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GirlInterrupted wrote: »You can't reach me from there.....oh wait, you're under the desk again aren't you:D!
I'm just building foundations for future encounters
GirlInterrupted wrote:You see the problem with this is I like nerds in their natural state. I like most people male and female when the're natural, nerds would do so much better if they just went with who they are, not who they think women want them to be.
You sound like a really nice person, but a tad naive. I doubt you've had problems in your life with getting guys or you wouldn't say something like the above.
Take it from a nerd for years. Being yourself when your a nerd, doesn't work. Suprisingly, women don't want to know about the inner workings of a CPU. They also had no interest in who the best member of the X-men was. (blatently Wolverine)
I like video games, I like cartoons, and i heartily enjoy maths problems. But as Wibbs put it a thousand times before, You highlight your good points and ignore your bad. Nerds don't understand this just yet. I didn't for years 0 -
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I'm just building foundations for future encounters
You sound like a really nice person, but a tad naive. I doubt you've had problems in your life with getting guys or you wouldn't say something like the above.
Take it from a nerd for years. Being yourself when your a nerd, doesn't work. Suprisingly, women don't want to know about the inner workings of a CPU. They also had no interest in who the best member of the X-men was.
I like video games, I like cartoons, and i heartily enjoy maths problems. But as Wibbs put it a thousand times before, You highlight your good points and ignore your bad. Nerds don't understand this just yet. I didn't for years
You know what? I'm not naive, just not hung up on looks, I consider that a plus point in my character. I heartily approve of cartoons, comic book collections and x-men. I'm not riveted by the inner workings of a CPU but I'm not so shallow that it would put me off anyone. I love the xbox360.
I've never been offhand when a guy approaches me when I can see its taken some nerve and personal effort. I've made many friends like that, and some partners. Any woman who'll judge a man by how he see's himself is a fool, the best men are reflected in the special things we see in them .
No matter what their nerdy hobbies are, they're collections are, their jobs are or what they look like.0 -
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GirlInterrupted wrote: »You know what? I'm not naive, just not hung up on looks, I consider that a plus point in my character. I heartily approve of cartoons, comic book collections and x-men. I'm not riveted by the inner workings of a CPU but I'm not so shallow that it would put me off anyone. I love the xbox360.
I've never been offhand when a guy approaches me when I can see its taken some nerve and personal effort. I've made many friends like that, and some partners. Any woman who'll judge a man by how he see's himself is a fool, the best men are reflected in the special things we see in them .
No matter what their nerdy hobbies are, they're collections are, their jobs are or what they look like.
Then i stand and take my (metaphorical) hat off to you. You truely are a rare specimen if everything you've written above it true. If every woman was like you, there wouldn't be a PUA scene all over the world. Unfortunately, you are in a minority (please! no arguments of how you have 100s of friends who are practically mother threasa, I've approached 1000s of women)
Don't underestimate what you have there lass, and please god don't lose it. In fact, start giving lessons to the other women out there
EDIT: Cyclops?!?! He was a giant pain in the arse!!! He did nothing but whinge in 60 years of comics?!?0 -
Then i stand and take my (metaphorical) hat off to you. You truely are a rare specimen if everything you've written above it true. If every woman was like you, there wouldn't be a PUA scene all over the world. Unfortunately, you are in a minority (please! no arguments of how you have 100s of friends who are practically mother threasa, I've approached 1000s of women)
Don't underestimate what you have there lass, and please god don't lose it. In fact, start giving lessons to the other women out there
EDIT: Cyclops?!?! He was a giant pain in the arse!!! He did nothing but whinge in 60 years of comics?!?
You're approaching the wrong women is all. Maybe I am niave because I truly believe that most men and most women are nice decent people. I never expect anyone to be any less, and I'm rarely disappointed.
Cyclops rocks.0 -
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Hehe, I was talking to a boardser the other day on messaging about this topic and got me wondering if it was being discussed publicly.
