulsy affecting you in a negative way and id say its not likely to improve if you leave it.
    Regardless of the issue of sexual harassment or the mans motives, if its affecting you then something needs to be done. i cant imagine going to work is the nicest, knowing hes going to be making some smart comment, staring at you etc.

    Lorna x

    edited to add: how on earth does the OP have a new age mental illness of some kind... that makes zero sense!

    Meabharghalair nua aimseartha doesn't mean mental illness.
    When spoken in the Irish language it is a reference to poor social attitude which exists nowadays.You cant translate Irish word for word as I'm sure you have been told.If you translated correctly,I said that she displayed a degree of this poor social attitude.


  • #96
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    GA361 banned for off topic posting and questioning a mod action in the forum.


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  • #97
    dc69
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,488 ✭✭✭dc69


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    GA361 banned for off topic posting and questioning a mod action in the forum.

    You have got to be taking the absolute piss?

    banning someone for speaking Irish on an Irish website,you should be ashamed of yourself.


  • #98
    Bob the Builder
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,919 ✭✭✭Bob the Builder


    dc69 wrote: »
    You have got to be taking the absolute piss?

    banning someone for speaking Irish on an Irish website,you should be ashamed of yourself.
    No, GA361 is taking the absolute piss. FFS, GA361 was banned on the basis of, and I quote
    GA361 banned for off topic posting and questioning a mod action in the forum.
    I can't understand what GA361 said up there and I'm irish. How do you expect any of the mods to do it? Not every user on this forum is a competent speaker of irish, or is even of irish nationality. I think Thaedydal should be very proud right now, that she has just banned a troll, not ashamed. Topic about it in feedback now anyway


  • #99
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,044 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    And I have just banned the pair of you for off topic posting, some people never learn.


  • #100
    kowloon
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2, Paid Member Posts: 14,109 ✭✭✭✭kowloon


    OP, what would be the prefered solution for this problem, what is your aim?

    If you just want the comments to stop, talk to him and tell a friend so if he doesn't get the message or gets aggressive you have backup if and when you go to HR/Management.

    If you want revenge I recommend going straight to HR and describing things in the most dramatic fashion you can.
    A few points to note:

    Do you want to rush into things when you're not entirely sure of his intentions?
    He's been in the company a long time, you have not. He may be well liked as an old hand.
    So things could play out like this:

    He gets in serious trouble, people find out. People question why you didn't even talk to him before unleashing the accusations on a friendly old man (I'm assuming nobody else has a problem with him). You get a reputation and become the person everyone loves to hate.

    This could turn out badly for you. I've seen it happen, talk to the fellow first before you escalate the hostilities needlessly with repercussions that could potentially backfire on you.


  • #101
    Ickle Magoo
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,485 ✭✭✭✭Ickle Magoo


    I think anyone who is overly tactile in a professional arena needs a talking to. Take someone along as witness or deliberately say in front of witnesses how you feel & what you want to change. Make an informal report to HR so you have a record of events if need be. DO SOMETHING, don't just be uncomfortable.

    Being overtly familiar in conversation is one thing, commenting on cars parked outside your house or touching you is another. At best it is completely unprofessional & at worst...:mad:

    Regardless of age or looks, unprofessional behavior is just that. Please don't listen to people who trot out the auld "if it was Brad Pitt, ye wouldn't mind"...aye, if it was Brad Pitt I worked with, I still have the right to some personal space & professionalism from my colleagues, don't I? :eek::confused:


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  • #102
    Crann na Beatha
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,763 ✭✭✭✭Crann na Beatha


    This post has been deleted.


  • #103
    The Mighty Ken
    Closed Accounts Posts: 586 ✭✭✭The Mighty Ken


    OP - You're on here expending your energy making this man out to be a perverted monster. Why not concentrate your efforts on growing up and learning how to deal with these situations in an adult manner? This whole thread is pathetic and stinks of misandry.

    If the guy asks you a personal question, don't answer him. If he touches you on the arm, tell him not to touch you ever again. If he makes a comment on your appearance, tell him not to.

    If you're suffering this fool gladly, you probably deserve it. Grow up. Be a stronger woman. If this guy is harassing you then tell him where to go. If he doesn't stop, go to HR.


  • #104
    wcarey1975
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,329 ✭✭✭wcarey1975


    The Mighty Ken wrote: »
    OP - You're on here expending your energy making this man out to be a perverted monster. Why not concentrate your efforts on growing up and learning how to deal with these situations in an adult manner? This whole thread is pathetic and stinks of misandry.

    If the guy asks you a personal question, don't answer him. If he touches you on the arm, tell him not to touch you ever again. If he makes a comment on your appearance, tell him not to.

    If you're suffering this fool gladly, you probably deserve it. Grow up. Be a stronger woman. If this guy is harassing you then tell him where to go. If he doesn't stop, go to HR.

    +1 To that


  • #105
    spurious
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Education Moderators, Paid Member Posts: 27,470 CMod ✭✭✭✭spurious


    Tell him clearly that you realise he is (probably) only being friendly but being singled out for attention (even if he doesn't mean it) makes you feel uncomfortable.

    Tell a colleague at work what you have said to him - ideally one that is in a position to witness these encounters should they continue. If you are over-reacting to things he says or does, this colleague will be an outside eye who can be more objective.

    If the unwanted attention continues, take it to HR.


  • #106
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,005 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    This man has been away in the meantime.

    He came into the office this morning when there was no one else there and started asking about my front garden at my house. I said "what are you doing outside my house, that is creepy?" and he said "oh I was driving past it".

    Then he sat with us this mornign at breakfast and gave me a "friendly" punch on the arm that was sore. I was angry and said "ow that was sore, I am serious, what are you doing?". He didn't seem to take this at all seriously and just goes "Ah I'm sorry, apologies" and started petting my arm. I had to lift up my arm and tell him "get the **** off me". He then turned to my colleague and said "I could do that other times and she'd say nothing". My colleague just said half-jokingly "You mustn't know your own strength". This man did not take any of what I said seriously at all.

    If he comes into the office for one of his "chats" i will not hesitate to tell him in front of my colleagues, including my boss, that he is not to lay a finger on me again.


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