The "success with women" movement can act a wonderful catalyst for men to take action and improve not only their relationships with women, but life in general. However, if you start taking on the identity of a "pick up artist" chances are you will start to focus all your attention on seeking validation for your "skill", rather than actually making connections with people. Futhermore, misogynistic beliefs and an inflated ego tend to manifest.
You can always pick up authentically, without the need of a false persona or using jargon and the "routines" that you read about on these sites. Thankfully, ever since Strauss' "The Game" exposed the community to the general public, the "natural" approach seems to be the direction this movement is taking, though the "PUA" dream still has its followers.
I can see this getting larger by the year, and is possibly a direct consequence to this post-feminist reality we live in.0 -
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It's possible we have different ideas of what it means to "work" at a conversation. I'm talking about dragging actual words out of the other person. Not forcefully engaging the brain. That i would associate with the "eating up hours" type of convo.
Freak Scenery, you've successfully condensed the last 4 pages into one post. Wish i could have done that 0 -
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Y'know if someone went to the effort of approaching me and striking up a conversation, I would be very bad mannered to make him drag words out of me. The PUA however would be told he's wasting his time.It's possible we have different ideas of what it means to "work" at a conversation. I'm talking about dragging actual words out of the other person. Not forcefully engaging the brain. That i would associate with the "eating up hours" type of convo.
Freak Scenery, you've successfully condensed the last 4 pages into one post. Wish i could have done that0 -
f®eak s©enery wrote: »Hehe, I was talking to a boardser the other day on messaging about this topic and got me wondering if it was being discussed publicly.
*whistles*
It's weird but I think PUA has gone mass market, it's like a meme working it's way through society right now. It's amazing how often it's pursued me in the last six months! A friend thrust The Game on me earlier in the year (and it is a fascinating read). Just as I finished that I turned on VH1 one night to discover Mystery had his own reality show.
I posted a video to YouTube last week and one of the related videos is of Neill Strauss demoing a technique - despite the fact that my vid had nothing to do with PUA, women, tricks or anything of the sort. Not to mention a hundred other things.GirlInterrupted wrote: »Any guy will approach you if you are indeed approachable.
You'd be surprised how many guys aren't approaching you. It's different for girls. Obviously some nerds will be amongst those who chat you up over time. But generally speaking they are not the ones out there chatting girls up. This community did not spring up in a vacuum.GirlInterrupted wrote: »you can usually spot a guy working up courage
Not if he's sitting at home plucking up the courage to go out.0 -
GirlInterrupted wrote: »Y'know if someone went to the effort of approaching me and striking up a conversation, I would be very bad mannered to make him drag words out of me. The PUA however would be told he's wasting his time.
Ah but how do you spot the difference? or do you only talk to nervous people? 0 -
Earthhorse wrote: »
You'd be surprised how many guys aren't approaching you. It's different for girls. Obviously some nerds will be amongst those who chat you up over time. But generally speaking they are not the ones out there chatting girls up. This community did not spring up in a vacuum.
Not if he's sitting at home plucking up the courage to go out.Ah but how do you spot the difference? or do you only talk to nervous people?
Pick up artists usually give themselves away, especially if they think they're good at it... Like I said I like the nerds, better company, so I guess I give nerds more encouragement. I'd hate to think I missed out on meeting interesting people because they'd be afraid of rejection, but I guess it happens..
All I can say to nerds at home is, go out. Not all girls are shallow soap lovers obsessed with Victoria Beckam. I just met a girl - another boardsie - who looks like a model. She actively avoids the goodlooking smooth type, usually not such good company. Nice girls are out there, but if you don't go out you won't meet them.
Lastly, any girl worth knowing would never dismiss a guy because he's shy or nervous, if a girl behaves like that, run and dodge the bullet, not worth it anyway.0 -
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GirlInterrupted wrote: »Aspiring Pick up artists usually give themselves away, especially if they think they're good at it.
Small correction there. as i said earlier, sign of a pro is that you never know he was one 0 -
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